give me 9 minutes & I'll make you more confident than a drunk pirate

Summary

This video script delves into the nature of confidence, explaining that it is built through action, vulnerability, and facing challenges. The speaker emphasizes that waiting for confidence to appear before acting is ineffective. Instead, confidence comes from stepping out of your comfort zone and gradually tackling harder tasks. The key takeaways are that you don't need evidence to feel confident, but rather the ability to embrace discomfort and take small steps forward. The speaker encourages viewers to act despite their fears, using real-life examples of how to build confidence through practice and action.

Takeaways

• 😀 Confidence comes from action, not waiting for it to appear before doing something new.
• 😀 Confidence is based on evidence. If you haven't done something before, you won't feel confident until you actually try it.
• 😀 To build confidence, embrace vulnerability. You must be willing to face challenges and make mistakes.
• 😀 The mantra for gaining confidence: 'Action before confidence' and 'Embarrassment is the cost of entry.'
• 😀 You can still feel confident in your ability to face challenges, even if you lack specific experience.
• 😀 Confidence isn't about self-affirmations, it's about building a case through action.
• 😀 Break down tasks into smaller, manageable steps that are within your stretch zone to avoid panic.
• 😀 Gradual exposure to challenges builds confidence over time, making previously uncomfortable things easier.
• 😀 Sometimes, it’s okay to push yourself into the panic zone, but be cautious to avoid overwhelming yourself.
• 😀 Confidence comes from doing uncomfortable things repeatedly, but the discomfort fades with practice.
• 😀 Ask yourself, 'Where does my courage begin?' to identify manageable steps towards a bigger challenge.

Q & A

What is the main idea behind the speaker's approach to confidence?

The main idea is that confidence comes from taking action, not from waiting for it to appear. Confidence is built through experience and facing challenges, rather than relying on self-affirmations or hoping for the best.

What does the speaker mean by 'action before confidence'?

'Action before confidence' means that in order to feel confident about doing something, you must first take action, even if you feel unconfident. Confidence follows action, not the other way around.

How does the speaker suggest dealing with fear of embarrassment when trying something new?

The speaker suggests that embarrassment is the cost of entry to achieving confidence. Rather than avoiding potential embarrassment, you should embrace it as part of the process of growth and learning.

What role does vulnerability play in building confidence?

Vulnerability is crucial because to build confidence, you must first allow yourself to be vulnerable. This means being open to making mistakes or facing difficult situations as part of the learning process.

How does the speaker relate their own experience with salsa dancing to building confidence?

The speaker shares their experience of going to a salsa class without prior confidence in dancing. However, their confidence in facing challenges in other areas, such as learning jiu-jitsu or traveling alone, helped them overcome their fear of looking silly in the salsa class.

What is the 'stretch zone' and how does it help build confidence?

The 'stretch zone' refers to tasks or challenges that are slightly outside your comfort zone but not overwhelming. By tackling these tasks, you gradually build confidence and prepare yourself for more difficult challenges in the future.

What is the 'panic zone' and why should you avoid it too often?

The 'panic zone' refers to tasks that are so far outside your comfort zone that they induce extreme fear or anxiety. While it's important to occasionally push yourself into this zone, doing so too often may cause trauma or discourage you from trying again.

What does the speaker mean by 'Where does my courage begin?'

'Where does my courage begin?' is a question the speaker suggests asking yourself when facing a daunting task. It helps break down overwhelming tasks into smaller, manageable steps that you can tackle, building up your courage progressively.

How does the speaker suggest handling a situation where you're too afraid to take a big step?

The speaker recommends breaking the task down into smaller steps that are within your 'stretch zone' to gradually build confidence. This approach helps you build up the courage to eventually tackle the bigger, more intimidating task.

What is the modified version of the phrase 'Get comfortable being uncomfortable' that the speaker offers?

The speaker modifies the phrase to: 'You’ll only become confident by doing uncomfortable things. But if you continue to do them, they’ll no longer be uncomfortable.' This emphasizes the importance of facing discomfort repeatedly to build confidence.