99% of my time goes to this one skill
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful transcript, the speaker shares key principles of effective leadership and team building. They emphasize the importance of giving discretionary effort, believing in people's ability to learn, and investing in team members as if they will never leave, while hoping they will. The speaker also highlights the significance of being a well-rounded leader who inspires in all facets of life, not just business. They stress that actions speak louder than words, and how a leader's behavior sets the standard for the entire team, ultimately attracting and retaining top talent.
Takeaways
- 🤝 The importance of building a strong team dynamic where members genuinely like and support each other was highlighted as a key takeaway from a dinner with entrepreneurs.
- 🚀 The speaker emphasizes that leadership is not just about mastering business functions but understanding human psychology and being a person others want to follow.
- 💡 The concept of 'discretionary effort' is introduced as a leadership principle, suggesting that leaders should put in extra effort without expecting it first, fostering a reciprocal culture.
- 🎁 Personalizing the care for team members, such as remembering birthdays and personal milestones, can significantly contribute to team cohesion and loyalty.
- 🌟 The belief that people are not inherently stupid but often poorly taught is crucial for leaders who want to develop their teams' potential and improve performance.
- 👨🏫 Effective teaching and feedback are identified as essential skills for leaders to instill in their teams, focusing on clarity, encouragement, and alignment with personal goals.
- 💼 Investing in people as if they will never leave, while also being supportive if they do, is a paradoxical yet effective leadership approach that builds trust and respect.
- 🔄 The idea that great leaders inspire in all facets of life, not just business, is presented as a way to earn the respect and loyalty of team members.
- 👔 Demonstrating the desired behavior and standards as a leader sets the precedent for team members, who will follow suit based on what they observe from the leader.
- 🌱 The speaker's personal journey of self-improvement in areas such as fitness, mindset, and emotional management has a direct impact on their leadership abilities and team culture.
- 🛑 The cost of investing in and trusting the wrong people is acknowledged as an inevitable part of building a great team, and leaders must be willing to bear this cost for the greater good.
Q & A
What was the main topic of discussion during the dinner with entrepreneurs?
-The main topic was about leadership and team dynamics, specifically how to create an environment where team members genuinely like being around each other and reflect the leader's values.
Why did one entrepreneur express jealousy towards the speaker?
-The entrepreneur was jealous because the speaker's team seemed to work well together, joke together, and genuinely like each other, which he wanted to achieve within his own team.
What is the speaker's usual focus when discussing business operations?
-The speaker usually focuses on tactical aspects such as operations, marketing, sales, customer success, people operations, and hiring, rather than the principles of leadership.
What does the speaker believe is the key to becoming a better leader?
-The speaker believes that understanding human psychology, being a better person, and being someone people want to follow are key to becoming a better leader.
What is the first belief the speaker shared about leadership?
-The first belief is that if the leader gives discretionary effort, they will get it in return, and it's important to give this effort before expecting it from others.
How did the speaker apply the principles of discretionary effort in their personal training business?
-The speaker kept track of clients' personal details like birthdays and anniversaries, showing interest in their lives beyond just being clients, which helped in building strong relationships and retaining clients.
What is the concept of 'Act until you care' as mentioned by the speaker?
-'Act until you care' is the idea of demonstrating care and interest in team members even if you don't initially feel it, with the belief that these actions will eventually lead to genuine feelings of care.
What was the impact of changing the sales team manager in the speaker's company?
-After changing the sales team manager, the company saw a doubling of sales production within a week because the new manager cared about the team members as people and created a supportive environment.
What is the speaker's view on people being 'stupid' in a business context?
-The speaker believes that most people are not stupid but rather that many leaders are bad teachers. They think that most people can learn most things if they are taught and trained properly.
How does the speaker approach giving feedback to their team?
-The speaker focuses on giving feedback that is not punishing but encouraging, identifying what good looks like, where someone is at, and the discrepancy, and communicating this in a way that helps the person grow.
What is the speaker's advice for leaders who feel their team is not performing well?
-The speaker advises such leaders to reflect on their own teaching abilities and to consider whether they are effectively training and reinforcing desired behaviors in their team members.
What belief does the speaker hold about investing in team members?
-The speaker believes in investing in people as if they will never leave, while also being happy and supportive if they decide to leave, as this investment helps build a strong team culture.
Can you give an example of how the speaker's investment in a team member led to a positive outcome even after they left the company?
-The speaker shared an example where they encouraged a sales team member to leave and start his own business after investing in him for years. Even after leaving, they maintained a mentor-mentee relationship, which the speaker considers a win.
What is the final leadership belief shared by the speaker in the script?
-The final belief is that if a leader wants team members to be their best, the leader must also be at their best in all aspects of life, inspiring others through their character and actions.
How did the speaker realize the importance of their own behavior in setting standards for the team?
-The speaker realized this when they noticed their team members showing up to work in a casual manner similar to how the speaker was presenting themselves. By improving their own appearance and behavior, the team followed suit.
What impact did the speaker's personal health and fitness habits have on the team?
-The speaker's habit of using a walking treadmill during calls influenced team members to do the same, leading to a healthier and more active work environment, and even weight loss among team members.
Outlines
🤝 Building Genuine Team Relationships
The speaker recounts an experience at a dinner with entrepreneurs where one expressed envy over the cohesiveness and camaraderie within the speaker's team. This prompted a discussion on leadership and how to foster a strong team. The speaker admits that while they often focus on tactical aspects of business, they spend most of their time on understanding human psychology and improving as a leader. The key takeaway is the importance of being a leader that people genuinely want to follow, which involves creating a community and a positive work environment.
💡 The Power of Discretionary Effort
The speaker emphasizes the concept of discretionary effort in leadership, suggesting that leaders should put in extra effort without expecting it in return. They share a personal story from their time as a personal trainer, where they went beyond professional duties to understand their clients' lives, which translated into a successful team dynamic later. The idea is to view team members holistically and invest in them as individuals, which eventually fosters a culture of care and mutual respect.
🚫 Rejecting the Notion of 'Stupid' Team Members
The speaker argues against the belief that team members are unintelligent, instead suggesting that many leaders are simply ineffective teachers. They share experiences where changing management led to significant improvements, attributing this to the new leaders' ability to teach and empower their teams. The speaker advocates for the belief in people's capacity to learn and the importance of providing constructive feedback that encourages growth rather than focusing on mistakes.
💼 Investing in People as Long-term Assets
The speaker discusses the importance of investing in team members as if they will never leave, while also being supportive if they do. They stress that this approach can lead to a stronger culture and better team performance. The speaker shares personal stories of team members who left to pursue their ventures and how they encouraged and supported these decisions, highlighting the long-term benefits of such investments in personal and professional growth.
🏆 Leading by Example to Inspire Team Excellence
The speaker believes that to inspire team members to be their best, a leader must embody excellence in all aspects of life. They discuss the influence of their own behavior on team culture, such as showing up well-groomed and maintaining a healthy lifestyle, which in turn inspired their team to do the same. The speaker stresses the importance of being a well-rounded role model and the impact it has on attracting and retaining top talent.
🌟 Operationalizing Leadership Through Personal Development
In the final paragraph, the speaker reflects on the importance of personal development in leadership. They express a commitment to operationalizing leadership principles that go beyond traditional advice. The speaker shares how their personal growth in areas such as emotional management and communication has directly improved their team's performance. The emphasis is on the idea that being a better person leads to being a better leader and creating a stronger team.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Leadership
💡Discretionary Effort
💡Teamwork
💡Human Psychology
💡Tactical Business Skills
💡Personal Investment
💡Feedback
💡Trust
💡Cultural Shift
💡Personal Growth
💡Role Modeling
Highlights
The importance of creating a team environment where members genuinely enjoy each other's company and reflect the leader's values.
The challenge of operationalizing leadership and teaching principles that are more about human psychology than tactical business operations.
The concept of giving discretionary effort to team members to foster a culture of mutual respect and care.
The personal trainer analogy for understanding and investing in clients' lives as a way to build strong professional relationships.
The belief that acting as if you care about team members can lead to genuinely caring over time.
The impact of leadership behavior on team dynamics, demonstrating that a leader's actions set the standard for the team.
The story of a sales team's transformation through the replacement of a manager who did not care for the team's well-being.
The belief that most people are not stupid but rather the result of bad teaching or lack of proper training.
The importance of feedback in teaching and the need to present it in a way that is encouraging rather than punishing.
The story of a leader who was let go for not knowing how to teach and the positive outcomes after his replacement.
The belief in investing in people as if they will never leave, while also being happy if they choose to pursue other opportunities.
The personal story of an employee leaving to start their own business and the leader's supportive response.
The acknowledgment of the risk involved in investing in team members and the potential for feeling betrayed.
The principle that leaders must be at their best to inspire their team to be at their best, emphasizing personal character and life management.
The idea that leadership is demonstrated through actions, not just words, and how this influences team behavior.
The story of promoting a healthy work environment by personal example, leading to a team-wide shift in health and fitness.
The conclusion that great people won't work for a mediocre leader, emphasizing the need for continuous self-improvement as a leader.
Transcripts
so last night I was at a dinner with a
group of 10 entrepreneurs and I want to
say most of them were between 1 to 8
million dollar in Revenue one of them
said something to me he said you know
the biggest thing that I learned uh
coming to one of your workshops and then
now spending more time with you one of
the things that I walked away with was I
actually felt very jealous of you and
your team and I was like what do you
what do you mean because I never heard
anyone say that before and he said I
want to feel the same way like the same
way that your team reflects you so well
and you all work so well together and
you all joke together and you all seem
like you genuinely like being around
each other I want to learn how to do
that and it's interesting because I
think a lot of my channel a lot of what
I talk about is a lot more tactical
around the operations and Marketing
sales customer success people operations
hiring recruiting um very tactical and I
think the reason for that is because I
have really struggled with how to
operationalize leadership and teach the
princi principles that are actually
where I spend 99% of my time because the
reality is I don't spend most of my days
trying to learn each function of a
business I spend most of my days trying
to understand human psychology and how I
can be a better leader and how I can be
a better person that people want to
follow and so I went on a little bit of
a rant because I didn't realize that was
something people wanted and as soon as
this guy said that everyone else at the
table was like yes like I want that like
can we learn that like how do you do
that I don't want to walk walk into work
every day feeling like I don't like my
team and they don't like me I want to be
able to walk in and feel like I have a
community that I've created and so you
know they said they kind of put me on
the spot and said like how did you do
that and so I want to share a little bit
of what I shared with them with you
because I think especially at the phase
they were at you know you're you're at 1
million in Revenue 3 million to 8
million it's all that you have to get
past yourself you know and so you have
to Not Just Master yourself and manage
yourself you have to be able to do it to
such a degree that you can do it for
others as well and so I want to share a
few beliefs of mine and they're not
tactics this is just highlevel
Frameworks of how I think about having a
team and being a leader that I hope can
help you the first thing that I believe
that I think helps me be a better leader
is that if I give discretionary effort I
will get it in return and I will not
wait on somebody to give me
discretionary effort I will give it to
them before I've observed anything for
example when I was a personal trainer um
I read a book about how to get like
about how to keep your clients and how
to make them absolutely love you as a
trainer and it was one of the best books
I've ever read but it talked about
putting the extra thought into the
person rather than looking at somebody
as just your client that you're there to
like put through exercises and put on a
diet you know what's their home life
like what are their best friends names
when's their birthday what's going on in
their life what are they celebrating
what's relevant are they moving moving
are they having any big life changes and
the thing that I kept thinking about was
that's already stuff that I really like
doing as a person and so that couldn't
be too hard and so I made a little
calendar so for each of my clients I
knew when their birthdays were when
their anniversaries were what holidays
they celebrate and didn't celebrate um
when big stuff was going on in their
life it wasn't even just that I had to
like send them a gift for everything but
it's that I would bring it up and I
would mention it and I would let them
know that I was thinking about them and
those same principles that I use to
basically keep 100% of my clients at any
point in time are the same principles
that I've applied to having a team which
is it's not just looking at them as
somebody that works for you and looking
at them as somebody who you get
something from because you give them
money but it's looking at them as the
holistic person that they are and
actually being invested in that person
and I think that what I've realized is
that in the beginning I didn't really
understand how to teach this um and or a
term that would even indicate what it is
but what it really is it's it's
discretionary effort it's the fact that
when I'm taking a shower I think about
the fact that you know my assistant who
was living in this house in this
neighborhood she didn't like just got
one that she really likes and like what
could I get for her to decorate that
house with what could she what could I
do to help her welcome into that home I
should tell her to take a few days off I
should I could get her this kind of gift
I could get her that like I want to
reach out to her husband and ask him
like what could I get her and so it's
those moments where you don't have to be
thinking about somebody on your team but
you want to because you care about about
them because you act as though you care
and then eventually you will and so I
think a lot of times when people say
like oh I don't really care about my
team like that well if you never act
like you care then you don't actually
show yourself if you will and a lot of
times you can think your way into an
action or you can act your way into a
thought and I think that for me I have
always uh especially with somebody who's
new on the team I act my way into a
thought which is if I display that I
care and I act like I care eventually I
really do when I say Act until you care
what a lot of people do is when they
bring somebody on they act like they
don't care and they're actually waiting
for some sort of sign which they don't
even know what it is that they should
care about this person they should trust
them but you're actually perpetuating
the not caring and the not trusting by
not acting like you do and so it's like
what would somebody who cares what would
they do they would message the person on
their first day they would send them
something nice they would get them a
swag bag immediately they would hold a
one one with them quickly so they can
greet them on the team they would say hi
to them every time they saw them they
would ask them how their first day was
their first week was they would offer
them and see if they need anything right
and what you'll see is that if you act
like you don't care you're more likely
to demonstrate to that person that you
don't which then they act like they
don't care which then perpetuates the
cycle right and so it only takes one
person to change a relationship and if
you're the leader in the company that's
on you to do and one thing you can do is
demonstrate that you care for people and
eventually they will demonstrate back
that they care for you you know there's
been a few times in my career where this
has made a dramatic difference in my
business one of which is I had a sales
team and the manager over the sales team
this is at jym launch um he was doing a
terrible job just to be honest and so
what happened was I looked at the sales
team and I could tell that he did not
care about the sales team he didn't care
about them as people he was constantly
just drilling them and driving them to
make sales like despite what made their
personal life look like despite what was
going on at home despite any way that
they were feeling if they were sick if
they had a vacation like he cared not at
all and so you know I I went to Alex and
I was like listen like I think we have
to flip this guy out we need a complete
cultural shift here and I think that we
could literally like 2x the production
of this team if we just had a manager
who gave a and so I brought in a
new manager and I'm not even joking
within literally a week we doubled our
sales production
doubled and when I asked the team what
did why did we double production they
said we don't have somebody constantly
breathing down in our necks and we feel
like we have freedom we feel like we
have autonomy we feel like we're being
heard and it's just you know what they
says it's a way better Vibe right and
what does vibe mean it's just like you
now don't have an manager who's
interfering with your work you have
somebody who's making you want to work
more and they do that by giving
discretion effort the second belief that
I have about people that has allowed me
to build a team that I really truly love
working with is that I do not believe
people are stupid I believe that most
people are just bad teachers a lot of
really astute leaders um and business
people and entrepreneurs have this
belief and they say this all the time
they're like I think I just hired a
bunch of dumb asses I think I hired a
bunch of stupid people I think I and
it's like every time I hear that the
first thought that pops in my mind is
they're not stupid you just don't know
how to teach you just don't know how to
train you just don't know how to
reinforce behaviors like it's not like
everyone comes in this world dumb as
hell and so and you know then the second
thought is like you also hired them so
what's that say about you um but the
belief that I've always taken on and is
served me more than has not is that
people are trainable when people come
into a business either they come in
fresh not knowing much at all or they
come in doing what they've been trained
to do by somebody else and maybe that
person was an idiot and trained them po
does that mean that they're an idiot no
most people can learn most things and
holding that belief has helped me way
more than it has hurt me because I have
seen people that were teenagers and so
young and so inexperienced do things
better than somebody who's had 20 years
of experience just because I've believed
that they had the ability to learn and
I've also instilled that belief in other
leaders in my company I think the
underlying skill that's needed to teach
well is actually your ability to give
feedback
and when I say give feedback it's really
just
identifying what good looks like where
somebody's at and what's the discrepancy
and being able to communicate that in a
way that is not punishing but instead
encouraging to somebody um and I think a
lot of traditional leadership goes in
the opposite direction which is we dwell
on what somebody's done wrong we dwell
on that somebody's not doing well and we
keep them stuck in thisy of feeling like
acting like feeling like like
in out right and I think what
the best leaders do the best teachers do
is they're really meticulous about
presenting feedback in a way that does
not feel personal and in a way
that anchors the goal and in my opinion
the best teachers are able to one know
the goal of every student right like
what's your personal goal and then
they're able to tie every piece of
feedback to that personal goal which
means hey I know that you want to be coo
one day right yeah right I want to be
coo one day great so yesterday you did
this a COO would have handled it like
this what do you think the difference is
and then I'll ask them to tell me where
the discrepancy is I would say that's
one of the most effective ways that you
can give feedback as a leader because a
lot of times we give feedback I think
traditional advice puts you on opposite
sides of the table and when you're on
opposite sides of the table with
somebody feels like your competitors
rather than teammates and I think in
order to make it feel like we're on the
same team headed in the same direction
you have to be able to present it in a
way that is getting them towards
something they want rather than having
them run away from something they don't
want I'll give you an example when this
was really real for me in a recent
situation is I had a leader in my
company and that leader ran a division
and he was constantly you know almost
micromanaging the team he had a team of
five and you know I started to realize
like this is not looking good I don't
know if this guy's the guy and I knew
because one day he sent me a message and
he was like NE is a dumbass and dropped
the ball on X Y and Z and her ex her
presentation was horrific and and I was
like this is really bad and so you know
this entire time he'd been telling me
how he couldn't get out of the weeds
because his team was so dumb and I just
knew I was like that's not it I was like
his team is not dumb he doesn't know how
to teach them how to do anything and if
anything he suppresses them and so I let
that person go and I promoted somebody
from within and what that person did was
they allowed everybody to display the
level of competence that was already
there um and he did that because he
believed in people and so he actually
put the effort in to train people and to
teach people and because he did that
what we saw was that we did not have a
team of dumb asses we actually had a
team of leaders of people who now a year
and a half later are all prominent
leaders in my company and so the
difference was that one guy thought that
people were dumb and stupid and the
other guy thought that people believed
in his team and knew he could teach them
so like that's the difference that this
kind of belief makes so if you you're
saying to yourself right now like my
team is dumb I want you to take a look
in the mirror and say like are you even
a good teacher do you how to teach
people really and if you don't even know
what the word teach means you probably
don't you know another example of this
is I had a Director of Finance at gym
launch and that Director of Finance um
had a team of six people and she kept
saying that they you know they weren't
smart enough and she need to hire more
people and like she can't get anything
done and and so I actually ended up
bringing in a CFO and having her swap
out that Director of Finance and that
CFO literally ran the same team
and with her leadership coming in and
telling me she's like listen they' just
been trained wrong like this isn't
they're fine like they're fine they
haven't been told what to do well they
don't have Clarity they haven't been
trained because I was like listen are
they the right people like you know all
I've heard is bad things for the last
six months and so she came in and I
really didn't know what to think at
first but within a period of eight
months you know we went from having
financials delivered 30 days after we
closed the books to having financials
within three days of the month being
closed we went from having quite
literally like a show of data to
having an entire dashboard that was
delivered to me on a bi-weekly on a
weekly basis and we went from having a
culture where everyone just seemed like
they deferred to their leader to having
many leaders within the
department and so again you know it
wasn't because and you know in this
instance my Director of Finance didn't
believe people were dumb but she was not
a good teacher right and so simply
swapping somebody who is a bad teacher
out for somebody who's a good teacher I
got to actually tap into the potential
of the team that already existed the
third belief that I hold about
leadership is that a core piece of
leadership is that you invest in people
as if they will never leave but know and
even hope that they will a lot of
leaders the reason that they don't they
will never have the culture that they
want is because they are too afraid of
investing in people and then leaving
they're more afraid of that than they
are of not investing in people and them
staying and a lot of times what people
say is like I get I get what you're
saying Lea but what if I put all this
energy into someone and and then they
leave and it's like oh yes so what if
you invest all this energy into making
someone's life better you make them a
better person and then they leave does
that mean that you've done a bad job
like there's a lot of reasons that it
can be good for somebody to leave a
company now are we saying that we want
that every instance of course not we
want people to stay when we love working
with people and we like them but the
point of it is is that this belief
prevents so many people from putting the
effort into their team that actually
builds an amazing culture and so
something that I've always kept
Forefront of mind for myself is invest
in them as if they will never leave but
be happy when they do because and I
think this again like I don't know if
this is you know this is just what's
personal to me but it's like my
reputation that I have with myself is I
don't want the relationship to just be
good while somebody works for me but I
want someone to feel like when they
don't work for me if they choose to
leave or go somewhere else like I'm
still somebody that they can look to
that they can uh consider a mentor po
that they could call when something bad
happens um because again like it's
thinking about the person first rather
than just the relationship as your
employee and I think that you know and
maybe this is a point again is like I
like being an employer because I like
being a mentor to people and so I can
remain somebody's Mentor even if they
don't work for me and that's okay with
me because sometimes things are going to
happen in your business where you can't
give somebody the growth they're looking
for or maybe
they decide that they want something
that you don't have an opportunity for
that in your business or maybe you're
not an experienced enough leader that
the vision you have for the business is
not big enough to fit their Vision they
have for themselves and so an example of
this is when I was running gym launch um
we had a guy and he was in the sales
department and he was he'd worked side
by side with us since we had first
started in fact when we were flying out
to gyms he was one of our first sales
guys and I really liked him and so we
got a really good we built a very good
relationship and I definitely put a lot
of disc discretionary effort towards him
you know not just educating him on sales
but just in general and I want to say
about 4 and a half years into working
for us um him and his wife started a
business on the side and I found out
about three or four months after they'
started it because we were at our team
Meetup and he was on the phone I guess
he was talking to his wife I was saying
going off the business and I went to him
and I was like what are you doing and he
was like oh my gosh I you know I I'm not
quitting like I still want to work here
like I just you know also want to have
this business so like I don't want you
to be upset like BL and I was like bro
you need to quit and he was like what
what are you talking about like I love
this team I want to and I was like no no
no I was like you're done like you have
gotten so much over the last four and a
half years and if I felt like you
weren't ready to have your own business
and do this I would tell you because
most of the time people aren't but you
are ready I was like go do it take the
risk like put in your 30 days just help
help me backfill you that's all I asked
but like go do it
and he that's what he did he put in his
notice and we had about 30 days of
transition you he helped backfill
himself and you know we've remained in
touch since and I've talked to him on
the phone many times since then given
him advice on his business you know he's
gone through the ups and the downs and
all those things you know but like at
the end of the day do I consider that a
loss that I made someone's life better
no of course not I consider that a win
and I consider that like the brand I
wish to have with myself which is it
doesn't just go
like the relationship doesn't end with
when somebody isn't working for me but
it's a relationship that I can have for
the rest of my life as hopefully their
Mentor or somebody they look up to now
here's the thing on the other side of
that you know what happened right before
that was I had somebody that I invested
a lot into she was my director of HR and
we were very close um we actually pretty
close in age which I think a lot of
times you're close in age you have a lot
of similar interests and hobbies like
usually become closer on a team and
because you have more in common right
and I put so much into her and she kind
of came in with little experience and I
as much as I could gave her everything
in my brain right and she became almost
like my right hand and she was my right
hand for about two years and she was
somebody that I saw really ascending in
the company like I was like one day she
could even be like a COO or an operator
like there's all these big dreams I had
for her and I had spent so much time
training her that when I got a text
message um it was the more morning
before I was going to be letting someone
go it was a screenshot of her telling
that person I was going to let them go
and warning them and saying they didn't
agree with it and I remember in that
moment I was just absolutely just so
upset because I couldn't believe that
I'd put two years of my life into this
person and this
happened and I remember after that
happened and we parted ways I remember
thinking like I have a choice right now
because I feel terrible I feel like I
was betrayed I feel like I don't want to
trust anybody I feel like I was taken
advantage of and you know I looked at it
as just a numbers game which is you know
if I bring 10 people in and I invest in
all 10 of them it's probably going to
pay off with like seven to eight of them
and then for two to three they might end
up just like completely me up
completely me or leaving early
or something right but I don't want
those three incidences to rob me of the
seven and so I made a decision in that
moment I was like I will continue to
trust people and I will continue to
invest in people and it doesn't matter
that I feel like this is part of
the game and this is the price I pay to
have a team that I love working with is
that I have to bear these moments where
I feel betrayed and that is just the
cost of having an amazing team is that
because you build an amazing team
through really investing in people and
trusting people you're ultimately going
to have to bear the cost of when you
invest and Trust in the wrong people and
that's okay that's just part of it and I
think that has served me more than it
has not served me in business the last
belief that I hold about leadership and
definitely not the last but the last I'm
going to have for this video is if you
want people to show up and to be their
best then you have to be at your best
and so I think a lot of leadership in my
opinion a lot of the books I read early
on a lot of the leaders that I listen to
to it's not that they told me what to do
it's that they inspired me by who they
were and that has always been something
that has been top of mind for me and I
probably put more time into that than I
do into any tactic is how can I be
someone of such character that I earn
the respect of other people of High
character how can I be somebody who
people don't just look to for business
advice but life advice because I am able
to manage myself and to manage my life
and I think a lot of what creates a
leader that people look up to and are
inspired by is somebody who's not just
one-dimensionally good at one thing like
I I can't think of many people in life
that I look up to because they're very
good at making money right like do I
follow do I like watch some of your
videos maybe sure like I'll watch videos
for money but am I inspired by you do
you inspire me to want to follow you
would I move across the country to work
for you probably not because I don't
because I don't see the rest of your
life and I think a lot of the times
something I've distinguished and I've
continued to teach people on my team is
I believe the best leaders Inspire in
all facets of life um you know it's not
just one area but they're able to manage
themselves in all the other areas of
life as well and so I've always tried to
do that and I think that probably stems
from you know I got into fitness I lost
a lot of weight I worked on my mindset I
tried to work through managing my
emotions there's just been a lot of
things in my life that I've tried to do
to better myself and I've seen it pay
off when I ended up starting a company
because I already had the skills to help
myself therefore I was able to help
others you know I remember first uh the
first time in my career when I realized
that essentially just how I showed up
for my team would train them on how they
showed up for me was I was on a call
with about 10 of my teammates the team
was literally like 10 people for gym
launch and I showed up every day in
sweatpants and a hoodie with no makeup
my hair and a bun and I remember looking
at my team one day and thinking like
dude they all look like they just rolled
the out of bed and I was like
that's kind of embarrassing like I don't
want a company that looks like this I
remember I literally looked at the call
and then I was like oh you look like
this you look like you just rolled out
of bed therefore they all think it's
acceptable and so what I realized is
like it doesn't matter what I say it
doesn't matter what rules are in place
it doesn't matter matter what the
employee handbook says what you do sets
the standard for what's tolerable and
acceptable for the rest of the team
because people don't listen to what you
say they follow what you do and how you
show up and so I literally I started
doing my hair I started doing my makeup
and guess what happened I didn't say
I didn't tell anybody to show up
any different way within a month
everybody started showing up differently
everyone looked better they had their
hair done they had makeup on they didn't
look like they just roll out the bread
they looked like they brushed their
teeth and I was like holy crap like that
really works like I don't have to say
anything it's just how I show up that
will dictate how others do another
example of this is throughout the entire
time my own gym launch one of the main
objectives I also had especially because
we were a company centered around
Fitness was like I don't want people to
join my company and be less healthy and
I think there's a lot of times where
people join a company and other pieces
of their life fall to the Wayside and so
what I did was I I had a walking
treadmill and I would constantly be
walking on calls and what I found is
that all of a sudden you started looking
and over like a span of like six months
after I got the treadmill and there was
one day when like three qus of our team
was on a walking treadmill because they
were like oh I didn't know that was okay
I can have a walking treadmill and
what's so funny is that then everyone
started losing weight and everyone
started getting healthier and then
eventually we started doing step
challenges as a team because we're like
this is pretty cool and I had like
testimonials from my team about how much
weight they lost working on the team
because we promoted a healthy
environment how did I promote a healthy
environment I didn't go say go eat
healthy and diet I just did it myself
and displayed it and so it's not what we
say it's what we demonstrate to our
teams and I think what it does it also
allows people
to put importance on other areas of
their life when you demonstrate that you
do that for yourself I hope that these
Frameworks or these principles help you
guys
I um I know they're not like fully
flushed out but I'm really I really want
to do a better job of figuring out how
to operationalize leadership because
like what irks me is like a lot of the
traditional leadership is like be honest
be trustworthy be these things one
nobody knows what those things mean and
then two nobody knows how do you
tactically do that and so I am going to
put more effort towards figuring out how
to translate this down because at the
end of the day the hardest part of
building a culture is not it's not in
the process it's not in some project
management system it's not in the CRM
it's not any of the tactics it's in who
you are as a leader and how you show up
for your team and I have just seen like
as I have become a better person I've
learned to manage my emotions more I've
learned to be kinder I've learned to be
more considerate I've learned to have
more patience I've learned to
communicate better my team has gotten
better and it's not because of Any
tactic I've deployed it's because great
people won't work for a mediocre leader
and so the better you are the better
Talent you will attract
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