How to say hi to any girl any time with no stress (easiest method)
Summary
TLDRIn this educational video, the host addresses common anxieties around approaching and greeting women, offering practical advice for men to improve their social skills. He emphasizes the importance of eye contact, body language, and maintaining a comfortable distance during initial interactions. The host shares his personal journey from nervousness to confidence and provides actionable tips, such as using observational comments and compliments to start conversations. He also discusses the four common responses one might receive and how to proceed accordingly. The video concludes with a call to action for viewers to apply these lessons and offers resources for further learning and coaching.
Takeaways
- π Start with confidence: When approaching someone, especially someone you're attracted to, it's important to project confidence through your body language and tone of voice.
- π Maintain eye contact: Making and holding eye contact is crucial as it shows you are genuinely interested and not trying to hide your intentions.
- πββοΈ Use body language: Non-verbal cues like turning your body towards the person and slowing down your pace can signal your interest in starting a conversation.
- π« Avoid crossing personal space: Respect the other person's personal space and don't obstruct their path or get too close too quickly, which can be perceived as threatening.
- π Be approachable: Keep your body language open and relaxed, and wear a smile to appear friendly and approachable.
- π£οΈ Keep it simple: A simple greeting like 'hi' is often more effective than a complicated pickup line or excuse to start a conversation.
- π Read responses: Pay attention to how the other person reacts to your approach. If they smile or say 'hi' back, it's an invitation to continue the conversation.
- π¬ Engage in conversation: After the initial greeting, follow up with a compliment or an observational comment to keep the conversation flowing naturally.
- β° Respect time: Be mindful of the other person's time and situation. If they seem to be in a hurry, acknowledge it and adjust your approach accordingly.
- π Handle rejection gracefully: If the person does not respond positively, do not take it personally and move on. It's important to respect their decision and not push further.
Q & A
What is the main focus of the video?
-The main focus of the video is teaching viewers, particularly men, how to approach and greet a girl confidently.
Why is the ability to approach and say 'hi' to someone important according to the video?
-The video suggests that the ability to approach and say 'hi' to someone is crucial for one's career, social circles, dating life, and overall confidence.
What is the first step the video recommends when approaching someone?
-The first step recommended is making eye contact and using body language to signal interest in starting a conversation.
How should one maintain eye contact according to the video?
-When making eye contact, one should hold it without looking away or acting ashamed, signaling confidence and interest.
What is the significance of body language when approaching someone, as per the video?
-Body language is significant as it communicates interest and sets the tone for the interaction. It should be open, relaxed, and respectful of personal space.
What should one avoid doing when someone is walking towards them, as mentioned in the video?
-One should avoid jumping in front of the person or obstructing their path, as it can be perceived as an invasion of personal space and uncomfortable.
How does the video suggest handling a situation where the person you're approaching might be in a hurry?
-If the person appears to be in a hurry, the video advises being more assertive with body language and voice, and acknowledging their haste in the conversation.
What is the recommended approach if the girl seems to ignore the initial greeting?
-If the girl ignores the initial greeting, the video recommends moving on without taking it personally and trying again with someone else.
What should one do after making initial contact and getting a positive response, according to the video?
-After getting a positive response, one should either compliment the girl or make an observational comment to continue the conversation.
How does the video suggest transitioning from a casual greeting to a potential date or further interaction?
-The video suggests transitioning by bringing up a shared interest or activity during the conversation and then proposing to do that activity together in the future.
Outlines
π Overcoming Approach Anxiety
The speaker begins by addressing the common issue of men avoiding initiating conversations with women due to anxiety or fear of rejection. He emphasizes the importance of overcoming this hurdle for personal and professional growth. The speaker shares his personal journey, starting from being awkward in approaching strangers to becoming proficient through practice. He highlights the significance of non-verbal communication, such as maintaining eye contact and using body language to signal interest, and warns against crossing personal boundaries or making people feel uncomfortable.
π Mastering Eye Contact and Body Language
This section delves deeper into the non-verbal aspects of approaching someone, particularly the importance of eye contact and body language. The speaker advises maintaining eye contact when noticed and using subtle body movements to indicate a desire to engage in conversation. He explains how to properly position oneself without invading personal space and the significance of allowing the other person to set the distance, ensuring they feel in control and comfortable. The speaker also clarifies common mistakes, such as abruptly cutting someone's path, and stresses the need for a relaxed and open posture.
π¬ The Art of Greeting and Starting Conversations
The speaker moves on to the verbal aspect of initiating conversation, stressing the simplicity of greeting someone by saying 'hi' and using observational comments or compliments to break the ice. He shares examples of how to use the person's attire or surroundings to start a conversation naturally. The speaker also discusses the different types of responses one might receive, such as a smile, a verbal greeting in return, or being ignored, and advises on how to handle each scenario appropriately.
π Building the Connection Through Compliments and Comments
Here, the speaker focuses on the next steps after a successful greeting, which include giving compliments or making comments to build rapport. He suggests complimenting something the person has control over, like their outfit, rather than their physical features. The speaker also illustrates how to make observational comments about the environment or situation to continue the conversation naturally. He emphasizes the importance of being genuine and not overly focused on impressing the other person.
πΆββοΈ Handling Different Scenarios and Closing the Interaction
The speaker addresses various scenarios that might arise during an interaction, such as dealing with someone who appears to be in a hurry or seems uninterested. He advises adjusting one's approach accordingly, using humor or directness to match the situation. The speaker also covers how to gracefully end the conversation by suggesting future activities based on shared interests and exchanging contact information. He encourages viewers to be confident and not to take rejection personally.
πββοΈ Advanced Tips for Approaching and Engaging
In the final section, the speaker offers advanced tips for approaching women who may appear to be in a hurry or have a resting 'angry' face. He stresses the importance of maintaining a positive and approachable demeanor to counteract any negative vibes. The speaker also discusses the psychological aspect of validation and how a simple conversation can positively impact someone's day. He wraps up by promoting his courses and community for further learning and support, and encourages viewers to apply the techniques discussed in their daily lives.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Eye Contact
π‘Body Language
π‘Personal Space
π‘Approach Anxiety
π‘Compliment
π‘Observational Comments
π‘Confidence
π‘Social Circles
π‘Validation
π‘Resting Bitch Face (RBF)
Highlights
The video aims to teach viewers how to approach a girl and say hi, addressing common excuses men make to avoid initiating conversation.
Inability to initiate conversation can put one at a disadvantage in various aspects of life, including career and social circles.
The speaker shares personal experience, having started as someone who struggled with approaching strangers but improved over time.
The importance of maintaining eye contact when approaching someone is emphasized as a key nonverbal communication aspect.
Proper body language, such as turning towards the person you wish to approach, signals your interest in talking to them.
Avoiding the mistake of stepping into someone's personal space or obstructing their path when approaching is advised.
The speaker explains how to use body language to show interest without being too intrusive.
Maintaining a relaxed and open body language is crucial for appearing non-threatening and approachable.
The video demonstrates how to say hi by making eye contact, stopping, and allowing the other person to set the distance.
Commenting on something the person is wearing or an observation about the environment is suggested as an icebreaker.
The speaker clarifies that using pickup lines is not necessary and can come across as insincere.
After initiating the conversation, the speaker recommends transitioning into a compliment or an observational comment.
The importance of being genuine and not trying to impress by pretending to be someone else is highlighted.
The video outlines the four typical responses one might receive when initiating a conversation and how to handle each.
If the person ignores the initial greeting, the speaker advises moving on without taking it personally.
The speaker provides tips for restarting the approach if the initial greeting was missed or not clearly directed.
The video concludes with advice on how to transition from a greeting to a full conversation and eventually exchanging contact information.
Additional scenarios, such as approaching someone in a hurry or who appears angry, are discussed with tailored advice.
The speaker encourages viewers to join his community or courses for further guidance on overcoming approach anxiety.
Transcripts
what's up boss welcome back to the
classroom in today's video I'm going to
teach you how to approach a girl and say
hi now you might be wondering wow we
really need a video on this yes it's
2024 and the majority of men just find
any kind of excuse there is to not go
and say hi to a girl and this is a big
problem because if you're unable to go
and talk to people you're at a massive
disadvantage in your career in your
Social Circles in your dating and your
overall confidence so trust me man I
know you're in a position where right
now you feel like it's hard to go and
talk to people you have like anxiety to
go and say hi to a girl that you are
attracted to or maybe make a friend with
a guy but don't worry by the end of this
video I'm going to have a very simple
solution for you so that the next time
you see a girl and you want to go and
say hi to her you will 100% okay now
before we begin I just want to tell you
a little bit of background on me I
essentially spent years doing this it
was my full-time job I started making
like prank and com videos in around 2018
and essentially I had to go out all day
and approach and talk to strangers and
at first I sucked dude I'd see a girl
I'd like look at the ground I'd be
afraid I'd be like oh yeah I'm not going
to go talk to her or even when I did go
and talk to a girl I would like stumble
over my words i' like hey uh I thought
you're cute you know I would just kind
of spazz out and it was cringe it was
really hard to watch and I had to watch
it because i' I'd film it right and I'd
look back on these videos and I'd be
like oh man maybe I should try something
else right but I did it enough times
that I got really good at it and because
I did it so many times I picked up on
all these really small things that most
other content creators have never
experienced before so trust me when I
say this is the best way to do it
whatever you want to do if it involves
saying hi to somebody you don't know it
works every time okay so step number one
eye contact and Body Language this might
sound like basic review but you'd be
amazed how much communic is done by our
body language so let's say you're
walking down the street you see a girl
right your instinct is probably to look
at her but then if she looks back at you
hide that you looked at her you know you
feel like shame that you looked at
somebody you see her you make eye
contact with her she looks back you're
like you're you're trying to pretend as
if you weren't looking at her right this
is a mistake what you do is if you make
eye contact with somebody you hold the
eye contact you maintain it okay and I
don't mean like being creepy and just
like you know following them and staring
them down but what I mean is if you're
looking at somebody so let's say you
know you notice a girl you want to talk
to her she looks back at you maintain
eye contact okay the next thing you need
to do is signal with your body language
that you would like to talk to her
here's what I mean let's say you see a
girl okay the camera is the girl right
I'm walking along I see the girl she
looks back that's what I do simple a sub
nood that's it that's it if my body's
this way right and I see her I turn turn
my body while holding eye contact okay
if I'm walking see her I either stop or
I kind of turn my direction a little bit
I slow down kind of pivot towards
essentially your body language is
showing that you are interested okay now
this is important because if she doesn't
know you're interested or if she doesn't
know that you're looking at her she's
not going to know how to respond so
again let's play out the other scenario
you're walking you see her you keep
walking what do you think she's going to
stop and talk to you no of course not
let's do another situation right you see
her you look at her she looks back
you're
like you know how many times I've done
that or I've seen a girl she's cute I'm
like ah [Β __Β ] you know so I don't want
that to be you either okay that doesn't
work and then there's others you see her
you
go you don't want to do that either
that's a little bit too far okay instead
nice and simple all right you see her
and you walk towards her a little bit
here's the other thing too a lot of guys
get this wrong so I'm going to really
clear it up okay if you're walking and
there's a girl walking right
naturally you guys would walk past each
other you'd be walking she goes by you
right or you're walking this way and she
passes You by this way the big mistake
guys do is let's say you know she's
going to walk past you is
you jump in front of her her like this
so basically let's say she's going to
pass me on this side I'm walking this
way and I go jump in front of her don't
ever do that that's a [Β __Β ] stupid
move okay because now what you're doing
is you're stepping into her personal
space and you're also preventing her by
standing in the way so basically like if
I'm going this way and all of a sudden
somebody comes in front of me right
they're setting a distance to me I
didn't set that distance they set the
distance that's way too close one and
two they're getting in my way they're
obstructing me right and that is going
to set off a little bit of an alarm for
somebody if you're walking and somebody
just jumps in front of you right so
instead what you do let me just erase
this instead what you do is if you're
walking towards that person and they're
walking towards you you
stop you stop where you
are they're still walking right now
because of this if you have communic
with your body language by looking at
them and you know starting to turn your
body towards them and they look back at
you and we're going to get to this right
there's also what you say okay we're
going to get to that don't worry um but
if you've done this so that way they
know that you're there they know you're
looking at them they know you're talking
to them they will stop if they're
interested and you know what that means
they're not going to jump in front of
you no but what they're going to do
since you've stopped is they're going to
stop too and when they stop that allows
them to set the distance right so let's
say for example I'm the girl okay
there's a guy right here okay he's
walking this way and he stops and he's
looking at me and he says hi or
something right I'm not if I'm not
interested I'm just going to be like hey
and I'm just going to keep walking right
or I'm just going to ignore him but if
I'm interested here's what I'm going to
do he has stopped right am I going to go
up right to him like
this hey no I'm going to stop too I'm
going to be like but I'm going to set
the distance right I'm going to decide
how close I want to stand maybe I'll
step to the side if there's like people
walking by but the point I'm making is
you are going to create the distance
that you're comfortable with okay so
that's what girls are doing and you need
to let them do that you can't be the one
that jumps in front of them or gets up
in their face or obstructs their way you
need to stop they've already seen you
they've already acknowledged you they
need to decide if they want to stop and
talk to you and they will decide the
distance okay so that's the very first
thing and that's super important now
this is only in the context of like when
you're walking up to somebody or walking
past them it's a little bit different if
you're at a coffee shop and they're at a
table okay so if they're at a table you
walk up but you're not like leaning in
like that you're going to set a nice
reasonable distance the same distance
that they would set if they came up to
you okay you're going to give them their
space right if they're on a park bench
you're not going to sit and snuggle up
right next to them you're going to stand
a reasonable distance from them so like
maybe up here from the bench that way
you're not in their personal space okay
and if they talk to you if you guys
start to like go back and forth then you
could sit down next to them then you can
get a little closer right but until you
do that you want to maintain distance so
that they feel comfortable okay now as
far as your body language goes you want
it to be open and relaxed so many guys
are like walking around like this all
day imagine hey hey hey I thought you
were cute don't do that okay just be
relaxed smile on the face life is good
man why would I want to talk to somebody
that looks [Β __Β ] angry you know if I'm
sitting there vibing and somebody comes
up H hey I thought you're cute [Β __Β ] off
dude what you want is somebody that's in
a good mood they're relaxed like hey
what's up what's going on so that a lot
of that is like just your facial muscles
your Expressions but you just want to
look like you're in a good mood okay we
react positively
if we see somebody that has positive
emotion and a lot of guys whether we
realize it or not we look scary we look
angry so like just a smug grin on your
face okay as far as your body language
pretty straightforward you're going to
be moving calmly and relaxed okay calm
relaxed there's almost a rhythm to it
you don't want to be going like this you
don't want to be fidgety you don't want
to have your arms crossed just nice and
relaxed okay you're not in a hurry
that's the other thing too if all of a
sudden somebody speeds up and starts
walking towards you that's a threat
because they're moving at a different
speed than you so again like this might
seem like some some stuff that you might
have really not taken into consideration
but since 90% of communication is like
nonverbal the eye contact the
distancing and the body
language okay so let's just make that
real simple eyes body distance eyes body
distance every time you go and talk to a
girl eye contact relax body language
proper distance okay allow her to set
the distance if you can now this brings
me to part two the actual speaking how
do you say hi now essentially what
you're going to be doing is you're going
to be doing all this at the same time
and that might sound crazy right now but
it's actually not okay you see somebody
make eye contact start to move towards
them set your distance hey hey what's up
hey yellow shirt hey denim jacket hey
whatever right I'm going to put a clip
on the screen right now just to show you
a couple examples of me doing this I
know denim jacket I I don't know you
what I just called you Dam Jackie oh
okay hi yeah I don't know your name
solid Jackie your name's Oh I thought it
was
solid I'm Jack yeah we're close pink
pants sorry pink pants he's are purple
Hey listen um I don't know you yeah do
you know me no do you want to sure
what's your name purple hair I don't I
don't know you no you don't but I want
to what's your name m would do it now
you notice what I did there I said hi
while making eye contact I stopped and
turned my body language towards them and
I allowed them to set the distance and
the way that I was able to like say hi
to them so that they knew I was talking
to them I just commented on whatever
they're wearing so that's a little trick
too now if you found that video helpful
I actually have thousands of videos just
like that where I go and approach girls
break it down step by step if you're
interested in that you can click the
link in the description below you can
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a YouTube video is not enough anyways
back to the video notice what I'm doing
there though is I'm just saying hi
that's it you don't need to use some
kind of pickup line you do not need to
do Oh I thought you were cute and the
last thing you want to do is pretend
you're talking to them for a different
reason than you are so don't be like um
do you know where the Starbucks is oh I
just saw you were cute that's the
corniest [Β __Β ] ever girls don't like that
if you make eye contact with a girl and
you're talk to them she knows you're
interested you don't even need to tell
her that you're interested she already
knows okay why else would you be talking
to her okay girls aren't stupid dude
guys are we are stupid it's why we need
to get whiteboards out girls they just
go H I'm pretty and then guys go and
talk to them but guy's got to [Β __Β ]
you know Da Vinci Code this [Β __Β ] on a
whiteboard by the way comment down below
what your age is and I want you to go to
the comments and see all the other guys
your age that also are just learning how
to do this because a lot of us we get
self-conscious like oh like you know I'm
23 and I don't even know how to talk to
girls dude trust me there's millions of
guys just like you so it's very
important that you're not hard on
yourself because it's seems like guys we
have such an ego where if we're not good
at something we don't want to ask for
help don't worry man there's a bunch of
other people like you okay so you say hi
to her right now she's going to respond
in one of four ways the first way is
she's going to smile you say hey hi
she's going to go or she go you know shy
girls that
like like they they don't really know
like oh is he is he hi hi to me oh thank
you you know like they get kind of shy
all right
there's also going to be girls that say
hi back so you're going to say hey and
they're going to be like oh hey or hi
hello okay the next is they're going to
ignore
you you know you're walking you see them
they look away you've stopped your body
language they just keep walking you know
or they're just like they got headphones
in they just can't hear you they totally
ignore you okay you stopped you smiled
he said hey they walked right by you if
that's the case there's nothing you can
do man
it's
time to move on okay maybe she didn't
hear you maybe she did because she's not
stupid she saw you and she's like I
don't want to talk to this guy maybe she
has somewhere to be don't take it
personally man but again if she doesn't
smile say hi back or look back at you
she's essentially ignoring you just move
on don't pursue her now there is a
fourth response and this one it's going
to take you a little bit more time to
pick up on but
essentially this is a miss so there's a
difference between a girl seeing you and
then like ignoring you and a girl that's
just like looking around she you think
she sees you but she doesn't she just
missed you she didn't actually see you
right so if it's a crowded area or it's
loud or maybe she has headphones in you
you stop you say hey and she thinks
maybe you're talking to somebody else so
she's just like huh and she just keeps
walking like she doesn't know you're
talking to her she missed you okay but
there's a big difference between that
and her seeing you and just walking away
so please
dude try your best to tell the
difference now if it's a Miss what you
do is you
restart the process okay so this is if
you're like oh hey and she's got
headphones in she doesn't hear you you
go you kind of lean in a little bit to
get a little closer so that she can
clearly see you then you say hey again
okay that's all you just restart the
process
again um this also applies if like maybe
you walk by a girl and she she thinks
you're talking to somebody behind her
you can identify what she's wearing
right so instead of saying hey she could
be like oh I don't know who this guy's
talking to You' be like hey denim jacket
I know denim jacket hey black shirt now
she's like oh that's me so she knows
you're talking to her okay because a lot
of the time man girls don't know and
sometimes also they have headphones in
they can't hear you maybe they're busy
so if that's the case just restart all
right now let's say
she
smiles okay you're like hey what's up
and she smiles she heard you say hey
because she smiled or she looked back at
you right that means she can hear you
which means that if words come out of
your mouth she will listen to them okay
at this point what you're going to do is
you're going to either compliment
her or
make a comment okay hey she smiles right
now what do you do she's acknowledged
you okay yo that's an awesome outfit
where did you get that or yo you look
absolutely fire today I love Sweater
Weather too I've been waiting to bust
out the peat myself it's not quite that
cold yet but you're really pulling off
that outfit today super simple outfit
right you want to compliment somebody on
something that they did you don't want
to compliment somebody on like a feature
they have like oh my God you have nice
white skin thanks dude I was born that
way right or if a girl has nice brown
eyes she didn't do that you want to
compliment a person on something that
they actively chose which is an outfit a
style right or the other thing you can
do doesn't have to be a compliment
necessarily it could just be a comment
okay CU they can hear you so this is
what I like to call observational
comments okay and I'm going to give you
a perfect example of this I was at the
thrift store the other day okay and I
was at this shelf and they had a bunch
of like m mugs and just random kitchen
accessories I was basically looking at
clothes but I saw some coffee mugs I'm
like okay maybe there's a cool mug
there's a cute girl next to me and she
was also looking at the shelf so I'm
there there's a bunch of coffee mugs and
I see a coffee mug that literally has a
cup on it so it was a cup with a cup on
it I thought that was kind of ironic
anyways I pick up this cup and I just
lean in and she's she's probably like
this far away from me so we have a
distance set but I have this cup I
haven't said anything to her yet I've
just picked up this cup I'm like oh yeah
that's great a cup with a cup on it you
never know when you're going to need one
of those something stupid like that or
like you know oh man good thing there's
a cup with a cup on it and she was in a
distance where she could hear me and she
said oh yeah you never know where you're
going to need one of those and the way
that I said it when I held the cup like
my my uh my mouth was pointed in her
Direction and there was nobody
necessarily around so like from my body
language she could tell that I was
saying it to her right and this is
especially if I already made eye contact
and smiled with her in this case I
didn't so I broke my own rules all right
so this is a little bit more advanced
I'll get more into that detail later but
essentially I just made a comment right
so again let's say it's a Saturday
morning you're at the park there's a
girl she was jogging and she stopped to
just like you know check her phone or
whatever you kind of pull up beside her
there's a park bench and it rained
yesterday so the park bench is wet
there's some drops on it you could be
like oh man I'd love to sit down right
now but this bench is a little bit wet
eh and then she'll say something like
yeah I know right it rained last night
it's all wet there's like no dry benches
here right you set a comment now after
you've done a compliment or comment
they're looking back at you you guys are
in each other's space this is where the
conversation starts okay so that's the
next thing
conversation nice and easy boom
super smooth
High man this bench is wet e where are
we going to sit oh start talking boom
easy that's not so bad right now if she
says hi back this is even easier hey oh
hey what's up she says hi back oh my God
hey hello what's going on what are you
up to I like your outfit you can do a
compliment or
like man what was the run like this
morning you looked like you've been
exercising a couple hours yeah it's so
okay I just started my to got a marathon
coming whatever you know you just start
talking that's the other thing too guys
think so much like oh my God what do I
say just talk what are you interested in
you need to stop focusing on like
attracting somebody and just be yourself
because if you're yourself and they mesh
with you then you guys are going to get
along but if you have to pretend to be
somebody else that you're not just for
them to like talk to you that's not
sustainable okay so again hey what's up
oh hey how's your day going super simple
she says hi back boom straight into a
conversation nice and easy okay now if
she ignores
you you don't say anything you just
leave you go
okay what could even help is you could
go like oh my feelings you know that
kind of like allows you to address the
elephant like especially if you're like
in an area where there's other people
and you're like hey what's up and the
girl just walks by and you think there's
people watching just be like oh cringe
that hurt just address it somebody might
even watch and be like hey man you you
did a good job anyway you know so don't
worry about that um and if there's a
situation where like headphones are in
or it's loud maybe she wasn't sure you
were talking to her you can just restart
the process like hey oh hey hey like as
in like yeah yeah no no I am talking to
you right but if that's the case you got
to be careful because sometimes girls
are like they see you and they're just
they don't want to talk to you so don't
be that guy all right so just to run
through everything again to make it nice
and simple for you you're talking or
let's say she's sitting down whatever
she's existing she's there okay eye
contact she looks back smile head nod
you turn your body towards her either
you slowly walk towards her so she can
see you coming or you stop walking
allowing her to walk and stop in front
of you and she allows the distance and
then hey that's
it hey hey what's going on just like
that that's it no fancy line okay now
after she says hi back right compliment
or comment wow weather's unreal today eh
getting one last run in before the
winter comes doesn't matter what you
talk about it could be anything man I
just saw a squirrel run up a tree it had
like a breakfast wrap in its mouth man
that thing was eating good how about you
do you eat breakfast this morning it
could be the stupidest [Β __Β ] thing
ever literally you just got to talk and
you got to come from a place of
confidence that's it okay now if you
need help with like
the anxiety that prevents you from
actually going and talking to somebody
there could be a lot more going on than
just the actual strategy like this is
the technique this is the strategy but a
lot of you guys you have like a past
breakup or some kind of traumatic
experience maybe you getting your own
head and you just like are super afraid
of going and talking to girls if you're
in that situation I recommend you click
the link in the description and you join
my community or you apply to work with
me one-on-one I mostly work with guys
that are in like their late 20s early
30s that are are making a good amount of
money and they want to get a girlfriend
in like 60 days or they want to build a
new Social Circle and they need somebody
to like hold them accountable so if you
want actual like coaching from me I can
help you with that but that's a little
more advanced that's for guys that are
having like super issues with like
anxiety and stuff okay now if you get to
a point where you're having the
conversation things are going good
you're going back and forth and you guys
are talking and everything's cool at
this point what you're going to do is be
like listen I got to get going but
you're cool we should hang out sometime
or better yet when you guys are together
you're talking about things you're
having a conversation you bring up an
activity like yeah man hiking is so fun
like there's so many good trails in the
city so be like yeah I love hiking
hiking is so fun now you have an
activity you guys agreed you enjoy you
can be like listen I got to get going
but how about we go on a hike sometime
she'll be like yeah I'm down I'm like
cool take my number boom that's it so
again compliment comment have the
conversation after the conversation you
just talk or bring up activities or
shared interests you have and then after
that you just make the pitch let's just
call it the P okay the big PE PE the PE
PE just be like listen I got to go or yo
it's cool talking to you how about we go
and do this or like listen you say
you're good at bowling I'd probably
destroy you so how about we go bowling
next week you know be a little bit a
little more flirty with it a little more
challenging then you go for the number
boom that's it you have now seen a girl
made eye contact talked to her had a
conversation exchanged information now
you're going to go on a date you're
welcome dude name your first kid denmo
comment down below thanks Daddy that
really helped now there are some other
cases I want to bring up just some Niche
ones cuz I know some of you guys are
going to be like well what about if blah
blah blah right what if she's in a hurry
sometimes people are in a hurry okay
they're just walking fast you know it's
lunch break I know a lot of you guys if
you work downtown you have an hour lunch
break you go to a restaurant grab some
food get a coffee maybe you're busy
right how do you stop somebody when
they're busy because I'm telling you
right now let's say I'm I'm busy I'm in
a hurry but like some girl comes up and
starts talking to me I got time all of a
sudden I'm like oh okay yeah I'll talk
to you you know what I mean same thing
with girls if they like seem like
they're in a hurry what you do is you
can still talk to them but you have to
be a little bit more bold so you have to
like really nail dial in the body
language and when you say hey you got to
be like hey if you're outside you know
if you're indoors don't raise your voice
like that but a lot of the time guys are
like
hey like you can't hear them the city is
loud people are coming by also she
doesn't know you're talking to her right
so you got to be like hey black pants
hey black shirt you have to identify it
but here's the thing if she's in a hurry
say something that addresses the fact
she's in a hurry yo what did you leave
the oven on why are you in such a hurry
you know and then that'll get her go oh
you're right why am I running around or
again some people they just walk fast
they kind of walk weird right so if I
was walking fast and someone's like Yo
dude did you leave the oven on at home I
would either be like yeah bro I left the
oven on [Β __Β ] I'm going to burn my house
down or I'd be like oh bro yeah I don't
know why I'm in such a hurry girls are
the same way okay if you're in a hurry
somewhere girl comes up to you starts
talking to you you're going to be like
yeah what's up right but if you don't
want to if you actually are in a hurry
you're be like listen I'm in a hurry and
then you go that's it and if that's the
case move on okay the next situation is
what if she looks angry you know some
girls they have something called RBF
resting face if there's any girls
watching this video right now please
comment down below and tell all the guys
about this cuz so many guys don't
realize it but essentially a lot of
girls even if a girls in a good mood
they look like this all the time they
just look [Β __Β ] angry you know
especially Russian women why do Russian
women just look so pissed all the time
but when you see somebody and they look
angry you're like oh I don't want to go
talk to them and this is a good lesson
for you too because again you got to
think from a girl's point of view guy
comes into a room looks over at her like
this angry or some [Β __Β ] she's going to
be like o
that guy you know not good energy right
or if you go talk to her with a stone
face she just going to be like oh look
at this negative energy this guy's
bringing me so as far as like having an
angry face or like a resting [Β __Β ] face
goes a lot of the time you don't
actually know if somebody's in a good
mood or a bad mood just based on their
face however what you can do is you can
have a positive look on your face and
that way they will match your Vibe so
for example if I'm walking around
somewhere my face is neutral whatever
like this I might look like I'm in a bad
mood or I'm angry right and that might
make people not want to approach me
however if I'm like neutral and somebody
comes up to me and they're like hey
what's up dude and they're smiling and
they're grinning I'm going to smile too
monkey see monkey do so again if you see
a girl she looks like she's kind of
whatever then you need to go in with a
smile like hey what's up and if you're
smiling and she is like receptive to you
she will match your look she'll smile
too there's been so many times guys
where I've gone and talked to a girl and
she looked kind of like neutral or angry
or whatever and then I smiled and all of
a sudden she went like and all of a
sudden this beautiful smile came out but
that smile doesn't come until somebody
else activates it so that's my point
right and you got to think man if you
were a girl wouldn't you want to be in a
relationship wouldn't you want a guy to
come and start a conversation with you
so even the act of doing that is a
massive compliment it makes their days
okay because most women are stuck using
dating apps and they're on social media
consuming like [Β __Β ] radical [Β __Β ]
and they're just stressed out all the
time and then a cool guy comes up says
hey what's up has a cool conversation
with them like authentic out of the blue
that's going to make their day they're
going to feel human again they're going
to feel validated because women want
validation they want somebody to notice
them they want you to notice that
they're exercising they want you to
notice the makeup and the outfit they
put on just like you work out for a
reason you want people to notice you're
looking good too so if you can just go
start a conversation with a girl then
she's going to feel validated and if you
go in with a smile then she's going to
respond really good okay so those are
the basics as far as starting a
conversation there's a little bit more
advanced stuff but I saved that behind
my courses so if you want to get one of
my courses you can check out my website
in the description I also highly
encourage you to join socializer school
we have courses on dating courses on
approaching approach anxiety mindset
confidence I also have a course on how
to make money as a YouTuber and I also
have a new course called The Social
Circle Builder and that actually teaches
you how to build a new friend group from
scratch so even if you don't care about
girls you just want to get like a friend
group I have that as well you can get
all of that plus weekly group q&as with
a coach if you join socializer school so
there's either the course or the
community okay now if you're big balling
if you're a guy in his late 20s early
30s you got a good amount of money maybe
you're in like Tech or something I
usually work with guys that are like
software Engineers or whatever you have
a bunch of money and you want this
problem solved and you need
accountability you need like me to make
a custom plan for you or you need one-on
ones you can apply to work with me
directly all the links are in the
description though and I hope that you
guys really found value with this video
if you enjoy these whiteboard videos
please let me know if you watched all
the way to the end the secret code word
is piano and again go out there you see
somebody make eye contact stop hey
what's up just say hi that's it watch
this as many times as you need to and uh
I Invented Sex you're welcome
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