BUKBER BARENG PACAR | Ustadz Muhammad Nuzul Dzikri hafizhahullah

Summary

The transcript discusses the Islamic perspective on relationships before marriage, highlighting the importance of adhering to the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and the Quran. It emphasizes that actions like looking, speaking, and fantasizing can be considered as forms of zina (fornication), and stresses the importance of avoiding such behaviors. The speaker refers to Hadiths from Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim, while also quoting the Quranic verse from Surah Al-Isra (32), urging believers to stay away from anything that leads to zina before marriage.

Takeaways

• 😀 Dating is not forbidden after marriage, but it should only occur after the marriage contract (akad) is completed.
• 😀 Before marriage, engaging in behaviors leading to a spousal relationship should be avoided.
• 😀 The Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) emphasized that the eyes can commit adultery by looking at inappropriate things.
• 😀 The tongue can also commit adultery by speaking flirtatiously or using seductive language.
• 😀 The heart can commit adultery through fantasizing or imagining inappropriate scenarios.
• 😀 The ears can commit adultery by listening to alluring words or sweet talk.
• 😀 Sexual desire or arousal that stems from these behaviors is seen as a form of sin or deception if not acted upon in the proper context.
• 😀 The teachings of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) warn against actions that lead to sexual sin before marriage.
• 😀 Allah's command in Surah Al-Isra (32) explicitly prohibits approaching acts that lead to adultery or zina.
• 😀 The key consideration for any relationship before marriage should be whether it aligns with Islamic teachings about avoiding zina (fornication).

Q & A

What does the speaker suggest about the nature of relationships before and after marriage?

The speaker suggests that romantic relationships, including actions that may resemble marital intimacy, are only permissible after the marriage contract (akad). Before marriage, actions that lead toward such intimacy should be avoided.

What does the speaker say about the role of actions such as looking, speaking, and fantasizing in pre-marital relationships?

The speaker refers to a saying of the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) stating that actions such as looking, speaking, or fantasizing in a way that leads to temptation are considered 'zina' (fornication), even if they don't involve physical intimacy.

What does the speaker mean by 'zina' in this context?

In this context, 'zina' refers to any form of sinful action that could lead to sexual immorality, even without physical acts of sex. This includes actions like looking at someone with desire, speaking seductively, or indulging in sexual fantasies.

How does the speaker link 'zina' to different parts of the body?

The speaker quotes a Hadith from Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim, explaining that various parts of the body contribute to 'zina': the eyes (through lustful gazes), the tongue (through seductive speech), the heart (through fantasizing), and the ears (through listening to seductive words).

What does the speaker say about the permissibility of certain actions before marriage?

Before marriage, the speaker clarifies that actions that can lead to sexual immorality are not allowed. For instance, engaging in flirtation or sexual thoughts are prohibited, as they are seen as precursors to 'zina'.

What is the significance of the Quran verse mentioned by the speaker?

The speaker references Surah Al-Isra (17:32), which advises against approaching acts that could lead to zina. This highlights the importance of avoiding actions that could tempt or lead to immoral behavior.

Why does the speaker emphasize the need for caution before marriage?

The speaker emphasizes caution before marriage because actions that may seem innocent can lead to temptation, which can ultimately result in sinful behavior. The importance of maintaining moral boundaries is stressed to prevent any actions that lead to zina.

How does the speaker interpret the relationship between physical actions and the concept of 'zina'?

The speaker interprets 'zina' as not just physical intercourse but as any action, even psychological or verbal, that can provoke desire or lead to immoral behavior. The idea is that the path leading to zina should be avoided in all forms.

What advice does the speaker give to those planning to marry?

The speaker advises those planning to marry to stay away from actions that could lead to zina, focusing instead on the sanctity of the marriage contract (akad) and maintaining moral integrity before and after marriage.

What is the overall message of the speaker regarding relationships and marriage?

The overall message is that relationships before marriage should be conducted with care, avoiding any actions that could lead to temptation or sinful behavior. After the marriage contract, the couple is free to engage in their relationship, but only within the boundaries of Islamic teachings.