"Nice Guys" Never Have These 4 Traits Women Crave
Summary
TLDRCourtney Ryan's video discusses how the term 'nice guys' has become negatively associated with clingy and desperate behavior. She emphasizes that being a genuine, self-respecting man with confidence, emotional stability, decisiveness, and independence is attractive to women. These traits, along with a skincare routine sponsored by te family, signal maturity and strength, which women find appealing in romantic relationships.
Takeaways
- 😔 The term 'nice guys' has a negative connotation due to its association with behaviors like obsession, clinginess, and desperation.
- 🚹 'Nice guy' syndrome often results from poor boundaries and low self-confidence, possibly stemming from a dysfunctional family background.
- 💪 Women are attracted to men who have self-respect and don't seek external validation, which is a sign of inner confidence and security.
- 🛡 Self-respect is linked to setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, which is attractive to women as it shows a man knows his worth.
- 🧴 The video promotes a skincare routine as part of self-care, suggesting it can enhance a man's attractiveness.
- 😌 Emotional stability in men provides a sense of security and safety, which many women find comforting in a relationship.
- 🤔 'Nice guys' may appear emotionally unstable due to behaviors like avoiding conflict or being overly reactive, which contrasts with the stability women desire.
- 📍 Decisiveness is attractive to women as it shows a man trusts his judgment, can take initiative, and lead.
- 🏆 Independence and passion in men signal maturity and the ability to handle life's challenges, which is appealing to women.
- 👫 A man who is both independent and passionate typically knows what he wants in life and pursues it with determination, reflecting a strong sense of identity.
Q & A
What is Courtney Ryan's perspective on the term 'nice guys'?
-Courtney Ryan believes that the term 'nice guys' has a negative connotation due to its association with behaviors like obsession, clinginess, desperation, and suffocating tendencies, which are often a result of poor boundaries and low self-confidence.
What does Courtney suggest is the root cause of 'nice guy syndrome'?
-Courtney suggests that 'nice guy syndrome' often stems from poor boundaries and low self-confidence, which can be a byproduct of coming from a dysfunctional family where one's needs were not met.
What is the first trait that Courtney mentions women are attracted to that 'nice guys' typically lack?
-The first trait mentioned is self-respect. Courtney explains that a man with self-respect is unlikely to exhibit behaviors such as clinginess or pedestalizing women, and is more likely to be confident and maintain healthy boundaries.
How does self-respect translate into confidence and charisma for men?
-Self-respect is closely tied to confidence, which is universally attractive because it suggests that the person is secure in who they are. This inner confidence can translate into natural charisma and make a man more attractive to others.
What does Courtney say about the importance of taking care of oneself in terms of self-respect?
-Courtney emphasizes that taking care of oneself, both inside and out, is an important part of self-respect. She suggests implementing a quality skincare routine as a way to start taking care of one's physical appearance.
What is the second trait Courtney discusses that women crave?
-The second trait Courtney discusses is emotional stability. She explains that an emotionally stable man can handle life's ups and downs without becoming erratic, providing a sense of security and safety for women.
Why might 'nice guys' struggle with emotional stability?
-Courtney suggests that 'nice guys' might struggle with emotional stability because they often seek external validation, avoid conflict, and have a heightened fear of rejection, which can make them seem emotionally reactive or anxious.
What is the third trait that Courtney identifies as something women crave?
-The third trait Courtney identifies is decisiveness. She notes that 'nice guys' often struggle with this because they have a fear of displeasing others and tend to overthink or overanalyze decisions.
How does decisiveness contribute to a man's attractiveness to women?
-Decisiveness shows that a man trusts his judgment and abilities, which women find attractive. It also demonstrates an ability to take initiative and lead, which can be comforting and reassuring to women.
What is the fourth trait Courtney talks about that 'nice guys' often lack?
-The fourth trait Courtney discusses is independence and passion. She explains that 'nice guys' often struggle with codependency and a lack of purpose or passion, which can make them overly dependent on their significant other.
How does independence and passion make a man more attractive to women?
-Independence shows that a man can take care of himself and has a strong sense of identity and purpose. Passion brings energy and enthusiasm to everything a man does, making him more interesting and attractive to women.
What does Courtney suggest for 'nice guys' to improve their dating life?
-Courtney suggests that 'nice guys' should work on building self-esteem, developing emotional stability, becoming more decisive, and fostering independence and passion in their lives to improve their dating life.
Outlines
🚹 Understanding 'Nice Guy' Syndrome
Courtney Ryan addresses the negative connotation associated with 'nice guys' due to internet culture. She explains that the term is often linked with undesirable traits like obsession, clinginess, and desperation. Courtney suggests that 'nice guy' syndrome usually stems from a lack of self-confidence and poor boundaries, often rooted in dysfunctional family backgrounds. She emphasizes that being a good person with self-respect and other positive traits is more attractive. Self-respect is highlighted as a crucial trait that women find attractive, as it indicates confidence and the ability to maintain healthy boundaries. Courtney also promotes self-care, including skincare, as part of self-respect and introduces a sponsor, 'te family,' offering a skincare system for men.
🌟 Key Traits Women Crave in Men
The video continues to discuss traits that women are attracted to but are often lacking in 'nice guys.' Courtney identifies emotional stability as a significant trait, pointing out that men who are emotionally stable can provide a sense of security and are better at communication and conflict resolution. She contrasts this with the behavior of 'nice guys,' who may appear emotionally reactive or anxious. Decisiveness is another trait highlighted, where Courtney notes that 'nice guys' often struggle with making decisions due to a fear of displeasing others. She advises building self-esteem to improve decisiveness. Independence and passion are also mentioned as attractive qualities, suggesting that men who are self-sufficient and have a strong sense of purpose are more appealing. Courtney encourages men to work on these traits to become more attractive partners.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Nice Guy Syndrome
💡Self-Respect
💡Confidence
💡Emotional Stability
💡Decisiveness
💡Independence
💡Passion
💡Validation
💡Codependency
💡Dysfunctional Family
💡Charisma
Highlights
The term 'nice guys' has a negative connotation due to the internet and is often associated with undesirable traits.
Nice guys are often seen as obsessed, clingy, desperate, and suffocating.
Society's definition of 'nice guys' is not beneficial and can stem from poor boundaries and low self-confidence.
Addressing the root of 'nice guy syndrome' is crucial, often linked to dysfunctional family backgrounds.
Women are naturally drawn to men with self-respect, a trait often lacking in 'nice guys'.
Men with self-respect do not seek external validation and are more confident in their actions.
Self-respect is closely tied to confidence, which is universally attractive.
Self-respect helps in setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships.
Women are attracted to men who know their worth and won't compromise their values.
Taking care of oneself, both inside and out, is an important part of self-respect.
The video promotes a skincare routine as a way to take care of one's appearance.
Emotional stability is a trait that women crave, indicating the ability to handle life's challenges.
Men who are emotionally stable provide a sense of security and safety for women.
Decisiveness is another trait that women find attractive in men.
Men who can make decisions quickly and with conviction show trust in their judgment.
Independence and passion are attractive because they show a man is capable and has a strong sense of purpose.
Men with passion are interesting and well-rounded, and women love their energy and enthusiasm.
The video encourages 'nice guys' to work on self-improvement to become more attractive to women.
The video concludes by inviting viewers to share their experiences and thoughts on the 'nice guy' category.
Transcripts
hi everyone welcome back to my channel
if you're new here I'm Courtney Ryan and
not too long ago I reacted to a video
about nice guys where I discussed the
fact that I think the term nice guys has
such a negative connotation now because
of the internet and is now often
associated with the following terms
obsessed clingy desperate suffocating so
in this video I'm going to be covering
some traits that many women are
naturally drawn to that nice guys don't
typically have being the nice guy and
the way in which our society defines it
now isn't doing you any favors now it
doesn't mean you're a bad person and I
want to make that very clear nice Sky
syndrome often stems from poor
boundaries and low self-confidence which
is often a byproduct of coming from a
dysfunctional family where your needs
just weren't met I really believe
getting to the root of the problem is
crucial but I'm going to save that for
another dedicated video if you guys
would want to see it nice Sky syndrome
can be unattractive in the context of
romantic relationships even if it comes
from a place of Good Intentions being a
good genuine guy who is doing the inner
work and possesses the following traits
should be the goal so getting right into
it here the first trait nice guys don't
typically have that women crave is a man
with self-respect thinking back to those
common nice guy descriptors clingy
pedestalize chasing women none of these
traits or behaviors are indicative of a
man with self-respect in order to show
up as the best you in your relationships
you have to respect yourself how is a
woman supposed to respect you if you
don't even respect yourself and a nice
guy often seeks external validation and
self-worth from a significant other
which stems from a place of insecurity
and a lack of self-esteem a man who
values himself is likely to be more
confident in his actions decisions and
interactions with others including women
here self-respect is closely tied to
confidence which is universally
attractive because it suggests that the
person is secure in who they are when a
man is confident in his value and his
worth it shines through his demeanor
making him more attractive to the people
around him this inner confidence can be
more compelling than just physical
appearance alone and is going to
translate into a sort of natural
charisma self-respect also helps in
setting and maintaining healthy
boundaries this could look like removing
yourself from non-reciprocal
relationships instead of chasing after a
woman being able to say no being able to
walk away a man with self-respect
doesn't allow others to mistreat him or
take advantage of him women are often
attracted to and appreciate a man who
knows his worth and won't compromise his
values for the sake of pleasing others
because this is a man who has strong
principles and lives by them a man who
treats others and himself with the
utmost respect is absolutely a trait
that great women are going to notice and
Crave in a relationship self-respect is
a foundation for many other positive
traits and is going to signal that a man
knows who he is and values himself now
another thing that women crave and an
important part of self-respect is also
taking care of yourself both inside and
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the second trait here is emotional
stability now a man who is emotionally
stable is going to signal to a woman
that he can handle life's ups and downs
without becoming erratic this liability
is comforting and creates a sense of
security and safety for women which news
flash many women crave in romantic
relationships this is going to show that
you're better equipped to communicate
effectively express your feelings calmly
and listen and from a woman's
perspective here women often look for a
man who can be a pillar of strength in
difficult times and emotional stability
ensures that a man can provide this
support this stability can create a
sense of security within a relationship
as great women often prefer Partners who
are emotionally balanced and not over L
needy now this idea that nice guys lack
emotional stability often stems from
behaviors associated with this
stereotype just a few that stand out to
me are pleasing others and avoiding
conflict which can make them seem
emotionally reactive or anxious they
might also take things too personally or
get upset easily when their efforts to
be nice are not reciprocated leading to
the perception of emotional instability
another is a heightened fear of
rejection and a tendency to avoid
assertiveness or confrontation which can
lead to being easily over overwhelmed
and unable to handle conflict or
challenges and this is a stark contrast
with that calm and composed demeanor
that emotional stability offers and that
women crave in relationships the
combination of kindness with emotional
resilience and stability is what makes
for a truly attractive and well-rounded
partner and nice guys can certainly
develop emotional stability if they get
to the root of their nice guy syndrome
Tendencies and work on building up their
self-esteem the next trait here that
women crave is decisiveness nice guys
often struggle with decisiveness and
operate in more of a passive way mainly
because many have a fear of displeasing
others which comes to the detriment of
their own wants and needs they might
have a tendency to overthink and
overanalyze which can lead to a sort of
decision paralysis or they simply just
don't trust their own judgment because
they rely so heavily on validation from
others and consistently second guess
themselves because of it learning to
trust yourself and build your confidence
is crucial for your well-being first and
foremost but also your ability to make
decisions when a man is is able to make
decisions quickly and with conviction
it's going to show that he trusts his
judgment and his abilities which women
love it also shows an ability to take
initiative and take the lead women often
appreciate a man who can take charge
make a plan and be a leader stepping up
to the plate when needed and being able
to navigate any sort of challenges with
a steady hand and again from a woman's
perspective here this is incredibly
comforting and reassuring I think
decisiveness also shows that a man knows
what he wants and isn't afraid to be
open about that this helps make things
very clear and reduce any ambiguity
within a relationship again moving
things forward to a place of stability
and security so to wrap this one up here
a man with a plan who finds Solutions
and takes action Obsessed the next thing
that women crave here is independence
and passion now because nice guys often
rely heavily on other people for
validation and acceptance they might
really struggle with codependency and a
lack of purpose or passion in their
lives they often become very overly
dependent on their significant other for
a decision Mak for emotional support and
even sometimes their own sense of
identity Independence is going to show a
woman that a man is capable of taking
care of himself and doesn't rely on
others for his happiness or his
well-being this shows maturity
responsibility and the ability to handle
life's challenges on his own and men who
have passion are often driven by a
strong sense of purpose whether it's in
their career their Hobbies or their
beliefs being passionate about things
that give you purpose and bring you Joy
make you far more interesting and
well-rounded to women men with passion
in tend to bring this energy and
enthusiasm to sort of everything that
they do which women love a man who is
both independent and passionate
typically knows what he wants in life
and pursues it with determination this
self assurance is so attractive to women
because it reflects a strong sense of
identity and purpose qualities that many
women find alluring in a man so guys
that is all I have for four traits nice
guys don't typically have that women
crave if you like this video or found it
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I would love to know if any of you guys
watching feel like you have ever fallen
under this nice guy category whether it
be in the past or you feel like you're
still currently working through this I
would just love to hear your experience
and how this has impacted your dating
life and maybe some things you're doing
to improve this if you haven't already
be sure to follow me over on Instagram
at Courtney Christine Ryan I love
connecting with all of you guys over on
there as well as always thank you all so
much for watching and I will see you all
next time
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