3. does the battle with mental health ever end?

Summary

Ce script de vidéo aborde la longue et complexe lutte contre la santé mentale. L'auteur partage ses expériences personnelles, allant de la perte et du deuil à l'immigration, qui a exacerbé ses problèmes mentaux. Il discute de la déception face à la réalité que la santé mentale n'est pas quelque chose que l'on 'répare' complètement, mais plutôt géré au jour le jour. Il souligne l'importance d'un soutien et d'acquérir des compétences pour gérer les défis, reconnaissant que la vie est un processus d'apprentissage continu où chaque jour comptabilisé est une victoire.

Takeaways

• 🤔 L'auteur a réfléchi pendant de nombreuses années à la question de la fin de la lutte contre la santé mentale et soupçonne que la réponse est non.
• 🎥 Initialement prévu comme un script vidéo, le sujet a été repoussé car l'auteur craignait qu'il ne soit pas utile ou populaire.
• 🌱 L'auteur a commencé à penser à la santé mentale après une perte à l'âge de 12 ans, ce qui a été un tournant dans sa compréhension de la mort et de la disparition.
• 🌐 L'immigration a été un facteur clé qui a perturbé la santé mentale de l'auteur, en réveillant ses anciennes douleurs et en créant un épisode dépressif prolongé.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 La relation avec sa famille, en particulier sa mère, a souffert en raison de ses propres luttes avec la santé mentale, ce qui a entraîné des conflits fréquents.
• 📚 L'auteur a changé sa spécialisation de l'art à la psychologie, dans l'espoir de comprendre et de traiter sa propre santé mentale.
• 🧘 L'auteur a appris à gérer ses propres émotions et anxieties grâce à des techniques et des processus de pensée acquis lors de la thérapie.
• 💊 L'auteur a réalisé que la santé mentale n'a pas de solution définitive et que les médicaments ne font que gérer les symptômes.
• 👶 L'auteur a découvert que les enfants, tout comme les adultes, luttent avec leurs émotions et leur santé mentale quotidiennement.
• 🔄 L'auteur a observé que la vie continue d'apporter de nouveaux défis et que la santé mentale est un processus de gestion continue plutôt qu'une fin en soi.
• 🏆 Malgré le manque d'accomplissements matériels, l'auteur est fier de son parcours et de la stabilité de sa santé mentale actuelle.

Q & A

Quelle est la question principale abordée dans le script?

La question principale abordée dans le script est si la lutte contre la santé mentale se termine un jour.

Quel âge avait le narrateur lorsqu'il a commencé à réfléchir à la santé mentale?

Le narrateur avait 12 ans lorsqu'il a commencé à réfléchir à la santé mentale pour la première fois.

Quel événement a été un stresseur majeur pour le narrateur et a affecté sa santé mentale?

L'immigration a été un stresseur majeur pour le narrateur, qui a réveillé ses problèmes anciens et a déclenché une longue période de dépression.

Comment l'immigration a-t-elle affecté la relation du narrateur avec sa famille?

L'immigration a conduit à une détérioration de la relation du narrateur avec sa mère, qui traversait elle-même des difficultés de santé mentale, et a changé les attentances qu'elle avait envers lui.

Quel changement de vie a eu lieu pour le narrateur pendant sa dernière année de lycée?

Le narrateur a vécu un conflit avec son partenaire et a ensuite vécu la pandémie de COVID-19, qui a combiné avec les demandes d'admission à l'université pour le laisser complètement démoralisé.

Quelle décision importante a pris le narrateur après la fin de son lycée?

Après la fin de son lycée, le narrateur a décidé de voir un thérapeute en 2021 et a changé sa spécialisation de l'art à la psychologie.

Pourquoi le narrateur a-t-il arrêté de faire de la thérapie?

Le narrateur a arrêté de faire de la thérapie parce qu'il se sentait qu'il savait comment gérer ses problèmes de santé mentale mieux et que la thérapie ne lui apportait plus grand-chose.

Quelle est la réalisation du narrateur concernant la santé mentale après avoir étudié la psychologie?

Le narrateur a réalisé qu'il n'y a pas de solution définitive pour la santé mentale, mais plutôt des moyens de gérer les symptômes et de développer des compétences pour gérer les émotions.

Comment le travail avec des enfants a-t-il influencé la perspective du narrateur sur la santé mentale?

Le travail avec des enfants a aidé le narrateur à comprendre que les enfants luttent aussi avec leurs émotions et leur santé mentale, ce qui lui a donné une nouvelle perspective sur les défis émotionnels que chacun rencontre tout au long de la vie.

Quelle est la conclusion du narrateur sur la lutte contre la santé mentale?

Le narrateur pense que la lutte contre la santé mentale ne se termine pas, mais qu'elle devient plus facile à gérer au fil du temps, ce qui est la meilleure chose que l'on puisse espérer.

Outlines

00:00

🤔 L'exploration de la santé mentale

Le narrateur réfléchit depuis 11 ans à une question clé sur la santé mentale, qu'il n'est toujours pas sûr de pouvoir résoudre. Il a envisagé de réaliser cette vidéo dès le début de sa chaîne, mais s'est retrouvé pris dans la nécessité de créer du contenu utile pour attirer des abonnés. Avec le temps, il a réalisé qu'il ne deviendrait pas un créateur de contenu à temps plein et a donc décidé de partager son expérience sans se soucier de la popularité ou de l'utilité de la vidéo. Il commence à raconter son histoire depuis l'âge de 12 ans, lorsqu'il a connu pour la première fois la perte et le deuil, et comment ces expériences ont influencé sa compréhension de la santé mentale. Il évoque également l'immigration comme un facteur clé qui a perturbé son état mental, provoquant un épisode dépressif prolongé et des tensions familiales.

05:02

📚 Éducation et prise de conscience

Le narrateur décrit comment la fin de son lycée, la rupture avec son partenaire et les applications universitaires l'ont laissé démuni. Il a dû effacer tout contenu numérique et se concentrer sur la reconstruction de sa vie. Il parle de ses expériences positives, notamment avoir trouvé un emploi à temps plein et avoir commencé à suivre un thérapeute en 2021, qui a été bénéfique. Il a également changé sa spécialisation universitaire de l'art à la psychologie, dans l'espoir de comprendre et de traiter sa propre santé mentale. Cependant, après deux ans et demi de thérapie, il a décidé d'arrêter, estimant avoir appris comment gérer ses propres émotions et anxiétés. Il partage également son évolution dans la compréhension que la santé mentale n'est pas quelque chose que l'on 'répare' définitivement, mais plutôt un ensemble de symptômes à gérer au quotidien.

10:02

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Le rôle de la technologie et la prise en charge des enfants

Le narrateur discute de l'impact de la technologie sur notre capacité à nous connecter avec nos propres pensées et sur notre santé mentale. Il mentionne que la technologie peut être une distraction qui nous empêche de traiter les événements de notre vie. Il exprime également son opinion que la vie adulte avec ses stress modernes ne peut pas être exempte de luttes mentales, et que la clé est de savoir comment gérer ces moments. Il partage son expérience de travailler avec des enfants, ce qui lui a permis de comprendre qu'ils luttent aussi avec leurs émotions et leur santé mentale. Il souligne l'importance d'un soutien et d'apprendre des techniques pour se stabiliser mentalement.

15:03

💪 La fierté de surmonter les défis

Le narrateur conclut en disant qu'il n'y a pas de fin définitive à la lutte pour la santé mentale, mais que cela devient plus facile avec le temps. Il exprime sa fierté de surmonter les défis de la vie malgré le manque d'accomplissements matériels ou professionnels. Il souligne l'importance de la résilience et de la satisfaction de se lever chaque jour et de continuer à avancer. Il remercie ses amis et souligne que les relations humaines sont précieuses et font partie intégrante de son parcours. Il espère que son histoire peut résonner avec d'autres et les aider à comprendre leur propre parcours dans la santé mentale.

Keywords

💡Santé mentale

La santé mentale fait référence à l'état d'équilibre émotionnel et psychologique d'une personne. Dans le script, l'auteur aborde sa propre expérience de la santé mentale, y compris les périodes de dépression et d'anxiété, et comment elle a appris à gérer ces sentiments. L'importance de la santé mentale est soulignée par la manière dont elle affecte la capacité de la personne à fonctionner au quotidien et à surmonter les obstacles de la vie.

💡Dépression

La dépression est un trouble mental caractérisé par une tristesse profonde et persistante, souvent associé à un manque d'intérêt ou de plaisir dans les activités habituelles. Dans le script, l'auteur mentionne avoir traversé des épisodes dépressifs, notamment après un déménagement et des changements significatifs dans sa vie, illustrant comment la dépression peut survenir en réponse à des événements stressants.

💡Anxiété

L'anxiété est une condition psychologique qui se manifeste par des sentiments excessifs d'inquiétude et de crainte. L'auteur décrit son expérience avec l'anxiété, y compris comment elle a appris à identifier et à gérer ces sentiments pour éviter de s'enfuir ou de réagir de manière négative aux situations. Cela montre comment l'anxiété peut être un obstacle dans la vie quotidienne et les stratégies pour y faire face.

💡Thérapie

La thérapie est un processus de counseling ou de traitement qui aide les individus à comprendre et à gérer leurs émotions, comportements et relations. L'auteur parle de son expérience en thérapie, y compris les techniques et les connaissances qu'elle a acquises pour gérer son anxieux et sa dépression, et la décision de mettre fin à la thérapie lorsqu'elle se sentait capable de gérer ses sentiments par elle-même.

💡Psychologie

La psychologie est l'étude scientifique de la mentalité humaine et du comportement. L'auteur mentionne avoir changé sa spécialisation d'art à psychologie, montrant son intérêt pour comprendre les mécanismes de la santé mentale et pour aider d'autres personnes. Cela reflète la manière dont la psychologie peut être utilisée pour aider à traiter et à prévenir les problèmes de santé mentale.

💡Stress

Le stress est une réaction physique et émotionnelle à des événements perçus comme difficiles ou menaçants. Dans le script, l'auteur aborde comment l'immigration et d'autres changements significatifs dans sa vie ont été des sources importantes de stress, contribuant à des problèmes de santé mentale tels que la dépression et l'anxiété.

💡Soutien

Le soutien fait référence à l'aide, le encouragement et la compassion fournis par d'autres personnes, souvent pour aider à gérer les difficultés. L'auteur souligne l'importance d'un système de soutien pour aider à gérer les défis de la santé mentale, y compris la thérapie, les amis et la famille, et comment cela a aidé à améliorer sa propre santé mentale.

💡Technologie

La technologie est l'ensemble des outils, des machines et des systèmes utilisés pour atteindre un objectif. L'auteur discute de la manière dont la technologie peut être une distraction et empêcher les gens de traiter leurs pensées et émotions, contribuant ainsi à des problèmes de santé mentale. Cela met en évidence les avantages et les inconvénients de la technologie dans la gestion de la santé mentale.

💡Auto-acceptation

L'auto-acceptation est le processus d'acceptation et d'appréciation de soi-même, y compris les imperfections et les défauts. L'auteur parle de son cheminement vers l'acceptation de ses propres réalisations et de la valeur de simplement continuer à avancer malgré les défis, illustrant l'importance de l'auto-acceptation dans la santé mentale.

💡Relations familiales

Les relations familiales sont les dynamiques et les interactions entre les membres d'une famille. Le script aborde les défis dans les relations familiales de l'auteur, notamment avec sa mère, et comment ces relations ont évolué et ont été réparées au fil du temps, montrant comment les relations familiales peuvent affecter la santé mentale.

Highlights

The speaker has been contemplating the question of whether mental health struggles ever end for over 11 years.

They initially believed that all content posted should be useful for channel growth, but now they've shifted their perspective.

The concept of mental health first occurred to the speaker at the age of 12 after experiencing loss and grief.

Immigration was a significant stressor that triggered a long-term depressive episode for the speaker.

The speaker's relationship with their mother declined due to her own mental health struggles and changing expectations.

The speaker felt unfairly treated compared to their brother, leading to frequent arguments.

The pandemic and a breakup contributed to a period of feeling completely destroyed.

Despite hardships, the speaker found positives, such as working a full-time job and gaining financial independence.

The speaker began seeing a therapist in 2021, which was a significant step in their mental health journey.

Switching majors to psychology was motivated by a desire to understand and potentially fix mental health issues.

The speaker quit therapy in 2024 after gaining tools to manage their anxiety and depression.

Working with children made the speaker realize that mental health struggles are present from a young age.

The speaker acknowledges that there is no simple solution or end to mental health struggles, but managing them becomes easier over time.

Technology may exacerbate mental health issues by preventing us from processing our thoughts and feelings.

The speaker reflects on the importance of having a support system and learning techniques to stabilize mental health.

Despite not achieving traditional milestones, the speaker is proud of their personal growth and the relationships they've built.

The speaker concludes that the battle with mental health may never end, but it becomes more manageable, which is the best outcome to hope for.

Transcripts

I have pondered about the question in

the title of this video for so long like

11 years maybe maybe more and the true

real answer is I'm not sure but I

suspect that the answer is no and I had

the thought of recording this video back

when I started this whole Channel back

in February which was 7 months ago and I

just never got around to it because it's

not something I could write a script for

and I thought it wouldn't be useful and

I thought everything I post would have

to be useful because I really wanted to

grow my channel and now that I don't

really care about that anymore and now

that I realize that I was never going to

be a full-time YouTuber or full-time

content creator I can finally do it with

no concerns for whether this video will

blow up or people will find it useful or

anyone will ever find it or watch it and

honestly nobody might because I haven't

posted in weeks if not months and we all

know that internet algorithms reward

constant posting and punish opposite I'm

going to start from the first time I

ever thought of the concept of mental

health or understood it was a thing I

think that was when I was 12 and I had

experienced loss and grief for the first

time ever in my life that was when I had

realized that people don't live forever

you stop existing at one point it was a

really scary thought but it was also

fascinating in a way because I had never

thought about that before and I was just

wondering what happens after you stop

existing but of course nobody knows so

nobody could help me with that right but

because up to that point my life had

been pretty average and uneventful and I

had family and friends around me I was

eventually able to kind of get over

without much trouble I didn't experience

any Mental Health crisis or anything I

just grieved and then I stopped grieving

because time passed and life kept

happening the next big thing in my life

that really shook up my mental health

was immigration and I think that because

it was such a huge stressor brought out

every other little problem that had

piled on up to that point it definitely

brought my grief back up I remember

thinking about my grief from when I was

12 during the whole immigration process

a lot like all day every day for a few

months because the IM migration brought

up all these past things that I kind of

have been able to get over and kind of

like store away they were now coming

back up because I had nothing to

distract myself with I was in a new

place where I don't speak the language I

don't know anyone I can't do anything

yet because it was summer and I hadn't

started school yet so I didn't have

other things to focus on so all I could

do is wallow in my depression that was

the first time I truly experienced like

a long longterm depressive episode that

lasted at least a year if not more

another thing that immigration had led

to was that my relationship with my

family especially my mom had declined

because she herself was going through

her own mental health struggles and

suddenly the expectations she had put on

me changed very dramatically so I just

felt I was being treated fairly and I

didn't understand at the time why she

was treating me this way and so the

natural answer that came into my head

was that I was either not good enough or

I had done something and she had started

hating me and I also felt like my

brother who probably because he was

younger the expectations on him were not

nearly as high I felt really unfair

about that and I thought what does he

have that I don't why did my mom start

hating me and not him and so this

thought process would lead to us having

a lot of fights on a daily basis about

every trivial little thing and also the

big things too like our values didn't

align her thinking was more traditional

and my thinking was more Progressive

about basically every issue all

throughout high school that I lived with

that thought of oh my family hates me

then in my senior year of high school

the pandemic happened right before that

was when my partner at the time and I

had broken up for the last time those

two things combined together combined

with like college applications and all

that I was completely destroyed so I had

to delete everything I had to wipe my

phone in my laptop and I just kept

thinking that I did something wrong or

it was my fault or I ruined everything

however of course there were positives

with all the negative things that were

happening in my life there were also POS

positive things happening in my life for

example because high school was over and

college was 100% online for my first

year of going to college I was able to

have a full-time day job for the first

time and it was horrendous it was

working in fast food but it gave me a

taste of money and grownup life and I

was able to save up a bunch I ended up

separating from my family at 20 I think

19 or 20 I decided to start seeing a

therapist in 2021 which was great I also

decided to switch my major from art to

psychology which was also great and I

actually quit therapy at the beginning

of this year like in January of 2024 so

I was in therapy for 2 and a half years

or so but the reason I quit therapy was

not because I stopped feeling socially

anxious generally anxious about

everything in life or that I wasn't

depressed anymore that my room didn't

get dirty anymore it was just that I

felt like I knew how to deal with it

better one before I didn't even realize

while I was feeling anxious that that

was anxiety I thought that was just how

I am as a person I thought it was part

of my personality and so being able to

in the moment identify that I am

experiencing anxiety right now is like a

huge thing that helps you calm down in

the moment and then I also learned

techniques and thought processes that I

could Implement to not spiral to not let

the anxiety get out of control and make

me literally like flee the situation or

say something mean that might hurt

somebody or start disassociating and

then completely messing up whatever I'm

doing because I'm literally mentally not

present I've learned the skills to not

do all of those things and so I felt

like therapy wasn't really giving me

anything anymore which is why I quit

when I started therapy which was around

the same time that I switched my major

to psychology my belief was that you can

fix depression you can fix anxiety you

can fix mental health like there was

some sort of a solution at the end of

the tunnel and that is why I wanted to

focus on working with adults as licensed

clinician to help people in that way my

selfish plan was that as I was learning

to be a clinical psychiatrist or

psychologist that I would figure out

what was wrong with me and also be able

to fix it fix myself by learning about

psychology if that makes sense and I

feel like a lot of people who go into

psychology go into it with that mindset

but as you learn more about it you

realize that there literally isn't a

solution the medications that Clin

prescribed to people are just to manage

their symptoms on a day-to-day basis to

make them functional enough to be able

to go through the day but it is not the

solution you can't fix your hormones to

where they're are going to stay balanced

forever you can't fix yourself to where

you'll never feel sad or anxious or

hopeless or depressed ever again in your

life like that is just not a thing

another thing that kind of happened in

my life by my chance but it ended up

being so good was that I started working

with kids and I stumbled upon the job

unexpectedly and I never expected to get

hired but it's been a year it made me

realize that they are struggling with

big feelings on a daily basis too and

they're struggling with their mental

health all the time too and just because

I don't remember struggling with that

cuz I just don't have memories of what

happened when I was that young that does

doesn't mean I didn't struggle it just

means I got through it you know so if

kids who are in theory should have

caregivers who help with their needs

most of the time again in theory if

you're lucky if you're privileged you

have caregivers who take care of you of

your basic needs at least most of the

time still struggle with mental health

then how are you ever going to imagine

that when you're an adult and nobody is

taking care of your basic needs anymore

besides you and you also have modern

societal stressors like attacking you

from every corner at all times that you

are not going to struggle mentally the

point is not to never struggle mentally

again the point is to know what to do

when it happens the point is to have a

support system when it happens to help

you get through it the point is to learn

techniques of how to restabilize

yourself again and again again and again

and that is basically life there's no

simple solution there's no pill that

fixes you there's no event that's ever

going to happen that's going to keep you

happy for the rest of your life

basically what I'm trying to say is as

you go through life your triggers change

you're never going to have a

trigger-free life that's just how life

is I feel like the development of

technology has made this whole thing

even worse because if before like before

technology was a thing people had time

to be in their thoughts and nowadays all

of our free time is taken up by

technology which is distracting us from

our own thoughts so if you don't ever

journal or like spend technology free

time where you're not listening to

anything you're not reading anything

you're not doing anything you're just

like walking around with no background

noise or you're like washing the dishes

or taking the shower with no podcast no

music no nothing like when do you ever

when do you ever process anything that

happens in your life you know what I

mean and there's just so much more bad

stuff that we are aware of because of

Technology like global warming and

conflicts that are happening in the

world at all times that we weren't aware

of before so if you're an especially

sensitive and empathetic person hearing

all of those things and learning about

all those things is going to make daily

life that much harder before you get

healed from any one thing like 10 more

things happen and there's bad going

on in the world there's just no point

where you're ever going to be 100% happy

or 100% healed that's just a fact I used

to think that achieving certain

Milestones or doing a certain thing or

having a certain amount of money would

like make me happy for a prolonged

period of time first I thought it was

forever then I was like yeah that's not

happening but maybe it could make me

happy for a prolonged period of time but

even that is not happening because other

things are just going to keep happening

and a lot of them aren't going to be

good because that's just how life is

okay so I'll close out with this I was

talking to my mom on the phone recently

and I talk to her a lot now because

we've fully been able to repair our

relationship for the most part and I

don't have any negative feelings towards

her or anyone else any and she was

saying that she has noticed how much

I've changed and how much I've grown and

how much my mental health has stabilized

and she was basically validating and

acknowledging how much hard work I had

to put towards myelf development to get

to this point where I am no longer a

ball of nerves or a ball of depression

or a ball of anxiety and I can function

on a daily basis without a therapist and

it made me think about how it's been

almost four years since I moved out and

separated from my family and if I really

think about it I don't really have much

to show for it because I did not start a

successful business I have nothing to my

name really I'm renting a room I don't

own anything I don't even have a degree

yet because I had to take multiple

breaks throughout to just catch up

financially or give myself a mental

break and this despite that I'm still

proud of myself because I'm still here

okay and every day that I wake up I and

I get through the day is fine it's still

that day even if I didn't do anything

productive that day still mattered

because I got through it and I'm coming

to terms with the fact that it is okay

to work as hard as you have ever worked

in your life for 4 years straight and

still have nothing to show for it

because the fact that you're still

here is something to show for it the

fact that you worked for 4 years and

achieved basically nothing is something

it's something to be proud

of and every friend I've met along the

way during these four years which I've

met so many and I could not be more

grateful for all of

them if I haven't done everything that

I've done in these four years I would

have never met those

people and just that

alone makes everything worth it and it

means I haven't wasted any time so to go

back to the question I post at the

beginning of this video and in the title

does the battle with mental health ever

end I think my answer is still no but I

think it gets easier and that's the best

any of us could ask for it's definitely

the best that I could ask for so I hope

this resonated with some of you and you

got something out of this and I will see

you in the next one