The Meaning of Life is Surprisingly Simple

Timothy Ward
25 Feb 202411:33

Summary

TLDRThe speaker discusses the crisis of meaning in modern life, where people chase after societal expectations—wealth, titles, and possessions—but remain unfulfilled. They argue that true happiness comes from pursuing personal passions and meaningful experiences, rather than conforming to external pressures. The speaker encourages self-reflection, urging individuals to discover what truly makes them feel alive and fulfilled, as life's purpose lies in those authentic joys. The key is to focus on what brings genuine happiness, rather than societal measures of success.

Takeaways

  • 😕 Many people are experiencing a crisis of meaning, feeling alive but without true purpose.
  • 🤑 Society pressures us to chase material possessions, titles, and status that often don’t bring personal fulfillment.
  • 🌍 Everyone is unique, with different desires and backgrounds, yet society pushes a one-size-fits-all formula for happiness.
  • 💼 Achieving societal success can leave people unfulfilled if the pursuit wasn’t aligned with their personal values.
  • 🔄 Some people try to find meaning by doubling down on the same material pursuits, leading to burnout rather than happiness.
  • 🤔 True meaning comes from doing things that genuinely make you feel alive, not from following societal expectations.
  • 🎯 It's crucial to identify what personally brings joy and fulfillment, rather than chasing superficial goals.
  • 👥 Relationships, simple pleasures, and experiences like spending time with loved ones often hold more meaning than material wealth.
  • 💡 Helping others brings a profound sense of joy and meaning, often more than acquiring possessions.
  • ⏳ Life’s purpose is to figure out what brings you happiness and to focus on doing those things as much as possible.

Q & A

  • What is the speaker's perspective on the current 'crisis of meaning' in life?

    -The speaker believes that many people feel a lack of meaning in life because they are chasing after things that don't genuinely matter to them, such as material possessions, titles, and societal expectations, rather than pursuing what truly brings them happiness.

  • Why do people often feel unfulfilled even after achieving society's idea of success?

    -People often feel unfulfilled after achieving society's version of success because those achievements may not align with their personal desires or values. They pursue what they’ve been told will bring happiness, but when they achieve it, they realize it doesn't hold true meaning for them.

  • What is the speaker's favorite saying about life, and what does it mean?

    -The speaker’s favorite saying is, 'If it doesn’t mean anything, it doesn’t mean anything.' This means that pursuing things that have no personal meaning will not lead to true fulfillment, no matter how much effort one puts into it.

  • How does society influence people's pursuit of happiness, according to the speaker?

    -Society influences people by creating a 'programming' that dictates success and happiness through material wealth, career achievements, and social status. This makes individuals chase after goals that may not resonate with them, leading to a sense of emptiness.

  • What does the speaker suggest people should do to find true meaning in life?

    -The speaker suggests that people should take the time to figure out what genuinely brings them happiness. This involves reflecting on past experiences that made them feel alive and focusing on those activities and relationships, rather than societal expectations.

  • Why do people tend to 'double down' on pursuing success, even when it doesn’t bring happiness?

    -People often double down on pursuing success because they believe that they simply haven’t achieved enough or done it 'well enough.' They think that if they make more money or climb higher in their career, they will eventually feel fulfilled. However, this rarely brings the desired happiness.

  • What examples does the speaker give of people who seem to 'have it all' but are still unhappy?

    -The speaker mentions people who have accomplishments, titles, material possessions, and seemingly perfect lives (e.g., a nice house, car, and attractive spouse), yet these individuals are often depressed or lack true joy because these external things don’t hold personal meaning for them.

  • What is the significance of past joyful experiences in understanding personal happiness?

    -Past joyful experiences, such as spending time with friends, family, or engaging in favorite hobbies, are significant because they reveal what truly makes a person happy. These moments provide clues about what activities and environments bring a sense of meaning and fulfillment.

  • How does the speaker view the role of technology and modern life in finding happiness?

    -The speaker acknowledges that modern technology and the pursuit of wealth can distract people from what truly brings happiness. They emphasize that while times have changed, the core things that bring joy, like human connection and meaningful activities, remain the same and are often simple or inexpensive.

  • What does the speaker suggest about helping others and its role in personal happiness?

    -The speaker suggests that helping others brings immense joy and meaning to life. Acts of kindness, supporting others, and giving can create a deeper sense of fulfillment than simply acquiring possessions for oneself.

Outlines

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🤔 The Crisis of Meaning and Chasing Empty Goals

In this paragraph, the speaker addresses the prevalent 'crisis of meaning' in modern life. Many people seem to be alive but feel devoid of real purpose. The speaker suggests that this is due to chasing things that don't truly matter to the individual—like material possessions, titles, or societal expectations. They criticize the societal 'programming' that pushes people to follow paths that ultimately don't bring fulfillment, despite achieving conventional success. People often pursue wealth, lifestyle, or relationships that society claims will bring happiness but end up feeling empty when these things don't align with their personal desires.

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😌 True Meaning Lies in Doing What Makes You Feel Alive

Here, the speaker contrasts the act of constantly questioning life’s meaning with the experience of simply living in the moment. They argue that when people are fully immersed in activities they love—whether it’s spending time with loved ones or engaging in fulfilling work—they stop questioning the meaning of life. The speaker emphasizes that the meaning of life is found in activities that make us feel truly alive. Instead of chasing societal markers of success, people should reflect on what genuinely brings them joy and fulfillment and pursue those things.

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💡 Joy is Timeless and Simple

In this paragraph, the speaker reflects on how human nature has remained unchanged despite advances in technology. The simple things that brought joy to previous generations, such as spending time with family or helping others, continue to bring happiness today. The speaker encourages listeners to realize that the things that bring joy are often inexpensive and accessible, urging them to prioritize these over expensive pursuits driven by societal expectations. By doing so, one can achieve genuine happiness without feeling the pressure to constantly accumulate wealth or status.

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Keywords

💡Meaning of life

The concept of 'meaning of life' in the video refers to the sense of purpose and fulfillment that people seek. The speaker argues that many individuals struggle with this because they pursue societal expectations like wealth and status, which may not align with their personal values or desires. True meaning is found in activities that make individuals feel 'alive' and fulfilled.

💡Crisis of meaning

This term describes a widespread feeling that many people are lacking purpose or significance in their lives. The speaker suggests that this crisis stems from society's emphasis on external achievements and material success, rather than personal fulfillment. The 'crisis' is evident when individuals achieve societal goals but feel empty and question the point of it all.

💡Programming

The speaker uses 'programming' to refer to the societal conditioning that leads individuals to pursue certain goals—such as wealth, titles, and status—without questioning if these things bring personal fulfillment. This 'programming' results in people following a pre-set path rather than finding what truly brings them joy and meaning.

💡Double down

In the video, 'double down' means that when people achieve the societal goals they've been told to chase, and they still feel unfulfilled, they often try harder to accumulate more wealth or success, thinking that 'more' will make them happy. The speaker suggests that this mindset traps people in an endless pursuit of material gains, rather than encouraging them to reassess their true desires.

💡Flow state

The 'flow state' refers to a mental state in which a person is fully immersed and engaged in an activity that brings them joy or satisfaction. The speaker points to this as a key indicator of meaning, explaining that when people are in this state, they aren’t questioning the purpose of life because they are fully alive and present in what they are doing.

💡Societal expectations

These are the norms and standards imposed by society, such as achieving wealth, career success, or ideal relationships. The speaker argues that blindly following these expectations often leads to dissatisfaction, as they do not necessarily align with what brings individuals personal fulfillment.

💡Joy

Joy in the video is presented as a fundamental aspect of meaning. True joy is derived from activities, relationships, and moments that resonate deeply with a person’s inner desires. The speaker suggests that societal pressures often distract people from the simpler, more personal sources of joy, such as spending time with loved ones or engaging in meaningful work.

💡Status quo

The 'status quo' refers to the established societal norms and behaviors that people are expected to follow. The speaker challenges the idea that achieving success within the status quo will bring fulfillment for everyone, emphasizing that many individuals must step outside these norms to find their true purpose.

💡Helping others

Helping others is highlighted as a source of deep fulfillment and meaning. The speaker notes that one of the most rewarding experiences in life is aiding others, and that this often provides more joy than material possessions or personal achievements. The act of giving or supporting others is described as both simple and profound.

💡Taking action

The speaker encourages 'taking action' to actively pursue what brings true joy and meaning. Rather than passively accepting societal expectations, individuals are urged to experiment, explore, and identify activities that make them feel alive. This proactive approach is seen as key to breaking free from the cycle of chasing unfulfilling goals.

Highlights

People are experiencing a crisis of meaning in life.

Many chase material possessions and societal goals without personal fulfillment.

The idea that 'if it doesn't mean anything, it doesn't mean anything' is introduced.

Individual uniqueness is contrasted with societal pressures to conform.

Achieving societal goals doesn't always equate to happiness or meaning.

The realization that material success can lead to emptiness.

The suggestion to reflect on what genuinely brings personal happiness.

The importance of identifying and pursuing what makes one feel alive.

The observation that many people are chasing the wrong version of success.

The paradox of people doubling down on unrewarding pursuits.

The insight that external appearances of success can mask internal dissatisfaction.

The advice to consider past experiences that brought genuine joy.

The notion that the meaning of life is found in activities that make you feel alive.

The argument that societal norms have changed but human needs for joy have not.

The idea that many sources of happiness are inexpensive or free.

The suggestion to reflect on what activities and people bring joy.

The recommendation to find and pursue activities that bring personal joy.

The concept that helping others can be a significant source of happiness.

The encouragement to explore and identify personal passions and pursue them.

The idea that it's never too late to discover and live a meaningful life.

Transcripts

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so one of the biggest questions people

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seem to have these days is what is the

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meaning of life I feel like we are going

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through a time period where there is a

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crisis of meaning so many people seem

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like they're alive they're existing

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they're living for all intents and

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purposes but their life really has no

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meaning and I think one of the reasons

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so many of us are devoid of meaning in

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life

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is because we're chasing after things

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that don't mean anything to us one of my

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favorite saying when it comes to life is

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one of my favorite timism is that if it

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doesn't mean anything it doesn't mean

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anything and by that I mean so many of

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us are spending our lives chasing after

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things material possessions uh titles

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careers whatever it is mates whatever it

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is so many of us are spinning Our Lives

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chasing after things things that Society

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told us we need to chase after Society

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the world around us said if you get this

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if you achieve this level of wealth if

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you achieve this lifestyle if you

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achieve this title if you get with this

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type of person then you'll be happy then

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your life will have meaning the problem

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with that is each one of us are

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different each one of us are unique you

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know we all have different DNA we all

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have different backgrounds we all were

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raised in different environments we all

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have different things we like in Joy

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love desire we're all different and what

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the world around us what Society has

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tried to do the Matrix if you will is to

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make us all one person to narrow us down

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to like worker robots you know and it's

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like if you do this you'll be happy

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anything else is crazy and if you're

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brought up just like subconsciously

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getting this message your whole life

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what are you going to do you're going to

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go after the path that everything around

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you has told told you would make you

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happy but then when you don't get there

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when you excuse me when you do get there

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if you get there cuz the the world also

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makes it very hard to get there but if

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you get there you look around and you're

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like okay now what if if you get there

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and it's not something you genuinely

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want then you look around and you're

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like now what and that's when you start

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thinking like what's the meaning of life

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I did everything they told me to do I

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achieved the stuff that like they told

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me to to to strive for to achieve I got

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it I'm here and it doesn't mean anything

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and that's because you can't make

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something that has no meaning for you

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have meaning for you people try oh

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people try you know what people

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typically do if they do achieve the

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things that they think they should

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achieve what they do when it doesn't

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bring them happiness is they double down

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on it well let me make more money let me

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climb higher up the ladder let me

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indulge even more in whatever this

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lifestyle I'm indulging in they Double

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Down On It if maybe I didn't do it good

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enough maybe I need more but then when

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they get more if they get more a lot of

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times you know they burn out trying to

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get more it's the same game it's the

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same game that's why you see people who

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outwardly we think should be very happy

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people who have all these

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accomplishments and achievements and

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titles and they seem like they have all

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the toys and all the bells and the

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whistles and the nicest house and the

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nicest car and the Beautiful You know

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the handsome husband and the Beautiful

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Wife the people who seem like they're

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doing everything have it all and a lot

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of them were kind of like me a lot of

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them are depressed um a lot of them you

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know are just kind of meh with life a

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lot of them if you ask them some of

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these people who seem like they have at

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all like what's some of the most

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memorable times in your life a lot of

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them will think back or recall a Time 20

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years ago where they were like oh yeah I

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was backpacking in Europe with my

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friends it was amazing I think about

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that summer all the time you know what I

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mean because that's something that means

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something to them so what we have to do

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is take the time to figure out what

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makes us happy what means something to

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us and the problem is like most people

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don't do that we just follow the

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programming this is what everybody else

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is doing they look happy on

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Instagram so so I'mma do it too but if

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you do that like hey I'll I'll even say

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this go for it try it try it you might

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be one of the people that it works for

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there is a small percentage of the

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population that the status quo is what

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they would have done anyway it brings

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them happiness for a lot of us though it

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doesn't so if you go after it and it

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doesn't bring you

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meaning my advice to you my plea to you

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is think about what might think about

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hey when was the last time I I wasn't

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asking what the meaning of life is I

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always say a genuinely happy people

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don't ask about the meaning of life they

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don't ask ask about the purpose of life

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they're just living think about when

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you're spending time with your friends

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or your family or doing one of your

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favorite hobbies or even if you have

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work that you love you know at work when

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you get in that flow State and you're

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just really doing it you know think

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about the last time you was really doing

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something you enjoyed you weren't

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sitting around asking what the meaning

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was that is the meaning that's it right

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there the meaning of life is to like do

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things that make you feel

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alive the meaning of life is doing

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things that make you feel alive make you

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appreciate this thing called life so if

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that's not happening I think we have to

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look back like when was the last time I

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felt

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alive when was the last time I really

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just was in the zone in the flow was

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enjoying myself and what were some of

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the things I was doing who were some of

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the people I was around it's very

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important you know a lot of this stuff

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that our you know our our grandparents

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or great grandparents really appreciate

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it family friends everybody sitting down

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eating dinner together together taking

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vacations taking train you know all this

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stuff that we think is like old school

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now you know for us it's all about

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getting to the bag getting to the money

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times have changed yeah but we as humans

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haven't changed times have changed we as

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humans haven't changed the things that

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bring us joy are the things that have

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always brought us joy throughout

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Humanity it don't matter how much new

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technology we come up with the things

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that bring us joy are the things that

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bring us joy and the good news is the

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good news is because a lot of this new

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technology is expensive you know they

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keep coming up with new technologies

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which is basically new ways to get your

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money but the good news is the things

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that bring us joy and happiness a lot of

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it is pretty cheap a lot of it isn't

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that expensive so that's the good news

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that's the good news a lot of times

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we're like man I you know this life I'm

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living now and cutting it but I don't

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know if I could do what I really want to

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do um you know it might be expensive it

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might not be it might not be but I think

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we have to take the time to sit sit down

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and really ask ourselves when was the

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last time I felt

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alive who was around me what was I doing

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and how can I find a way to do that as

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much as

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possible a lot of the stuff that we're

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told we got to achieve success which

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success is different for everybody but

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like success and and and all this money

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you know like if you're the type of

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person that likes stacking your money

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you like making Investments you like

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making your money move around cool but

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there are a lot of people who honestly

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could care less about

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money there are a lot of people like I

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just need enough money to pay my bills

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if they were honest with themselves they

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would realize I just need enough money

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pay my bills be comfortable I'm trying

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to do some other stuff and what we I

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think what we need to do is figure out

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what that other stuff is and do that as

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much as

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possible life's pretty simple life's

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pretty simple figure out what you like

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to do in life do that as much as

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possible if you got to do some other

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stuff to finance that or to make sure

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you have time to do that cool but once

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you identify the things you like to do

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the things that bring you Joy bring you

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happiness do

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that it might be helping others

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ironically one of the things that brings

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us the most joy in life is helping other

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people find joy in Life or helping other

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people have the basics and the Comforts

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they need in

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life once again free for the most part

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you know sometimes you can give money

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things like that but just like helping

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people being there for people is free

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and it brings us some of the the most

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joy in life while we're out here trying

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to acquire all these possessions for

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ourselves we could be 10 times 100 times

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happier if we were out there trying to

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help other people giving away some of

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that stuff to other people it's crazy

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how it works you know like the answers

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are right there in front of us I think

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we all know deep down inside the things

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we like to do sometimes we think we're

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an adult so we can't do some of that

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stuff anymore or we could never turn

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that into maybe a a side hustle or or

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business if we need to find a way to

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like pay the bills doing it so a lot of

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times we shy away from some of this

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stuff we think it's too crazy um we

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don't have the self-confidence to think

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we could ever do it but we know deep

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down inside most of us I think we know

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and if we don't there's no rule that

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says we can't take the time to figure it

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out you got your whole life ahead of you

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if you don't know tell I got no clue

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what I want to do okay well that's what

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you're doing from now on is figuring out

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what you want to do you know why instead

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of sitting around questioning

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questioning the meaning of life take

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some time to Fig take that time to

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figure out what you want to do try some

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stuff hang out with some people try some

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stuff do some anything pops in your head

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I might want to do that try it you got

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the rest of your life to figure out what

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you want to do with the rest of your

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life I'm dropping a lot of timism in

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this one you got the rest of your life

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to figure out what you want to do with

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the rest of your life because that's all

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you really have to do there's nothing

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you have to

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do you know you may we may have

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responsibility these things we feel we

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need to take care of but there's nothing

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we have to

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do right be there for your fellow man

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and figure out what makes you happy find

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a way to do it it might take a year it

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might take five years but wouldn't you

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rather the last 30 years of your life

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you figured it out your life has meaning

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because you're doing meaningful stuff

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stuff that's meaningful to you or would

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you rather just keep following the

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status quo and for the rest of your life

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just be going through the motions you

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know

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like what's the point what is the point

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if you're just going through the motions

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you're not happy there's no joy like why

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are you doing it the reason we're alive

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is to do things that make us feel

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alive but the game is we have to figure

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those things out and we have to take

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action to bring those things into our

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life it's already here for us I promise

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you on this vast planet called Earth

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there are the people and the things and

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the experiences and the activities

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whatever it is that will bring meaning

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to your life that will bring you

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happiness that will bring joy I promise

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you was here and if it's not we starting

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to go off in space too so you know if

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it's on the moon hanging there about 10

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more years you might be able to go get

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it but it's probably here we just have

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to figure out what it is and figure out

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how to bring it into our life and keep

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it in our life and focus on that because

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if we don't we're going to spend the

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rest of our life wondering why all this

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stuff

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doesn't mean anything I'll talk to you

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later

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