WHY COLD MEN ALWAYS WIN!
Summary
TLDRThis video script explores the complex dynamics of attraction and emotional distance, particularly focusing on why some women are drawn to men who exhibit coldness. It delves into the psychological effects of coldness, such as the challenge it presents, the scarcity effect, and the sense of control it can provide. The speaker also discusses the familiarity coldness can bring to those with certain past relationship experiences and how it can trigger insecurities in people pleasers. The script further examines the non-verbal cues of cold individuals and how they can be attractive, as well as the biases that coldness can exploit in our minds. Ultimately, it advises on maintaining emotional control and the importance of a balanced approach to relationships, rather than perpetual coldness which can lead to loneliness and unfulfilling connections.
Takeaways
- π§ Emotional Distance: The script discusses the concept of 'coldness' as an emotional distance rather than outright hostility towards women, and how it can affect their reactions.
- π€ Attraction to Coldness: It explains that sometimes a bit of coldness can be attractive and gain respect because it's perceived as a reaction to disrespect.
- π€ Personality Traits: The video is aimed at people who are naturally warm and may be taken advantage of, suggesting that a balance of warmth and coldness can be beneficial.
- π Human Reaction: It describes a common human reaction where we tend to like those who don't like us back and question why cold people are attractive.
- π― Challenge and Scarcity: Cold individuals are seen as a challenge and activate the scarcity effect, making them more desirable because they seem less available.
- π΅οΈββοΈ Independence and Control: Coldness can give a sense of independence and control, which some people find attractive.
- π Familiarity and Past Dynamics: People may be drawn to coldness if it's familiar from their past relationships or family environments.
- π Self-Esteem and Validation: Coldness can cause a hit to one's self-esteem, leading to a chase for validation rather than genuine connection.
- π₯ Non-Verbal Cues: The non-verbal cues of cold people, such as relaxed body language and slower speech, can be attractive and create a sense of strength and confidence.
- π€ Bias and Imagination: Coldness can trigger biases and activate people's imagination, causing them to wonder and chase after the cold individual.
- π§ββοΈ Self-Control and Meditation: The script suggests developing a meditation practice to control emotions and avoid being attracted to coldness.
Q & A
What is the main point the speaker is trying to convey about 'coldness' in relationships?
-The speaker suggests that coldness can sometimes be perceived as attractive because it creates a sense of challenge and scarcity, but it's not a healthy basis for a relationship. It's important to understand why some people are attracted to cold individuals, rather than adopting coldness as a means to gain respect or attraction.
Why might someone be attracted to cold or emotionally distant individuals?
-The attraction to cold or emotionally distant individuals can stem from a psychological response to a perceived challenge or scarcity. It may also be due to a desire for independence and control, or because the coldness provides a sense of familiarity based on past relationship dynamics.
What does the speaker mean by 'coldness in a little dose'?
-The speaker is referring to the idea that a moderate amount of emotional distance or 'coldness' can sometimes be beneficial in gaining respect from others, as long as it is not excessive or indicative of a deeper personality flaw.
How does the speaker describe the effect of coldness on a person's self-esteem?
-The speaker explains that coldness can activate a person's insecurities, leading them to question their self-worth and causing them to chase after the cold individual in an attempt to win their affection or validation.
What is the 'scarcity effect' mentioned in the script, and how does it relate to attraction?
-The scarcity effect is a psychological principle suggesting that when something is less available or harder to attain, it becomes more desirable. In the context of relationships, cold or indifferent individuals can create a sense of scarcity, making them seem more attractive to potential partners.
Why do some people feel uncomfortable when they encounter a partner who is warm and genuinely caring?
-Some individuals may have been accustomed to cold or emotionally unavailable partners, and thus, when they encounter a warm and caring partner, it disrupts their established patterns and creates feelings of unease. This discomfort can stem from various reasons and patterns of behavior, including a belief that love and affection are scarce or difficult to obtain.
What is the speaker's opinion on the use of the 'hot and cold' method in relationships?
-The speaker acknowledges that the hot and cold method can create confusion and desire within a person, but they do not recommend it due to the negative impact it can have on relationships and the potential for manipulation.
How does the speaker describe the non-verbal cues of cold people?
-The speaker describes the non-verbal cues of cold people as more distant and dominant. They may speak slower, maintain less eye contact, and have a more relaxed tone of voice, which can paradoxically make them appear strong and confident.
What is the 'impostor syndrome' mentioned in the script, and how does it relate to attraction to cold people?
-Impostor syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals don't believe they deserve success or recognition. In the context of relationships, it can lead people to be attracted to cold individuals because deep down, they believe that's what they deserve or are capable of attracting.
Why do people pleasers often find themselves attracted to cold individuals?
-People pleasers are often attracted to cold individuals because the coldness triggers their insecurities and challenges their ego, leading them to chase after the cold person in an attempt to gain their approval or affection.
What advice does the speaker give to counteract the natural human tendency to be attracted to cold people?
-The speaker suggests developing a meditation practice, reading 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle, or attending a meditation retreat as ways to gain self-awareness and control over one's emotions, which can help counteract the attraction to cold individuals.
What is the speaker's final note on cold people in terms of their behavior in relationships?
-The speaker notes that cold people often have too much pride to return to a relationship, and if they don't like you, they are unlikely to come back. This lack of return can lead to further chasing from the person who is attracted to them.
Outlines
π§ Emotional Distance and Attraction
The speaker begins by explaining that emotional distance, rather than physical coldness, is key to understanding why some women are attracted to cold men. The video aims to clarify that a measured amount of coldness can earn respect, as it's a response to disrespect. However, perpetual coldness can be a personality flaw that backfires. The speaker identifies with being warm-hearted and suggests that adopting a bit of coldness can help those who are too warm to gain respect. The paradoxical situation where disinterest can spark attraction is discussed, along with the idea that coldness can create a sense of challenge and scarcity, leading to increased attraction.
π The Psychology Behind Chasing Coldness
This paragraph delves into the psychological effects of coldness, such as the scarcity effect, which makes unavailable individuals more desirable. It also touches on the sense of control and independence that coldness can provide, leading to attraction. The speaker shares personal experiences, such as feeling unwelcome in a photography school and the desire to win over peers. The idea that coldness can be comforting due to familiarity with past dynamics is explored, along with the notion that coldness can be self-sabotaging, as it can lead to discomfort with genuine care and warmth from others.
π΄οΈ Non-Verbal Cues and Coldness Attraction
The speaker discusses the appeal of non-verbal cues associated with cold individuals, such as dominance and relaxed body language, which can be attractive. Cold people often elicit a chase response from others due to perceived neediness or a desire to prove oneself. The speaker also explains how coldness can confirm one's own biases about deserving love and affection, leading to a cycle of attraction to those who provide incomplete emotional engagement. The paragraph also covers the idea of people-pleasers being attracted to cold individuals due to triggered insecurities.
π The Hot and Cold Dynamic in Relationships
This section examines the hot and cold dynamic in relationships, which can create a pendulum swing of emotions, leading to confusion and desire. The speaker explains that inconsistency can be a powerful strategy that makes people chase after cold individuals. The paragraph also discusses how coldness can activate people's imaginations, making them wonder why they are not receiving attention or affection, and how cognitive biases like the halo effect or rose-colored glasses can prevent individuals from recognizing negative traits in their partners.
π Professional Coldness vs. Personal Warmth
The final paragraph contrasts the appropriateness of coldness in professional settings, where it can be seen as a sign of seriousness and competence, with its potential harm in personal relationships. The speaker suggests that coldness can lead to respect but not love, and that those who are lonely may excel in professional roles due to their cold demeanor. The video concludes with the speaker sharing their new location in Mexico City and inviting viewers to work with them.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Emotional distance
π‘Respect
π‘Scarcity effect
π‘Independence
π‘Familiarity
π‘Non-verbal cues
π‘Impostor syndrome
π‘People pleaser
π‘Hot and cold dynamic
π‘Imagination
Highlights
Being cold is about emotional distance, not just physical coldness.
Coldness can sometimes be a reaction to disrespect and can help gain respect.
A little coldness can be beneficial for gaining seriousness and respect.
People who are perpetually cold may not be able to control that aspect of their personality, leading to negative outcomes.
The video aims to help those who are overly warm to understand the attraction to coldness.
People tend to like those who don't reciprocate their feelings, causing a chase.
Cold people are often seen as a challenge, which can lead to attraction.
Scarcity effect makes cold or less available people more desirable.
Cold people can give a sense of independence and freedom, which can be attractive.
Familiarity with coldness in past relationships can make people attracted to cold partners.
Cold people's non-verbal cues such as relaxed tone and slower response can be attractive.
Cold people can confirm one's bias of not deserving love, leading to attraction to those who provide incomplete love.
People pleasers are attracted to cold people because it triggers their insecurities.
Inconsistent behavior (hot and cold) can make people chase after cold individuals.
Cold people activate imagination, making others wonder and self-reflect.
Cold people are often seen as more competent and professional.
Cold people rarely come back, which can lead to a lack of validation and further chasing.
Transcripts
now what guys have to understand is that
this is not just about being cold to
women this is more of an emotional
distance and this is how women tend to
react to men who are emotionally distant
now for this to work and and and and
it's not for this to work this is just
to help you understand why some women
are attracted to cold men this is to
help you understand that sometimes your
coldness in a little a little dose of
coldness is what you need to gain
respect right because coldness is is
your reaction to dis respect so these
guys that I'm going to be talking about
um are guys that are perpetually cold
and those types of guys cannot control
that part of their personality and so it
backfires on them but if you're someone
who has a good heart and you're just too
warm this video is actually of help
because sometimes you need a little bit
of coldness for people to take you
seriously you know what I'm saying so
let's continue all been in a situation
where when somebody like doesn't like us
back we tend to to like them and when
somebody likes us we tend to not like
them back and it causes us to question
why is that why is it that people who
are cold tend to be so attractive and
people who are warm tend to push people
away so in this video we're going to
talk about why Cold people why Cold men
and women tend to attract so many people
into their lives why they're so stinky
and why they tend to create in us a
sense of insecurity that makes us want
to impress them that makes us want to
chase them right so so if you're
watching this video this video is more
of an encouragement not to be mean not
to be cold but to adapt certain traits
especially if you're someone who's
considered to be nice warm and somebody
who some people might say let other
people take advantage of them because
that's how I tend to be sometimes I'm
more of a nice person I'm more of a warm
fuzzy person on the inside and so
because of that I tend to sometimes let
people take advantage of me because I
want I want people to like me back right
so we're going to explain why those
types of people are so attractive and
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so let's begin look the first thing is
that they are a challenge they're
challenge they represent to us a lot of
the times people who hurt us because the
people who didn't like us back left a
hole inside of us and that hole tends to
manifest itself that whenever we see
somebody who doesn't like us whenever we
see someone who's not fully investing in
US it tends to activate that hold that
mechanism and and and just like a baby
who who who when you put a nipple in
front of the baby is start start sucking
the same thing whenever we see someone
who's cold we start sucking
metaphorically we start chasing because
we have a need that have not been met so
we we tend to just want to win them over
for example I once went to a school many
years ago I went to a photography school
where people just didn't like me there
like I've been in two places where I
felt like I wasn't liked it was it was
that that place was also one of those
places the photography school and I'm
not going to lie I wanted to quit but I
didn't want to quit because I wanted to
win them over I remember that I didn't
want to quit because I wanted to win
them over and yes people I was a
photographer at one point I did
photography for like a year um and I
remember just not wanting to quit
because I wanted to win them over the
more they didn't like me the more
insecure I felt and naturally when I
feel insecure I like to give I like to
make people happy and so that mechanism
of them being a challenge in hindsight
was kind of insane but that's what a lot
of people that's how a lot of people
react to coldness they react to cold
coldness by seeing that as a challenge
when rather than seeing it as a
challenge you got to see that as a cue
as a note as a sign to pull away the
next thing is that they they activate
the scarcity effect in us the scarcity
effect suggest that when something is
less available or harder to attain it
becomes more desirable when someone is
cold or indifferent it creates a sense
of scarcity and so because of that
scarcity it's a psychological thing that
we're all privy to every single person
is privy to the scarcity principle that
when something is not that available
when something scares it naturally
raises its value right and so cold
people tend to be inconsistent cold
people tend to be late to a lot of the
meetups cold people are aren't even
emotionally completely there and so we
can we can sense that they're not
present and rather than us assessing
that they don't like us we take that as
a hit to our self-esteem and rather than
letting that go we feel like they stole
self-esteem from us and so we try to win
them back when in reality we should just
let them walk away right because what's
happening is the scarcity principle and
you have to look through that you have
to trust that if it's a if it's scarcity
principle that's causing you to chase
you have to trust that they're not
really as valuable as your mind is
making them to be because as soon as you
have them if you're attracted to them
because of the scarcity Principle as
soon as you have them you're going to
lose interest in them the next one is
that it gives you a sense of control
right because by you dating somebody by
you being attracted to people who are
code sometimes by them being cold and
distant it gives you some sense of
Independence so a lot of times people
are attracted to cold people to distant
men and women simply because the cold
people give them that space give them
that distance give them that freedom to
do what they want to do but what happens
is that when you tend to fall in love
now you're stuck now you are in love
with someone who wants distance when
when you just liked it in the beginning
because maybe they gave you some sense
of freedom but now that you love them
you want to bridge the gap but now you
can't bridge the gap because you start
to realize that that's actually their
nature that's who they really are and
you can't get any closer and so that'll
frustrate you and put you back into the
first step which is they become a
challenge to you people love shouldn't
be a challenge love love should be
something that you enjoy it shouldn't be
something that you should that that that
you should win them over which you
should it should be something that you
should just impress them not win them
over but impress them continually trying
to impress them not continually trying
to win them over the next thing is that
it gives you a sense of familiarity
people people may be drawn to Partners
who display coldness if they have
experienced similar Dynamics in their
past relationship and family
environments these patterns of behavior
can become familiar and therefore
comforting even if they're not healthy
right so that means some some people
believe that being showing love is to
abuse showing love is to hurt right and
some people believe that love is to try
to win someone over love is to try to
gain someone's love but in reality it
should be to enjoy the love that they
give you right but unfortunately some
people are used to cold people and some
people when they meet someone who's
healthy for them when they meet someone
who's warm they get turned off and they
tend to self-sabotage those types of
relationships some individuals who have
been accustomed to being with cold or
emotionally unavailable Partners may
feel uncomfortable when they encounter
someone who actively validates and shows
genuine care for them this discomfort
can stem from various reasons and
patterns of
behavior when someone is used to being
with cold Partners they may have
developed a belief that love and
affection are scarce or difficult to
obtain as a result they may have adapted
to seeking validation through the
pursuit of attention and
affection this pattern often involves
fighting for the attention and affection
of their partner to feel valued and
desired however when they encounter a
partner who readily validates them
without requiring a fight for attention
it can disrupt their established
patterns and create feelings of unease
this can be because they may associate
the need for validation with the
excitement and intensity of the chase
the absence of the need to fight for
attention can make some individuals lose
interest or feel uncertain about the
relationship they may subconsciously
equate the lack of challenge with a lack
of fulfillment or
excitement the absence of a familiar
struggle may leave them questioning the
authenticity of the relationship or
doubting their own desirability so a lot
of us unfortunately never had childhoods
and because of that we tend to be
attracted to people who are completely
imperfect which is's nothing wrong with
that but imperfect in the wrong way it's
one thing to have your flaws but it's
another thing to have a flaw where you
can't express emotions and it makes your
partner feel insecure right and so a lot
of people watching this including myself
to a certain degree get attracted are
familiar with coldness we are familiar
with people who don't tell us how we
feel who don't express themselves we are
familiar with with closed communication
but then when you meet someone who's
open who who has open who has an open
way of communicating who expresses their
emotions to you A lot of people will
feel uncomfortable and push those people
away right and so that's why a lot of
people get attracted to cold people
because cold people gives them that
familiarity that comfort of not being
close that comfort of lack of intimacy
and it tends to create a bigger Dynamic
where whenever you meet someone who who
can actually make you happy you're going
to push him
away the next one is that the non-verbal
cues of co- people are attractive the
non-verbal cues of co- people tend to be
more a more distant and more dominant
right they tend to be more open then
they may they may not even make as much
eye contact when they respond to you
they respond slower when they speak they
speak slower because they're so relaxed
and and even bored to a certain extent
they're non-verbal their their voice
tone is more relaxed more like this it's
not tense it's not seeking validation
and so their their their their frame
their nonverbal frame tends to be gravit
it tends to have a gravitational pull it
it tends to lower you in towards them
and that's why some non-verbal cues of
cold people are things that we have to
almost like be observant and learn from
because those non-verbal cues are
attractive those non-verbal cues do work
those non-verbal cues make someone seem
super needy appear super strong and
confident right so those so you're a
human animal and you react to non-verbal
cues if you encounter somebody that
somebody that's cold and you have and
you have and you have deep insecurities
you're going to chase them and that's
the issue with with cold
people is that cold people tend to
attract the people who annoy them the
most warn [Β __Β ] Melissa hey man
Melissa's Lo to living hell out of me
man get that get that goddamn girl away
from me God damn it right another thing
is that another reason is that cold
people tend to confirm your bias that
you believe you deserve this you don't
believe that you deserve to be loved you
don't believe that you deserve affection
so a lot of people then um accept
halfway lovers accept halfway love
accept halfway affection and ever and if
you you ever get the full love that a
person should get a lot of times you're
going to self-sabotage because you don't
believe you deserve this now this is at
the deeper level this is something that
you might hear me say but you might not
believe it but this is actually true
it's called impostor syndrome where you
don't believe you deserve it you don't
believe you belong and so when it comes
to love a lot of the times when we get
the love of Our Lives when we get
somebody that loves us and they're warm
because we have low self-esteem we push
them away but whenever we meet someone
that's toxic that doesn't love us the
way we should be loved that is abusive
that doesn't give us complete love and
complete intimacy and complete openness
we tend to be we we tend to be attracted
to them because a lot of the times deep
down that's what you believe you deserve
you know and your body believes you
deserve that you may not be consciously
aware of it but that's what your body
believes it deserves and so that's why
it gets attracted to that that's why
you're attracted that's why people who
like if you're not like attracted people
are attracted to Attractive people
unattracted people are attracted to
unattracted people right it's almost
like you kind of know where you where
you belong and so it's not going to let
you be attracted to anything lower than
that it's almost like the same thing you
kind of like you kind of believe that
this is where you belong this is the
type of relationship that you belong
in the next one is that you're a people
pleaser people Pleasers are attracted to
code people I just let it because code
people trigger your trigger our
insecurities I'm a people pleaser right
and so whenever I meet people that are
cold they do that to me but that doesn't
mean I'm going to love them but with
that means though is that my ego is
going to be challenged and it's going to
cause me to Chase not love them but
Chase because as soon as I get someone
that's cold and warm them up I notice in
my experience that whenever I I gain I
get someone who's usually cold attracted
to me a lot of times I end up not being
attracted to them because what I what I
was really attracted to wasn't them it
was more of like a projection mechanism
that gets turned off as soon as they
stop as soon as they stop acting cold
and another thing is that the hot and
cold Dynamic the hot and cold when
you're hot today and cold cold it
creates a pendulum swing that causes
people to chase I even have a video
about the hot and cold method and the if
you notice a lot of times when if you
notice in the past they're falling in
love with they may have used this like
notice the most addictive relationships
are the one with theot with with a lot
of highs and a lot of lows that has the
hot and the cold those are the most
addictive those are the ones that we
remember the most are not it's not the
ones that we love the most but the ones
that cause us the most pain and cause us
the most pleasure that we remember the
most you see that's why we love roller
coasters we love that kind of
relationship that's why humans are are
are are mad or crazy in nature all right
now using a hot and cold method is is
the best way to SW confusion and desire
inside a person's heart and also it
shows a lot of weaknesses it makes
people feel weak around you it makes
people want
to want to abide with whatever you tell
them to do you see what I'm saying makes
you makes God the hot and cold method
does work and un unfortunately people
who have a cold personality people women
men and women who are cold who push
people away who have a an assertive
nature to them they tend to apply the
hot and cold one day they're warm and
the next day they're affectionate I mean
the next day they're cold and that type
of hot and cold Dynamics makes people
emotional because you're not
unpredictable and that unpredictable
unpredictability causes people to chase
you more causes people to pursue you
more causes people to get more
consistency from you whenever you're not
consistent people make more effort to
make you more consistent that's why
inconsistency is such a powerful
strategy that I don't recommend but it's
something that really does work and
something that you have to be aware of
anytime you're seeing inconsistency from
people you have to counter their
inconsistency with consistent coldness
until they get consist until they get
consistent and the next one is that cold
people just activate people's
imagination it's just that simple people
cold people make people insecure cold
people make people wonder why why don't
you like me why don't you chase me the
coldness makes people think why you're
doing that it makes people ask questions
right and it also makes people
self-reflect it makes people imagine
more right because it's the coldness
that makes people want to gravitate
towards warmth and so whenever you're
cold all people are imagining is turning
you over making you warmer is seeing
your positive side in fact whenever all
whenever one day you're not cold and
you're warm and you're and you're kind
of nice to them all of a sudden they
think that you're the nice person in the
world because they're they they want to
believe it they want to believe that
you're nice they want to win you over
and so they're they they're Clinging On
to any semblance of Hope cognitive bias
caused by rose-colored glasses or the
halo effect can make it difficult for
individuals to see red flags in their
Partners the halo effect refers to a
cognitive bias where a person's overall
positive impression of someone
influences their judgment of that
person's specific traits or actions in
the context of relationships the halo
effect can cause a person to overlook
negative behaviors or traits in their
partner because they are so focused on
the positive qualities that they see for
example if someone sees their partner as
kind and caring they may Overlook signs
of possessiveness or jealousy because
they believe that their partner's
behavior is coming from a place of love
and concern similarly if someone sees
their partner as successful or
attractive they may be more likely to
overlook Nega negative traits such as
selfishness or lack of empathy the
rose-colored glasses phenomenon refers
to the tendency for individuals to view
their partner or relationship through an
overly positive lens when people are in
the early stages of a relationship they
may be so infatuated or enamored with
their partner that they Overlook red
flags or warning signs these cognitive
biases can cause individuals to ignore
red flags or warning signs that are
present in their relationship which can
lead to problem s down the road to
combat these biases it's important to
maintain perspective and stay aware of
any negative behaviors or patterns in
the relationship right and the power of
coldness is that it causes people to
imagine the worst and imagine the best
right they imagine that you're going to
leave them but also they also Imagine
whenever you give them any positive
signs they tend to then go run with it
and imagine a complete positive happy
ending right and that that's why
insecure people just tend to fall prey
to cold people it's just how it is and
we have to be careful with that we have
to like find a way to control our
emotions and that's why I recommend
having a deep meditation practice by you
having a meditation practice you can
potentially insulate yourself from this
natural human flaw that we all have
which is we attracted to co- people
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one more thing about cold people they
never come back cold people never come
back cold people have too much pride
cold people tend to have a lot of just
general pride in that if they feel like
coming back to you they just will never
come back they don't feel sometimes they
don't feel emotions
sometimes they never really loved you
sometimes they're not even capable of
loving you I'm not saying that cold
people are narcissists I'm just saying
that cold people are people who didn't
who don't like
you co people are just people who don't
like you but are tolerating you so those
types of people just never come back and
sometimes you might think that
somebody's cold but in reality they just
don't like you and that person might get
you obsessed with them but that same
person might be so warm with somebody
else that the other person's cold and
they're warm and now that the the
Dynamics are reversed but that's just
one thing about cop pip is that they
never come back so as a result you never
get that validation I a lot of
people they can't sleep at night knowing
that somebody has want that that knowing
that somebody doesn't want them back it
so they should start doing more to chase
after them especially if they're highly
insecure you know um it's something that
I've noticed cold people who I like that
never like me back they never came back
so it's either you come back or they'll
never come back to you one or the other
in other words you're either going to
Chase or you're never going to see them
again all right all right anyways I hope
you guys enjoyed this video This is why
Cold people tend to finish first a lot
of the times right um in fact cold
people are deemed more competent cold
people are deemed more professional the
most Prof like if you meet someone and
they're cold but they're professional
you're going to see them as more
professional you're going to see them as
more able there's something about warm
people that just comes across CA as
weakness right so when you're at a job
that's why being professional a lot of
times means being cold and not in a bad
way but in a in a professional way like
a coldness like a seriousness
seriousness is coldness right and so and
that's why serious people are respected
so there is a place to be cold there is
a place to to do to be cold not too cold
but cold enough to where you are a
serious person but when it comes to the
place of Love A lot of the times that
coldness isn't really married and that's
why a lot of the times the people who
have you know lonely lives make great
bosses because they just have this
coldness that causes people to gravitate
towards them to respect them to fear
them right causes fear um but also that
fear causes a lack of intimacy between
them and other people where they respect
they're respected but they're not loved
right um anyways I hope you guys enjoy
this video um this is my new apartment
by the way I'm in Mexico City um if you
guys ever want to work with me 101 go to
mindfulattraction.org
and I'll see you guys later I got to go
to new right now so this is a [Β __Β ]
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