How to FINALLY QUIT watching Pornography ❌ 👀

Summary

The video discusses the issue of pornography addiction and provides strategies for overcoming it. It emphasizes the importance of redesigning one's environment to support productive, faith-driven activities and suggests practical steps such as using blockers to prevent access to porn, establishing a structured life based on Islamic teachings, and having a support system. The speaker also highlights the significance of patience and exercise, encouraging viewers to engage in physical activities to replace the dopamine release from porn consumption. Ultimately, the goal is to achieve mental clarity, improve sexual performance, and strengthen one's spiritual connection with Allah.

Takeaways

• 😲 Pornography can evolve from a casual interest to a severe addiction.
• 🏥 The largest sex and porn addiction clinic reports treating individuals who watch up to 14 hours of porn daily.
• 🤫 Many people secretly struggle with long-term pornography addiction.
• 🏡 Redesigning your environment to foster productivity and Iman-driven activities is crucial.
• 🕌 The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ emphasized creating a conducive environment, like building a Masjid in Medina, to encourage religious practices.
• 🌐 Cleanse your online and offline environments from triggers and negative influences, implementing blockers and filters.
• 📋 Establish a structured life system based on the Quran and Sunnah, avoiding places and activities that trigger addiction.
• 👥 Build a support system with trustworthy individuals to help you stay accountable and seek assistance.
• 🤝 Surround yourself with righteous company to strengthen your faith and avoid isolation.
• 🧘‍♂️ Patience is essential for overcoming addiction; enduring the initial discomfort leads to long-term benefits.
• 🏋️‍♂️ Incorporate regular exercise into your routine, as it helps produce hormones similar to those released when watching pornography.
• 🧑‍⚕️ Consult with a physician to determine suitable exercises if you have medical conditions.
• 🌟 Benefits of quitting pornography include mental clarity, improved sexual performance with a Halal spouse, and a stronger spiritual connection with Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la.

Q & A

What is the main issue discussed in the video script?

The main issue discussed in the video script is the addiction to pornography and how it can turn from a casual interest into an obsessive force, affecting productivity and mental health.

What is the largest sex and porn addiction clinic in the country treating?

The largest sex and porn addiction clinic in the country is treating more workers who watch up to 14 hours of porn a day, indicating the severity and prevalence of the issue.

What is the concept of 'environmental invasion' mentioned in the script?

'Environmental invasion' refers to designing or redesigning one's environment to be conducive to productivity and good work, which includes eliminating anything that may lead back to the addictive behavior.

How did the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ approach the establishment of prayer in Medina?

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ first built a Masjid in Medina, which served as a place for people to meet, study Islam, and pray, thus creating an environment that encouraged religious practice.

What is the importance of designing an environment to suit specific actions?

Designing an environment to suit specific actions is crucial because environments breed actions. A well-designed environment can facilitate learning, productivity, and adherence to positive behaviors.

Why is it suggested to filter the people we frequently meet and the websites we visit?

Filtering the people we meet and the websites we visit is suggested because they can either remind us of our goals and help us stay on track or trigger us to revert to our old habits.

What is the significance of having a proper structure or system in life to combat addiction?

Having a proper structure or system in life, based on the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, provides clear guidelines on do's and don'ts, which can help individuals resist triggers and maintain sobriety.

What is the role of a support system in overcoming addiction?

A support system consists of genuine people in one's life to whom one can confess their problem and seek help. This system is crucial as it provides accountability, encouragement, and assistance during the recovery process.

Why is patience considered a key factor in breaking free from addiction?

Patience is considered key because it involves enduring the discomfort and effort required for good actions. It is about waiting a little longer than usual and not giving up when faced with frustration.

How can exercise contribute to the recovery from porn addiction?

Exercise can contribute to recovery from porn addiction because it releases hormones similar to those produced when watching pornography. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle with regular exercise can be beneficial during the recovery process.

What are some of the benefits of quitting pornography as mentioned in the script?

The script mentions benefits such as mental clarity and focus, improved sexual performance with a Halal spouse, and reconnecting with Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la through a spiritual bond.

Outlines

00:00

🛡️ Overcoming Pornography Addiction Through Environmental Redesign

The first paragraph discusses the serious issue of pornography addiction, particularly among young individuals, and the impact it can have on their daily lives. It highlights the need for environmental changes to foster productive behaviors and religious practices, drawing a parallel to the actions of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ when he migrated to Medina and established a mosque to encourage prayer and learning. The speaker emphasizes the importance of designing one's environment to support positive actions and to eliminate distractions and triggers associated with harmful behaviors. Strategies such as filtering websites and using software blockers are suggested as part of an 'environmental invasion' approach to combat addiction. Additionally, the paragraph touches on the significance of having a structured system based on religious teachings, a support system of genuine people, and the importance of not being alone as ways to maintain accountability and resist temptation.

05:05

🏋️‍♂️ Breaking Free from Porn Addiction: Patience, Support, and Exercise

The second paragraph continues the discussion on overcoming pornography addiction by emphasizing the importance of patience and perseverance, likening the struggle to the discipline required by athletes in their training. It stresses the need to ignore the discomfort associated with taking positive steps towards recovery and to maintain communication with a support system or accountability partner. The speaker also introduces the idea of exercise as a crucial component in the recovery process, explaining how physical activity can release hormones similar to those triggered by watching pornography, thus helping to curb addictive behaviors. The paragraph concludes with the benefits of quitting pornography, such as improved mental clarity, enhanced sexual performance within a lawful marriage, and a deeper spiritual connection with Allah. It also advises consulting a physician before starting any exercise regimen, especially if there are pre-existing medical conditions.

Keywords

💡Pornography Addiction

Pornography addiction refers to the compulsive consumption of pornographic material despite negative consequences. In the video, it is described as an obsessive force affecting many, leading to extreme cases where individuals watch up to 14 hours a day. The video addresses strategies for overcoming this addiction through environmental changes and support systems.

💡Environmental Invasion

Environmental invasion involves redesigning one's surroundings to promote productive and faith-driven activities. The video suggests altering environments to prevent access to pornographic material, such as building a conducive environment similar to how the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ established a mosque in Medina to foster Islamic practices.

💡Support System

A support system consists of people who provide encouragement and accountability in overcoming challenges. In the context of the video, it highlights the importance of having genuine friends or companions who can help individuals stay away from pornography and support their journey towards sobriety.

💡Patience (Sabr)

Patience, or 'sabr,' is the ability to endure difficulties without frustration. The video emphasizes patience as essential in overcoming pornography addiction, likening it to the perseverance needed in athletic training. It is about enduring the discomfort associated with positive actions until they become habitual.

💡Accountability Partner

An accountability partner is someone who helps monitor and support another's progress in overcoming addiction. The video advises having such a partner to share experiences and challenges, ensuring consistent support and encouragement throughout the recovery process.

💡Trigger

A trigger is any stimulus that initiates a craving or relapse into addictive behavior. The video discusses identifying and avoiding triggers, such as specific websites or places that lead to pornography consumption, to maintain sobriety.

💡Quran and Sunnah

The Quran and Sunnah are the holy book and teachings of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, respectively, which provide guidance for Muslims. The video stresses structuring one's life according to these principles to avoid behaviors that lead to addiction and to promote a righteous lifestyle.

💡Mental Clarity

Mental clarity refers to a state of focused and clear thinking. The video suggests that quitting pornography results in improved mental clarity and focus, enhancing one's overall cognitive function and productivity.

💡Exercise

Exercise is physical activity to maintain or improve health and fitness. The video highlights exercise as a crucial element in overcoming pornography addiction, as it helps release endorphins, the same hormones triggered by porn, thereby reducing cravings and promoting a healthier lifestyle.

💡Spiritual Bond

A spiritual bond is a deep connection with one's faith and the divine. The video explains that overcoming pornography addiction strengthens this bond, allowing individuals to reconnect with Allah (God) and experience the spiritual benefits of living in accordance with Islamic principles.

Highlights

For many kids, pornography turns from a casual interest to an addictive obsessive force.

The largest sex and porn addiction clinic in the country says it is now treating more workers who watch up to 14 hours of porn a day.

My dirty little secret was that I was addicted to pornography for years.

Environmental invasion: Design or redesign your environment to become conducive to Iman-driven activities and productivity.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ built a Masjid to bring people to prayer, emphasizing the importance of environment in shaping actions.

Environments breed actions; design your environment to suit productive activities and eliminate anything that will drag you back.

Filter your online environment by using blockers and software to prevent accessing harmful content.

Have a proper structure in life based on the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

Identify and avoid triggers, such as specific places or websites, that lead to harmful behaviors.

Write down actions to execute immediately for sobriety and actions to quit right now.

Make clear policies regarding internet usage to avoid falling into haram activities.

Having a support system of genuine people in your life to confess your problems and seek help is crucial.

Difference between boasting about sin and seeking help: The latter is acceptable and rewardable by Allah.

Good company is important; the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ emphasized the influence of friends on one's way of life.

Patience is key in breaking free from porn addiction; it requires enduring effort and ignoring the pain associated with good actions.

Exercise is beneficial during recovery as it releases hormones similar to those produced when watching pornography.

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle with regular exercise contributes to mental clarity, focus, and reconnecting with Allah.

Transcripts

– For many kids pornography turns from a casual interest to an addictive obsessive force.

– The largest sex and porn addiction clinic in the country

says it is now treating more workers who watch up to 14 hours of porn a day..

– My dirty little secret was that I was addicted to pornography for years..

– Number one a tip that I call environmental invasion.

You have to design or redesign your environment

to become conducive to Iman driven activities,

to productivity, to good work. When the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

migrated from Mecca to Medina the first thing he did

because Medina at that time, yes they embraced Islam

but they were not yet practicing any of their ritualistic prayers

and so on and so forth so the first thing

to bring people to prayer was build a Masjid

and that was the place where people would meet to study Islam and pray.

Once you design a specific environment, immediately actions are born

so remember this – environments breed actions.

When you go to school what you do, the school is designed in a way that makes

the students to learn and the teachers to teach and so on and so forth,

so design your environment to suit that and eliminate of course anything that will drag you back to square one.

Part of these environments are places that we often visit,

people that we frequently meet,

so sometimes people remind us of these activities so filter them

whether online or onsite by the way.

Websites that you visit online is part of your environment,

clean that, that's why I call it environmental invasion,

filter all your invasion, bring those blockers

and softwares to prevent you even if you want to,

prevent you from accessing these images, so it's number one, environmental invasion.

Number two to have a proper structure a system in life to live by,

to govern your life

and that system of course based on the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

do's and don'ts,

places that you should never visit because every time you go there it's a trigger for you,

the shopping centers or any place for that matter

and that again I remind you including places online,

websites that you know might drag you back to square one,

so have a structure I always talk to brothers and sisters about this and I ask them

to write down a list of actions that they should do and execute right now

that will bring them step closer to sobriety

and actions that they should quit right now.

Like what? Like leaving your cell phones out of the bedroom,

all Internet devices, make policies, clear policies

regarding internet usage because these are the tools

that always bring you to haram.

Number three having a support system,

people, genuine people in your life who you will confess to them,

your problem and ask them to help you

and here's something very important, there is a difference between

boasting about your sin proudly, that's Haram

and seeking out help from others so you are telling them what you are going through

but with the intention of actually getting rid of that sin,

that's acceptable in fact that's rewardable by Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la,

because you don't want to die in this.

So have good company in your life, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said

"A person will be inclined to follow the religion

or the way of life of his friend."

So be careful of who your friends are Subhanallah

that was 1,400 years ago my brothers and sisters,

Allah is encouraging us in the Quran to stick

to those who worship Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la day and night,

"..."

don't let your eyes stray away from them Subhanallah,

look at the description and the importance of being amongst

the righteous company so instead of being all the time alone

and this is another tip on the side – Never to be alone,

never to be behind closed doors alone

but you have to be among circles that remind you of Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la.

Number four and this is something also very important for breaking free

from porn addiction and that is

– Ignoring the pain associated with good actions.

In one word – patience.

Patience, sabr I found it to be the most hateful word for some Muslims

because they said "Brother we've been patient for too long

enough is enough."

Once you said that you've never experienced patience,

because patience is to wait a little bit longer than usual,

once you feel frustrated by waiting too long

you've never experienced patience and patience is a key.

So any good action require effort and any effort is annoying,

ask the athletes, as those in sports they don't like really training much,

they like the game but they know that training is essential

for them to play the game so they swallow the pain and go through this effort

in order for them to be fit for the game.

Similarly when you feel like you are lacking the motivation

to do what is right this is your time to remember

ignore the pain associated with good actions.

Always inform your accountability partner,

inform your groups of people that you have,

formed as a circle of support of what you are going through,

so that they can help you Inshallah.

Final point Inshallah is exercise

and I know this is another most hateful word for some people,

I myself I'm not that gym goer kind of person,

but subhanallah I had a surgery

and after I had the surgery I went to the doctor and I talked to him and he said

"You have to maintain exercise on a daily basis."

I said "Doc, I came to you so I don't go to the gym

and lose weight and the like so I don't like exercise."

He said "How about swimming?"

And it hits me.

I love swimming, I love being in the water.

And I told him "Is this considered to be like exercise?"

He said "Yeah."

Any mode of exercise, any movement will release those same hormones

that are produced when you watch pornography,

so the chances for you if you maintain a healthy lifestyle

with exercise, jogging around, jumping up and down,

anything that produce those hormones are very beneficial during

the journey of recovery from porn addiction,

so always maintain that and of course you have to ask your physician what is suitable for you

if you have any medical condition,

it's always wise to go back to your doctors Inshallah.

So these are the most beautiful experiences you can gain

as a result of quitting pornography mental clarity and focus,

sexual performance with your Halal spouse

and of course reconnecting with Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la

through this spiritual bond that Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la intended for all of us.