How to get what you want from women 99% of the time

Summary

In this video, Jessica OS reveals a powerful approach to dating and relationships with women. She explains how shifting from asking to expecting, using emotional and intriguing language, and avoiding needy behavior can drastically improve interactions. The key is to lead with confidence, create a sense of mystery, and make women feel they are earning your attention. By avoiding the common mistakes of negotiating for attention and over-investing in validation, men can develop healthier, more attractive relationships with women. The ultimate takeaway is to focus on inspiring behavior, not requesting it.

Takeaways

• 😀 Shift from asking to expecting: Women are attracted to men who move with confidence and make decisions without seeking approval.
• 😀 Women respond to emotional triggers, not logic: Focus on making women feel something instead of relying on facts or resumes.
• 😀 Avoid oversharing: Keep some mystery to maintain a woman's curiosity and emotional investment.
• 😀 Be playfully challenging: Use intriguing statements to stand out, rather than asking predictable questions.
• 😀 Create intrigue: Make her chase by slowly revealing yourself instead of giving everything away all at once.
• 😀 Reward the behavior you want: Only give attention and validation when she earns it.
• 😀 Use implied scarcity: Make your time and attention feel limited to increase its value and keep her interested.
• 😀 Make it about her: Plant ideas that make her feel like she's offering something, rather than you asking for it directly.
• 😀 Never negotiate for her attention: If you have to convince a woman to like you, you've already lost her respect.
• 😀 Avoid 'pick me' energy: Don't beg for her attention, and don't let her feel like she's doing you a favor by being with you.
• 😀 Keep an abundance mindset: Don't chase or settle, and give your energy to women who genuinely show interest.

Q & A

What is the biggest mistake most men make when trying to attract women?

The biggest mistake most men make is treating women like they have all the power in the interaction. They often phrase requests as questions, such as 'Can I take you out?' This gives women the impression that they are the prize and that the man is waiting for their approval, which causes them to lose interest.

How should men approach women to make a better impression?

Men should approach women with certainty and expectation. Instead of asking for permission or approval, they should state their plans with confidence, like 'I'm free Thursday, let's grab a drink.' This signals leadership and creates a situation where women react to the man's decision rather than control the interaction.

What does Jessica OS mean by 'shift from asking to expecting'?

The 'shift from asking to expecting' means that men should stop requesting and instead lead by setting clear plans. By doing so, they show confidence and establish a dynamic where women respond to their decisions, not the other way around.

Why do women often chase men who don't text back quickly or seem unavailable?

Women are drawn to men who appear emotionally unavailable because it triggers their desire to earn the man's attention. This perceived scarcity makes the man's time seem more valuable, and women often feel more intrigued and invested in chasing him.

How can men make women feel emotionally invested without being toxic?

Men can make women emotionally invested by creating mystery and intrigue through playfully challenging them, making statements that spark curiosity rather than asking predictable questions. This approach engages a woman's emotions and makes her feel intrigued rather than bored.

What is the role of 'implied scarcity' in attracting women?

Implied scarcity means making a woman feel that your attention is limited or a privilege, not something she can always have. By being less available and not constantly validating her, you increase her desire to earn your attention, which boosts her attraction to you.

What does 'making it about her' mean in the context of attraction?

Making it about her means framing requests in a way that allows the woman to feel like she's the one deciding to do something for you. Instead of asking for something directly, make a statement that piques her interest, such as 'You look like you know how to cook; I need to see this for myself.' This shifts the power dynamic, making her excited to contribute to the interaction.

How should a man react if a woman pulls away?

If a woman pulls away, the man should mirror her energy by pulling back as well, showing no neediness or desperation. If she pulls away twice, it's a sign that she's not interested, and the man should move on to avoid wasting time on someone who isn't fully invested.

What is the 'pick-me energy' that men should avoid?

Pick-me energy refers to the behavior where a man desperately seeks validation from a woman, often begging her for a chance. This behavior signals a lack of self-worth and makes a woman feel like she's doing the man a favor, which can lead to her losing attraction. Men should maintain confidence and never beg for attention.

Why is it important for men to have an abundance mindset?

Having an abundance mindset means believing that there are plenty of opportunities and women out there, so you don't need to chase any one individual. This mindset removes desperation and helps men stay confident, which is attractive to women.