KASUS PERCERAIAN WNI DAN PRIA CHINA DI PENGADILAN CHINA

Summary

In this video, the host shares the story of an Indonesian woman named Bunga who faced a challenging marriage with a Chinese man. Despite initial impressions of her husband being kind, Bunga soon discovered his quick temper and frugality, leading to a tumultuous 4-month marriage. She details the neglect she experienced, including during her pregnancy, and the eventual divorce proceedings where her husband demanded the return of the dowry. Bunga advises against arranged marriages through brokers, emphasizing the importance of understanding a partner's true character and cultural differences.

Takeaways

• 😀 The video is about a woman named Bunga from Indonesia who shares her experience of getting married and then divorced to a Chinese man.
• 🏢 Bunga was matched with her Chinese husband through a marriage broker without dating, and they got married shortly after meeting.
• 🤔 Bunga noticed early on that her husband had a quick temper, which was confirmed by her own observations and her brother's comments.
• 🔥 After four months of marriage, Bunga decided to divorce her husband due to his irritability, stinginess, and lack of care, especially during her pregnancy.
• 🏡 Bunga and her husband had their own house, but she felt neglected and unimportant in the relationship.
• 🍳 Her husband worked as a chef in a restaurant, often working long hours and coming home late to smoke and drink alcohol.
• 💰 Bunga mentioned that the dowry her husband gave her was only 4 million rupiah, which was quickly spent on wedding expenses and documents for moving to China.
• 🤰 Bunga is currently pregnant, and her ex-husband showed no concern for her pregnancy or the health issues she faced during the first trimester.
• 📜 The divorce process involved a legal battle where the husband demanded the return of the dowry, which Bunga had already spent.
• 📢 Bunga advises against using marriage brokers, especially for international marriages, as they may not fully understand the person's character and cultural differences can lead to problems.
• 🙏 She ends the video with a message of hope for her future and a cautionary note for other Indonesian women considering similar marriages.

Q & A

What was the main issue discussed in the video?

The main issue discussed in the video is the story of an Indonesian woman who went through a divorce process with her Chinese husband after facing mistreatment and cultural differences.

Why did the Indonesian woman end up in court?

The Indonesian woman ended up in court to handle her divorce case from her Chinese husband.

How did the woman describe her first impression of her husband?

She initially had a negative first impression, noting that he seemed easy to anger and not very kind.

What was the woman's experience like after getting married?

After getting married, she experienced mistreatment, including being ignored and neglected, especially during her pregnancy.

What was the woman's husband's occupation?

The woman's husband was a cook, working in a restaurant.

How did the woman communicate with her husband, given the language barrier?

She communicated with her husband using translation tools, such as WeChat, due to the language barrier.

What was the woman's husband's behavior like after work?

After work, he would smoke and drink alcohol excessively, sometimes coming home very late, which contributed to the woman feeling neglected.

What was the reason the woman decided to divorce her husband?

The woman decided to divorce her husband due to his stinginess, anger issues, and lack of care, especially during her pregnancy.

What was the outcome of the divorce process in court?

The divorce process resulted in the woman receiving a divorce certificate, and she had to return the dowry her husband had given her.

What advice does the woman have for others considering marriage through matchmaking services?

The woman advises against using matchmaking services, especially those involving international marriages, as one cannot be sure of the other person's true character and cultural compatibility.

What was the woman's husband's reaction when she complained about her health during pregnancy?

Her husband showed no concern and pretended to sleep when she complained about her health issues during pregnancy.

Outlines

00:00

👰 Divorce Case of an Indonesian Woman in China

The video script begins with the narrator introducing a case they are handling in court involving a divorce between an Indonesian woman and her Chinese husband. The woman, referred to as 'bunga,' shares her story of how she ended up in China, got married without dating, and her initial impressions of her husband. She describes him as someone who seemed wealthy and not prone to anger, which was confirmed by her family. However, after marriage, she found him to be quick-tempered and stingy, leading to a tumultuous relationship. Despite being pregnant, she was neglected and decided to divorce him. The video ends with the narrator inviting viewers to like and subscribe for more stories.

05:02

🤰 Challenges Faced by Pregnant Indonesian Woman in China

In the second paragraph, the Indonesian woman, now pregnant, details the challenges she faced in her marriage. Her husband, a cook working long hours, would often come home late, smoke, and drink alcohol. Communication was difficult, and she felt ignored and unattended to, especially during her pregnancy. Her requests for food were often met with refusal due to her husband's stinginess. She also mentions that her dowry was spent on the wedding and other documents, and now her husband is demanding it back as part of the divorce proceedings. The woman expresses regret for not knowing her husband's true nature before marriage and cautions others about entering into arranged marriages without fully understanding their partner.

10:04

📜 The Divorce Process and a Message to Others

The final paragraph discusses the divorce process and the woman's return of her dowry. She has now obtained her divorce certificate and is sharing her experience as a cautionary tale for others. She advises against entering into arranged marriages, especially with the help of brokers, without fully understanding the person's character. She emphasizes the importance of being aware of cultural and religious differences and the potential for exploitation. The video concludes with the narrator wishing viewers well and promising more stories in future videos.

Keywords

💡Divorce

Divorce refers to the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body. In the context of the video, the main theme revolves around a divorce case involving an Indonesian individual in a Chinese court. The video discusses the process and the reasons leading to the divorce, highlighting the challenges faced by the individual.

💡Marriage Arrangement

A marriage arrangement typically involves a third party or matchmaker facilitating the union of two individuals. In the video, the concept is discussed in relation to the protagonist's marriage to a Chinese individual, which was arranged through a matchmaker. This arrangement is a central point of discussion as it sets the stage for the subsequent marital issues.

💡Cultural Differences

Cultural differences refer to the variations in customs, traditions, and social behaviors between different societies. The video touches upon the challenges arising from cultural differences between Indonesia and China, which contribute to the couple's incompatibility and eventual divorce. The protagonist's experience serves as an example of how such differences can impact a marriage.

💡Matchmaker

A matchmaker is a person who introduces two individuals with the intention of them forming a romantic relationship or marriage. In the script, the matchmaker plays a pivotal role in the protagonist's marriage to a Chinese citizen. The video suggests caution when relying on matchmakers, as they may not fully disclose the true character or intentions of the individuals involved.

💡Abuse

Abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, and financial. In the video, the protagonist describes instances of emotional and possibly financial abuse, such as being ignored and not receiving proper care during pregnancy. These experiences contribute to the decision to seek a divorce.

💡Pregnancy

Pregnancy is a state of carrying an offspring within the female body. The video's protagonist is pregnant, which adds complexity to the divorce case. The script mentions the challenges faced during pregnancy, such as morning sickness and the lack of support from the spouse, which are significant factors in the narrative.

💡Financial Dispute

A financial dispute arises when there is a disagreement over money or property. In the video, the financial dispute is evident in the discussion about the dowry ('mahar' in Indonesian) and the expenses incurred during the marriage. The husband's demand for the return of the dowry is a key point in the divorce proceedings.

💡Language Barrier

A language barrier occurs when there is a lack of mutual intelligibility between two or more people due to differences in language. The video mentions the use of translation tools like WeChat to communicate, indicating that the language barrier was a challenge in the relationship, affecting communication and understanding.

💡Legal Proceedings

Legal proceedings refer to the process of conducting a lawsuit or a hearing in a court of law. The video details the legal process of divorce, including the court appearance and the steps taken to finalize the divorce. This aspect of the video provides insight into the legal system's handling of international divorce cases.

💡Advice

Advice in the context of the video is the guidance or recommendations given by the protagonist based on their personal experience. The video ends with the individual advising others to be cautious when considering arranged marriages, especially across cultural and national borders, to avoid similar hardships.

Highlights

The video discusses a divorce case involving an Indonesian woman married to a Chinese man.

The couple did not have a dating period and were directly married through an arrangement.

The woman was initially attracted to the man's appearance but later found him to have a quick temper.

The husband's frugality and quick temper were major issues in the marriage.

The couple lived in a house in a village, indicating a possible cultural or economic disparity.

The husband worked as a chef, often coming home late due to his work schedule.

The wife felt neglected and unattended to, especially during her pregnancy.

Communication between the couple was difficult, requiring the use of translation tools.

The husband was demanding the return of the dowry as part of the divorce proceedings.

The wife had already spent the dowry on wedding expenses and legal documents.

The divorce was finalized with a divorce certificate issued.

The wife warns against arranged marriages, especially through brokers, due to potential cultural and personality differences.

The husband's behavior changed after spending a significant amount of money, becoming more frugal.

The wife advises caution for Indonesian women considering marriage with Chinese men through matchmakers.

The video concludes with a message of hope for the future and a reminder to be cautious in arranged marriages.

Transcripts

halo teman-teman e kita hari ini baru

pulang dari pengadilan e Hari ini aku

lagi sama satu orang Indonesia nih jadi

hari ini kita menangani kasus perceraian

orang Indonesia di pengadilan mau tahu

cerita kita kenapa bisa di pengadilan

yuk ikutin video aku sampai habis ya

jangan lupa like dan subscribe

Halo

bunga eh ini ma kita mau kasih tahu

teman-teman cerita kamu ya i ya Eh Kamu

asalnya dari mana dari Indonesia dari

Indonesia mana Banten Banten Oke Nama

kamu kita kita panggil aja dia bunga ya

terus kok bisa sampai ke China menikah

eh ada yang ngenalin ada yang ngenalin

gitu ya jadi di Indonesia ada yang

ngenalin gitu ya sama orang China di

sini gitu ya ahah terus ee kenalan

pacaran enggak tidak tidak jadi kita

langsung

dinikahkan Oh langsung dinikahkan Oh

Perjodohan

oh oh dijodohkan Iya Oh jadi enggak

enggak lewat ee pacaran gitu ya tidak

Terus kalau orang Cinanya datang ke

Indonesia datang ke Indonesia dan menegi

saya membawa saya ke Cina

Oh terus kamu Ngelihat dia naksir Terus

mau nikah di sini I Heeh dia dia dia di

sana gimana baik dia mau jadi eh dia dia

Ini enggak Eh kamu di sana nikah agama

enggak di mana di Indonesia nikah secara

agama saya oh secara agama kamu jadi dia

itu masuk mualaf gitu ya terus gimana

kamu e kesan

pertama kesan pertama lihat dia gimana

orangnya gimana orangnya memang dari

awal juga Memang kelihatan engak

ser dari awal kelihatan engak serat Iya

terus karena saya lihat dari raut

mukanya Wah ini orang Kayaknya gampang

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jodohin itu saudara saya sendiri jadi

kata saudara saya gini gini gitu Jadi

saya percaya aja gitu Oh jadi karena dia

baik bilang dia baik dia tidak pemarah

kata mereka gitu Oh kata saudara kata

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berumah tangga sama dia itu kejadianlah

kayak gitu Hm Dia orangnya gampang marah

hm Jadi kamu untuk sekarang nikah Berapa

lama 4 bulan 4 bulan ya sudahah menikah

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sifatnya suka marah-marah begitu ya Iya

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malam dia baru sampai kadang-kadang dia

suka begitu kebiasaan Oh jadi saya itu

terlalu banyak diabaikan Oh kamu

diabaikan untuk bahasa kamu ngomong

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soal dipinta makanan Oh kebanyakan

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kamu mahar berapa

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nikah gitu ya Oh udah habisikin

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semakin pelit begitu ya E belum lagi

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negara beda budaya benar enggak terus di

sini juga beda agama juga gitu Ya

walaupun dia sudah memutuskan mualak di

Indonesia terus dia balik ke sini lagi

enggak enggak jadi juga ya benar enggak

enggak enggak ngikutin ajaran agama

benar enggak Iya jadi hati-hati ya

teman-teman ya jangan sampai e

cewek-cewek Indonesia terjadi lagi kayak

bunga ini gitu ya oke bunga Terima kasih

ya E infonya hari ini

ya ya semoga kamu nanti hidupnya makin

baik am ya Heeh Amin oke oke teman-teman

kita sampai di sini dulu ya video kita

ee sampai ketemu lagi di video

berikutnya bye bye