The secret to manifesting and mastering discipline

Juliana Ashrifeh
22 Sept 202409:52

Summary

TLDRThis video offers practical advice on becoming disciplined, emphasizing the importance of accountability over motivation. The speaker explains that while motivation is temporary, discipline is built through consistent accountability. Key points include setting realistic goals, checking in with yourself regularly, and using tools like journaling to track progress. The speaker encourages viewers to stop waiting for the perfect moment and start taking action. By focusing on self-accountability, individuals can manifest discipline in their lives, leading to personal growth and success in their goals.

Takeaways

  • πŸ’‘ Discipline is not a temporary feeling, unlike motivation, which is fleeting and comes in highs and lows.
  • ⚑ Motivation signals what you want to do, but discipline is necessary to maintain consistency and dedication.
  • 🧭 Accountability is key to developing discipline. Without accountability, it’s hard to stay disciplined toward any goal.
  • πŸ“… External accountability, like deadlines from teachers or coaches, forces discipline, but self-accountability is essential for personal growth.
  • 🎯 Many people fail to develop discipline because they rely on external forces like teachers, employers, or coaches to hold them accountable.
  • πŸ“ Start by holding yourself accountable for small goals that you are motivated to achieve. Use this as a foundation for building discipline.
  • πŸ“– Tools like journaling can help with accountability by tracking progress, identifying struggles, and reflecting on strengths and weaknesses.
  • πŸ›  Set realistic goals by using the SMART framework: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely.
  • 🧠 Discipline requires regular self-reflection and adjustment. Checking in with yourself daily helps maintain progress and improve over time.
  • 🌱 The journey to discipline is gradual and requires patience. It’s important to care for yourself and make adjustments as needed, rather than expecting an instant transformation.

Q & A

  • What is the main difference between motivation and discipline according to the script?

    -Motivation is described as a temporary feeling, similar to emotions like happiness or anger, that comes and goes. Discipline, on the other hand, is a consistent practice that does not rely on fluctuating emotions.

  • How does accountability help in achieving discipline?

    -Accountability is key to achieving discipline because it helps bridge the gap between motivation and discipline. It ensures that you follow through on your goals, even when you lack motivation.

  • Can you give an example from the script where accountability led to discipline?

    -An example provided is in school settings: when a professor assigns a due date for homework, students are held accountable and are more likely to complete the assignment on time. Without a due date, many students would not do the work.

  • Why do people often struggle to hold themselves accountable?

    -Many people struggle with self-accountability because they are used to external sources (teachers, employers, coaches) holding them accountable. Without these external pressures, people tend to lose discipline.

  • What practical step does the speaker suggest for improving self-accountability?

    -The speaker suggests starting with small tasks that you have been wanting to do but haven't had the motivation for. This helps build the habit of accountability and discipline.

  • Why does the speaker recommend using a journal for accountability?

    -The speaker recommends journaling as a tool for accountability because it helps track progress, reflect on challenges and successes, and hold yourself to a standard each day.

  • What is a SMART goal, and how does it help in setting realistic objectives?

    -A SMART goal is Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely. This framework helps create clear and realistic goals that are easier to manage and accomplish.

  • Why does the speaker caution against waiting for the 'perfect time' to start something?

    -The speaker warns that waiting for the 'perfect time' is often an excuse to delay action. Perfection is rarely attainable, and waiting too long can prevent progress. Instead, it's important to start and improve along the way.

  • What benefit does the speaker highlight about checking in with yourself regularly?

    -Regular self-check-ins help you become more self-aware, allowing you to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses, and adjust your approach to achieve your goals more effectively.

  • How can practicing accountability lead to greater self-awareness?

    -Practicing accountability forces you to regularly evaluate your actions, identify areas for improvement, and understand how your habits impact your progress. This process naturally increases self-awareness and personal growth.

Outlines

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πŸ’ͺ Understanding Discipline vs. Motivation

The speaker introduces the concept of discipline, emphasizing the difference between motivation and discipline. Motivation is described as a temporary feeling, akin to emotional highs and lows, while discipline is consistent and long-lasting. The speaker explains how relying solely on motivation can lead to burnout, whereas discipline ensures steady progress. Motivation hints at what interests you, but discipline, supported by accountability, is what helps you stay committed. Accountability bridges the gap between motivation and discipline.

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πŸ”‘ The Importance of Accountability

Accountability is presented as the key to achieving discipline. The speaker argues that without accountability, it's impossible to be disciplined. They use examples from school, where students complete assignments because of deadlines set by teachers, and sports, where coaches hold athletes accountable for attending practice. Without these external forces, many would not complete tasks. The speaker stresses that people are too dependent on others for accountability and that this reliance results in a lack of self-discipline. They suggest reflecting on how others have kept us disciplined and how we need to build self-accountability.

πŸƒβ€β™€οΈ Start Small to Build Self-Discipline

To foster self-discipline, the speaker encourages starting small. They recommend choosing something you've always wanted to do but lack motivation for and using it as a challenge to build accountability. Starting a fitness journey is used as an example. The speaker highlights the common mistake of waiting for the perfect moment to begin and emphasizes that there's no perfect time. Instead, they advocate for starting now, setting a date, and just doing it. The speaker advises against overthinking and encourages taking immediate action towards goals.

πŸ“ Tools for Accountability and Journaling

The speaker shares practical advice on how to hold oneself accountable, recommending the use of tools such as journaling. They discuss their own use of multiple journals, each dedicated to a different area of life: content creation, deep thinking, self-reflection, professionalism, and personal growth. The speaker explains that documenting daily progress helps identify strengths and weaknesses, allowing for continuous improvement. They advocate for journaling as a way to track performance, hold oneself to a higher standard, and ensure personal accountability.

🎯 Setting Realistic Goals with SMART Framework

The speaker introduces SMART goals as an effective method for setting realistic and achievable objectives. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely. They explain that following this framework helps ensure that goals are grounded in reality and more likely to be accomplished. The speaker references a previous video for a deeper dive into SMART goals and promises that applying this system will significantly help in setting and reaching realistic goals.

πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ Self-Reflection and Accountability Check-ins

The speaker emphasizes the importance of regularly checking in with yourself during the journey toward accountability and discipline. They advocate for self-reflection to identify what worked, what didn’t, and how to improve for the next day. This process of continual self-awareness leads to greater discipline and self-understanding. The speaker reminds viewers that discipline is a gradual process, not something that happens overnight. By checking in with oneself, learning from each experience, and journaling regularly, you can become more disciplined over time.

🧠 Final Thoughts on Discipline and Accountability

In the conclusion, the speaker reiterates the importance of holding yourself accountable as the foundation for developing discipline. They stress that accountability helps build self-awareness and strengthens discipline over time. The key takeaway is that self-accountability is essential for achieving discipline, and the speaker hopes the advice provided has given viewers a realistic path to follow. They encourage viewers to focus on accountability as a daily practice and promise that this will lead to becoming more disciplined in all areas of life.

Mindmap

Keywords

πŸ’‘Discipline

Discipline refers to the ability to consistently pursue a goal or task, even when motivation is absent. In the video, discipline is described as a long-term practice that sustains actions, unlike motivation, which is temporary. The speaker emphasizes that accountability is the key to building discipline and encourages viewers to cultivate it by holding themselves accountable.

πŸ’‘Motivation

Motivation is described as a temporary emotional state that inspires action but quickly fades. The video contrasts motivation with discipline, explaining that relying solely on motivation often leads to inconsistency. Motivation provides initial enthusiasm for tasks, but discipline is necessary to achieve long-term success, as seen in the example of attending sports practice or working toward personal goals.

πŸ’‘Accountability

Accountability means taking responsibility for one’s actions, often with the help of external forces like deadlines, teachers, or coaches. In the video, accountability is presented as the mechanism that transforms motivation into discipline. For instance, the speaker explains how students complete assignments because professors hold them accountable through due dates, and the same principle applies to personal goals.

πŸ’‘SMART goals

SMART goals are a framework for setting realistic objectives, standing for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely. The speaker refers to this method as a way to set attainable goals, making it easier to hold oneself accountable and develop discipline. SMART goals ensure that objectives are clear and reachable, avoiding overwhelm and failure.

πŸ’‘Self-accountability

Self-accountability is the ability to hold oneself responsible for achieving goals without external pressures. In the video, the speaker highlights the importance of self-accountability in developing discipline, contrasting it with being dependent on others like employers or teachers. Self-accountability is crucial for personal growth, as it forces individuals to stay committed to their goals even when no one else is watching.

πŸ’‘Journaling

Journaling is a tool suggested by the speaker for tracking progress, documenting challenges, and holding oneself accountable. The speaker explains that keeping a journal helps maintain focus on personal growth by reflecting on both successes and failures. The speaker uses multiple journals to focus on different aspects of life, showing how this practice fosters discipline by maintaining a daily check-in system.

πŸ’‘External accountability

External accountability refers to relying on others, such as teachers, coaches, or employers, to enforce responsibility for tasks or goals. The video explains how external accountability often drives people to complete tasks, like meeting deadlines or attending sports practice. However, the speaker stresses the importance of transitioning to self-accountability to develop true discipline.

πŸ’‘Procrastination

Procrastination is the act of delaying or postponing tasks, often due to a lack of discipline or waiting for the 'perfect moment.' The speaker warns against procrastination, emphasizing that waiting for the right time or perfect conditions often leads to inaction. Instead, the speaker advises viewers to stop waiting and start working on their goals immediately to build discipline.

πŸ’‘Realistic goals

Realistic goals are objectives that are achievable based on an individual's current abilities and circumstances. The speaker stresses the importance of setting realistic goals to avoid burnout and failure. The SMART goals framework is recommended to help ensure that goals are realistic and manageable, providing a clear path to success and helping maintain discipline.

πŸ’‘Self-awareness

Self-awareness involves understanding one’s strengths, weaknesses, and patterns of behavior. The video encourages viewers to regularly check in with themselves during their journey toward discipline. Journaling and self-reflection are suggested methods for developing self-awareness, as they help individuals learn from their experiences and adjust their actions to improve performance and discipline.

Highlights

Discipline is not a temporary feeling, unlike motivation, which is short-lived and fluctuates.

Motivation can indicate what you're interested in, but it's discipline that keeps you committed to achieving your goals.

Accountability bridges the gap between discipline and motivation. Without accountability, discipline cannot be sustained.

Most people fail at discipline because they don't hold themselves accountable or set realistic goals.

External accountability, like from teachers or coaches, often leads to discipline. For example, students submit work on time due to deadlines.

In many aspects of life, we're used to someone else holding us accountable, which leads to a lack of self-discipline.

People often don't hold themselves accountable for personal goals, which contributes to a lack of discipline in today's society.

Start with small, manageable goals that you've always wanted to achieve but lacked motivation to complete.

It's important to stop waiting for the 'perfect moment' and take action now, even if you don't feel fully prepared.

Using tools like journals to track progress can help you stay accountable and focused on your goals.

The speaker uses five different journals to track various aspects of life, such as content creation, personal growth, and self-reflection.

SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely) are crucial for setting realistic objectives.

Regular self-check-ins and reflection help build discipline by increasing self-awareness and identifying areas for improvement.

Accountability is the foundation of discipline and can lead to greater self-awareness and growth.

The speaker emphasizes that discipline is built gradually, not overnight, and requires consistent self-reflection and adjustment.

Transcripts

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so you want to stop being a lazy bum and

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you want to learn how to be disciplined

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well this is the video for you my goal

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at the end of this video is to actually

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provide you with legit advice realistic

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advice for you to be disciplined I feel

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like there's so much advice on the

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internet when it comes to discipline but

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no one's giving something that's

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realistic and my goal here is by the end

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of this video in less than 10 minutes

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you have the realistic advice for you so

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let's get started first of all we need

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to identify the difference between

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motivation and discipline motivation is

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obviously a temporary feeling and

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discipline is not a temporary feeling

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when you think of motivation think of it

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as the feeling of like when you're angry

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at someone or when you're so so happy

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those feelings you get a high you get a

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low and then you're back to neutral

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State it's the same thing with

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motivation you get this extremely high

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and then now you're on this streak for 3

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4 days and then you burnt yourself out

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you're at this low and now you have to

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wait a long period until you reach

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neutral state to go back to motivation

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State that's why you never rely on

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motivation now motivation can give you a

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hint saying that what you want to do is

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actually something that you want to do

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so your motivation is going to tell you

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what you are interested in and what you

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will put dedication into but it's the

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discipline that you're missing that's

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going to allow you to be dedicated to

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the thing that you're motivated to do

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now what can bridge the gap between

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discipline and motivation is

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accountability accountability is key to

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achieving discipline accountability

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manifests discipline and without without

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accountability you cannot be disciplined

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and that's where a lot of people get

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stuck when they're trying to be

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disciplined to a goal they are not

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holding themselves accountable and

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number two their goal and the things

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that they're doing to achieve these

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goals are too much for them to handle

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you're not setting a realistic goal and

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later in this video I'm going to talk

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about smart goals to help you better

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make realistic goals anyway the

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manifestation of discipline is

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accountability and I want you to think

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about every area in your life where

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someone has held you accountable and you

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became disciplined because someone held

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you accountable think about school the

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professor says that you have a due date

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on Sunday at 11:59 this week the

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professor has held you accountable you

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don't want to do the assignment if the

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professor never had a due date I bet

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maybe about 60 70% of that class will

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not do that assignment but because the

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professor because the teacher put a due

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date on it you're going to get 80% 90%

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of that class who's going to turn in

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that assignment and do it on time that

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is because there's accountability you

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have something that's holding you

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accountable for this goal now let's be

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for real how many times has a teacher in

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your past given you a packet to do over

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the summer and they said it's optional

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it's going to help you become a better

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student and learn better about the

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subject did you actually do the packet

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no why because it wasn't graded nothing

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was holding you accountable so you

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didn't care about learning more about

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math you didn't care learning more about

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English you threw the packet in the

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garbage that is because the teacher has

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now put accountability on you you are

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accountable to learn math better you are

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now accountable to learn English better

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and if you want to enter the next grade

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with prior knowledge to what you're

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going to learn in the course this packet

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is for you and if you don't do it not

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necessarily you're going to be behind

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but it may be a little bit harder and

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it's the same thing with sports you need

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to attend practice every single day at a

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certain time your coach is the one

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holding you accountable and I bet

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there's maybe one day out of the week

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where you're so motivated to go to

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practice and then the other five

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practices you have no motivation but

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because your coach is holding you

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accountable you're going to practice and

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you have the discipline to go to

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practice now imagine there wasn't a

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coach would you go to practice would you

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practice the sport no you wouldn't

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unless you have mastered self

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accountability and you're willing to

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teach a sport to yourself sure but how

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realistic is that it's the same thing at

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work your employer is holding you

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accountable to do a certain project do a

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certain askask one do you think the

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business would be successful two do you

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think you would even be excelling in

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your job three do you even think that

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you're going to be doing the project

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that you're supposed to be doing no

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because no one is holding you

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accountable and that is the problem with

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today's society we are used to everyone

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holding us accountable but when is the

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last time you held yourself accountable

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to something that only you can see to

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something that you can only measure not

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that much we don't hold ourselves

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accountable a lot and that's why why a

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lot of people in this world lack

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discipline cuz we're so used to someone

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holding her hand in every way of life it

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might not seem like it but that is the

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truth your employer is holding your hand

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your professor your teacher is holding

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your hand your mom your dad your sibling

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is holding your hand if you eliminate

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all these people that are helping you

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hold yourself accountable to do the

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things that you do every single day

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would you still do the things that you

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do every single day most likely not that

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is why we lack discipline in today's

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society and that is most likely why you

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are lacking discipline so in order for

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you to manifest having discipline in

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your life you need to start holding

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yourself accountable and start holding

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yourself to a certain standard every

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single day and if that is something that

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you struggle with I highly recommend you

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start with something small what is

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something that you have been always

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wanting to do but you just don't have

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the motivation to do it all the time but

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you want to do it so bad you're going to

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go and do that and that is going going

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to be your challenge of how you can

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navigate accountability have fun with it

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if you starting a fitness journey relax

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with it don't take it too seriously

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you're new so educate yourself build

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realistic goals find people that can

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give you credible advice do the research

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while you're on the journey don't wait

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for the perfect time and that's also

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another problem too we wait a lot for

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the perfect time we wait until we're all

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educated we wait until we know what

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we're doing when real it we don't know

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what the hell we're doing and you have

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to stop waiting for these things stop

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waiting to educate yourself stop waiting

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for someone to hold your hand and take

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you to the gym or whatever goal you're

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trying to accomplish stop waiting set a

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date for yourself and start doing it on

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that day it's all in the process and

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that's what we all forget to do we wait

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for the perfect moment and when the

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perfect moment happens and it's not

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perfect as what we imagined it in our

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head we don't want to do it anymore and

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that is your problem okay so stop

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waiting for this perfect moment and just

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do it get out of bed and just do it now

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when it comes to holding yourself

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accountable find the tools that you need

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that can set you up for Success you want

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to make sure that you have the tools

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that will allow you to hold yourself

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accountable one tool that I'm using

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right now for my content creation

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journey is a journal I have a journal

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that's specifically just for Content

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creation and in this journal every

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single day I write what I did I write

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exactly what I did what I struggled with

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and what I did good at so when I wake up

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the next day and I work on my content

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creation I can look at this journal and

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be like all right today I need to work

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on what I struggled with yesterday and I

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repeat the same process I am holding

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myself to a standard and I'm holding

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myself accountable it's the same thing

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that you guys need to do whatever you

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are trying to accomplish in life I

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highly recommend having a journal that

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you can write in and document in and

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guys this is even more crazy I have five

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journals that I write in I have a big

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journal for deep thinking I I have my

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content creation Journal I have my

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self-reflection journal that I write in

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every single day just about what I did

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that day and then I have a professional

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Journal so anything that involves career

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growth professionalism and how I worked

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on that and then I have my personal

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growth so that includes like my social

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anxiety or like stuff like that and

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lastly I want to talk about setting

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realistic goals I have made an in-depth

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video of this before so that'll be

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linked below and it'll be linked at the

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end of this video for you to check out

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but anyway you want to set up something

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that's called smart goals these are

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specific measurable achievable relevant

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and timely goals and you want to follow

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that system when it comes to creating

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realistic goals for yourself in order

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for you to set yourself up for success

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and again watch that video for a more

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in-depth explanation of these smart

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goals and I promise it's going to help

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you guys a lot and to end this video I

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do want to say that when you're on this

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journey of holding yourself accountable

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I highly recommend that you always check

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in with yourself I think when you are on

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a journey of holding yourself

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accountable and practicing discipline

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and becoming more a disciplined person

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you start to reflect a lot on who you

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are and you learn a lot about yourself I

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recommend journaling because you get to

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see your strength and weaknesses and you

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get to see who you are check in with

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yourself take care of yourself when

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you're trying to hold yourself

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accountable and that is the biggest

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thing that a lot of us we really get

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stuck on we think that this is a journey

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that we have to start and go and our

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mind just flips and all of a sudden

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we're in this disciplined mode no that

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is not it and that is not realistic what

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is realistic is that you're checking up

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on yourself every single day if what you

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did was was related to the goal that

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you're trying to achieve or let's say

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you did work out today but you didn't

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perform your best what can I do tomorrow

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to make sure that I perform better do I

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need to sleep a little earlier do I need

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to eat more carbs before my workout what

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is it that you need to do and it helps

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you build more self-awareness practicing

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accountability just teaches you so much

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about yourself and you start having just

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a greater self-awareness and you build

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your discipline and I just highly

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recommend that that you guys focus on

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accountability because that is what's

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going to manifest discipline in your

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life now I hope this video gave you guys

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an explanation on how to become more of

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a disciplined person and the biggest

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takeaway I want you guys to have is just

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make sure that you're holding yourself

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accountable and I hope I provided you a

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realistic view on how you can hold

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yourself accountable but other than that

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I will see you guys in the next video

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