Why Modern Man Has Feminine Thinking

Summary

The speaker discusses common themes in confessions, noting a shift in younger men's thought processes to a more feminine style. He highlights the challenges of information overload, perfectionism, and fear of failure in decision-making. The talk emphasizes embracing failure to build confidence and the importance of aligning with God's moral will while making independent decisions, urging young men to mature and face life's uncertainties with courage.

Takeaways

• 🙏 Consistent themes in confessions often relate to the seven deadly sins and their variations, reflecting common struggles among people.
• 👦 Young men under 30 are increasingly adopting traditionally feminine thought processes, which the speaker has observed in confessions and everyday conversations.
• 🌈 Women typically process information in a way that is emotional, interpersonal, and comprehensive, which is beneficial when balanced with a masculine perspective.
• 🚹 Men are traditionally seen as more decisive and action-oriented, focusing on potential rewards over the fear of failure, unlike the perfectionism often observed in women.
• 🤔 The tendency to overthink and seek perfect answers can lead to indecision and is a trait that the speaker notices in young men, affecting their ability to navigate life confidently.
• 💻 Modern young men are described as being overwhelmed by information, similar to how women are said to see life as a 'kaleidoscope of information'.
• 🏆 Building confidence comes from overcoming failure, which is a crucial aspect of developing a masculine identity, according to the speaker.
• 📽 The influence of internet content, particularly pornography, can undermine a man's confidence and sense of self by promoting unrealistic and degrading standards.
• 👨‍👦‍👦 Mature men are expected to make their own decisions and live autonomously, which is likened to the relationship between God the Father and adult believers.
• 🛐 Trust in God's will involves living morally and making decisions with the understanding that life is uncertain and full of challenges.
• 💪 The essence of manhood is embracing the journey of life with its uncertainties, making mistakes, and learning from them to build character and confidence.

Q & A

What is the main theme discussed in the transcript?

The main theme discussed in the transcript revolves around the observation that younger men under 30 are adopting more feminine thought processes, and how this affects their decision-making and approach to life.

What are the seven deadly sins mentioned in the transcript?

The seven deadly sins are not explicitly listed in the transcript, but they traditionally include pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath, and sloth.

How does the speaker describe the way women think?

The speaker describes women as thinking through a 'kaleidoscope of information', being more emotionally and interpersonally oriented, and having a tendency towards perfectionism.

What are the three specific feminine thought processes the speaker observes in young men?

The three feminine thought processes observed in young men are: 1) focusing on too many possibilities leading to indecision, 2) seeking perfect answers and being perfectionists, and 3) making decisions based on the fear of failure rather than the risk of reward.

Why does the speaker say that men need to overcome the idea that life is like a simulation?

The speaker suggests that men need to overcome the idea that life is like a simulation because life happens in real time without pauses or do-overs, and that confidence is built through failure and overcoming adversity.

What role does failure play in building confidence according to the speaker?

According to the speaker, failure is a key component in building confidence as it allows individuals to learn from their mistakes and grow stronger through adversity.

How does the speaker view the consumption of certain types of internet content by men?

The speaker views the consumption of certain types of internet content, particularly those involving other men and unattainable women, as detrimental to a man's self-image and confidence.

What does the speaker suggest is the relationship between God and men in terms of decision-making?

The speaker suggests that while God is a guiding force, men should act as mature adults, making their own decisions while living within God's moral will.

What advice does the speaker give to young men about their approach to life?

The speaker advises young men to embrace uncertainty, accept that they will make mistakes and experience failures, trust in God, and move forward with maturity and the best advice available.

What does the speaker mean when he says 'life is a journey'?

When the speaker says 'life is a journey', he means that life is a continuous process of growth and learning, where one must actively work and fight for their goals rather than expecting everything to be easily provided.

How does the speaker define a manly attribute in terms of decision-making?

The speaker defines a manly attribute in decision-making as one that involves taking risks, pursuing rewards, and being willing to face failure and adversity head-on to build confidence and character.

Outlines

00:00

🧠 Men's Changing Thought Processes

The speaker discusses the observation that younger men, particularly those under 30, have begun to adopt traditionally feminine thought processes. This includes a tendency to focus on too many possibilities, a quest for perfect answers, and decision-making based on fear of failure rather than the potential for reward. The speaker contrasts this with the masculine approach of making decisions based on risk assessment and reward. The speaker also highlights the importance of not trusting one's own thoughts blindly and the role of spiritual guidance in navigating life's challenges.

05:00

🚀 Overcoming Neuroticism and Building Confidence

The speaker addresses the issue of neuroticism in young men's thinking, where they constantly second-guess themselves and are afraid of failure. This leads to a timid approach to life, where they feel conquered rather than being the conquerors. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding that life is not a simulation and that making decisions based on limited information is part of the human experience. Building confidence comes from learning from failures, and the speaker encourages young men to embrace the challenges and adversities as part of their journey to becoming mature, confident individuals.

10:02

🙏 Living in God's Moral Will

In this paragraph, the speaker discusses the concept of God's hidden will and the importance of living as an adult in a relationship with God. He explains that while God has a secret will that is not meant to be fully understood, He expects us to act maturely and make our own decisions. The speaker stresses the need for young men to cultivate their thinking around success, understand the uncertainties of life, and trust in God while making decisions. He concludes by encouraging young men to work for what they want in life and to see the journey as a part of being a man.

Keywords

💡Confession

Confession refers to the act of admitting one's sins or faults to a religious authority, often a priest in Christian traditions. In the video, confession is used to highlight the commonality of human struggles and sins, such as the seven deadly sins. The speaker notes that confessions often reveal more about the person confessing, such as their gender, than the specific sins they commit.

💡Seven Deadly Sins

The Seven Deadly Sins are a classification of vices in Christian teachings, which include pride, greed, wrath, envy, lust, gluttony, and sloth. The video mentions these sins as a backdrop to the discussion of common struggles that people confess, suggesting that everyone grapples with similar issues.

💡Gender

Gender in the video is used to differentiate the way men and women think and process information. The speaker observes that younger men are adopting more feminine thought processes, which he associates with a different approach to decision-making and problem-solving.

💡Feminine Thought Processes

Feminine thought processes, as described in the video, involve a holistic and emotionally-driven approach to problem-solving. The speaker notes that younger men are adopting these processes, which he sees as characterized by an inability to filter information and a tendency towards perfectionism.

💡Paralysis by Analysis

Paralysis by analysis refers to the state of indecision caused by over-analysis or overthinking. The video uses this term to describe how some people, particularly the younger men mentioned, are overwhelmed by possibilities and unable to make decisions, which is seen as a feminine trait.

💡Perfectionism

Perfectionism is the pursuit of flawlessness and setting extremely high standards for oneself. In the video, it's mentioned as a trait that leads to the fear of making imperfect decisions, which is more commonly observed in women but is now seen in young men as well.

💡Fear of Failure

Fear of failure is the apprehension of not achieving success or of being unsuccessful. The video contrasts this fear with the masculine trait of embracing risk for potential reward, noting that young men are increasingly making decisions based on this fear.

💡Neuroticism

Neuroticism in the video refers to a tendency to experience negative emotions and a lack of emotional stability. The speaker observes that young men are second-guessing themselves and exhibiting a timid approach to life, which he links to neuroticism.

💡Overcoming Adversity

Overcoming adversity is the act of triumphing in the face of difficulties or challenges. The video emphasizes that true confidence and manliness come from learning from failures and overcoming obstacles, rather than from constant success.

💡Moral Will

Moral will in the video refers to the set of moral principles or values that guide one's actions. The speaker discusses how men should live according to God's moral will, making decisions that are honest, just, and in line with their faith.

💡Maturity

Maturity in the video is discussed in the context of making independent decisions and taking responsibility for one's actions. The speaker encourages young men to develop maturity by trusting in their own judgment and the wisdom they have gained from life experiences.

Highlights

Confessions often reveal similar struggles regardless of gender, with the seven deadly sins and their variations being common themes.

Young men under 30 are increasingly adopting traditionally feminine thought processes.

Men's thought processes are being shaped by a 'feminine' approach, which values a kaleidoscope of information and emotional insight.

Women's thought processes are not deficient; they offer unique insights that complement men's perspectives.

Men are now experiencing 'paralysis by analysis,' similar to what women often face, due to an overload of information.

The pursuit of perfect answers is a common trait among women, which is now being observed in young men.

Decision-making is influenced by the fear of failure rather than the potential for reward, a trait traditionally more common in women.

Safe decisions, such as marrying a safe partner, can lead to feelings of regret due to a lack of challenge and adventure.

Men are traditionally risk-takers, focusing on the potential reward rather than the fear of failure.

Young men today are second-guessing themselves, showing a type of neuroticism not traditionally associated with masculinity.

Life is not a simulation; it requires making decisions with limited information and accepting failure as a learning opportunity.

Confidence is built through overcoming failure, not through avoiding it.

Men are expected to make decisions that align with their minds, not ones that reinforce feelings of failure or inadequacy.

The relationship with God is one of trust in His will, with the expectation that men act maturely and make their own decisions.

Men must live within God's moral will while making their own life decisions, much like a father expects his grown son to act independently.

Young men need to cultivate a mindset of success, understanding that life is uncertain and requires perseverance through failure.

Life is a journey that requires effort and resilience, not everything is handed to us, and this struggle is part of being a man.

Transcripts

in the name of the father and of the son

and of the Holy Spirit I was speaking um

with one of my spiritual Sons about

ideas about videos and he said what

about consistent themes that you hear in

confession is there something that you

hear that happens in confession that you

would say pertains to a lot of people uh

things that people are struggling with

etc etc and I and I

realize everyone's confessing very

similar things I mean you have the seven

deadly sins and all the variations on

that so a lot of confession is

is I would actually say shaped more by

the person or the the gender male or

female who's giving the confession

rather than it is by any particular sins

that are kind of dominant everyone

struggles with the same things a lot of

times the confession it's how they

express it which led me to share with

him this point what I'm finding or

seeing a

lot in confession is that a lot of times

it's the men that are under

30 uh over the last few years that I

find they actually have very feminine

thought

processes this is both what I've

experienced in confession and talking

with younger men and hearing the way

that they think about things now the

holy fathers tell us don't trust our own

thoughts so it's important that we

reveal our thoughts but in the process

of people revealing their thoughts and

talking about it you realize wow there

is a very strong feminine

uh way of thinking that I think is

actually kind of uh uh been adopted by

this younger generation of men now as I

spoke about in a previous video there's

nothing wrong with the way that women

think women see life through a

kaleidoscope of information mental

emotional interpersonal they have great

insights they just need it balanced with

a husband or spiritual father they can

help them navigate through the pitfalls

and find the right

conclusion likewise in a marriage a

husband desperately needs the insights

from his wife because his wife is going

to have very important key insights into

the emotional framework the personality

traits of the children how they need to

be communicated to you know so the

husband and the wife in these two

different ways of thinking are

completely complimentary there's nothing

deficient in uh women's thinking versus

men's thinking right both of them have

deficiencies what I mean is there's a

certain way that women process

information that is really unique to

them but I'm finding I see it a lot more

today in young men what are those things

well number one the tendency to focus on

too many

possibilities women often suffer from uh

paralysis by analysis they see so many

possibilities of what could happen that

they often are unable to navigate

through what are less likely scenarios

or less beneficial scenarios and more

beneficial scenarios they tend to see a

kind of Kaleidoscope of information I

see this with men they start to

be unable to kind of differentiate what

is valuable information and what is

invaluable information and they begin to

kind of take it in almost like a

computer where they're just taking an

overload of information that they don't

know what to do with or even how to

process it number two women tend to look

for perfect answers most women I've

encountered are perfectionists that's it

seems to be something kind of uh almost

inevitable with women maybe this is

North American women in particular but

they love the idea of making the perfect

decision again perfect decisions don't

exist right we make the best possible

decisions with the limited amount of

information that we have and then we

move

forward so that's number two number

three they make their decisions based on

the fear of failure instead of the risk

of reward uh what is a frequent example

of this women tend to marry men that are

safe they tend to marry men that are

safe because men that are safe don't

challenge them and when they do that

they often times come back after

afterwards and have feelings of regret

about who they married because the

person is safe and consistent but

doesn't challenge them doesn't exhibit

uh much manly

characteristics uh it isn't very

adventurous and ultimately a lot of

times women find these men very boring

after a couple of years what they once

thought was safe has then become uh

boring uh men tend to make decisions

based on the risk to reward this is why

we have a history of men going to war

sailing the Seas uh exploring North

America doing all of these things

because men think about the reward and

the possibility of what could happen

rather than the fear of failing what I'm

seeing with young men today is that

there's a type of neuroticism in their

thinking where they second guess

themselves all the time they see so many

possibilities they're afraid of failing

they don't think of uh the risk to

reward ratio they kind of act in a more

uh timid way about life they're not

going after it they're not trying to

conquer life instead they often times

feel that they are being conquered by

life and so when I see this and when I

talk to men and they begin to reveal

these thoughts and these patterns of

thinking there's a couple things that I

know are kind of feeding into this

number one life is not a

simulation life life is not a video game

life is happening in real time and

there's no pauses or

doovers this means that you are going to

make

Perpetual you know decisions that are

not the best why because we have that

saying hindsight is 2020 you're

constantly making decisions based on

limited

information the reality is is that when

you build confidence you build

confidence based on failure the most

confident people are the people who have

failed the most not the people who've

been the most successful the people who

have failed the most have learned from

their mistakes the decisions the things

that they would do different and they

continue to build on them that's one of

the Hallmarks of being a man is

overcoming adversity and being okay with

looking bad with being a failure with

falling short you often see this with

entrepreneurs and they'll say oh you

know I had four business businesses go

bankrupt uh I had you know 15 great

ideas but I you know I didn't make any

money until the

16th and so it is that you often find

that this kind of Daring this fight that

has to take place for success and for

confidence is a very manly attribute but

it's based on failure and so if somebody

meets a man who's very confident and you

hear their story I guarantee you there

story contains lots of failures lots of

missteps lots of things that they would

do different but in the face of

adversity they' learned to overcome it

and that's what built their confidence

because if you think that life is like

dominoes and everything's going to fall

in your favor and everything's going to

work out you're not going to make it

very far that is not the nature of life

and of existence number two men make

decisions today that tell them one thing

that is in congruent with their mind

what do I mean by that men often look at

internet uh uh videos of other men being

intimate with women that they cannot get

so two major problems number one is

they're looking at another man's

genitalia this is bizarre and and every

man I think knows that this is weird to

do that number two men are looking at

women that they can't get and so the

illusion of the internet content is that

you're a winner and yet every man who

comes to me when they've committed these

sin says I feel like a

failure so if you make decisions that

enforce the fact that you're a loser

that you're a failure that you're

looking at other men that you can't get

women guess what this is going to

severely undermine your ability to see

yourself as the protagonist in the story

of your life making decisions conquering

foes and overcoming adversity what

you're going to be constantly putting in

your mind is I am a loser I am pathetic

if you constantly feed yourself with the

thought that you are a loser that you're

pathetic and that you're doing things

that you don't want to do you are never

going to have the confidence as of a man

to make decisions and move forward and

trust in God that's number three in an

Earthly relationship it is totally

necessary for me as a father with my

10-year-old son to get him up in the

morning tell him to brush his teeth make

his bed do clean up his room wash his

face brush his teeth do his prayers that

is completely normal okay if he is 20

years old and I am calling him up in the

morning and saying son you've got to get

out of bed you've got to do your prayers

you've got to brush your teeth that is

pathetic okay we have a relationship

with God the Father where he is our

father and he expects us to act like men

he has a secret hidden will we call it

the will of God it is hidden from us we

are not going to figure it out we are

not going to shake a magical jar all the

people who go oh I prayed and I felt

like God was telling me is nonsense when

people talk like that they always say

that God agrees with whatever their

inclination is it's like God never tells

them to do do anything they don't want

to do it's nonsense be a mature adult

man means living in a relationship with

God where you trust in his secret holy

will and you constantly are praying for

him to bless you and to bless your life

that is what you're asking for but as

far as decision making goes he expects

you to be an adult man when my son is 25

years old and he says Dad what should I

do I can say listen son here is my

wisdom this is what I think but

ultimately he's got to make the

decisions he's got to figure it out he's

I'm not going to tell him every time oh

you must do this or you should do this

or whatever

else right that's our relationship with

God we have to live and move and and and

act in a way that honors God what do I

mean by that we need to keep to his

moral will meaning that we're not

dishonest we don't lie we don't cheat we

don't steal we don't manipulate people

we're not passive aggressive we're not

pathetic we live within his moral will

and then we make the decisions that we

need to do in life men young men

especially need to cultivate their

thinking around being successful

realizing that life is full of tons of

uncertainty they're going to make

mistakes they're going to have failures

they're going to have to trust in God

and they're going to have to walk

forward with maturity and follow their

best sense and the best advice that they

can get from other men and to follow

this through and realize that this is

why life is a journey and everything

isn't laid out at your feet ready to go

and you have to fight for it you have to

work for it and that is part of being a

man God bless you