Everything you need to know about crew members dating on cruise ships

Cruising As Crew
7 Jul 202020:35

Summary

TLDRIn this video, Lucy discusses the unique dynamics of romantic relationships aboard cruise ships. She highlights the challenges and joys of dating in a confined environment with a diverse crew, the inevitable end dates due to contract lengths, and the intense, honeymoon-like phase of these relationships. Lucy advises viewers to enjoy these relationships without fixating on outcomes, to maintain social lives beyond their partners, and to be aware that people may behave differently on a ship than in their everyday lives.

Takeaways

  • ๐Ÿ’” Romantic relationships on cruise ships are often short-term due to the nature of contracts and the diverse nationalities of the crew.
  • ๐Ÿ—“ Knowing when a relationship will end can lead to a greater appreciation of the time spent together, as it creates an 'expiry date' for the relationship.
  • ๐Ÿ”ฅ Relationships on cruise ships are intense because crew members see each other daily and share experiences in a confined space.
  • ๐ŸŒด Being constantly in the 'honeymoon phase' on a cruise ship means couples are always exploring new places together, which keeps the romance alive.
  • ๐Ÿšข Relationships on cruise ships often start as casual encounters but can develop into something more serious over time.
  • ๐ŸŒ The close proximity and frequency of interactions on a ship can make a four-month relationship feel equivalent to a much longer one on land.
  • ๐Ÿ  Being away from family and friends on a cruise ship can make crew members more likely to form strong attachments to those they are romantically involved with.
  • ๐Ÿค” It's important to maintain a social life outside of a romantic relationship on a cruise ship to avoid becoming overly dependent on one person.
  • ๐Ÿ’ก People may act differently on a cruise ship compared to their regular lives, so it's crucial to be aware that there's more to learn about a person beyond their on-ship persona.
  • ๐Ÿ’ญ The video emphasizes the difficulty of getting over a relationship that ended due to circumstances rather than any wrongdoing by either party.
  • ๐ŸŒˆ The advice given is to enjoy the experience of a relationship on a cruise ship without fixating on the outcome, and to be prepared for change.

Q & A

  • What are the unique aspects of romantic relationships on cruise ships compared to those on land?

    -Romantic relationships on cruise ships are unique due to their predetermined end dates, the high likelihood of involving people from different countries or cities, the intensity of the relationships due to the confined space and frequent interactions, and the constant honeymoon phase due to the lack of mundane daily chores and responsibilities.

  • Why do relationships on cruise ships tend to be more intense?

    -Relationships on cruise ships are more intense because crew members live in close quarters and see each other every day, often in social settings or while exploring new places together, which creates a strong bond and emotional attachment.

  • What is the typical starting point for relationships on cruise ships?

    -Relationships on cruise ships often start as hookups because people are not usually looking for long-term partners in such an environment. However, some of these casual relationships can develop into something more serious.

  • How does the environment of a cruise ship affect the honeymoon phase of a relationship?

    -The environment of a cruise ship perpetuates the honeymoon phase because crew members are constantly exploring new places and enjoying leisure activities together, which keeps the relationship exciting and free from the mundane tasks of everyday life.

  • Why is it important for individuals in a relationship on a cruise ship to maintain a social life outside of their partner?

    -Maintaining a social life outside of the relationship is crucial because it prevents over-dependence on one person, which can be emotionally devastating if the relationship ends or if one person has to leave the ship early.

  • What challenges do cruise ship relationships face when transitioning back to life on land?

    -Cruise ship relationships can face challenges when transitioning back to land because the individuals may discover new aspects of their partner's personality or habits that were not evident on the ship, such as different levels of discipline or differing lifestyles.

  • What advice does Lucy give for managing relationships on cruise ships?

    -Lucy advises not to fixate on the outcome of the relationship, to enjoy the time together without putting pressure on it, to maintain a social life outside of the relationship, and to be aware that things can change quickly on a cruise ship.

  • How does the constant change on a cruise ship affect relationships?

    -The constant change on a cruise ship can make relationships more intense as individuals may cling to the stability and familiarity of their partner. However, it also means that breakups or changes in the relationship can be particularly difficult to navigate.

  • What are some of the misconceptions people might have about their partners when they are in a relationship on a cruise ship?

    -People might assume they know everything about their partners based on their behavior on the ship, but they may not be aware of aspects of their partner's life or habits outside of the cruise ship environment.

  • What is the significance of knowing when a relationship on a cruise ship is going to end?

    -Knowing when a relationship is going to end can make individuals appreciate the time they have together more, as they are aware of the limited duration and can focus on enjoying the experience without long-term expectations.

  • How does the experience of working on a cruise ship influence personal growth and self-reliance?

    -Working on a cruise ship can foster personal growth and self-reliance as individuals learn to adapt to new environments and experiences. However, being in a relationship can sometimes hinder this growth if one becomes too dependent on their partner.

Outlines

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๐Ÿ’ž Romantic Relationships on Cruise Ships

The paragraph discusses the unique nature of romantic relationships aboard cruise ships. It highlights three main differences from land-based relationships: the predetermined end date due to contracts, the high likelihood of dating someone from a different country, and the intense nature of these relationships due to constant proximity and shared experiences. The author suggests that knowing when the relationship will end can lead to greater appreciation of the time spent together. Additionally, the confined space of the ship and the lack of mundane responsibilities contribute to a perpetual honeymoon phase, where the focus is on enjoying each other's company and exploring new places.

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๐Ÿšข Intensity and Challenges of Cruise Ship Relationships

This paragraph delves into the intensity of relationships on cruise ships, emphasizing the constant presence and interaction between partners due to the limited space and shared living environment. It contrasts this with the reality of relationships on land, which may face mundane challenges that can dim the romance. The author also touches on the potential downsides of becoming too attached to a partner, as the transient nature of cruise ship life can make breakups particularly difficult, especially when one lacks a support network from family and friends. The importance of maintaining a social life outside of the relationship is stressed to avoid emotional devastation in case of a breakup.

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๐ŸŒ The Transience and Adaptation of Cruise Ship Romances

The speaker reflects on the transience of relationships formed on cruise ships, noting that while some may lead to long-term commitments, others are fleeting due to the ever-changing environment and the unique circumstances under which they are formed. They caution against becoming too attached to a partner, as the end of a contract or a change in circumstances can abruptly end the relationship. The paragraph also addresses the potential for personal growth when working on a cruise ship, advising against relying solely on a romantic partner for emotional support, as this can hinder personal development and make breakups even more challenging.

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๐Ÿ’” Navigating Breakups and Emotional Attachments at Sea

This paragraph explores the emotional complexities of breakups on cruise ships, where the lack of familiarity and constant change can exacerbate the pain of ending a relationship. The author shares personal anecdotes about the difficulty of letting go of someone they cared for deeply, especially when there was no malice involved but circumstances dictated the separation. They discuss the struggle of moving on from a relationship that was based on shared experiences and adventures, and the importance of not fixating on a specific outcome to avoid disappointment.

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๐Ÿ”ฎ Embracing the Fleeting Nature of Cruise Ship Love

The final paragraph offers advice on how to approach relationships on cruise ships, encouraging viewers to enjoy the experience without becoming fixated on a potential future with a partner. The author suggests maintaining a social life outside of the relationship and not trying to control outcomes that are beyond one's control. They emphasize the importance of going with the flow and appreciating the time spent together, as this can lead to less pressure and potentially a more enjoyable relationship. The paragraph concludes with a teaser for the next video, which will discuss the stages of a cruise ship contract.

Mindmap

Keywords

๐Ÿ’กCruise Ship

A cruise ship is a large passenger ship used mainly for vacationing, offering amenities such as restaurants, entertainment, and accommodations. In the video, the cruise ship serves as the setting where romantic relationships are explored, and its unique environment influences the dynamics of these relationships.

๐Ÿ’กRomantic Relationships

Romantic relationships refer to intimate connections between individuals that are often characterized by love and affection. The video discusses the distinctive nature of such relationships on cruise ships, where the temporary nature of contracts and the confined space create a unique context for these connections.

๐Ÿ’กExpiry Date

An expiry date is a term used to denote the end of a product's shelf life or the termination of a service. In the context of the video, it metaphorically refers to the predetermined end of a relationship on a cruise ship due to the temporary contracts of the crew, which influences how individuals approach and appreciate their time together.

๐Ÿ’กAppreciation

Appreciation in this context means recognizing and valuing the worth of something or someone. The video suggests that knowing when a relationship will end can lead to a greater appreciation of the time spent together, as it creates a sense of urgency and a desire to make the most of the limited time.

๐Ÿ’กIntensity

Intensity refers to the strength or depth of a feeling, experience, or situation. The script describes how relationships on a cruise ship are more intense due to the constant proximity and shared experiences in a confined space, leading to a deeper connection in a shorter period.

๐Ÿ’กHoneymoon Phase

The honeymoon phase is a term often used to describe the initial period of a relationship characterized by intense feelings of love and excitement. The video explains that relationships on cruise ships seem to perpetually be in this phase due to the constant novelty of exploring new places together.

๐Ÿ’กHookups

A hookup typically refers to a casual sexual encounter without the expectation of a long-term relationship. The script notes that relationships on cruise ships often start as hookups, reflecting the temporary and spontaneous nature of connections in such an environment.

๐Ÿ’กAttachment

Attachment is the emotional bond or connection one forms with another person. The video warns about the dangers of becoming too attached in a cruise ship setting, as the transient nature of life at sea can make the loss of such connections particularly challenging.

๐Ÿ’กSocial Life

A social life encompasses the interactions, relationships, and activities one engages in with others outside of work or romantic partnerships. The script emphasizes the importance of maintaining a social life outside of a romantic relationship on a cruise ship to avoid over-dependence and to enrich one's overall experience.

๐Ÿ’กCircumstances

Circumstances refer to the conditions or facts that make a particular situation what it is. The video discusses how breakups on a cruise ship are often due to circumstances such as the end of contracts or geographical distance, rather than issues within the relationship itself, making the process of moving on more complex.

๐Ÿ’กExpectations

Expectations are beliefs or anticipations about what will happen or what is likely to happen. The script advises viewers not to fixate on outcomes or expectations in a relationship, as doing so can lead to disappointment when reality does not align with these expectations, especially in the unpredictable environment of a cruise ship.

Highlights

Romance on cruise ships is often short-lived due to the temporary nature of contracts and the diverse nationalities of crew members.

People on cruise ships tend to appreciate relationships more due to their predetermined end dates, similar to how an 'expiry date' makes one value something more.

Relationships on cruise ships are intense because crew members live in close quarters and see each other daily, unlike traditional dating scenarios.

Cruise ship relationships often remain in a honeymoon phase due to the lack of mundane responsibilities and the constant exploration of new places.

Relationships on cruise ships usually begin as casual hookups, evolving into something more serious for some couples.

The frequency of seeing each other on a cruise ship can lead to a deeper understanding in a shorter time compared to relationships on land.

Being away from family and friends on a cruise ship can lead to stronger attachments to romantic partners who provide a sense of constancy.

It's crucial to maintain a social life outside of a romantic relationship on a cruise ship to avoid emotional devastation if the relationship ends.

Breaking up on a cruise ship can be particularly challenging due to the constant change and lack of a support system from family and friends.

People may behave differently on a cruise ship compared to their off-ship lives, which can lead to surprises and disappointments post-contract.

It's important not to fixate on the outcome of a relationship on a cruise ship to avoid disappointment and to enjoy the present.

The advice given is to not anchor oneself to one person and to enjoy the broader experience of meeting people from around the world.

The video emphasizes the importance of going with the flow and not putting too much pressure on a relationship's future.

The narrator shares personal experiences of breakups on cruise ships, highlighting the difficulty of ending things due to circumstances rather than animosity.

The video concludes with a reminder to enjoy relationships on cruise ships without fixating on outcomes, embracing the experience for what it is.

Transcripts

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so I just have to get over you now even

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though I love you hey sailors and

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welcome back to cruising as crew my name

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is Lucy and today we're going to be

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talking about romantic relationships on

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board cruise ships but before we start I

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just want to remind you to click like

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and subscribe there's more cruise ship

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content

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but that's for now let's get into the

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video ah okay so romantic relationships

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or just sauce this subject right

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romantic relationships they're very

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different on board cruise ships to a

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romantic relationship on land for three

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reasons the first one is you already

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know when your relationships gonna end

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on a cruise ship there is normally about

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50 nationalities so most likely you're

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gonna end up going out with someone from

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a different country or at least a

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different City you know obviously

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everyone knows when their contract is

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gonna end so when you get talking to

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that person you obviously figure out

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that they've maybe got two or four

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months left so you know when it's gonna

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end because either you're gonna continue

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dating and do it long-distance or you're

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going to end it and obviously when you

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first start seeing someone you're not

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necessarily thinking about I'm gonna

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marry you

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well I mean if you are like chill out

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just take it for what it is but anyway

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so yes you already know when it's gonna

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end and the problem with that is well

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actually is not problem because I think

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it makes you appreciate your time with

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them more I think when anything has an

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expiry date or an end date it makes you

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appreciate it more you know when you get

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any relationship at home you don't

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necessarily appreciate all the time you

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spend together because you're like we're

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just gonna do this through the long as

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we want whereas when you're seeing

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someone on the ship it's like we're

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gonna do this for four more months and

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then that's it so you definitely

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appreciate each other more and

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appreciate your time together more

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because you have an end date the second

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thing is that relationships on a cruise

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ship are so much more intense now that

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is every kind of relationship that's a

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friendship but especially a romantic

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relationship and the reason is because

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you're living on a ship and the ship is

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only so big if you were seeing someone

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on land and you were just dating them

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then maybe you would see them maybe two

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or three times a week if you

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really liked each other whereas on a

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cruise ship you're probably gonna see

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each other everyday like even if you

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don't mean to see each other everyday

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you're you're gonna see each other

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everyday like there's only probably one

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crew bar there's only so many places you

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can go on the ship why wouldn't you see

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each other every day like your cabins

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are probably two minutes away from each

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other you know it's different when

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you're dating someone on land and you

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really want to see them but they live

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two hours away and you just have a long

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day at work you know where's your on a

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cruise ship you know well yeah I had a

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long day at work but I literally have to

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pass their cabin to get to my cabin

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so you end up seeing them every day and

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number three you are always in the

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honeymoon phase on land there are

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realities that pop up that may be dimmed

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down the romance you have to do things

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that you don't necessarily want to do

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together like you have to do laundry and

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clean and go food shopping and like

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there's all these different little

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things that we all have to do when we

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live on land but they're not they're not

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exciting they're just kind of mundane

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things that we all have to do whereas on

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a cruise ship when you're off you're off

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exploring a new place probably with your

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you know your boyfriend or girlfriend on

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board and that's what everyone wants

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right every everyone wants to explore

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the world with the person that they love

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or really like and you get to do that

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you know so okay when you're at work

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you're at work but when you're off

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together like you're a holiday together

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every day you go out for lunch you know

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maybe you go to the beach and have a

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nice day out the beach there's just

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nothing to think about other than being

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present and enjoying the moment so it's

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just so easy to be with each other

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there's no real effort in voting but

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it's just so easy to like just be in the

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moment and enjoy each other

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relationships on ships normally start as

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hookups because no one's really looking

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for a relationship on a cruise like you

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don't go to work on a cruise ship

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looking for

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your long-term partner because it's just

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not the right environment to create a

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long-term relationship I mean it is in

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the fact that you know you're within the

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honeymoon phase and you have a lovely

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time together but they're probably gonna

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be from the other side of the world and

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you have a time limit so it isn't the

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right environment to look for your like

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future spouse but nevertheless obviously

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some hookups just stay as hookups and

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some people hook up and realize that

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they really like each other love each

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other and they stay together and if you

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do start seeing someone on a ship and as

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I said you'll probably see them everyday

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soaps a couple that have been together

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on land for six months will be the same

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as a couple that have been together on a

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ship for four weeks because you see it

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to that every day you get to know about

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each other

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so if you've been with someone for four

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months on a ship you've basically been

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in a two-year relationship as well as

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like how often you get to see each other

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and the fact that you do fun things

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together there are also other factors

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that make relationships more intense on

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a ship though you are away from your

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family and friends okay

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as I've said before in previous videos

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working on a cruise ship you just

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experience constant change so if you've

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got something or someone that is kind of

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like a constant you cling on to it you

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know because there is nothing to cling

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on to on a ship look emotionally so your

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feelings can grow so much faster for

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someone on board a cruise ship because

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you're away from your friends and your

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family and familiarity especially if

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you're new onboard and you've met

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someone you know it's maybe it's a bit

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different if you've maybe been working

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on that ship for like nine months or six

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months or something but if you have

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someone that is like a constant that you

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can rely on you do get very attached

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it's very hard to not get attached to

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that because obviously change is scary

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and you can be really good at adapting

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but nevertheless it's still nice to have

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something that is comfortable now the

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problem with getting like attached to

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someone and this is the same kind of on

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land as well as ships is obviously

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if you're too attached to someone in the

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fact that they're always there and you

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know if for some reason they're they're

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not there or you have a fight or maybe

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one of you gets transferred or has to

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you know leave the ship early your whole

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world like falls apart so it's really

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important I think to know as much as you

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want to spend all your time with that

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person and it's so tempting because

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obviously they're there and their cabin

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is two minutes away and it's just so

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easy to get so wrapped up in each other

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and spend all your time together it's so

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important that you maintain a social

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life this is the same with relationships

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and land but it's easier on a ship to

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just eliminate everyone else from your

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life you know and so you really have to

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try and just give yourself like

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boundaries and just know I am I'm just

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gonna go out with my friends tonight oh

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no I am gonna go to bed early and I'm

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gonna have a good night's sleep because

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I've had a long day at work and I need

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whatever it is no I'm just gonna get off

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import tomorrow on my own it's really

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important to separate yourself from this

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person because it is just so easy to not

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bother and just spend all your time

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together but as I said I send in a video

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like why I think everyone should work on

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cruise ships and in that video I was

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talking about the fact that crew working

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on cruise ships it's amazing because you

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grow so much as a person and you learn

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to depend on yourself

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but that's only if you're not depending

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on someone else like if you go on a

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cruise ship and you meet someone that's

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amazing but you don't learn to depend on

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yourself and that can be devastating if

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for some reason you can't depend on them

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anymore and even more devastating than

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if you break up or fight with someone on

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land because let's say you break up with

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someone on land

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you have your family you have your

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friends you have like everything is

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stable everything is fine so the only

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like big thing in your life that's

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changing is this relationship is ending

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which is rubbish but it's like one thing

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to deal with whereas on a ship if you

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fight with someone or breakup with

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someone it's so difficult to get over

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because you're away from your family

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you're in an unfamiliar environment

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you're in a new place every single day

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you're like no maybe you're like friends

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that you've made are leaving because

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they're finishing their contract maybe

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you're finishing your contract like

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there's always so many things changing

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on a cruise ship there's always so much

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that you have to adapt to and that is

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why it's so important not to kind of

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anchor yourself to this one person

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because nothing's guaranteed so why

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would you you know why would you anchor

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yourself to something that isn't

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guaranteed to work out like the best

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thing I can say is just enjoy your time

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together cruise ships are such an

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amazing opportunity to meet people from

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all over the world and make so many

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friends and if you're just spending all

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your free time with this one person then

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they're gonna be your only memory of

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this amazing experience and if they turn

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out to be an for lack of better

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words and then you're gonna be like oh I

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wish I'd have I wish I'd have hung out

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with Sally more Sally seem like fun but

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I didn't I just got caught up in this

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relationship and now it's over and I

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look like everything's a lesson

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everything happens for a reason but I'm

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just saying be smart about it if you get

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in a relationship yes enjoy it but just

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know that things are gonna change these

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can change like that so please don't get

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too attached to this person you know

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harriel seeing your friends carry on

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enjoying the experience is that working

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on a cruise ship gives you don't spend

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every waking minute that you're not at

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work with this person

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because in the long run it's just gonna

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make it harder to get over them and look

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I know I sound like a complete stick out

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but I'm not I promise there are so many

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relationships that do work you know

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people get together on cruise ships and

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they're like no I absolutely you are

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everything and they get married and one

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of you know they move to another country

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together or maybe they are in the same

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country and they make it work you know

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it happens and it can happen and I'm

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sure it can happen to you some religion

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some relationships work some

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relationships don't and it's the same on

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a cruise ship so all I'm saying is I

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don't want your whole cruise ship

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experience to be revolving around this

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one person because there's so many

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people that make working on a cruise

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ship great so you should try and enjoy

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all of them now the other thing with

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working on a cruise ship is people can

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be completely different people on a

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cruise ship I could go on a cruise ship

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and tell people that I Drive a Ferrari

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I wish and and no one would know but if

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you get and I'm not saying that people

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me some people do like not saying all

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people lie what I'm saying is you only

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get to know the cruise ship version of

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that person when you're with someone you

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see what they're like work and you see

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what they're like in social situations

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and you don't get to know you don't know

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if they're good as money you don't know

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if they like to gamble you don't know if

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they drink loads because obviously on a

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cruise ship you have a drinking limit so

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maybe they don't drink loads on the

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cruise ship because obviously they run

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the risk of getting fired but when

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there's no limits do they have their own

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limits you know are they disciplined or

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just bear in mind that when you're with

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someone on a cruise ship you only know

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that the person that they are choosing

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to show you and it's probably a

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completely subconscious thing they're

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not like I'm gonna hide this from them

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but they're just be aware that there is

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still a lot more to learn and there's a

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lot of people you know who finished

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their contract but they have been

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completely besotted with this person and

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they've decided to try and make it work

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you know myself included I've done that

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as well and sometimes it hasn't worked

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because actually

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we're not compatible when we're not on a

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ship maybe I don't look because it's

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just various thing because oh I didn't

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know that you know you get absolutely

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wasted every night or I didn't know that

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you do drugs when you're not on the ship

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or I didn't know that you were an avid

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gambler I didn't know that you're not

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clean I mean it does it doesn't matter

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but the point is like just bear in mind

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that there's still a lot more to learn

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about a person after you've worked on

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the cruise ship with them because you

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might think you know everything about

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them but you don't you only know who

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they are on a cruise ship and everyone

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you know

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I am completely myself wherever I am but

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I am slightly different when I'm at home

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a different environment you know we all

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adapt to our different environments for

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example I had a friend that on a cruise

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ship and her cabin was always absolutely

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immaculate immaculate and I never like

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asked her about it I just thought wow

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she is so clean and then I went to visit

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her when I was home and she wasn't

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immaculate and all that and I did I

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can't remember what I said but it turned

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out basically it was her roommate that

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was the really clean one and just like

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oh okay

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not that it matters I don't care but the

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point is you can think you know

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something and actually it's completely

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different when there are none I really

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hope this is making sense because on a

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cruise ship you don't necessarily get to

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see the bad side after more like the

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different aspects of them and it makes

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it very hard to get over them I mean

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like it's like when if you break up with

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someone but you don't actually want to

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break up but you're just breaking up

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because distance you know and I've done

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that before I've broken up with someone

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because we're not gonna see each other

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for six months now so what we really

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gonna do this or and that's really

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difficult to get over because it's one

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thing when you break up with someone

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because they did something that you hate

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or they disrespected you and you can be

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like yes I'm going to get over them

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because they're not the right person for

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me because they treated me in this way

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but when you're just with someone and

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you're having a great time and you

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really love them and that's you know

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it's like oh do I just have to get over

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you now even though I love you or I

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really like you and that's really I mean

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at this point I just want to break up

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with someone because I hate them

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like like circumcised breaking up with

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someone because of circumstance is so

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hard and on the one hand it's great

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because breakups that I've had have

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never been malicious or there's no like

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real hurt there because it's like well

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we had a good time you know and that's

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that's it

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um and so some people might say you're

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so lucky because you've never had to go

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through someone being nasty or hating

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someone or having to go over that but I

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mean comment down below if you've gone

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through this but having to get over

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someone when nothing was wrong that's

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hard that's really hard you know nothing

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was wrong you just broke up because of

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circumstances you know maybe you try and

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get another ship together but your

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company can't put you on the same ship

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together maybe you're from opposite

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sides of the world maybe you are

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different religions so it was okay

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you know while you're on a ship but

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actually you couldn't be together

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because maybe your religions or family

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wouldn't like it or whatever the reason

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but it's so hard to get over someone

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that you've only had really good

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experiences with like you've been

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traveling around the world with them

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you've been seeing new places having a

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great time going to parties together

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socially you know you've been having

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this amazing time with someone and then

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it's like okay bye okay well it's a very

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difficult situation to be in and you're

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probably wondering what is the point of

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this video you've literally just been

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rambling well the point of this video is

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you know

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gaali cruise ship and if you meet

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someone brilliant but enjoy it and just

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don't fixate on the outcome because as

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soon as you fixate on the outcome like

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oh maybe we'll be together forever maybe

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we'll get married maybe I'll go and

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visit him in his

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country maybe he'll cut whatever as soon

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as you fix it on an outcome that's when

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you you open yourself up to getting

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disappointed in her you know and because

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things change so quickly on cruise ships

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I think the safest thing to do but also

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the most enjoyable thing is to just

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enjoy it and not get caught up in what

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it could be you know and it makes it I

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mean my first relationship on a cruise

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ship I was like we're gonna be together

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forever I love him and he loved me

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fantastic and I fixated on like what I

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wanted to happen and when it didn't

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happen I was really really disappointed

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um where is like more recent

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relationships I've just kind of been

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like okay I'm just gonna go with the

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flow I'm just gonna enjoy it for what it

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is and when it ends you're of course

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you're sad and you're like okay I'm

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disappointed but you're not disappointed

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because they didn't fulfill an

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expectation you had you're just

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disappointed because you're like well we

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have a lot of fun together and I kind of

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want to continue having fun but okay and

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also by not fixating on an outcome

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you're putting less pressure on the

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relationship which means that you'll

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have more fun together which means

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they'd probably be more inclined to want

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to make it work because you know where

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is this

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you're constantly discussing about how

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you're gonna make it work and trying to

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control things that you just can't

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control like okay when we get off the

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ship we're gonna do this and we're gonna

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do this and it's gonna work and lower

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firstly you're not enjoying just being

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with them you're not enjoying the time

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that you have to get there and you're

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trying to control something you can't

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control so just enjoy it just chill just

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know that you know whatever happens with

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this person it's gonna be for the best

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maybe they're just here for a season

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maybe they're here for a reason whatever

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my advice is yeah don't anchor yourself

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to one person

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very very easy to do try and although

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it's very easy to want to spend all your

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free time with that one person try and

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maintain a social life outside of that

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one person so that if they get

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transferred if you get transferred if

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they end their conduct whatever it's not

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going to be as big of a blow and also

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try not to control what you can't

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control

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if you're enjoying your time together

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just concentrate on enjoying your time

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together don't concentrate on like a

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possible outcome that's gonna come

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because it might do but it might not and

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you have to be ok with both if you have

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enjoyed this video then please let me

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know in the comments and also hit that

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notification bell because in the next

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video I'm going to be talking about the

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ten stages you go through during your

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cruise ship contract but why you always

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think for that video please check out

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these two videos here where I talk more

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about cruise ship life and but thank you

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so much for watching and I will see you

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in the next video

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