Make this mindset shift to get more women (dating is like sales)

Summary

This video script advocates a sales-oriented approach to dating, emphasizing the importance of lead generation and exposure. It suggests that men should improve their value as 'products' to stand out in the dating market, akin to creating a valuable product in sales. The script also advises not to emotionally invest too deeply in any single lead, to always be 'closing', and to ensure a positive experience for potential partners, as this can lead to repeat 'customers' and a good reputation, which is crucial for both short-term and long-term relationship success.

Takeaways

• 🧠 The critical mindset shift is to approach dating like sales, where effort and strategy are key, rather than relying on luck or looks alone.
• 🚀 Lead generation is crucial in both sales and dating; increasing exposure to potential leads (women) increases the chances of success.
• 💡 The speaker suggests creating a valuable 'product' (self-improvement) to be more attractive in the dating market.
• 🔄 Consistency in seeking out women, either online or in person, is compared to daily work in sales to maintain a flow of potential leads.
• 💼 A job in an environment with many women and a degree of status can be a strategic advantage in dating, similar to a good sales position.
• 🌐 Online dating strategies should involve using premium services and sending out a high volume of messages consistently.
• 🏋️‍♂️ For those with less exposure, developing a social life and pursuing new hobbies can increase the chances of meeting potential partners.
• 💡 Building self-confidence by improving weak points can make it easier to attract and maintain interest from women, akin to believing in the product you sell.
• 🤝 Avoid emotionally investing too much in any single lead, and always be gathering new leads, similar to a salesperson's approach.
• 🔄 Be prepared for fluctuations in dating success, and always have multiple potential partners in the pipeline to avoid disappointment.
• 🌟 Providing a positive experience is crucial for customer retention in sales and for maintaining interest in dating, emphasizing the importance of treating people well.

Q & A

What is the critical mindset shift suggested for approaching dating?

The critical mindset shift is to view dating as a process similar to sales, where effort and strategy are required rather than relying on luck or looks alone.

Why is it important to create a valuable 'product' in the context of dating?

Creating a valuable 'product' in dating means improving oneself to be more attractive and desirable, making it easier to convert potential dates into meaningful relationships.

What does the speaker mean by 'lead generation' in the context of dating?

Lead generation in dating refers to putting oneself in situations where there is a high chance of meeting potential partners, similar to driving traffic to a product in sales.

Why is it suggested to pay for a premium version of a dating app?

Paying for a premium version of a dating app can increase exposure and the ability to send a high volume of messages, which is part of the strategy to generate more leads.

What is the role of status in meeting women in person according to the script?

Having a job that positions you in a place of status and in an environment with many attractive women can increase the chances of meeting potential partners.

What is the importance of developing a social life for those with less exposure to women?

Developing a social life helps increase exposure to potential partners and allows for the pursuit of new hobbies and experiences that can attract women.

How does the speaker relate the concept of 'always be closing' to dating?

In dating, 'always be closing' means to continuously pursue potential partners and not emotionally invest too much in any single one, similar to a salesperson managing multiple leads.

What is the significance of providing a good experience in both sales and dating?

A good experience leads to customer retention in sales and repeat interest or positive word-of-mouth in dating, making it crucial for long-term success.

Why is it advised not to treat women poorly even if one wants to stay single and play the field?

Treating women poorly can lead to a bad reputation that spreads quickly, reducing the chances of future positive interactions and potentially causing missed opportunities.

What is the speaker's personal philosophy regarding treating people in the context of dating?

The speaker's personal philosophy is to play it cool and be good to people, believing that this approach pays off in the long run and avoids the need for manipulative tactics.

How does the script relate customer retention to long-term relationships?

Customer retention in the context of a long-term relationship means maintaining a positive and satisfying experience to ensure the relationship's longevity.

Outlines

00:00

💼 The Sales Mindset in Dating

The speaker compares dating to sales, emphasizing that success in both requires more than just luck or appearance. They suggest that men often expect women to desire them without putting in the necessary effort, similar to expecting high sales without marketing a product. The speaker advocates for a proactive approach, such as using premium dating apps or seeking jobs that increase exposure to potential partners. The goal is to generate leads, akin to driving traffic to a product. They also stress the importance of self-improvement, positioning oneself as a valuable 'product' in the dating market, and maintaining a broad exposure to potential partners to increase the chances of success.

05:02

🤝 The Importance of Positive Experiences in Dating

In this paragraph, the speaker discusses the importance of treating dating like customer service, where a positive experience can lead to repeat 'business'. They argue that men should aim to provide a good experience for women to encourage them to return, whether in a relationship or casual encounters. The speaker also warns against developing a negative reputation by treating women poorly, as this can limit future opportunities. They advocate for a respectful and considerate approach to dating, which can lead to long-term benefits, including the possibility of rekindling connections with past partners. The speaker concludes by emphasizing the importance of customer retention in both business and relationships.

Keywords

💡Critical Mindset Shift

A critical mindset shift refers to a significant change in perspective or approach to a particular issue. In the context of the video, it suggests a fundamental change in how one views dating, moving away from the belief that it is solely about luck or physical appearance. The video emphasizes that, like sales, dating requires effort, strategy, and providing a good experience to be successful.

💡Sales

Sales, in this video, is used metaphorically to compare the process of dating. It implies that just as in sales, where one does not expect customers to automatically buy a product, in dating, one should not expect romantic success without putting in effort. The video uses sales tactics such as lead generation, product value, and customer experience as parallels to dating strategies.

💡Lead Generation

Lead generation is the process of attracting and capturing interest from potential customers or, in the context of the video, potential romantic interests. The video suggests that increasing one's exposure in 'high traffic scenarios' is crucial for meeting more women, just as driving traffic to an offer is essential for generating leads in sales.

💡Numbers Game

The 'numbers game' concept in the video refers to the idea that dating success is often about increasing one's chances by interacting with a larger number of potential partners. It is used to illustrate the importance of volume and repetition in the dating process, similar to how a salesperson might need to interact with many potential customers to make a sale.

💡Strategy

Strategy, in the context of the video, pertains to a plan or method one employs to achieve a goal, such as increasing exposure to potential romantic partners. The video discusses different strategies for meeting women, such as using online dating apps or seeking employment in environments with a higher concentration of attractive women.

💡Premium Version

The 'premium version' refers to the paid subscription tier of online dating apps, which the video suggests can be more effective for lead generation in dating. It implies that investing in such a service can increase the volume of messages sent and received, thereby increasing one's exposure and chances of success in dating.

💡Social Life

A social life, as discussed in the video, is the network of social interactions and activities one engages in outside of work or school. The video suggests that developing a social life and pursuing new hobbies can be a strategy for increasing exposure to potential romantic partners, especially for those with jobs that do not naturally provide such opportunities.

💡Product Worth Buying

In the video, being a 'product worth buying' is a metaphor for self-improvement and becoming an attractive potential partner. It suggests that, just as a salesperson would not expect to sell a product without believing in its value, one should work on personal development to be a desirable romantic partner, which can make it easier to convert potential dates into meaningful relationships.

💡Always Be Closing (ABC)

The phrase 'Always Be Closing' is a sales adage that the video applies to dating, emphasizing the importance of actively pursuing and moving potential romantic interests along the 'sales process.' It suggests that one should not become too emotionally invested in any single potential partner but rather keep gathering leads and engaging with multiple people.

💡Customer Retention

Customer retention, in the context of the video, is the concept of maintaining a positive relationship with customers to ensure repeat business. In dating, this translates to providing a good experience for women to encourage them to want to spend more time with you, whether in a relationship or casual encounters.

💡Single Ladies Man

The term 'Single Ladies Man' is used in the video to describe someone who is successful in dating without being in a committed relationship. It implies that one can be popular among women and enjoy the benefits of dating multiple people while maintaining respect and good treatment of each, without resorting to manipulative or disrespectful tactics.

Highlights

Dating is akin to sales, requiring effort and strategy rather than relying on luck or looks alone.

Creating a valuable 'product' and providing a good experience are key in both sales and dating.

Lead generation is crucial in dating, similar to driving traffic to a sales offer.

The importance of volume and repetition in dating to increase exposure and chances of success.

Strategies for increasing exposure include using premium dating apps or working in environments with high female traffic.

Developing a social life and pursuing new hobbies can increase exposure to potential dating partners.

The necessity of self-improvement to stand out in the dating market, where the bar for quality is relatively low.

Confidence and self-assurance come from believing in oneself as a valuable 'product' in the dating scene.

The modern dating society is superficial and distracting, requiring persistence in the pursuit of relationships.

Avoiding emotional investment in single leads is advised to prevent attachment and maintain clarity.

The recommendation to always be 'closing' in dating, akin to the sales principle of always moving towards a sale.

The importance of treating women well to ensure repeat interest and positive word-of-mouth.

Maintaining a good reputation by avoiding the mistreatment of women, as a bad reputation can spread quickly.

The long-term benefits of treating people well, even in the face of difficult customers or relationships.

The philosophy of being a 'Single Ladies Man' without resorting to manipulative tactics or poor treatment of women.

The significance of customer retention in long-term relationships for their sustainability.

The speaker's personal offer and invitation to check out additional content in the video description.

Transcripts

I believe there's a critical mindset

shift that can completely change your

approach to dating and I've noticed that

most guys think that dating is about

luck or looks mostly and while both of

those definitely play a role it's

actually a lot more like sales think

about it when you're trying to sell

something you don't just expect people

to rush to you and buy it with 100 sales

rate you know that you need to create a

valuable product put in the work to

advertise it work daily to make sales

and give customers a good experience

dating is the same process in a lot of

ways yet many guys seem to approach

things in the opposite way where they

expect women to desire them as they are

put in a low amount of effort to seek

out women they're inconsistent and they

tend to get lazy with providing a good

experience and the first thing I want to

talk about is that both sales and dating

begins with lead generation you've

probably heard the saying that dating is

a numbers game and that's definitely

true with sales if you aren't driving

traffic to your offer you aren't going

to be generating any leads for potential

sales and dating is the exact same thing

if getting more women is your goal then

putting yourself into high traffic

scenarios is critical to even start to

get anywhere I've noticed a lot of guys

come to the conclusion that they simply

aren't attractive or that they lack the

skills to get more dates but really what

they are lacking is volume and

repetition to fix this you have to think

about what your strategy is going to be

to increase your traffic or in other

words your exposure to being seen by

women you can't just sit in the house

and expect hot girls to be Amazon Prime

to your doorstep and you can't expect to

get anywhere send out a few messages per

week on a dating app in terms of

developing a strategy this will either

be something like online dating apps for

some people While others will prefer to

meet girls in person if it's online

dating apps the best use of your time is

going to be paying for the premium

version of an app like hinge and sending

out a high volume of messages every day

consistently if it's in person one of

the best strategies is going to be

getting a job in an environment that has

a lot of attractive women around and

also positions you in a place of status

to some degree like being the bartender

at a trendy bar or a personal trainer at

a popular gym now if you're someone that

has a more boring job with less exposure

to women on average then you're going to

have to have a phase for a while where

you go out multiple times per week to

develop a social life and you're also

gonna have to put an effort into really

pursuing new hobbies and trying things

out in my own experience the better

strategy is a blend of both the key

Point here is that you want to position

yourself to where you're being exposed

to a wide variety of women consistently

just like you would want with a wide

variety of customers with a product that

you were selling it's like YouTube the

more views that you get the more chances

of getting subscribed and not every

viewer will subscribe but without any

views you're not going to get any

subscribers at all just remember that

your chances of succeeding or

experiencing luck is something that

increases as you increase your exposure

to the thing that you're trying to

obtain it isn't entirely random now in

order to convert leads to sales it's

always much easier to convert when you

have a product that is genuinely

valuable when you're selling something

that you don't believe in you have to

resort to slimy sales tactics and giving

off a sketchy vibe that other people can

feel to translate this into dating you

have to work on building up your weak

points in order to be a product worth

buying we as men don't have the virtue

of being sought after just for existing

and looking pretty so the burden is on

us to forge ourselves into something

worthy now the good news here is that

the bar is so low these days that it

doesn't take much to stand out from the

crowd now that doesn't mean to aim low

in fact you should do the opposite and

set higher standards for yourself but do

realize that while there are a lot of

guys in the dating field in terms of

volume meaning there are tons of guys

around trying to get women online and in

person the quality and ability of those

guys is actually very very low on

average most guys are failing at some

phase of the game or another whether

it's physical attraction mindset ability

to talk to women emotional control

etc etc and when you develop yourself

into a product that you believe in it

becomes a lot easier to be confident and

self-assured and then that makes turning

those leads into something more

meaningful a lot easier now if you're

familiar with sales at all you've

probably heard the saying to always be

closing and it rings true for dating we

live in a modern society that is

superficial in many ways and highly

distracting this is especially true for

beautiful women they have guys throwing

themselves at their feet every day so

it's easy for them to get distracted by

another option that pops up now because

of this it's best to avoid emotionally

investing too much at first with any

potential lead just like with sales a

good salesman doesn't put all of his

hopes into one single client or sale

instead he is always Gathering leads and

moving potential clients along the sales

process if one happens to drop off it's

not a huge deal because he has more in

the pipeline with dating you'll go

through dry spells and sudden surges of

women all at once there's an ebb and

Float of things and you'll also

experience flakes no matter how

attractive you are because of this it's

best to always be talking to multiple

girls and not emotionally investing too

much into any single one unless you're

at a point where you want a relationship

and you've been talking to a girl long

enough to where that makes sense but if

you've known a specific girl for a few

months just keep talking to others

because it also serves a dual purpose of

keeping your head clear to help you

better evaluate her and if she's

actually a girl worth keeping around or

not talking to other women helps prevent

delusions with any single one and this

is critical as men because many guys are

prone to seeing certain women as Angels

while ignoring their flaws completely so

always be closing now one more thing I

want to mention here is that in sales a

satisfied customer is a repeat customer

and again this Rings true for dating we

as people are loyal to products and

companies that treat us well and give us

a positive experience we will keep

coming back for more and we will often

not even consider using another product

or company if the experience is

exceptional now whether you're in a

relationship or wanting to stay single

providing a good experience for a girl

to keep coming back is critical anytime

you're with a girl you should really

emphasize making it a positive

experience and remember the Golden Rule

be attractive don't be unattractive in

the same vein I'm of the opinion that if

you're a guy that wants to stay single

and play the field it's never a good

idea to just get rid of girls or to

treat them badly now there's many

reasons for this but in general you

don't want to develop a trail of angry

women that hates you and your bad

reputation can actually spread quickly

in some cases I've personally seen this

happen with a guy and he lost out on a

girl that he really liked because of it

and on a positive note you also never

know when girls may come back around and

want to hang out again a girl you hooked

up with a couple years ago can easily

come back around if she had a good

experience with you the first time my

personal philosophy is to play it cool

and be good to people because it pays

off in the long run and it makes life

easier even if you deal with a bad

customer so to speak here and there and

you can be the Single Ladies Man that

many women love without resorting to

cowardly tactics in bitter treatment of

women and I know some guys will angrily

disagree with this but it can be done

without putting women on a pedestal or

simping and I never endorse pedestaling

or something for women

and it goes without saying that customer

retention is definitely important if

you're in a long-term relationship or

else that relationship isn't going to

last very long but long-term

relationship game is a whole other topic

in itself but anyway with all that said

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