Praktek Konseling - Teknik CBT

Summary

In this counseling session, a counselor guides a young woman, Mbak Salsa, through her struggles with feeling controlled by her overprotective parents. The session delves into the origins of her parents’ behavior, shaped by their own upbringing and concerns for her safety. The counselor encourages Mbak Salsa to communicate more openly with her parents to find a balance between her independence and their protective instincts. The session concludes with a focus on building trust, self-expression, and positive change in family dynamics, empowering Mbak Salsa to navigate her adult life more confidently.

Takeaways

• 😀 Mbak Salsa has been facing overprotective behavior from her parents since middle school.
• 😀 Her parents are concerned about her safety, especially when she stays out late or engages in group activities.
• 😀 Despite being 20 years old and in college, Mbak Salsa feels that her parents still treat her as if she’s a child.
• 😀 The overprotectiveness may stem from her mother’s upbringing, where she experienced similar control from her own parents.
• 😀 Mbak Salsa feels suffocated by the lack of freedom and struggles to assert her independence.
• 😀 The counselor encourages Mbak Salsa to communicate openly with her parents about her feelings and needs.
• 😀 Mbak Salsa has attempted to resist her parents’ control by staying out late, but this leads to conflicts and stress.
• 😀 The counselor suggests that honest and respectful communication could help resolve the tension with her parents.
• 😀 Mbak Salsa acknowledges her fear of being punished or misunderstood by her parents if she opens up to them.
• 😀 The counselor advises that being more open and setting healthy boundaries can help improve her relationship with her parents.
• 😀 By the end of the session, Mbak Salsa feels more confident in taking steps to have open conversations with her parents in the future.

Q & A

What is the main issue Mbak Salsa is facing in her relationship with her parents?

Mbak Salsa is facing control and restrictions from her parents, especially regarding her social activities and group work, as they impose strict curfews and limits on when she can return home, even though she is an adult now.

How long has Mbak Salsa been dealing with this issue?

Mbak Salsa has been dealing with this issue since her school days (SMP) and it has continued into her college years, where she is now 20 years old.

What is the underlying reason for her parents' behavior?

Her parents' controlling behavior may stem from their own past experiences, including possibly trauma, and their deep concern for her safety, particularly when she returns home late.

How does Mbak Salsa feel about her parents' behavior?

Mbak Salsa feels suffocated and restricted by her parents' constant monitoring and believes that their behavior is no longer appropriate given her age and maturity. She feels she is capable of making her own decisions.

What solutions has Mbak Salsa tried to implement to manage the situation?

Mbak Salsa has tried informing her parents in advance about her activities and schedule to avoid conflict. She also tries to reassure them that she is safe and capable of managing herself.

What is the counselor's suggestion for improving communication with her parents?

The counselor suggests that Mbak Salsa should be more open and honest with her parents about her feelings and explain that she is an adult who can manage her safety and responsibilities while respecting their concerns.

What emotional barrier does Mbak Salsa face when trying to communicate with her parents?

Mbak Salsa feels fear and discomfort in opening up to her parents because she worries that they will impose more restrictions or punish her for challenging their control.

What new realization does Mbak Salsa come to during the session?

Mbak Salsa realizes that being more open with her parents about her needs and feelings could lead to a better understanding and healthier boundaries, and she feels more confident to try this approach.

What is the counselor's view on how Mbak Salsa should proceed after the session?

The counselor encourages Mbak Salsa to begin implementing the solution of open communication with her parents and hopes that this will help her navigate her growing independence while maintaining a healthy relationship with them.

How has the session been helpful for Mbak Salsa?

The session has helped Mbak Salsa gain clarity on the situation and provided her with a new approach to communicate with her parents. She feels more empowered and equipped to handle her relationship with them moving forward.