Scientists Reveal Most Attractive Traits in Men
Summary
TLDRThis script explores the factors that contribute to a man's attractiveness from a woman's perspective. It challenges the notion that physical appearance is paramount, highlighting the importance of personality traits, self-care, and social behavior. The video delves into preferences for body types, facial features, and grooming habits, while emphasizing the significance of humor, kindness, and intelligence in forming lasting relationships. It suggests that while certain physical attributes can be appealing, it's a man's actions, such as showing care for animals or engaging in altruistic behavior, that truly enhance his attractiveness.
Takeaways
- 🧐 Physical appearance isn't the only factor in attractiveness; personality and behavior play significant roles.
- 🤔 Women often find men who show self-care more attractive than those overly obsessed with their bodies.
- 💪 A 'dad bod' can be appealing as it suggests a man is enjoying life and may be a good long-term partner.
- 🧍♂️ Height and facial symmetry are generally preferred by women, as they may indicate good health and genes.
- 💇♂️ Body and facial hair preferences vary by culture, but well-groomed stubble is often seen as attractive.
- 😴 Taking care of oneself, including getting enough sleep and showing low stress levels, can enhance attractiveness.
- 🤝 Women are attracted to men who display kindness and good manners, especially in social interactions.
- 😂 A sense of humor is a highly attractive trait, as it can indicate intelligence and the ability to build rapport.
- 👶 Altruistic behavior, like volunteering, can make a man more desirable as a long-term partner and potential parent.
- 👦 Age differences in relationships can be acceptable; what matters is compatibility and maturity.
- 🏆 Intelligence and unique skills or knowledge can be as attractive as physical appearance to many women.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video script about attractiveness in men?
-The main theme of the video script is that attractiveness in men is not solely about physical appearance. It delves into various factors such as personality, self-care, body language, and behavior that contribute to a man's attractiveness to women.
According to the script, what did the women in the study think about men who focus mainly on their bodies?
-The women in the study considered men who focus mainly on their bodies as 'shallow' and suggested that such preoccupation with their physique might not bode well for a long-term relationship.
What does Jeremy Nicholson suggest is attractive to women in terms of men's self-care?
-Jeremy Nicholson suggests that women find men who show some amount of self-care attractive because it indicates that the man is capable of taking care of her and any future children they might have.
What kind of body shape do women generally prefer in men according to the script?
-Women generally prefer men with a V-shape body, which includes broad shoulders and a waist that doesn’t bulge too much, although the script notes that women tend to focus less on this than men do.
What does the script say about the importance of a man's face shape in terms of attractiveness?
-The script mentions that an average woman prefers a symmetrical face in a man, as facial symmetry is considered a sign of healthy genes according to scientific studies.
How does the script describe the effect of a man's body hair on women's perceptions of attractiveness?
-The script indicates that women's preferences for body hair differ from country to country, but generally, women prefer men with not too much body hair. It also notes that preferences can vary and might be influenced by cultural or evolutionary factors.
What role does facial hair play in attractiveness according to the script?
-According to the script, facial hair can be attractive to women if it is well-groomed. A study mentioned in the script found that women rated men with light stubble as the most attractive.
What does the 'Halo Effect' refer to in the context of the script?
-The 'Halo Effect' in the script refers to the phenomenon where someone might become more physically attractive because they showed an attractive personality trait, such as kindness or humor.
How does the script relate a man's interaction with strangers to his attractiveness?
-The script suggests that a man's interaction with strangers, such as being courteous to waiting staff, can indicate his personality traits and thus influence his attractiveness to women.
What does the script say about the importance of humor in attracting women?
-The script highlights that humor is a significant factor in attractiveness. It cites a study showing that men who displayed humor were rated as more desirable for serious relationships and marriage.
How does the script discuss the impact of a man's altruistic behavior on his attractiveness?
-The script discusses that altruistic behavior, such as volunteering or helping others, makes a person more attractive because it suggests they would be better partners and parents, and might also indicate better genes.
What advice does the script give regarding the photos men should post on dating sites or apps?
-The script advises men to post photos that are genuine and reflect their true personalities and lifestyles. It warns against faking photos with luxury items, as authenticity is more attractive in the long run.
Outlines
😎 The Secret to Male Attractiveness
This paragraph explores the factors that contribute to a man's attractiveness, challenging the notion that looks are paramount. It discusses how women's preferences vary and how personality traits and self-care can be more appealing than physical perfection. The script mentions that while some men may be preoccupied with their physique, women often find this off-putting for long-term relationships. Instead, a balance of self-care and a healthy body shape, such as the 'dad bod,' is preferred. The importance of a symmetrical face and a V-shaped body is touched upon, along with the idea that a man's grooming habits and facial hair can significantly influence his attractiveness. The paragraph concludes by emphasizing that taking care of oneself and presenting a well-groomed appearance can be as important as having naturally attractive features.
👨🦱 Grooming, Height, and Age: Attraction Factors
The second paragraph delves into additional factors that influence attraction, such as a man's height and age. It suggests that being taller and having a bit of stubble on the face can be appealing to women. The text also addresses the dating pool dynamics, highlighting that older men have a broader range of potential partners due to perceptions of stability and maturity. The 'George Clooney Effect' is mentioned, indicating a preference for older men that extends beyond financial status. The importance of social charisma and the ability to make others laugh through humor is underscored, as it can significantly increase a man's attractiveness. The paragraph also discusses the impact of kindness and respectful behavior on perceived attractiveness, as demonstrated through the 'Halo Effect' and studies showing that positive personality traits can enhance physical attractiveness.
🤔 Personality Traits and Actions that Enhance Attractiveness
The final paragraph focuses on how personality traits and actions can enhance a man's attractiveness. It discusses the appeal of risk-taking behaviors associated with 'hunter-gatherer risks' versus unattractive 'modern risks.' The text suggests that scars and a willingness to take risks can be attractive, particularly for short-term relationships. The importance of being a caring and nurturing individual is highlighted, with examples such as walking dogs and volunteering. Altruistic behavior is shown to increase a person's attractiveness as a long-term partner and potential parent. The paragraph also warns against faking altruism or wealth, emphasizing the importance of authenticity. It concludes by reminding readers that intelligence, humor, courage, determination, and a spirit of adventure can all contribute to a man's attractiveness, encouraging them not to focus solely on physical appearance or material wealth.
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Keywords
💡Attraction
💡Self-care
💡Body Image
💡Facial Symmetry
💡V-Shape Body
💡Masculine Face
💡Stress and Appearance
💡Body Hair
💡Facial Hair
💡Charisma
💡Humor
💡Altruism
💡Intelligence
Highlights
A man's transformation in a bar from unnoticed to attractive reveals the factors that contribute to male attractiveness.
Looks are not as important as personality and self-care in attracting women for a long-term relationship.
Women often find men who show self-care more attractive, as it suggests capability in caring for a partner and potential children.
Men obsessed with their bodies may signal self-centeredness, which is not attractive for long-term relationships.
The preference for a 'dad bod' suggests women appreciate men who enjoy life and are not overly concerned with physique.
Symmetrical facial features are preferred by women as they are associated with healthy genes.
A V-shape body with broad shoulders and a smaller waist is generally more attractive to women.
Masculine faces are seen as attractive, but may also suggest a preference for short-term relationships.
Stress indicators such as bags under the eyes can decrease attractiveness due to implications of poor health.
Women from different countries have varying preferences for body hair, but generally prefer less.
Facial hair, particularly well-groomed stubble, is often perceived as attractive.
Height and age differences play a role in attraction, with older men often seen as more stable and desirable.
Humor is a significant factor in attraction, with men who can make women laugh being more successful in courtship.
Being kind and courteous, especially in public settings like restaurants, can increase physical attractiveness.
Altruistic behavior and selflessness are attractive traits, suggesting better partnership and parenting potential.
Intelligence and talents such as writing music or understanding complex subjects are attractive to many women.
Authenticity in online dating profiles is important; faking wealth or activities can backfire.
Personality traits and actions can significantly influence perceived physical attractiveness over time.
Transcripts
A man walks into a bar.
In a corner seat, a group of women quietly judge him.
He’s ok, not bad-looking, but nothing special.
Fast-forward a couple of hours and those same women that hadn’t shown much interest in
this guy are swooning over him.
They hang on his every word, blush when he looks them in the eyes, and when they leave
the bar, they think about him all night long.
What’s this guy’s secret?
What did he do that made him so attractive?
Today we’ll reveal all, and perhaps you can also work on being more like him.
First of all, what’s up with looks, are they really that important?
Ok, so this is complicated.
A group of young women in one study was asked this question and they all came back with
different answers, but the main theme was that they weren’t all after that picture-perfect
guy.
In fact, many of them said focusing mainly on the body alone was “shallow.”
This is what one woman said, “I’m looking for the personality in the picture of their
body and I’m not getting that necessarily from someone that posts a picture of their
washboard abs.”
While there might be a lot of guys out there that are obsessed with their bodies and post
pictures of their post-work-out muscles at every opportunity, most of the women said
men’s preoccupation with their bodies doesn’t bode well for a long-term relationship.
In fact, one woman said this, “I really love that dad bods are in … that’s the
perfect body, guys who are having fun and a little bit of a tummy.”
A psychologist named Jeremy Nicholson wrote in Psychology Today that what women find most
attractive is a man that shows some amount of self-care.
He said that a guy who seems like he takes care of himself might show a woman that he
is capable of taking care of her and any future children they might have.
So, it’s not about being perfect, it’s more about not being a slob.
Men that really are obsessed with their bodies might give signs to a prospective partner
that they care more about themselves than they ever will about her or future offspring.
Sure, if the woman is a fitness fanatic she might well want to date someone who is also
a fitness fanatic, but in general, a man doesn’t need a washboard stomach to attract a woman.
Magazines and movies featuring perfect bodies breed insecurity and insecurity is what companies
want you to feel.
There are some other things, too, such as the majority of women are attracted to men
that are taller than them.
It’s not always the case, but studies have shown it’s what most women want.
As for the face of a man, the average woman will prefer a symmetrical face.
This might seem weird, but according to science symmetry of the facial features is a sign
of healthy genes.
One scientist wrote that symmetry suggests “fewer genetic and environmental disturbances
such as diseases, toxins, malnutrition or genetic mutations.”
Women on average also tend to be more attracted to men who have a kind of V-shape body, rather
than an egg shape.
Shoulders that are quite large and a waist that doesn’t bulge too much are things that
might be attractive, but science also says women tend to focus less on this than men
do.
As we said, it’s more about taking care of yourself than it is about getting the perfect
body.
Studies also say that a masculine face is more attractive to women on average, but that’s
not always the case.
Research has shown that men with masculine faces often give off signs of dominance to
women, which could show they are assertive and competitive and want to dominate in all
that they do.
But the same research said these types of men are also assumed to be guys that are better
at a fling, a one-night stand, than men with more feminine faces who women tend to think
have high prestige with their buddies and family.
Women might want to have a longer-term relationship with these men due to their psychological
attractiveness, intelligence, their ability to hold a conversation and build rapport.
Sticking with the face, there’s a lot you can do to be attractive.
Studies have shown that women are less attracted to guys that look stressed out and don’t
get enough sleep or look ragged in general.
Bags under the eyes are not the best thing to have, for the reason that it could mean
elevated stress hormones, which might relate to not having a great immune system.
One psychologist in Scotland explained it like this, “Women seem to be able to detect
the men who’ve got the strongest immune response, and they seem to find them the most
attractive.”
So again, taking care of yourself can be as good as being born with those chiseled features.
As for the hair on the body, this seems to differ from country to country, but in general,
women prefer men with not so much body hair.
Some studies based in China, the US, and New Zealand seemed to point to this, that not
much hair on the chest and other parts of the trunk was the most attractive to women.
Although women in Britain preferred some hair as opposed to no hair.
In all, keeping that hair in check might be the way to go.
In one study, a large number of women from Turkey and Slovakia were shown pictures of
guys with either bald chests or hairy chests.
The men’s heads were not in the photos.
The thing was, it was the same men in each photo.
In one image he had his chest hair and in the other, he’d shaven it off.
Quite incredibly, in both countries, only 20 percent of the women liked the image of
the man with a hairy chest.
Still, different studies have revealed different results, which has made some scientists think
there’s more to this than meets the eye.
Perhaps a hairy chest is fashionable during some periods in certain countries, or perhaps
a woman’s liking for hair or no hair is affected by her hormones at the time of looking
at the pictures.
Then there’s facial hair, which some studies have suggested is attractive to women if it
is well-groomed.
One Australian study found that men with full beards were designated by female participants
as being mature, aggressive, and masculine.
Men with only light beards were seen as being dominant, and guys with light stubble won
out, being the most attractive to the women in the study.
It might depend on where you live, too.
In some countries, beards on men are less liked than smooth skin.
This might just be cultural, but it could also be linked to evolution.
Scientists say that a full beard could make women think of hidden ticks and parasites.
In general, it seems you can’t go wrong with a neat bit of stubble – although it
should not be patchy.
Ok, so to recap.
You might have better luck with a woman who is a bit shorter than you.
You don’t need to be an Adonis, but your chances with women will be better if you at
least groom yourself and get enough sleep.
If you like your beard, fine, but in general a bit of stubble is the way to go.
As for that hair on your trunk, it seems a little is better than lots on average.
You can’t really change your facial features, but rest assured, some women will go for feminine
features and others will go for more masculine features.
What’s much more important is how to hold yourself, how you speak, what your body movements
suggest, and how you come across in general.
All these things you can work on.
Ok, so let’s imagine you’ve been using a dating site.
One thing we should point out here is that an older man gets a larger dating pool compared
to women of the same age.
That’s because more women are interested in older men than men are interested in older
women.
According to the experts, many women see older men as more financially stable, more mature,
and less prone to cheating so better fathers for children they might have together.
We can’t really give you a perfect age gap, though.
All we can say is if you are say, 35, and she is 25, there’s absolutely no reason
you can’t have a successful relationship.
And before you start thinking this is all about ‘daddy issues’, a study involving
173 women who were dating men 10 or more years older than them came to the conclusion that
this wasn’t the case.
Many women just like older guys, something that has been called the “George Clooney
Effect.”
Evolutionary psychology research has said that in general women will look for a man
that is slightly older than her, but you shouldn’t sweat it too much regarding the age gap.
If it feels right for you and for her, and you are both adults, then go for it.
Countless studies have shown that age differences can be just fine.
Still, research has said that the older male may have to show that not only is he responsible,
financially secure, but he may have to have a fair amount of social charisma.
This charisma is often noticeable when women see you interact with your buddies.
It’s actually very important, not only what you say to her, but what you say to them.
There was a well-known study published in 2010 called, “Men's Sense of Humor and Women's
Responses to Courtship Solicitations: An Experimental Field Study.”
Basically, a scene was set up in which a guy was with two of his friends in a bar.
The guys made themselves noticeable to a group of women who were sat nearby.
What happened next was one guy told a joke and his friends laughed a lot.
Notably, the jokes were not crude or sexual in nature.
Later, the man who had told the joke asked one of the women for her phone number.
The same scenario was repeated with other women, except the guy that told the joke changed.
The upshot was that the man who had told the joke had three times more chance of getting
the phone number.
Later, the person conducting the study asked the women about the men.
They agreed that the joke teller seemed more attractive and more intelligent.
Showing that you can hold people’s attention, showing that you understand the complexities
of life through humor, is definitely attractive.
It also shows that you might make her laugh one day, or make her children laugh.
In a separate study, humor was tested again, and this is what the researchers wrote in
conclusion: “Consistent with the Social Transformation
Model of Humor introduced in this article, individuals, particularly men, expressing
humor were rated as more desirable than non-humorous individuals for a serious relationship and
marriage.”
Still, the study also said the men might have to be physically attractive.
There is also how you interact with strangers.
Let’s say you are on a first date with a woman and you’ve decided to go to a restaurant.
What do you think it says to her if you are rude to the waitress?
It shows her that this might be a personality trait of yours.
Sure, if you show assertiveness and politely send some food back it might be attractive
to her, but being rude in general is a big turn-off.
There’s something called the “Halo Effect.”
This means you might just become more physically attractive to someone because you showed an
attractive personality trait.
In one study called, “Is Kindness Physically Attractive?”, women were showed pictures
of men, except each picture came with a word that described the person’s personality.
Sometimes the word would be positive and sometimes it would be negative.
The same pictures had been shown to participants before, except they were asked to rate the
men without any information about their personality.
What happened is if a person had a nice word under their photo, they were usually given
a higher score for physical attractiveness than if they had no word at all or a negative
word.
Men were more handsome when they were deemed good guys.
One of the researchers wrote, “These findings indicate that human interior psychological
activity is related to exterior physical features, and that a human is the whole entity of psychology
and physiology.”
If that’s a mouthful, it means you might look more handsome if she likes the way you
are.
There was another interesting study related to this in which students on a 6-week summer
archaeology course were asked to rate the physical attractiveness of each other on the
first day of class.
They then did the same on the last day and the scores were dramatically different.
One of the researchers said, “Among people who actually know and interact with each other,
the perception of physical attractiveness is based largely on traits that cannot be
detected from physical appearance alone.”
No doubt a lot of you have already experienced this because you’ve likely met someone who
at first you didn’t seem to think was very attractive at all, but as time went on, you
started to re-assess and then tell your friends, actually this person is really good-looking
and you just didn’t see it at first.
Never underestimate personality.
A super-handsome bully with no sense of humor and little intelligence might be able to get
a one-night stand every now and again, but they will definitely not be top of the list
when it comes to long-term relationships.
Then you’ve probably all heard about women who like guys that take risks, maybe guys
that act a little rebellious.
This is true to some extent, but not if the guy is totally out of control.
Researchers have said that men who take “hunter-gatherer risks” can come across as being attractive.
In one study, women were asked to rate guys on their behavior.
They didn’t know that some of the guys were linked to what the researchers called “modern
risks” and others “hunter-gatherer risks.”
The former was risk-taking related to cheating or driving without a seatbelt, and the latter
was more about doing extreme sports or going alone into a vast forest.
The researchers wrote in their conclusion, “Results confirmed that modern risks were
rated as unattractive for both sexes, whereas hunter‐gatherer risks were rated as especially
attractive when performed by males.”
Playing it safe might not always work out the best, but you already know that.
Just have a brain and don’t do something that might hurt you badly, because that also
isn’t attractive regarding long-term partners.
Even scars were preferred in some studies by women, again likely related to risk-taking
and our past as hunter-gatherers.
In one study, photos of men were showed to women and then the same photos were showed
to other women except a facial scar had been photoshopped to the face.
With the scar, men were ranked higher for short-term relationships but not long-term
relationships.
Maybe women don’t mind having a fling with a rough and tumble kind of man.
Let’s face it, if you’re ever going to become a father the woman you are with will
want you to be a loving father, someone who puts his family before anything else.
Various studies have shown that certain things you do in life can point to you being a caring
kind of person who has nurturing qualities.
One of them, no kidding, is just walking dogs, or being especially playful and affectionate
with them.
So, you met a girl in the park while playing around with a dog that evidently loves you
more than anything.
You then went out on a date and made her laugh while being very friendly and courteous to
the waiting staff.
Then you dropped the bombshell, you do volunteer work at the local orphanage.
Another study we found was titled, “Selflessness is sexy: reported helping behavior increases
desirability of men and women as long-term sexual partners.”
It revealed that altruistic behavior makes a person attractive because we’ve just evolved
to think that the helpers of this world will be better partners and better parents.
These people might also be seen as having better genes since they have the strength
to make some sacrifices for others.
As the scientists wrote, selflessly helping people gives you fitness points.
In this study, the researchers gave photos of people to others and asked them to rate
their attractiveness.
There was Daniel, who below one photo was said to work in recruitment, like rock climbing
and watch a lot of TV.
The next photo of him said the same except TV was changed to working for free in a school
for disruptive kids.
He was always ranked as more attractive when he worked with the kids.
It was the same for other photos, whenever they volunteered, or donated, or sacrificed
in another kind of way, they got a higher physical attractiveness score.
But please guys, don’t go volunteering at the local dog pound just so you can put it
in your dating profile.
You have to mean it, of course, otherwise, the truth will come out sooner or later.
As for those photos you post on those websites or apps, what you’re doing means a lot.
Various studies proved that men who posted photos of themselves next to expensive cars
or outside wonderful houses were liked more.
The very same men not showing how much cash they had suddenly became less popular.
The thing is, faking a photo of you leaning against a Ferrari that isn’t yours is only
going to get you the swipe, real life will have to get in on the act at some point and
if the woman really is looking for some rich dude and you’re not him, then what a waste
of time that has been for everyone.
Take a nice photo by any means, but keep it real.
Intelligence in some studies was seen as more important than just about every other trait,
at least for 10 percent of women.
Liars lying against luxury villas don’t exactly come across as deep thinkers.
Studies have shown that men who can write music, write books, understand complex science,
are very attractive to many women.
Ok, so you can’t have it all.
But please take some hope here.
You might not win any prizes for your looks, but you know you can be funny at times, or
you can impress people with your knowledge of 17th-century European architecture.
Some of you might not have much cash, but you might have courage and determination and
the will to work hard, and at the same time, you might devote much of your time to helping
others.
Or, maybe you don’t care much about material wealth, but you have a derring-do spirit which
suggests you’ll have amazing adventures with your partner.
Don’t focus only on looks or your body or material things.
You are no doubt attractive in your own way to someone out there.
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