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Summary
TLDREste tercer episodio de la serie 'Guía del Caballero' se centra en el tercer pilar para atraer al 99% de las mujeres: construir un vínculo. Se define el vínculo como una confianza mutua, independientemente de la familiaridad. A diferencia de la comodidad, que se basa en la familiaridad y la predecibilidad, el vínculo es esencial para que una mujer se sienta segura y esté dispuesta a avanzar en la relación. Para crear un vínculo desde el principio, se sugiere imitar el lenguaje corporal de la mujer, evitar formalidades y adoptar un ambiente juguetón y respetuoso. Además, al hacer preguntas y escuchar atentamente sobre sus pasiones, se puede establecer una conexión emocional y evitar juzgarla, lo que fortalece la confianza y el atractivo.
Takeaways
- 😀 Para atraer a la mayoría de las mujeres, es fundamental construir una relación de confianza mutua, denominada 'rapport'.
- 🔗 La diferencia entre 'rapport' y 'comodidad' es crucial; el primero se centra en la confianza, mientras que el segundo en la familiaridad y la predecibilidad.
- 🤝 Para simular 'rapport', es importante entender la situación social y tener actitudes positivas hacia uno mismo y los demás.
- 🧠 Los 'mirror neurons' en el cerebro ayudan a comprender y relacionarse emocionalmente con los demás, lo que es esencial para construir 'rapport'.
- 🗣️ Imitar el lenguaje corporal de la mujer puede ser una herramienta efectiva para sincronizar la conexión emocional y fomentar el 'rapport'.
- 🚫 Evitar formalidades y mantener una actitud juguetona y divertida es esencial para no generar una atmósfera de entrevista y fomentar la confianza.
- 💬 Hacer preguntas y escuchar atentamente sobre los intereses y pasiones de la mujer ayuda a construir una conexión emocional más profunda.
- ❌ No juzgar a la mujer por sus respuestas o historias personales, ya que esto puede destruir rápidamente el 'rapport'.
- 💡 La comunicación efectiva, que involucra preguntas significativas y comentarios que reflejen tu personalidad, hace que seas más relatable y atractivo.
- 🔍 La atención al detalle y la capacidad de escuchar activamente son claves para mantener el 'rapport' y evitar el juicio, lo que a su vez fomenta la confianza.
Q & A
¿Qué es el tercer punto clave para atraer a las mujeres según la serie de videos?
-El tercer punto clave para atraer a las mujeres es construir una relación de confianza mutua, o 'rapport', que se define como la confianza mutua entre dos personas, independientemente del tiempo que han conocido.
¿Cuál es la diferencia entre 'rapport' y 'comodidad' en el contexto de la interacción con las mujeres?
-El 'rapport' es una conexión entre personas que se abren para conocerse mejor, mientras que la 'comodidad' se basa en la familiaridad y la predictibilidad. La comodidad es asociada con amigos y familiares, y no es necesariamente el ambiente que se desea crear al conocer a una mujer.
¿Por qué es importante construir 'rapport' desde el principio de una interacción con una mujer?
-Es importante construir 'rapport' desde el principio porque, aunque una mujer pueda sentir atracción, rara vez tomará un paso más a menos que se sienta segura y pueda confiar en la persona.
¿Cómo se puede simular el 'rapport' al interactuar con una mujer?
-Se puede simular el 'rapport' entendiendo la situación, teniendo más experiencias sociales y adoptando actitudes adecuadas hacia uno mismo y hacia los demás. Al sentirse cómodo y relajado, se puede transmitir esa sensación de 'rapport' a la mujer.
¿Qué es el primer consejo para construir 'rapport' con las mujeres según el guía?
-El primer consejo es imitar el lenguaje corporal de la mujer, ya que los humanos tienen neuronas espejo en el cerebro que facilitan la comprensión y la relación emocional.
¿Qué sugiere el guía para evitar el comportamiento formal al interactuar con las mujeres?
-El guía sugiere mantener una actitud juguetona y divertida, pero respetuosa, para evitar parecer formal y ser más atractivo al permitir que las mujeres se sientan cómodas y puedan disfrutar de la interacción.
¿Cómo se puede usar el poder de las palabras para construir 'rapport' con una mujer?
-Mediante hacer preguntas y animar a la mujer a hablar sobre temas que le apasionan, se puede construir 'rapport' al relacionarse a nivel emocional y mostrar interés genuino en sus pasiones y experiencias.
¿Por qué es importante no juzgar a una mujer cuando se está construyendo 'rapport'?
-Es importante no juzgar a una mujer para no destruir el 'rapport', ya que si ella siente que está siendo juzgada, se cerrará y dejará de sentirse cómoda y segura para abrirse.
¿Cuál es la importancia de escuchar atentamente al interactuar con una mujer según el guía?
-La escucha atenta es crucial para poder hacer preguntas más significativas y profundas basadas en lo que ella comparte, lo que a su vez fortalece la conexión y el 'rapport'.
¿Cuál es la siguiente parte de la serie sobre cómo atraer a las mujeres que se menciona en el guía?
-La siguiente parte es la cuarta y final de la serie, que se publicará en un par de días después de la tercera parte.
Outlines
😀 Construyendo Rapport para Atraer a las Mujeres
Este segmento del video guía a los hombres sobre cómo atraer a la mayoría de las mujeres, enfocándose en el tercer pilar: construir rapport. Se define el rapport como una confianza mutua independientemente del tiempo que hayan conocido. Se aconseja diferenciar el rapport de la comodidad, ya que la primera se basa en la familiaridad y la predecibilidad, mientras que el segundo es una conexión emocional que permite una mejor相知. Se sugiere que los hombres deben enfocarse en construir este tipo de conexión desde el principio, utilizando técnicas como el reflejo de la body language para simular el rapport y hacer que la mujer se sienta segura y atraída. También se menciona la importancia de no ser formal y mantener una actitud juguetona y respetuosa para evitar que la mujer se sienta incómoda o que la interacción parezca una entrevista.
😄 Manteniendo la Naturalidad y Evitando el Formalismo
El segundo párrafo continúa explicando estrategias para construir un buen rapport con las mujeres. Se insta a los hombres a evitar el formalismo y a ser espontáneos y divertidos, ya que el comportamiento formal puede hacer que las mujeres se sientan incómodas y pueda indicar una preocupación excesiva por parecer 'políticamente correcto'. Se sugiere que los hombres deben permitir que las mujeres se sientan cómodas y se diviertan, como si estuvieran jugando en un parque infantil. Además, se aconseja usar el poder de las palabras para hacer preguntas que despierten la pasión de la mujer y fomentar una conexión emocional. Se enfatiza la importancia de escuchar atentamente y no juzgar, para que la mujer se sienta segura y esté dispuesta a abrirse y compartir sus pensamientos y sentimientos.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Rapport
💡Confianza
💡Comodidad
💡Mirroring
💡Familiaridad
💡Formalidades
💡Juguetonería
💡Pasión
💡Preguntas significativas
💡No juzgar
Highlights
Building rapport is defined as mutual trust between two parties.
Rapport can be established regardless of the length of acquaintance.
Rapport is distinguished from comfort, which is based on familiarity and predictability.
Comfort is associated with friends and family, not the vibe for attracting romantic interest.
Building rapport is crucial for a woman to feel safe and trust a man.
Mirroring body language is a method to build rapport by simulating mutual feelings.
Humans have mirror neurons that facilitate emotional connection.
Men can simulate rapport by understanding the situation and having the right attitudes.
Mirroring body language includes matching speech speed, volume, and emotional tone.
Avoiding formalities is key to building rapport and trust.
Formal behavior can imply taking oneself too seriously or fear of offending others.
Adopting a playful and fun vibe helps avoid formality and enhances rapport.
Asking questions about a woman's passions can strengthen emotional connection.
Meaningful questions should focus on feelings rather than logical responses.
Listening is crucial for building rapport; it allows for deeper understanding and better questions.
Avoiding judgment is essential to maintaining rapport; it fosters trust and openness.
The video series aims to provide actionable advice on attracting women.
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Transcripts
welcome to the gentleman's guide this is
the third installment of my four-part
series on how to attract 99% of women if
you didn't get a chance to check out
part 1 & 2 on the first two keys to
attracting women make sure you check
that out so you have some context of
some of the concepts that I'll be
talking about we'll post a link right
here continuing from our last video
today we'll be going over the third key
to attracting women which is building
rapport for the purposes of this video
we'll define rapport as mutual trust
between two parties regardless of how
long they've known each other you can
describe it as a connection between
people opening up the path for them to
get to know each other better now let's
make the distinction between rapport and
comfort a feeling that's based on
familiarity and predictability while I
wouldn't go so far as to say that
comfort is a negative emotion for a
woman meeting you for the first time to
feel I also wouldn't say that it helps
you much
sure feeling comfortable around a
stranger is fine but we tend to
associate feelings of comfort with our
friends and family which is not the kind
of vibe that you want to be giving off
to her focus instead on building rapport
so let's say you've met this stunningly
gorgeous woman at a coffee shop line and
decide that you're feeling particularly
balls you that day you're flirting with
her making strong eye contact while
playfully commenting on her style of
dress you can see that she's potentially
becoming interested in you as well she's
laughing at your jokes asking you
questions trying to push the
conversation and smiling at you you feel
certain that she's quickly starting to
become attracted to you but when you ask
her if she'd like to go out on a date
with you next week she just blushes and
respectfully declines and you're left
feeling really confused so let's examine
this the thing that most guys don't
understand is that no matter how much a
woman feels initial attraction towards
you she'll rarely actually do anything
with you to take that next step
unless she feels like she can trust you
if you can build rapport with the woman
who's already attracted to you truly
make her feel safe then it becomes way
more likely that she'll reciprocate your
advances by building rapport the feeling
that you wouldn't try to manipulate or
take advantage of her you'll really open
up the possibility for her to invest
emotionally in you so the question is
how do you build rapport with a woman
from the very start so that this doesn't
happen remember when you first meet her
there is no report yet established
you're a complete stranger to her so how
can she trust you it's your job to build
rapport from the very beginning so that
she fills enough trust in you to really
go with the flow of the interaction the
first tip I have to build rapport with
women is to mirror her body language you
see humans have what are called mirror
neurons in our brains this is so that
it's easier for us to understand and
relate to each other on an emotional
level this means that whatever you feel
during the interaction she will also
feel and vice versa now I want to let
you in on a little secret you as a guy
can simulate the feeling of rapport yes
you can choose to feel comfortable you
can go up to a stranger a random woman
and feel as though you've known her for
years how do you do this well we do it
by understanding the situation by having
more social experiences and by having
the right attitudes about yourself and
about people the better you can
understand the social situation and how
she's feeling the more you'll be able to
simulate rapport in this way remember
that whatever you feel she will also
feel so when you simulate rapport when
interacting with her she'll begin to
pick up on this and start feeling
rapport as well that special trusting
connection that she rarely gets to
experience with a complete male stranger
when it's earlier on any interaction I
suggest marrying her body language if
she's talking fast talk a bit faster if
she speaking quietly lower your speaking
volume as well if she's perhaps a little
distant on her phone you can do the same
thing as well mirror the tone of her
voice or just a general vibe like if
she's feeling a bit happy or down
emulate that to what happens when you
mirror her body language is that you're
getting on the same frequency as her and
then subconsciously she'll start to feel
a connection this will be absolutely
huge to simulate the feeling of rapport
the next key for building rapport when
seducing a woman or earning her trust is
to avoid formalities imagine the
following scenario you meet a very cute
girl at a mutual friend's birthday party
you're curious what kind of a person she
is so you decide to try flirting with
her to your pleasant surprise she seems
to be contributing to the conversation
with an enthusiastic attitude you two
are talking effortlessly and things are
going well after a few drinks however
you start to run out of things to say
normally
balli you and you just joke about
anything but because you think this girl
is someone potentially special you're
afraid of saying something that'll make
her think you weren't as cool as she
thought you were so you start tenting up
becoming really serious you stop caring
about having fun and start focusing more
on how she perceives you and not wanting
to risk saying something weird or
unmanly she starts noticing that your
demeanor is all of a sudden more serious
more politically correct and less fun
and spontaneous eventually she's weirded
out by the difference in demeanor and
walks away the lesson of this story is
that when you're running out of things
to say don't default to behaving like
you're in an interview masking a part of
yourself to fit into what's socially
acceptable think about it not just women
but people in general already have to
act formal about 40 hours a week at work
where they constantly have to monitor
their behavior to not risk offending
someone people whether they admit it or
not want to groove around women in
particular want to be able to just let
go and have some fun the reason why
behaving too formal will make women feel
uncomfortable is because of what that
behavior can imply you either take
yourself too seriously or you act formal
because you're worried that you'll
offend someone unless you add
politically correct which implies that
if someone acts informal with you that
you might be offended women will be able
to sense this and it will stop you from
building rapport in a romantic sense so
ditch the workplace vibe from Monday to
Friday 9:00 to 5:00 only the best way to
avoid appearing to formal and serious is
to just adopt a playful and fun but
obviously respectful vibe when
interacting with women the truth is
everyone wants to be able to feel like a
kid again if they yearn for the days
when they could just say whatever silly
thing entered their minds and not be
shamed for it the way we are in the
adult world that you can let her
experience this like she's on a
playground again playing tag with a boy
that she has a crush on then she will be
hooked the last tip on building rapport
is using the power of words ask
questions and get her to talk about
something that she's passionate about I
don't care who you are everyone has
something that they love to talk about
you can casually bounce around different
conversational topics mirroring her body
language until you see that sparkle in
her eyes and facial expression when you
hit on a certain subject that is your
cue you jump on that thread and ask some
meaningful questions about that topic
got that strong emotional response the
key is to not ask her logical questions
but to ask her about her feelings about
that topic for example how do you feel
when you travel to Europe for the first
time what would you do with your life if
you knew you had no chance of failing
what's the most amazing thing that
you've ever experienced in your life and
so on and so on well the key here is to
be able to relate with her on an
emotional level people will naturally
feel comfortable and build trust with
someone when they talk to that person
about their passions never underestimate
the power of listening truly listen to
what she's saying so you can ask her
even better questions based on what
she's telling you now make sure that
you're not entering interview mode
between your questions you can throw in
a brief comment or opinion on it so that
she gets a feeling for your personality
this will make you so much more
relatable more human to her and that is
inherently attractive I want to touch on
one last thing regarding building
rapport through asking meaningful
questions never judge her no matter what
there is nothing that will kill rapport
faster than her feeling like you're
judging her if she starts to get the
feeling that you're a judgmental person
she will immediately shut off put
yourself in her shoes how would you feel
if you just opened up about this
vulnerable story about yourself about
something that you've rarely tell anyone
and then the person that you've made
yourself so vulnerable to just throw
that back in your face and judges you
for it how upset betrayed what you feel
so never judge her for whatever she has
to say gentlemen I hope you enjoyed the
video and that's it for the third
installment of my four-part series on
how to attract 99% of women make sure to
check out the fourth and final
installment of the series which I'll be
posting here in a couple of days if you
learn something valuable from this video
that you're excited to try click here to
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