The 3 Most Important Questions to Ask Yourself

Life At Mindvalley
3 Oct 201213:15

Summary

TLDRIn this insightful talk, the speaker explains the difference between end goals and means goals. End goals, such as love, growth, and contribution, are what truly bring fulfillment in life, while means goals are societal milestones that often lead to dissatisfaction. The speaker encourages the audience to focus on experiences, personal development, and how they can contribute to the world, emphasizing that these elements will lead to a more meaningful and happy life. Through reflective questions and practical exercises, individuals are guided to align their goals with their deeper desires and values, bypassing societal pressures.

Takeaways

  • ๐Ÿ˜€ The biggest problem in life for many people in industrialized countries is waking up at 40, dreading their work due to poor career decisions made at a young age.
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ People often confuse 'means goals' (things society tells us to do) with 'end goals' (what we truly desire out of life).
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ End goals are about experiencing love, happiness, contributing to society, and personal growth, while means goals are about achieving certain milestones like a good GPA or job.
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ A key mistake many make is confusing career success or degrees as the path to happiness, without considering their true desires, such as freedom or travel.
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ Life is about three things: experiences, growth, and contribution. These form the basis of meaningful goals and fulfillment.
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ Personal fulfillment comes from experiencing life, growing as individuals, and contributing to the world in meaningful ways.
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ The key to true happiness is growth and contribution, as pointed out by Tony Robbins, who emphasizes these as spiritual needs.
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ When you focus on end goals, you can bypass traditional career paths and achieve happiness faster than others who are stuck in societal 'means goals.'
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ The three most important questions to ask yourself are: What experiences do I want? How do I want to grow? How do I want to contribute to the world?
  • ๐Ÿ˜€ At Mind Valley, the company emphasizes this approach by helping employees identify their answers to these three questions, creating a blueprint for motivation and alignment within teams.

Q & A

  • What is the main problem people face in industrialized countries regarding their careers?

    -The main problem is that people often wake up at the age of 40 dreading their jobs because they were forced to pick a career too early, sometimes before they even fully understood their personal desires and values.

  • What is the difference between an end goal and a means goal?

    -An end goal is a final, meaningful outcome that provides fulfillment and purpose in life, such as experiencing love or contributing to society. A means goal, on the other hand, is something society tells us we need to achieve in order to reach happiness, such as getting a good GPA or securing a prestigious job.

  • Why is it important to differentiate between means goals and end goals?

    -It is crucial because focusing too much on means goals, like academic achievements or career milestones, can cause us to lose sight of our true desires and happiness, which are found in the end goals like personal experiences, growth, and contribution.

  • How does the speaker describe his personal experience with career choices?

    -The speaker shares that he set a goal to graduate from college and work at Microsoft, but after achieving that goal, he realized he hated his job. He had confused the means goal (working at Microsoft) with the end goal (living a fulfilling life), leading to dissatisfaction.

  • What are the three most important questions that the speaker recommends for setting meaningful goals?

    -The three most important questions are: 1) What do I want to experience in life before I die? 2) How do I want to grow as a person? 3) How do I want to contribute to the world?

  • How does the speaker define fulfillment in life?

    -Fulfillment comes from three main sources: experiencing life fully, growing as an individual, and contributing to the world. These elements provide deeper happiness and purpose beyond societal achievements.

  • What is the role of money in achieving true happiness, according to the speaker?

    -Money is a means goalโ€”it is important because it allows access to experiences that contribute to happiness, but it should not be the ultimate goal. True happiness comes from living meaningful experiences, personal growth, and contributing to others.

  • What exercises does the speaker use to help people identify their personal goals?

    -The speaker uses a speed round exercise where participants answer three questions in 90 seconds each: What experiences do you want to have? How do you want to grow? How do you want to contribute? The aim is to bypass logical thinking and tap into creative, intuitive answers.

  • What is the significance of the exercise involving answering the three questions about life goals?

    -This exercise is significant because it helps individuals focus on their true desires, bypassing societal pressures and logical constraints. It leads to a clearer understanding of what truly matters in life and helps set purposeful, fulfilling goals.

  • How does the speaker integrate these exercises within his company, Mind Valley?

    -At Mind Valley, every new employee answers the three most important questions as part of their onboarding. The answers are displayed on a large vision board, which helps foster a deep understanding of what motivates each team member, creating a more purpose-driven and cohesive environment.

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