THINGS I DID TO STOP BEING INSECURE

Summary

The transcript discusses the transformative power of self-love and deconditioning societal beliefs about beauty and self-worth. The speaker emphasizes how external opinions, including negativity and insecurities, are projections of others' unresolved issues. By learning to disregard these projections and focusing on inner self-acceptance, individuals can reclaim their power and convert negativity into personal growth. They advocate questioning societal standards, recognizing the influence of media, and developing true confidence rooted in self-awareness. The message encourages listeners to create their own reality, free from others' imposed limitations or judgments.

Takeaways

• 💪 Negativity from others can be transformed into success and abundance if you don't let it affect you.
• 🛡️ Building a personal shield against negative energy and not caring about others' opinions is key to self-love.
• 🤔 Insecurities are conditioned by external opinions, not inherent to who we are.
• ❌ You must break the cycle of adopting other people's beliefs and opinions about beauty and self-worth.
• 🙌 True beauty is about embracing imperfections, like eye bags or stretch marks, and rejecting societal standards.
• 🌱 Self-love starts with deconditioning yourself from societal, parental, and media-driven beliefs.
• 🪞 Everyone is a reflection of yourself, so negativity from others is more about them than you.
• 🧠 Triggers occur when there's something inside that agrees with the negative opinion, which makes it crucial to decondition those beliefs.
• 💡 Other people’s limits are often projected onto you, but you should decide your own reality.
• 🔄 Jealousy is a reflection of what you can achieve, not something that takes away from your own potential.

Q & A

What does the speaker mean by using 'other people's negativity' for power?

The speaker explains that negativity from others can be transformed into positive energy like abundance and success. Instead of letting it affect them negatively, they use it to enhance their own life by shifting its impact.

How does the speaker's shield protect them from negativity?

The speaker has created a mental or energetic shield that helps them deflect and transform negative energy, preventing it from affecting their emotional state. They explain that they no longer care about others' opinions, which plays a big role in maintaining their emotional balance.

What realization did the speaker have in high school regarding insecurities?

The speaker realized that insecurities are not innate but are conditioned by society and other people's opinions. They traced their insecurity back to external comments and societal pressure, and from that point, they began rejecting those opinions.

How does the speaker define insecurity in relation to external opinions?

The speaker believes that insecurities are molded by other people's opinions and societal standards. They emphasize that insecurities are not a part of us but rather the result of conditioning from others.

What is the importance of 'deconditioning' according to the speaker?

Deconditioning involves unlearning and releasing the beliefs and opinions that were imposed by others, including societal standards, family values, and religious teachings. This process is essential to achieve self-love and authentic confidence.

Why does the speaker think people get triggered by negative comments?

The speaker argues that being triggered by negative comments means there is a belief within you that agrees with the criticism. It reflects an internal insecurity that has not yet been resolved.

What is the speaker's perspective on physical appearance and beauty standards?

The speaker rejects conventional beauty standards imposed by society, finding beauty in so-called imperfections like eye bags and stretch marks. They advocate for people to define beauty on their own terms instead of conforming to societal norms.

How does the speaker view jealousy in relation to success and abundance?

The speaker views jealousy as a reflection of one's own potential. When someone feels jealous of another's success, it indicates that they have the same potential for success and abundance, but their attitude might be holding them back.

How does the speaker explain the law of one and its impact on how we perceive others?

The speaker references the law of one, which suggests that we are all interconnected, and everyone is a reflection of ourselves. This understanding helps them stop caring about others' opinions, as everyone is just a piece of the same puzzle of consciousness.

What advice does the speaker give regarding how to handle societal conditioning?

The speaker advises rejecting societal conditioning, including beauty standards and other imposed beliefs. They encourage self-reflection, asking oneself what they truly want to believe, and creating their own perception of self-love and beauty.

Outlines

00:00

🌟 Turning Negativity into Abundance

The speaker shares how they use other people's negativity as a source of power and success. By transforming energy—whether positive or negative—into personal prosperity, they emphasize that negative energy can be redirected toward abundance. They reflect on their own journey of overcoming insecurity, particularly around body image, and how external opinions conditioned their sense of self. The speaker highlights that insecurities are not inherent but are projections absorbed from others. They encourage breaking away from the cycle of external judgment and embracing self-confidence.

05:01

🌀 Breaking Free from Conditioned Beliefs

In this section, the speaker dives deeper into the idea that insecurities are conditioned by societal and family beliefs, urging listeners to decondition themselves from external judgments. They emphasize the importance of not allowing others to mold their 'clay,' referring to personal identity and self-perception. The speaker encourages questioning inherited opinions and urges individuals to align with their own beliefs rather than those imposed by society or family. True self-love, they assert, comes from breaking free from societal conditioning and accepting oneself fully, imperfections included.

10:01

💡 The Art of Allowing and Self-Love

The speaker discusses the transformative power of self-love and the concept of 'allowing'—letting things and people be as they are without judgment. They share their experience with hate comments and how they have come to view such negativity as a reflection of others’ insecurities rather than a personal attack. By cultivating a deep sense of self-love, the speaker no longer gets triggered by negativity, instead understanding that any trigger reflects a belief within. They emphasize the importance of realizing that others' limitations are projections and not personal truths.

💭 Compassion for Projected Insecurities

The speaker explains how to handle projections from others, especially when they stem from unresolved insecurities. They highlight that even in positive situations, people may try to impose their fears and doubts based on their past experiences. The key is to maintain compassion without accepting these projections as your own reality. The speaker underscores that everyone deserves happiness, and self-love empowers individuals to reject others’ limiting beliefs while pursuing their own happiness and success. This compassion extends to understanding that everyone is on their own journey, and we must allow them to experience growth in their own time.

🧩 Embracing the Collective Consciousness

The final section reflects on the interconnectedness of humanity, where each person is a mirror reflecting the potential and beauty in others. The speaker discusses how feelings like jealousy can reveal areas of growth and abundance within oneself. They introduce the concept of 'the law of one,' where all people are pieces of a collective puzzle, reflecting one another's potential. The speaker encourages listeners to stop worrying about others' opinions and focus on self-growth and self-love, noting that negativity from others often comes from their own unprocessed beliefs. Ultimately, we should be the creators of our own reality and not let others shape our self-perception.

Keywords

💡Negativity

Negativity, in the context of the video, refers to the negative energy, comments, or judgments that people direct toward others. The speaker emphasizes how this negativity can be transformed into power and success by not internalizing it. Instead of letting it bring you down, it can be used as a tool for self-growth and prosperity.

💡Projection

Projection is the idea that people's negative comments or judgments are a reflection of their own insecurities or issues, rather than something about you. The speaker explains how others project their conditioned thoughts onto you, and that understanding this can help you avoid being affected by their negativity. For example, when people try to impose their limits on you, it's actually their own limits.

💡Self-love

Self-love is a central concept in the video, referring to the act of fully accepting and appreciating oneself, independent of societal opinions or external judgments. The speaker describes self-love as a journey that involves 'deconditioning' oneself from others' beliefs and opinions. Once this state is reached, external negativity or criticism no longer affects one's self-esteem.

💡Deconditioning

Deconditioning is the process of unlearning the beliefs and opinions that have been imposed on you by society, family, or religion. The speaker highlights that insecurities and negative self-perceptions are often not our own but are conditioned into us by others. Breaking away from these external influences is the first step to true self-love.

💡Insecurities

Insecurities, as discussed in the video, are self-doubts or negative perceptions about oneself that are often shaped by other people’s opinions. The speaker explains that insecurities are not innate; they are conditioned into us by external sources like family, society, or social media. Recognizing this allows one to overcome them.

💡Energy

Energy, in the spiritual sense used in the video, refers to the emotional or vibrational influence people can have on each other. The speaker talks about how negative energy from others can be 'transmitted' into personal success and abundance by reframing it and not letting it affect one’s inner peace.

💡Beauty Standards

Beauty standards are the societal norms that dictate what is considered attractive or desirable in terms of physical appearance. The speaker argues that these standards are arbitrary and often conditioned by social media and industries like beauty and pornography. The key message is that one should question and redefine these standards for themselves.

💡Conditioning

Conditioning refers to the process by which beliefs and behaviors are instilled in an individual through repeated exposure to societal, familial, or cultural expectations. In the video, the speaker mentions that people’s perceptions of beauty, success, and self-worth are often the result of conditioning from external sources, which need to be questioned and deconstructed.

💡Mirror/Reflection

The concept of mirror or reflection is used to explain how other people are a reflection of aspects of yourself. The speaker emphasizes that when you see success, beauty, or even jealousy in others, it reflects your own potential or insecurities. This mirroring is a tool for self-awareness and growth.

💡Art of Allowing

The 'Art of Allowing' is described as accepting things and people as they are without judgment. It’s about embracing imperfections and letting go of control over how others behave or think. The speaker associates this mindset with a deep level of self-love, where external opinions no longer dictate one’s self-worth.

Highlights

Other people's negativity can be transformed into personal power and abundance.

Insecurities aren't inherent; they are conditioned by societal influences and opinions from others.

Self-love is achieved by deconditioning beliefs and opinions about beauty imposed by society and others.

Social media and industries, like beauty and pornography, perpetuate insecurities for profit.

Projection is key: people project their own insecurities and experiences onto others.

Triggers occur when we have a belief within ourselves that aligns with the negative opinion or criticism being thrown at us.

You can transform negative energy sent your way into prosperity by having a mental and emotional shield.

Insecurity is rooted in external opinions that are passed down and not self-created.

Beauty standards imposed by society are flawed; true beauty is subjective and personal.

Loving oneself involves allowing others to be as they are without trying to change or judge them.

Opinions and criticisms from others reflect their own limitations and are projections, not truths.

Jealousy shows us what we can achieve, as it reflects the abundance we are capable of.

Self-love removes the need for external validation or agreement, leaving no room for triggers or offense.

We are all connected, and the way we perceive others is a reflection of ourselves and our internal state.

To fully embrace self-love, one must break free from societal conditioning, especially from family, social media, and cultural norms.

Transcripts

other people's negativity gives you so

much power because not only are they

placing you on a fake pedestal of

Separation but you can actually transmit

whatever they're throwing into your

energy field for abundance and success

in your life because that's what I do

with any type of form of energy that is

not mine that is thrown into my energy

field whether it's positive or negative

cuz it's actually all love it's just

curiosity that doesn't know how to

express itself whatever's thrown into my

energy field is immediately transmitted

to prosperity in my life one because

I've created a shield this way you know

on my wit shap but number two I don't

care about what people think and it took

me a long time to even get to this point

when I was younger I used to be insecure

not only did I not love myself within

but I used to be insecure about my

physical appearance mainly just because

I was skinny and I couldn't gain weight

things like that and I would always get

triggered by what people would say about

me I would get triggered if any family

member had any commentary it wasn't

until high school I had so much

realizations High School bro how do you

even feel like this and I realized I

went to the root of it and I said I

didn't feel like this as a kid and it

was only until I started going to school

and I started getting older and now all

of a sudden I'm getting told these

things about my appearance about my body

type about who I am as a person and then

I started to absorb all of these

opinions and that is literally where

insecurities come from they're not even

from us they are not from us they are

literally conditioned into our mind and

are molded from other people the cycle

just continues it is a huge circle of

what other people have been told what

they choose to believe without

deconditioning their

opinions and then on to the next and

then on to the next and then on to the

next it's just a huge cycle and I said

we're going going to break away from

that because I'm not about to take

someone else's opinion that they did not

even condition or form themselves and

make it into my own once I fully grasp

that concept and not just the whole okay

uh I understand but I still have to

crates up no because once you fully

grasp that concept it's like all the

labeling and perceptions of what you

define Beauty to be is out the window

there was not a time after that where I

looked at myself and I said oh I'm

feeling ugly today or I don't feel

pretty or I feel like I should look like

this why like you have to question

things you have to be like why do you

even feel like that because when you

were straight out the womb were you even

thinking that you know like you weren't

thinking that it wasn't until somebody

came and started to shove this opinion

that they got from somebody else down

your throat because that's what they

perceive to be beautiful and me I've

always found things that were so-called

imperfections beautiful like one thing

for me is eye bags stretch marks

different types of teeth like it's

always so beautiful for me to see those

things because that's what I think is

beautiful I'm just going to think this

is ugly or this is unattractive because

Society this is my reality like once you

understand that How the Universe works

and how your reality Works no one can

say anything you're not about to tell me

how to feel because you have to have

that strength to decondition your

thoughts decondition your opinions

decondition the religious conditioning

all of that has to leave if you really

want self-love honestly and social media

plays a big part too that has to go too

cuz that is all just media that actually

puts insecurities out there just for

money the beauty industry is a very big

example the porn industry is a very big

example and another thing too when I

actually had my Awakening and I

understood this it was game over once

you realize that everybody is just

projecting bro you can't tell me

anything I have that level of confidence

where it's like you can say anything to

me if I don't have a belief within that

agrees I'm not getting triggered I don't

agree with you because there's not a

belief with in me that agrees with what

you're saying you can come to me and be

like oh that blue shirt you're wearing

is so ugly I know I'm wearing a black

shirt so why am I going to get offended

everybody is not only projecting but

they're just reflections of you so I'm

not about to get upset when not only are

you just a fragment of My reality and

Consciousness but I am the same for you

so I'm not about to give you that piece

of me that is like like going to fall

victim to the perceptions and the

projections and the insecurities that

someone else is placing on me wearing a

shirt right now that says insecurities

aren't real they were imprinted in us

and that is the realest thing because

where is that opinion coming from like

somebody else is molding your clay do

not let people mold your clay because

you are art and you are forever changing

and constantly changing into different

sculptures don't let somebody come over

and start molding your clay and telling

you that you should feel ugly or this is

ugly or you should gain weight you

should lose weight you should get

surgery for this you should fix this why

do you even think that start asking

people that ask them are you still

aligning with your parents' beliefs are

you still aligning with society's

beliefs like where did you even find

where did who told you that who told you

how to feel like that this takes great

strength and discipline to even go

beyond what I'm saying and understand

this for yourself cuz some some people's

egos are going to hear this and they're

going to be like well Society is still

forget all of that cuz your soul knows

exactly what I'm talking about and it

knows that it should feel that vibration

of love because that is our true being

in state before any of the projections

before any of the insecurities before

any of the conditioning before any of

the religious conditioning all that crap

that was put on you you know your inner

state of being self love is not easy to

create but the first step that everybody

misses is deconditioning their thoughts

and opinions on what they Define to be

Beauty and attractive you're still

following in your parents' footsteps of

what they think is okay you're still

following what social media saying and

all these celebrities who clearly have

surgery who are lying about it and

telling you that this is natural and

this is how you should look like you got

to just put all that to the side and

really ask yourself what do I want to

think how do I want to feel how do I

want to perceive myself when I look in

the mirror and not only just with a

physical appearance but within who are

you as a person and how do you want to

feel every day and once you reach that

level of

self-love you will understand that

everything is a projection because I

love myself so much to the point where

if I look at other people there is not

one thing I'm trying to change about you

or saying that you're ugly or even

you're literally just as is and there is

Beauty in that there's Beauty in just

being you physical vessels is exactly

and only that because that doesn't even

matter like what does your soul look

like how do you act when no one's around

you know and not only that but my

opinion doesn't matter so I don't need

to look at people and tell them how they

should look or if they should change

something or if they shouldn't wear this

or not do this like no loving is the art

of allowing

it's the art of allowing and letting

things be and this is real because I

have a huge platform I get hate comments

all the time and I even have people who

DM me with hate and then they come back

and they're like oh I actually kind of

understand what you're saying now or I

kind of realize this now and it's like

people just project what they think that

they understand at one point in time

you're Forever Learning you're forever

growing but you will project things that

you feel on the inside damn damn damn

damn I'm getting a ring like crazy all

right what are you trying to

say hold

on holy honestly hate comments used to

bother me they used to bother me because

I used to have a belief within that

actually agreed and that's that's what a

trigger is every time you do get

triggered it's like you you actually

think that within and that

is top three one of the hardest pills

I've ever had to swallow I know hearing

that it's going to be like no I don't

believe that that's not true trust me if

you're getting triggered there is

something within it it might actually be

like maybe the first yeah it might be

the first like top three top three

hardest things I've ever ever had to

digest in my journey because I didn't

want to believe that but it's true and

it's okay to admit that it's okay to

admit that but now when I see that stuff

and now when people even try to project

negativity onto me it doesn't affect me

not only that but I am actively

siphoning your energy what I say goes I

don't let people tell me what I can and

cannot do cuz family members love doing

that and people online love doing that

people will tell you what your limits

are but it's actually their limits just

covered up being projected onto you what

I say goes like I I don't know what it

is but I it took me a long time to get

to that point but what I say goes you're

not about to tell me what's going on in

my reality and you shouldn't let other

people tell you what's going on in your

reality either I noticed that a lot with

family members and random people if

you're even in like a positive happy

healthy relationship people will see

something inherently good and be like oh

you should watch out because you know

when I was younger or when I was in this

relationship this happened would you be

telling me that if you experienced what

I'm currently experiencing why are you

trying to project that fear on me like

you can easily give me advice without

trying to project your personal

experiences and it's sad because

everybody deserves love happiness

abundance in their life but I cannot

make you feel like that you choose how

you feel and you need to go after that

and you need to create that yourself so

people will literally project what they

haven't yet experienced what they don't

understand or whatever is hurting inside

and always have compassion for these

types of individuals I never look at

them as broken or if they need to change

I don't believe that like people are who

they are in your reality and everybody

has a purpose for them actually

triggering you being in your reality and

doing whatever like everything has a

purpose right so I just have compassion

for those types of individuals but let

that be known let that be known don't

let other people try and tell you what

you can and can't achieve in life or

what you can and can't do it's all a

ejection I only started being confident

in the middle of high school and then

actually loving myself last year and

right now is at the point where I truly

there is no more FS to give my bag of FS

is so empty some people just be jealous

sometimes honestly and jealousy comes

from a place of love I know it's crazy

but whatever type of success and

abundance and love that you see in other

people's life does not take away from

your own it actually shows you what you

can achieve in your life or what is

presently going on in your life because

everybody is just an extension of you

especially those in your inner circle in

your inner reality everybody is

reflecting what you have so that's what

I realize with jealousy anytime you feel

jealous or you feel like you can't

accomplish something because this person

has it and this person's this age and

you guys are the same age and they have

all this and you feel like you can't

accomplish it it's a direct reflection

that you can it's a direct reflection of

the love that's in your life it's a

direct reflection of all the abundance

that you can achieve and I know it

sounds crazy because it's like but why

are they experiencing it and I'm not

well it's because of the attitude

honestly but just know that you even

seeing that and experiencing that type

of individual in your life experiencing

that means that it's reflecting in your

reality it's crazy how everything's a

mirror yeah because the law of one we

are all puzzle pieces of the same exact

puzzle

it's just one puzzle but it's a

collective Consciousness and that

realizing that too will help you like

stop carrying about people think for

real but a lot of people

just have not deconditioned their

thoughts people that just spew

negativity your weight don't love

themselves but I have opinions I have

opinions but they're never rooted in

Judgment at least not right away because

that's just an assumption you know what

I mean so it's like you just don't

really have those reactions when you

truly love yourself because you can see

yourself in everybody and you can see

the beauty of everything that is the art

of allowing it's like this trend to be

like oh I like being a hater like I live

for being a hater Okay Internet

personality don't let people mold your

own clay from their conditioned opinions

that they took from their uncles and

aunties and moms and dads who told them

that they were fat and ugly as a kid

that's not true hold your own clay

create your own art be art and fold like

water