7 Foreplay Tips to Inject New Fun into Your Old Sex Life | Sex and Relationship Coach | Caitlin V

Summary

Sex and relationship coach Caitlin de I educates on the importance of foreplay, offering nine techniques to enhance sexual experiences. Emphasizing the need for a transition into intimacy, she advises on skin stimulation, the kebun method for oral sex, and using sex toys. Caitlin also recommends blindfolds, reading erotica, mutual masturbation, changing positions, and trying new locations for sex. She promises that mastering these techniques will lead to more enjoyable and satisfying sex for both partners.

Takeaways

• 🍽️ Foreplay is essential for a satisfying sexual experience, similar to how cooking enhances the enjoyment of food.
• 👀 Men are often criticized for lacking understanding and rushing into sexual activities without proper preparation.
• 👩‍🏫 Caitlin de I, a sex and relationship coach, offers guidance on how to improve sexual experiences for both men and women.
• 🔗 Foreplay acts as a bridge between non-penetrative and penetrative sexual activities, enhancing pleasure and reducing discomfort.
• 💧 It improves lubrication and increases the likelihood of orgasm for women, as well as helps men to last longer.
• 👫 Taking time to transition into sexual activities, such as deep breathing and eye contact, is considered part of foreplay.
• 💆‍♀️ Stimulating the skin around the vulva is recommended as an early step in sexual encounters.
• 👅 The 'kebun' method of oral sex, approaching from the side, can provide a more stimulating experience.
• 🔌 Using sex toys and vibrators can enhance foreplay and lead to more pleasure.
• 👀 Blindfolds are an underrated sex toy that can build anticipation and excitement.
• 📚 Reading erotica together can be a hot and imaginative way to enhance foreplay.
• 🤲 Mutual masturbation can be a visually stimulating and educational experience for both partners.
• 🛏️ Changing positions and locations during foreplay can introduce novelty and excitement.
• 🏡 Creating a love nest or changing locations within the home can add variety to sexual encounters.

Q & A

What is the main complaint Caitlin de I hears from women about their partners?

The main complaint is that their partners don't understand the importance of foreplay and tend to rush into sexual intercourse without taking the time to engage in activities that enhance intimacy and pleasure.

What are the benefits of foreplay as explained by Caitlin de I?

Foreplay increases the odds of a woman's orgasm, improves lubrication, decreases the chance of experiencing pain during sex, and makes sex more enjoyable for both partners.

What does Caitlin de I suggest as the first step in engaging in foreplay?

Caitlin de I suggests taking a deep breath, looking into each other's eyes, and landing in bed as a way to transition from daily activities to a sexual experience.

What is the 'kebun method' of oral sex mentioned in the script?

The 'kebun method' of oral sex involves approaching the clitoris from the side instead of directly on top, which allows for stimulation of the clitoral legs and leaves the hands free to stimulate other areas.

Why does Caitlin de I recommend using a blindfold during foreplay?

Blindfolds build anticipation and deprive the visual senses, which can heighten other sensations and make the experience more exciting and pleasurable.

How does reading erotica together enhance foreplay according to Caitlin de I?

Reading erotica together can stoke the fire of imagination and provide a more intimate and imaginative experience compared to watching porn, which can sometimes lead to self-consciousness.

What is the significance of mutual masturbation in foreplay as suggested by Caitlin de I?

Mutual masturbation allows partners to see what each other enjoys and can build up pleasure and orgasmic energy that can be utilized during sexual intercourse.

Why is changing positions during foreplay recommended by Caitlin de I?

Changing positions introduces novelty and variety, which can make the sexual experience more exciting and pleasurable for both partners.

What is the importance of creating a 'love nest' or switching locations for foreplay as per Caitlin de I's advice?

Creating a 'love nest' or switching locations can provide a fresh and exciting environment for sexual activities, which can enhance the overall experience and pleasure.

What is the 'She Comes Too' course by Caitlin de I and how does it relate to foreplay?

The 'She Comes Too' course is designed to teach men how to give women multiple orgasms and enhance their sexual experiences. It includes a module dedicated to foreplay, providing step-by-step guidance on how to make it more pleasurable.

What are some of the key takeaways from Caitlin de I's advice on improving foreplay?

Key takeaways include the importance of taking time to transition into a sexual experience, stimulating the skin around the vulva, using the kebun method for oral sex, incorporating sex toys and blindfolds, reading erotica together, practicing mutual masturbation, changing positions, and trying new locations for sexual activities.

Outlines

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👩‍❤️‍👨 The Importance of Foreplay

The first paragraph emphasizes the significance of foreplay in sexual encounters. It draws an analogy between cooking food and preparing for sex, suggesting that a transition is necessary for both. The speaker, Caitlin de I, a sex and relationship coach, addresses a common complaint from women about their partners' lack of understanding and direct approach to sex. She offers to educate men on how to engage in foreplay properly. Foreplay is described as a bridge between non-penetrative and penetrative sex, serving to increase a woman's chances of orgasm, improve lubrication, and reduce pain during sex. It also allows men more time to achieve an erection and can help them last longer. The paragraph concludes with a promise to provide nine ways to master foreplay by the end of the video.

05:04

🔥 Spicing Up Foreplay

The second paragraph provides a list of nine tips to enhance foreplay and make it more enjoyable for both partners. It starts with the advice to take a moment to transition into sex by looking into each other's eyes and breathing deeply. The paragraph then suggests stimulating the skin around the vulva, using the kebun method for oral sex, and incorporating sex toys or vibrators. It recommends using blindfolds to build anticipation and suggests reading erotica together to stimulate imagination. Mutual masturbation is presented as a way to understand each other's preferences. The speaker encourages changing positions and trying new locations for sex to add variety. Lastly, the paragraph promotes the speaker's course, 'She Comes Too,' which offers a module dedicated to mastering foreplay.

Keywords

💡Foreplay

Foreplay is the initial phase of sexual activity that usually involves kissing, touching, or caressing to create sexual arousal between partners. In the video, it is described as a bridge between non-penetrative and penetrative sexual activity, emphasizing its importance in increasing pleasure, lubrication, and reducing the chance of pain during sex.

💡Arousal

Arousal refers to the state of being sexually excited or stimulated. The video mentions that foreplay is a path to connect arousal with sexual activity, making it a crucial step in the sexual experience that prepares a person for more intimate acts.

💡Orgasm

An orgasm is the peak of sexual pleasure and is often characterized by intense physical and emotional sensations. The script highlights that foreplay increases a woman's odds of experiencing an orgasm, which is a key part of sexual satisfaction.

💡Lubrication

Lubrication in the context of the video refers to the natural wetness that occurs in the vagina during sexual arousal. It is mentioned as a benefit of foreplay, as it can make sexual intercourse more comfortable and enjoyable.

💡Erection

An erection is a physiological response in males where the penis becomes engorged with blood and enlarged, typically in response to sexual arousal. The video suggests that foreplay can give men more time to achieve an erection.

💡Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are a set of physical exercises designed to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. The video mentions these exercises as a way to stimulate the skin around the vulva, which can be part of foreplay.

💡Clitoral Stimulation

Clitoral stimulation refers to the act of stimulating the clitoris, which is a part of the female genitalia that is highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. The video discusses the kebun method of oral sex, which involves stimulating the clitoral legs from the side, as a way to enhance pleasure.

💡Sex Toys

Sex toys are objects or devices used to enhance sexual pleasure. The video suggests using sex toys or vibrators as part of foreplay to increase pleasure and anticipation before penetration.

💡Blindfolds

A blindfold is an item used to cover the eyes, often during sexual play to heighten other senses and build anticipation. The video describes blindfolds as an underrated sex toy that can significantly enhance foreplay.

💡Erotica

Erotica refers to the artistic and literary genre that describes sexual subjects in a manner that is intended to be both sensual and tasteful. The video suggests reading erotica together as a form of foreplay to stimulate the imagination and build sexual tension.

💡Position

In the context of the video, position refers to the physical arrangement of bodies during sexual activity. The video encourages changing positions and trying new locations for sex to introduce novelty and excitement into foreplay.

Highlights

Foreplay is crucial for women's sexual enjoyment and should not be skipped.

Men often rush into sex without proper foreplay, which can be off-putting for women.

Foreplay increases the likelihood of a woman's orgasm and improves lubrication.

Foreplay decreases the chance of experiencing pain during sex.

Proper foreplay can help men achieve and maintain an erection.

Foreplay allows men to relax and last longer in bed.

Taking a moment to breathe and connect before sex is considered foreplay.

Stimulating the skin around the vulva is an effective way to start foreplay.

The kebun method of oral sex can provide a unique and pleasurable experience.

Using sex toys or vibrators can enhance foreplay and pleasure.

Blindfolds are an underrated sex toy that can build anticipation.

Reading erotica together can stoke the fire of imagination and increase intimacy.

Mutual masturbation can be a hot way to learn about each other's preferences.

Changing positions during foreplay can add variety and excitement.

Switching up locations for sex can provide a fresh and thrilling experience.

Mastering foreplay can lead to better sex for both partners.

The speaker offers a course called 'She Comes Too' to teach men how to improve their foreplay skills.

Transcripts

You wouldn't go from this, immediately to this. You have to

cook it first. So why do so many men think it's okay to go from

this to this without a little something some in the middle.

One of the most common complaints I get from women as a

sex coach is that their partner doesn't understand what the hell

for players so many men just dive into bed, whip it out and

try to put it in her and I'm putting it bluntly because guys,

you've been putting it way too bluntly to us for too long. And

that is not how you do it. But I am here to save you don't worry.

It's not your fault. I would teach you how to do it

correctly. I am sex and relationship coach Caitlin de I

help men and women all over the world to live better lives

through better sex. I teach how to show up in the bedroom

confidently and deliver the most amazing experiences to your

partner's. Make sure that you are subscribed here and

following me on Instagram for daily sexy DIY tips. For but

what are they good for? Absolutely. everything

perfectly. You've heard of it. But what is it? I mean, really

foreplay if you break it down is just a bridge between

penetrating and not penetrating. It's a bridge between our

arousal and sexual activity. It is the path by which we connect

those things. And foreplay is so important. It increases her odds

of orgasm and it improves lubrication, it decreases the

chance of experiencing pain during sex. In a nutshell,

foreplay makes sex way more enjoyable for her and she will

be more into it for you. Besides that, it also gives men more

time to achieve an erection. It can actually help men last

longer in bed by giving them more time to relax and center

around themselves and all the other things that I teach in my

course she comes to know Don't worry, if you are one of those

guys that looks into a woman's flower and goes How the heck am

I supposed to make this thing bloom, just be sure to watch

until the end of the video because I'm going to give you

nine, nine ways to master foreplay and become an amazing

lover that will have her begging for you to bet her again. And

again. Number one, before you start with the finger and the

tongue lashing Take a deep breath, look into her eyes and

land in bed. Too many people are like flying buzzing from a date

or from wherever they were from work or whatever. And they

transition to sex without actually taking the time to

transition. So yes, looking into each other's eyes and taking a

couple deep breaths really does count as foreplay and it will

help to prevent you from rushing into sex before you're ready. In

the same vein, I say a great way to start size is by stretching

together going on a walk doing exercise, getting hot and sweaty

in a workout you both already feel in your body and then sex

is just like a given right. Number two on a woman stimulate

the skin outside and around her vulva. In other words, the skin

that has the hair on it, the legs of the clip the roots of

the clip, the pubic mound itself, all of these areas feel

really good. They're excellent to touch early on in a sexual

experience. Think about it as hitting all of the spots around

the target before you go for the bullseye. Number three, try

using the kebun method of oral sex, which essentially means to

come at the clearest from the side instead of directly on top.

A lot of guys go straight on but she's going to notice the

difference and so will you going from the side allows you to

stimulate the clitoral legs. It also leaves your hands free to

stimulate her labor via her purnia maybe to even penetrate

her with her fingers. Try to Kevin method it will blow her

mind and she's going to tell all of her friends that you invented

this wild new oral sex technique or you can give me the credit

either way, or you can give given the credit really. Number

four use a sex toy or a vibrator. Bring in an anal plug

or anal beads changing before penetrating her first touch her

with a vibrator and see what pleasure that delivers to her

body. Don't stop until she actually begs you to penetrate

her. This is the best number five use blindfolds. blindfolds

are the most underrated sex toy of all time. I actually think

that it is the number one most important sex toy after a

vibrator. They build anticipation they deprive us of

the sensory visuals of watching you do your thing, and we don't

know what's gonna go on when we're blindfolded. So grab a

scarf if you don't own one. Think of ways to lock the eyes

and get one they're super cheap.

blindfolds, an amazing amazing, amazing way to spice up your

foreplay. No For six read erotica together, this might

sound kind of old school, and it is. That's why it's so great.

Reading erotica is hot because you're using literature to stoke

the fire of your imagination. You can read sexy passages to

one another. And unlike porn, which can sometimes make us feel

self conscious about our bodies where they work or the way they

look, erotica allows us to fill in the visual blanks with our

own imagination. Number seven, try your hand at some mutual

masturbation, watching each other pleasure yourself is so

hot, it gives you a visual, it lets you know what she enjoys

and lets her know what you enjoy. It's like applying for

play to yourself, you know what you like best, and so does she.

So use that time to build up some pleasure for yourself,

especially encouraging her to get herself close to orgasm by

touching herself. And then when you go to penetrate, she has all

of that built up orgasmic energy available to her during sex.

Number eight change positions. Most people have a comfortable

routine and that is how they do all of their foreplay. So don't

just lie her back and spread her legs, maybe have her sit at the

edge of the bed. Or better yet, have her sit on your face.

Change it up. If you're used to beginning sex in one position.

Begin in a different position

next time

maybe even catching her when she's putting laundry away or

something and licking her from behind. Get creative and use

novelty to put spice into your sex life. And now tip number

nine and I couldn't help myself but roommate if you ever see

this I'm sorry that sorry. Make a love nest in the den or switch

up locations in the house. If you're always used to getting it

on in the bedroom, try the couch. Try the guest room. Try

the kitchen try the laundry room. Women's brains need

variety and switching it up can be super fun and exciting for

her and it will put an exciting spin on your foreplay and if you

want to take an even deeper dive into how to be amazing with

foreplay. Check out my course she comes to in which I devote

an entire module to foreplay. This is designed to demystify

foreplay, and give you the exact step by step formula to giving

her one orgasm, two orgasms, multiple orgasms, and setting

her up to have multiple more orgasms. After you penetrate.

There is a science and an art to foreplay. It's not rocket

science, but it is something that requires special care and

attention so check out she comes to the link is in the

description below my dudes remember for play once you

master it, your woman will enjoy sex or she will be more likely

to orgasm. She will enjoy having you in around and inside of her

even more. The more pleasure that you can bring the better

sex will be for both of you. Touch around the vulva use that

kibin method. Let me know what you think about that one in the

comments. Bring in some toys vibrators, my favorite the

blindfolds switch up positions and locations. You have got this

go spice up your sex life spice up your foreplay and make sure

that you are subscribed to my channel so that you do not miss

any other amazing tips and techniques to make sure you have

the best sex of your life.