Why She Broke All Her Rules for Me

Summary

Dans cette vidéo, l'intervenant partage une histoire tirée de son livre 'The Unplugged Alpha', illustrant la manière dont les femmes établissent des règles pour interagir avec les hommes, qu'elles considèrent comme des 'betas', tout en brisant ces règles pour ceux qu'elles perçoivent comme des 'alphas'. L'histoire met en lumière l'importance du désir authentique dans une relation et montre comment une femme a rapidement changé d'attitude, passant de l'établissement de règles à la volonté de rompre ces dernières pour une intimité immédiate. L'intervenant explique également son choix de rencontrer des femmes dans un établissement où les serveuses sont particulièrement attrayantes, ce qui crée un effet de pré-sélection positive. Il insiste sur la nécessité de ne pas négocier le désir et de privilégier une dynamique organique plutôt que de tomber dans les pièges des jeux de rôle et des attentes sociales. L'anecdote conclut sur une expérience inattendue qui confirme la théorie de l'intervenant, invitant les téléspectateurs à adopter une approche plus authentique et moins conventionnelle dans leurs interactions avec les femmes.

Takeaways

• 📚 L'auteur mentionne son livre 'The Unplugged Alpha' où il aborde la manière dont les femmes établissent des règles pour les hommes considérés comme 'betas', mais qui rompent ces règles pour ceux qu'elles considèrent comme 'Alpha'.
• 🎯 Les femmes sont décrites comme étant capables de changer rapidement leurs règles en fonction de l'intérêt qu'elles portent à un homme, illustré par une histoire personnelle de l'auteur.
• 🤔 L'auteur partage une expérience où une femme a rapidement changé d'attitude, passant de vouloir établir des règles à vouloir rompre ces règles pour avoir une intimité immédiate.
• 📱 L'histoire commence par une rencontre sur une application de rencontres, où l'auteur et la femme se sont retrouvés et ont convenu d'un rendez-vous.
• 🍽️ L'auteur préfère organiser les rendez-vous dans une chaîne de restaurants en raison de l'attrait et de l'amabilité des serveuses, ce qui peut être avantageux lors des dates.
• 🚫 L'auteur a été catfished par la femme, qui était plus grande et plus lourde que ce qu'elle avait indiqué, ce qui a diminué son intérêt initial pour elle.
• 🧐 Lorsque l'auteur a montré moins d'intérêt, la femme a essayé plus fort pour gagner son attention, ce qui a inversé la dynamique de pouvoir entre eux.
• 💬 La femme a partagé son expérience de vie sentimentale et ses 'règles' pour établir les relations, notamment l'idée d'un 'huitième rendez' pour l'intimité.
• 🚫 L'auteur a rejeté l'idée de négocier l'intimité et a insisté sur le fait qu'elle doit être organique, reflétant son rejet des jeux de pouvoir dans les relations.
• 🤯 La femme a rapidement changé d'avis et a proposé une intimité immédiate, ce qui a surpris l'auteur et illustré le contraste entre ses règles initiales et son comportement ultérieur.
• 📵 Finalement, l'auteur n'a pas poursuivi la relation et a reçu un message de la femme plusieurs mois plus tard, dans lequel elle exprimait sa gratitude pour l'impact de leur date et承认 l'auteur avait raison dans ses approches relationnelles.

Q & A

Quel livre est mentionné dans le script vidéo et quel est le sujet principal abordé?

Le livre mentionné est 'The Unplugged Alpha' et le sujet principal est comment les femmes établissent des règles pour les hommes qu'elles considèrent comme des 'betas', mais qui rompent ces règles pour ceux qu'elles considèrent comme des 'Alpha'.

Quel est le lieu de rencontre préféré du narrateur et pourquoi l'a-t-il choisi?

Le lieu de rencontre préféré du narrateur est une chaîne de restaurants en grande zone de Toronto qui n'engage que des femmes très attrayantes dans la zone du bar-lounge. Il l'a choisi car cela crée un effet de pré-sélection positive et les femmes sont généralement plus amicales et flirtueuses, ce qui peut être avantageux lors d'un rendez-vous.

Quel conseil donne le narrateur concernant la gestion des relations intimes dans les dates?

Le narrateur conseille de ne pas négocier la désirabilité ou la timing de l'intimité, mais plutôt de laisser les choses se produire de manière organique et spontanée, sans suivre de règles arbitraires.

Quel exemple de 'règle' est donné par la femme lors de la date et comment le narrateur y réagit-il?

La femme mentionne la 'règle des huit dates' avant toute intimité. Le narrateur réagit en disant qu'il ne négocie pas la désirabilité et qu'il ne suit pas ces types de règles, car elles peuvent mener à une relation basée sur l'obligation plutôt que sur le désir authentique.

Comment le narrateur décrit-il la réaction de la femme après avoir exprimé son opinion sur les 'règles' de la relation intime?

Après que le narrateur a exprimé son opinion, la femme est initialement surprise et choquée, mais elle finit par inviter le narrateur à aller dans les toilettes pour une intimité immédiate, ce qui montre qu'elle rompt sa propre 'règle'.

Pourquoi le narrateur a-t-il décidé de ne pas poursuivre la relation après la date?

Le narrateur a décidé de ne pas poursuivre la relation car la femme ne correspondait pas à ses préférences personnelles en termes de taille et de poids, et il n'avait pas ressenti de véritable désir ou d'intérêt pour elle.

Quel message a reçu le narrateur de la femme plusieurs mois après leur date?

Plusieurs mois après leur date, le narrateur a reçu un message de la femme le remerciant pour l'impact de leur rencontre et l'avoir aidée à trouver l'amour de sa vie en suivant ses conseils.

Quel conseil le narrateur donne-t-il aux hommes qui cherchent à améliorer leur jeu dans le domaine des relations?

Le narrateur conseille aux hommes de s'engager dans le jeu, d'apprendre, d'adapter et de réagir, et de pratiquer la rencontre pour améliorer leurs compétences et obtenir de meilleurs résultats.

Quel exemple le narrateur donne-t-il pour montrer comment les femmes peuvent être influencées par l'environnement et les autres personnes présentes lors d'un rendez-vous?

Le narrateur donne l'exemple d'une femme qui, après avoir été exposée à d'autres femmes attrayantes et amicales lors d'un rendez-vous, a modifié son comportement et a rompu sa propre 'règle' qu'elle avait établie auparavant.

Comment le narrateur encourage-t-il les hommes à gérer les situations où leur partenaire de date n'est pas ce qu'ils attendaient?

Le narrateur encourage les hommes à continuer à aller de l'avant même si leur partenaire de date n'est pas idéal, en utilisant l'occasion pour apprendre, s'adapter et obtenir des matériaux pour améliorer leur compréhension du 'jeu' des relations.

Outlines

00:00

😀 Rencontre inattendue sur une application de rencontre

Le narrateur partage une anecdote tirée de son livre 'The Unplugged Alpha' où il discute de la manière dont les femmes établissent des règles pour les hommes qu'elles considèrent comme des 'betas', mais qui rompent ces règles pour ceux qu'elles perçoivent comme des 'Alphas'. Il raconte comment, lors d'une date, une femme a rapidement changé d'attitude, passant de l'établissement de règles à vouloir rompre avec lui pour une intimité immédiate. Il met en contexte l'importance d'un désir authentique dans une relation. La date a eu lieu dans une chaîne de restaurants de la région de Toronto où les serveuses du bar sont particulièrement attrayantes, ce qui crée une dynamique intéressante pour les dates.

05:01

😅 La préférence personnelle en matière de taille et l'expérience de la date

Le narrateur explique ses préférences personnelles concernant la taille des partenaires qu'il date, indiquant qu'il préfère les femmes entre 5'2" et 5'9". La femme avec qui il est sorti était plus grande que sa préférence habituelle, ce qui l'a mis dans une situation inconfortable. Malgré cela, ils ont continué leur date, et le narrateur a utilisé l'occasion pour poser des questions sur les expériences passées de la femme, notamment en ce qui concerne ses échecs précédents en matière de relations. Il souligne également la notion de 'hypergamie', où les femmes cherchent des partenaires qui sont plus avancés dans la vie et plus à l'aise financièrement.

10:01

😒 La 'règle de la huitième date' et la négociation du désir

La femme a mentionné une 'règle de la huitième date', ce à quoi le narrateur a réagi par un rire, expliquant qu'il ne négocie jamais son désir et qu'il croit en une intimité organique plutôt que négociée. Il critique l'idée de 'jouer la carte de la pureté', où les femmes essaient de faire attendre les hommes pour paraître plus précieuses, après avoir passé leur jeunesse à 'partir en voyage'. Il insiste sur le fait que les femmes brisent souvent leurs propres règles pour les hommes qu'elles considèrent comme des 'Alphas', mais les établissent pour ceux qu'elles perçoivent comme des 'betas'. La femme, surprise par la réaction du narrateur, propose soudainement d'aller dans les toilettes pour une intimité immédiate, ce qui montre le changement de comportement envers quelqu'un qu'elle considère potentiellement comme un 'Alpha'.

15:02

😉 L'issue inattendue de la date et la leçon apprise

Après avoir résisté à l'avance sexuelle de la femme, le narrateur a choisi de ne pas la revoir, ce qui a mené à une expérience de 'ghosting'. Plus tard, il reçoit un texto de la femme, beaucoup plus tard, où elle exprime sa gratitude pour la date et les conseils qu'il a donnés. Elle lui dit qu'elle a trouvé l'amour de sa vie et que les règles qu'elle avait établies étaient inutiles, reconnaissant ainsi que le narrateur avait raison dans ses approches. Il encourage les gens à s'engager dans le 'jeu de la dating', à apprendre et à s'adapter aux situations, même si elles ne sont pas idéales au départ.

Keywords

💡Alpha

Dans le contexte de la vidéo, 'Alpha' fait référence à un type d'homme qui est perçu comme dominant, confiant et attrayant par les femmes. Il est opposé au terme 'Beta', qui est utilisé pour décrire les hommes considérés comme soumis ou moins assertifs. L'auteur partage une histoire où les femmes brisent les règles qu'elles établissent pour les 'Betas', mais pas pour les 'Alphas', illustrant ainsi comment les femmes réagissent différemment en fonction de la perception de la personnalité masculine.

💡Béta

Le terme 'Béta' est utilisé pour décrire les hommes que les femmes considèrent comme moins dominants ou moins assertifs par rapport aux 'Alphas'. Dans le récit, l'auteur mentionne que les femmes établissent des règles pour les hommes 'Bétas', mais sont plus enclines à les ignorer avec les hommes 'Alphas', ce qui montre la dynamique de pouvoir dans les interactions entre hommes et femmes.

💡Règles

Dans la vidéo, 'Règles' se réfère aux conditions ou limites que les femmes mettent en place pour interagir avec les hommes, en particulier en ce qui concerne l'intimité et les avances romantiques. L'auteur raconte comment une femme a établit une 'règle de la huitième date', mais a finalement brisé cette règle lorsqu'elle a ressenti un fort désir pour lui, montrant ainsi que les règles sont souvent sujettes à changement en fonction de l'attrait et de la dynamique de la relation.

💡Intimité

L'intimité est un concept clé dans le script, abordé dans le contexte des relations romantiques et sexuelles. L'auteur insiste sur l'importance de l'intimité organique et spontanée, plutôt que de l'imposer par des 'règles' ou des 'tests'. Il partage une expérience où une femme a proposé une intimité immédiate, en contradiction avec sa 'règle de la huitième date', mettant en évidence la complexité et la subjectivité des attentes en matière d'intimité.

💡Désir

Le 'désir' est un élément central de la narration, soulignant l'idée que les interactions entre hommes et femmes devraient être guidées par un désir authentique et non par des obligations ou des compromis. L'auteur refuse de 'négocier le désir', suggérant que les relations doivent être basées sur une attirance réelle et une passion mutuelle, plutôt que sur des accords préalables.

💡Pré-sélection

La 'pré-sélection' est une notion utilisée pour décrire la situation où une personne est considérée comme attrayante par d'autres, ce qui augmente son attrait pour une troisième partie. L'auteur mentionne qu'il choisit des lieux de rendez-vous où les serveuses sont attrayantes et amicales pour bénéficier de cette pré-sélection, ce qui peut influencer positivement la perception qu'a la femme qu'il est en train de dating.

💡Jeu

Le terme 'jeu' fait référence à la stratégie et aux tactiques utilisées dans les interactions amoureuses et sociales. L'auteur encourage les hommes à 'jouer le jeu', c'est-à-dire à comprendre et à maîtriser les dynamiques des relations pour obtenir les meilleurs résultats. Il utilise son expérience personnelle pour illustrer comment adapter son comportement en fonction des signaux et des réactions des femmes.

💡Indifférence

L''indifférence' est présentée comme une attitude qui peut être bénéfique dans les relations amoureuses. L'auteur observe que son manque d'intérêt initial pour sa date a paradoxalement augmenté son intérêt pour lui, soulignant l'importance de ne pas paraître trop désireux ou besoin pour susciter l'intérêt des autres.

💡Catégories

Les 'catégories' sont utilisées pour décrire la façon dont les femmes classifient les hommes en fonction de leurs caractéristiques et de leur comportement, comme le 'Alpha' ou le 'Béta'. Cette classification influence la façon dont elles établissent des règles et interagissent avec eux. L'auteur s'oppose à cette approche en refusant de se laisser catégoriser et en défendant son indépendance dans les relations.

💡Authenticité

L''authenticité' est un thème sous-jacent de la vidéo, où l'auteur insiste sur l'importance d'être soi-même et de ne pas jouer de rôles ou de suivre des règles pour plaire aux autres. Il partage un message final où une femme reconnaît la valeur de ses conseils et exprime sa gratitude après avoir arrêté de 'jouer des jeux' et d'être devenue authentique dans sa quête d'amour.

Highlights

The speaker shares a story from his book 'The Unplugged Alpha' about how women create and break rules in relationships based on their perception of men as either 'beta' or 'alpha'.

Women are said to make rules for 'beta' men but break them for 'alpha' men, highlighting a dynamic of testing and categorization in dating.

The importance of genuine burning desire in a relationship is discussed, emphasizing that it should not be subject to negotiation or rules.

The speaker talks about his strategy of choosing a dating venue that hires attractive and friendly women, which can influence a date positively.

A personal anecdote is shared where the speaker was 'catfished' on a date but still decided to engage with the woman due to a lack of other plans.

The woman on the date tried to impose an 'eight date rule' for intimacy, which the speaker rejected, stating his belief in organic development of a relationship.

The speaker humorously describes how the woman quickly went from enforcing her 'eight date rule' to wanting immediate intimacy after he expressed his non-negotiable stance on desire.

The concept of 'pre-selection' is introduced, where the speaker explains how being seen with attractive women can increase a man's attractiveness to his date.

The speaker outlines his personal preferences in dating, particularly regarding height and weight, and how these influenced his interaction with the woman on the date.

A discussion on the speaker's approach to handling dates where the person does not meet expectations, including the option to leave if severely misrepresented.

The story concludes with the woman later texting the speaker to thank him for the impact of their date and the advice he gave, which led her to find love.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of being authentic and not playing games in dating, as it can lead to more meaningful connections.

The idea of 'indifference' as a beneficial trait for men in dating is explored, suggesting it can increase a woman's interest.

The speaker encourages men to get out and practice dating, learn from experiences, and adapt their strategies for better results.

The story serves as an example of how women's behavior can change dramatically based on their perception of a man's status and how men can navigate these dynamics.

The speaker shares his philosophy on dating and relationships, advocating for authenticity, respect, and not falling for manipulative tactics.

Transcripts

all right what's up my brothers so in

this video I want to tell you guys a

little bit of a story that I shared kind

of summarized in my book The unplugged

Alpha about how woman will basically

create rules around uh how she wants to

deal with you and interact with you and

how she very quickly broke them in the

book I talk about how women make rules

for men that they deem to be uh betas

but they break rules for men that they

deem to be Alpha and in that very brief

story that I told which also kind of

ties into genuine burning desire and why

that matters in a

relationship uh she very quickly went

from setting rules to wanting to break

them and essentially wanted to take me

to the bathroom for immediate intimacy

so little bit of a rewind back to the

start of the story and then towards the

end there's kind of a punchline that was

really really funny that I didn't even

bother to include in the book so I

thought it was relevant cuz I had this

coaching client the other day and we

were diving into his problems and this

is the full story that I shared so I

wanted to sort of tell it publicly so

meet this G in a dating app I can't

remember which one but she was good

enough in the app and there was playful

band to her and she was attractive she

was expressing interest you know she was

asking questions which is always a very

good sign uh that's the kind of stuff

that you want before you go and set a

date with a chick so we set a date you

know I show up there and I always set uh

dates generally to a chain of

restaurants cuz it's a franchise

restaurant in the greater Toronto area I

don't know if you guys have them where

you live I wonder if somebody watch in

this video will know the place that I'm

talking about you can comment below but

they only hire very attractive women for

the Bar Lounge area there's no dudes

serving in that area it's only women

they do have guys and gals serving in

the restaurant area and the women that

serve in the restaurant area they're not

they're not the top shelf women uh they

only hire and Reserve those gals for the

lounge restaurant area the reason why I

use that as a date venue and have done

so for a long time um is we accidentally

stumbled across it when I was uh with my

accountant and he wanted to uh always

meet at this place and you to call it

the softcore place so that's the

nickname that he created for it and one

time he had to bring his bookkeeper

along you know his assistant and she was

you know one of those devout Stout sort

of feminist gals although she had the

conventional feminine attractive look to

her she was no doubt a feminist because

she remarked you know she looked around

she's like why are all of the servers

here like tens very attractive and uh

you know so friendly and all that sort

of stuff my account and I looked at each

other cuz it's you know it's his choice

to go there and and ever since then

years ago uh if I've ever had a datea I

always try to set it up at this

particular restaurant chain which I'm

not going to name I want you guys to see

if you can name it in the comments Below

in the greater Tron area anyway the

reason why I go there is because these

women are are very attractive they're

always friendly and it's always good to

have pre-election on a date all that

pre-selection means is attractive women

generally you know what you want is

attractive women pre-select you or give

strong uh what are called I eyes

indicators of interest to you and

hopefully are a little bit flirtatious

so if you know how to sort of game them

you can generally use that to your

advantage when you're on a date because

when your date sees that an attractive

woman who's generally younger than they

are usually speaking is very flirtatious

and kind and you know they laugh at your

joke sort of stuff it's always going to

make them like you more so it's always a

good idea to find a a venue or a place

or a chain of restaurants that you know

like and are familiar with that hire a

good caliber of friendly and attractive

women so anyway show up at the

restaurant this gal shows up and she

kind of catfished me she was taller and

probably 30 to 35 lbs heavier than what

I would generally date uh so she

basically lied about her height and her

weight no surprise you know I've talked

about this before when women take

photographs at altitude and they wear a

low cut top to sort of accentuate what's

in there they're distracting you from

what's below what's in there cuz you

can't really see it and and it makes

them look a lot leaner at that angle so

women routinely use this as sort of

catfish guys she was you know I was

there she was cute enough to you know

carry on I had nothing else planned for

the afternoon so I figured I'll sit down

and have a chat with this gal whatever

you know we'll see what happens but she

wasn't my type so one of the first

things that happened immediately is

because I just wasn't that into her she

picked up on that right and when a gal

sees that she's got to sort of like try

hard harder for your attention cuz we

know that attention is a coin of the

realm for women when they try harder for

the attention then they kind of invest

themselves in the game they kind of put

some skin in the game with you and it's

generally a good sign to go so things

are starting to stack up in my benefit

right first of all she's not what I was

expecting my my level of interest in her

goes down she still you know smiles and

greets me warmly and hugs me and gives

me a kiss on the cheek sort of stuff you

know standard sort of stuff and you know

as we walk into the restaurant I of

course you know gesture to go sit into

the lounge area cuz that's that's the

place to be as I described earlier we go

sit down um oh let me just address the

part about the height so I have a very

kind of specific range that I deal with

I don't generally date shorter than

about 5' 23 and I don't generally go

higher than about 5' 9ish right she was

taller than 5'9 she was probably like 5'

10 without heels she was wearing a

couple inches I'm 6'2 so I'm kind of

like looking at and almost up at her I

don't like big chicks friends of mine

and I have kind of joked about this and

it's like you know if there's an

attractive tall chick uh or like an

Amazonian they'll be like oh Rich won't

like her cuz she's like a Sasquatch

right so that's just my preference it is

what it is so we go inside you know we

sit down again she's heavier she's

taller than what I like but she's still

attractive she's got a pretty face you

know so we sit down a little bit of

banter playful sit down order a drink

girl comes takes her order a little bit

of flirt flirt she's very attractive a

little bit of competition anxiety from

the gal that's sitting down at the table

with me on this date good everything's

going along well she starts to you know

talk about her experiences like cuz one

of the things that I would tend to do if

I was on a date with a G that I just

wasn't particularly interested in but

I'm I'm there anyway she's about

whatever sort of thing I would just like

ask questions so like you know what's

your dating been like or you know if

they were involved in the past or they

got a story like I was engaged or I was

married or something like that oh okay

so why didn't that work out for you why

didn't the marriage work out why did the

engagement get called off I was always

interested in that information it's part

of what kind of led me into all this

like you know unplugging and deal with

my own stuff and I was always fascinated

by the stories that they would tell so

she starts to tell me stories about how

her dating life has been sucking how

she's been catfished and she catfish me

of course you know guys aren't what she

was expecting them to be they're not as

tall as she was hoping they would be cuz

she's a tall girl obviously they're not

as tall as she was hoping they would be

or as attractive or uh they didn't have

um you know the financial resources that

she was expecting when she set up the

date they would show it up in some

shitty bus ass rested old car versus

something that that was as nice or nicer

than her car which is what women want

women are hypergamous they want guys

that are out of stage in life and better

off than what they are that's just what

they prefer so she starts telling me

about how she sets these rules for guys

I'm like okay here we go um I set rules

around um you know when intimacy is

going to happen and at what point and

then she starts telling me about the

eight date Rule and I talked about this

in my book and when women make rules for

guys they're basically [ __ ] testing you

it's basically a test to see what you're

made of they want to see what category

you fit in is he an alpha is he a beta

like in what quadrant is this guy in my

mind so that I know how to deal with him

you know on a future basis and I just

laughed I was just like you know I'm

taking a sip of my beer I almost spit it

out I'm like here we go the 88 rule or

some version of that I'm like I don't

negotiate desire okay now at that point

I had come to the realization that

negotiating desire never works uh it

only leads to obligated compliance and

resentment down the road you don't want

negotiated sort of type of relationships

you don't want to be like okay you know

if I do this and I'll do that you want

genuine burning desire I talk about it

in an entire chapter in my book it's the

best way to navigate when it comes to

women uh it's very obvious when women

have genuine burning desire it's not

something that you got to figure out

it's like oh I don't know if she has it

or how do I figure this out or don't

it's like taking a frying pan to the

forehead when a chick has genuine

burning desire for you she doesn't make

rules for you there's no eight dat rule

on when intimacy is going to happen

there's no I don't do anything until at

this point in time or until you take me

out for a certain number of dinners or

whatever it like none of that exists

women will break rules for men that they

deem Alpha and they'll make rules for

guys that they deem to be beta they want

to sort of test them and put them in a

category and then you know size them up

from that point on so you know she

states the8 dat rule blah blah blah blah

I just laugh I'm like I don't negotiate

desire I certainly don't negotiate when

intimacy is going to happen it has to be

organic as soon as you start putting

rules and boundaries on when things like

this happen you know you're running into

all kinds of problems right a guy that

is worth his salt a guy that knows his

worth is going to sit there and like

countd down on the dates and be like

okay well we're date number seven so

next date is when the intimacy happens

so let's let's get a overnight bag ready

and all is dopy dopy dope like this is

what you know she's hoping nerds will do

and this is what you know the

uninitiated plugged in guys will do

they'll be like oh well she must be a

good girl if she's going to make me wait

eight dates she's the kind of girl that

I want to take seriously I maybe want to

have a long-term relationship with her

you know it's it's a bit of a a a play

guys all women have skeletons in the

closet some women have graveyards um I

can't remember what her age was I want

to put it at like late 20s early 30s but

she was probably about 10 years younger

than what I was at the time when I was

dating but younger than me but old

enough that she would have obviously had

some experience in life dating or had

some es but young enough that she wasn't

like you know that old 40 50 or whatever

so I'm just like you know spit out my

drink practically I'm like okay here we

go you know she's trying to pull the

Purity card like I'm I'm innocent and

I'm pure and I'm valuable and make a guy

wait cuz that's what women do you know

it's like they'll spend their 20s

partying away riding the carousel abiza

Cancun foam Cannon parties the couple of

cute Italian Guys when they're traveling

Europe that same like all of that stuff

right they'll go and rack up all these

notches and they'll start start to sell

you the story of of Purity like I want

to wait or I'm a good girl and a good

guy will wait for me to give me what I

want sort of thing so again I just

explained to her I mean you try not to

explain [ __ ] to women because it doesn't

really work out real well but I just

state to her like look I don't negotiate

desire I'm certainly not going to

negotiate when intimacy happens it's got

to be organic I don't play these games

that's just not me now she didn't like

that at first she paused she looked at

me she kind of had a stunned look it's

almost like a deer on the headlight sort

of thing like oh somebody's pushing back

and has an opinion that's different from

mine and doesn't roll with it yeah

that's that's who I am right then and

there she took me out of the plugged in

beta category and like oh this guy's not

that so he's that again all women have

skeletons in their closet some women

have graveyards now what she said next

will shock you she said okay let's go to

the bathroom and bang right now now

remember 2 seconds earlier she's telling

me the story of Purity I'm a good girl I

want to wait I make eight dates you know

happen I don't just sleep around blah

blah blah blah like she's complaining

about her bad experience dating and she

goes from I have a bad experience so I

have rules to I'm not going to do all

these things to immediately let's go to

the bathroom and smash women will make

rules for guys that they think are betas

and they'll break them for guys that

they think are alpha males now here's

the kicker here's the funny part to the

story obviously I didn't see her again

you know we spent maybe an hour had had

a drink or two uh chuckled it was one of

the few times in my life that I've ever

resisted or not accepted a strong sexual

advance from a woman I mean generally it

doesn't happen that much if we're being

honest you know as we're guys but when

it does happen you generally take them

up on it in this case I didn't again she

wasn't my type Too Tall little bit

heavier than what I was expeced she had

a nice figure like nice nice curves like

uh kind of like a coke bottle but again

you know like I kind of decided at the

start of the day it just wasn't for me I

just wasn't that interested with which

is probably one of the things that got

her more strongly interested in me like

the indifference that you show to women

is beneficial to you so went from that

to I'll pass I'm good to you know we

wrap up the date part ways and that was

it I didn't talk to her after that it

was it was more of a ghosting like you

know whatever first date you you don't

owe them an explanation like I just

don't see a fit you've got you know you

play games and rules and stuff I just

don't bother right it's like if you've

been dating for

you know it's it's a good idea just out

of Karma and kindness to say something

like I don't see this going anywhere so

good luck uh but I get this random text

probably 3 and a half months later from

a number that I don't recognize again uh

I wasn't interested in a long term so I

didn't save her number generally

speaking if I'm interested in a check

her number gets saved first name and

then whatever she does for a living it's

like you know Carol uh runs a daycare

you know Becky accountant uh Jennifer

teacher whatever you know so you just

have like in a simple way of

acknowledging who somebody messages you

I didn't do that I didn't save her

number so I get a number that pops up

with this story and it and it's her and

the story is something along the lines

of what did she say she said something

like I just want to thank you so much

you know that date that we had was so

impactful and the advice that you gave

was the best thing ever I found the love

of my life everything's fantastic you

know the rules and all that stuff you're

right I shouldn't have been like she's

basically like dude Rich you were all

right about everything I found exactly

what I was looking for because I

listened to you and I didn't play these

stupid games thank you so much praise

praise praise and I'm like who is this I

kind of knew who it was but I was like

who is this and she's like whatever her

name was from a few months ago I'm like

oh okay so you know congratulations good

for you I'm happy you're happy sort of

thing and then you know I move on so I

wanted to share the story cuz it's like

I've got lots of stories like this I

mean if you guys want to hear more I can

you know I can dig some up from the

archive but women will play these games

with you they will try to set rules they

will break them for the right guy when

they have genuine desire they will

respond in a very strong and positive

way to you there's ways to sort of like

extract that to sort of manufacture that

from the dating environment one of the

ways that I did it you know like I said

earlier is take a gal to a place where

there's really attractive women serving

you they're they're they're kind they're

flirtatious they probably know you

because you've been there before I mean

if you're you know if you're a guy that

dates they probably see you with other

women so whatever um but it's always

good for the setup to have a good

experience now had she been a gal that I

would that that I would have been

genuinely interested in I would have

obviously wanted to see her again and

pursue it so all those things that sort

of stacked up to it are always going to

be to my advantage so I guess what I'm

saying here is date play the game even

if she shows up and she catch fishes you

like it's not a total fraud like if she

showed up like 300 lb heavier I would

have been like look uh this is going to

be a total waste of my time I'm really

not interested in this type of thing

here so I'm just going to pass and I

would have just left and I've you know

I've done that before where I've been uh

severely catfished but this wasn't

severe she's like 30 lb heavier and just

taller so it just wasn't my thing but

you know the Baner before and everything

was fine and you know she had Coke

bottle figure so I was like whatever

I'll just I'll just entertain it maybe

I'll maybe I'll learn something maybe

I'll get some material out of it that's

what I'm saying guys get out there learn

adapt respond learn what the game is if

you want to play the a game and you want

to get good results playing a game you

got to practice playing the game that's

basically what I'm saying get out there

and practice playing the game and deal

with these situations where it's like

hey you show up and it's not ideal but

you're there anyway you don't have any

other plans you might as well roll with

it okay anyway you guys let me know what

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