Tidak Semua Sisi Diri Mengalami Trauma

Summary

In this video, Dr. Jimyardian, a trauma therapist, discusses the complexities of human personalities and the impact of trauma. He introduces the concept of 'Sisi diri,' or the various facets of the self, including those that are traumatized. Dr. Jimyardian explains how emotional releasing techniques can help individuals connect with and heal these injured aspects of themselves. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the intentions behind self-judging voices, exploring these inner aspects compassionately, and fulfilling their unmet needs. Ultimately, he advocates for a thoughtful, non-judgmental approach to healing one's trauma and embracing the multiple layers of our personalities.

Takeaways

• 😀 Trauma therapy, as explained by Dr. Jimyardian, focuses on understanding and healing different parts of the self using methods like Emotion Releasing Process (ERP).
• 😀 People have multiple selves or sides, including parts of themselves that can be wounded or traumatized by past experiences.
• 😀 Trauma, particularly from abusive relationships, can lead individuals to internalize negative beliefs like being unworthy or not good enough.
• 😀 One side of the self often tries to protect the individual from trauma by either rejecting or refusing to let go of the painful experiences.
• 😀 The protecting side may express itself in harsh or judgmental ways, but its true intention is to care for and shield the individual from further harm.
• 😀 Healing trauma involves engaging with the wounded parts of the self, rather than suppressing or rejecting them.
• 😀 Unresolved trauma may resurface unexpectedly, such as during normal activities (work, school, etc.), showing the need for attention and healing.
• 😀 The key to healing is recognizing the needs of the wounded parts of oneself and fulfilling them with compassion and care.
• 😀 By approaching the wounded parts of the self with empathy, individuals can help them reintegrate into the present moment and heal from past pain.
• 😀 Human beings naturally have multiple sides to their personalities. A healthy approach involves acknowledging all these parts, especially the wounded ones, and helping them heal.
• 😀 Addressing trauma involves understanding the intentions behind harsh inner judgments, recognizing their protective purpose, and helping those parts feel safe and cared for.

Q & A

What is the main focus of the video?

The video focuses on understanding the multiple aspects of the self, including how trauma affects different parts of a person’s identity and how healing can occur through addressing and supporting these various 'sides' of the self.

What does the speaker mean by 'sides' of the self?

The 'sides' of the self refer to the different aspects or personas within a person, such as the childlike, adult, or protective sides. Each of these sides can have different emotional experiences or traumas.

How does trauma affect different parts of a person?

Trauma affects specific 'sides' of a person, and not all parts of their identity are impacted. For example, one side may be deeply affected by a traumatic event, while other sides (like the professional or academic self) may remain unaffected.

What is Emotion Releasing Process (ERP) and how does it help in trauma healing?

Emotion Releasing Process (ERP) is a therapeutic technique developed by the speaker, Dr. Jimyardian, which helps individuals release and process trauma. It involves recognizing and understanding the intentions behind the different 'sides' of the self, such as the protective side, and supporting healing through emotional release.

What role does the 'protective side' play in trauma healing?

The protective side is a part of the self that tries to shield the individual from further pain by holding onto trauma. It can sometimes resist healing, but recognizing its positive intent is key to releasing the trauma and achieving emotional healing.

Why is it important to approach the 'judging side' of oneself with curiosity?

It is important to approach the judging side with curiosity because beneath its critical voice lies a caring intention to protect. By understanding this intention, individuals can release the emotions tied to judgment and move toward healing.

How does the speaker suggest dealing with the 'wounded' parts of the self?

The speaker suggests not pushing away or ignoring the wounded parts of oneself. Instead, it is important to stand at a distance from the pain, recognize the wounded side, and tend to its needs with compassion to facilitate healing.

What is the connection between trauma and memory in this context?

The connection is that trauma is not just about the memory of the event but the emotions tied to it. When the emotions associated with a traumatic memory are released, the memory itself no longer feels like it is still happening in the present moment.

What is the significance of meeting the 'inner child' during healing?

Meeting the 'inner child' is significant because it helps individuals address and fulfill the emotional needs of their younger, wounded selves. By offering compassion and care to this side of oneself, healing can occur, and the inner child can be integrated into the present.

What does the speaker mean by 'not all parts of ourselves are traumatized'?

The speaker means that not every aspect of a person’s identity is affected by trauma. For example, while one part of the self may be deeply impacted, other parts of the self, like the professional or social persona, can function normally without being affected by the trauma.