How To Subtly Attract Your Crush
Summary
TLDRIn the video, based on Robert Greene's book 'The Art of Seduction,' various scientific strategies are discussed to attract a crush. For women, smiling is attractive, while men should maintain a mysterious persona. Both genders are perceived as attractive when expressing shame. The approach to a crush varies by gender, with men preferring a side approach and women a direct one. Humor plays a role, with men valuing a partner who laughs at their jokes and women appreciating someone who can make them laugh. Subtle physical touch, like a light arm touch, can also increase attraction. The video emphasizes the importance of authenticity over manipulation in forming genuine relationships.
Takeaways
- π Smiling can be perceived differently based on gender, with women appearing more attractive when smiling and men when adopting a 'cool and mysterious' persona.
- π The expression of shame, characterized by a downward gaze and a modest posture, is found to be universally attractive regardless of gender.
- π€ When approaching a crush, the strategy should vary by gender: sit beside a man and across from a woman to increase the chances of a positive interaction.
- π A sense of humor is essential, but it's crucial to understand that men and women may define it differently, with men valuing being laughed at and women valuing making others laugh.
- π Laughter is a key component in attraction; for men, having their jokes laughed at is appealing, while women are drawn to those who can make them laugh.
- π€ The incorporation of subtle physical touch, such as a light touch on the arm, can significantly increase the likelihood of a positive response from a crush.
- π€ Physical touch should be used judiciously, taking into account the relationship, personal boundaries, and cultural norms.
- π§ The video emphasizes that these tips are based on scientific research but may not apply universally, especially considering the primary focus on heterosexual dynamics.
- π‘ The video encourages viewers to share their own experiences and perspectives to foster an open and inclusive conversation about attraction strategies.
- π Above all, the video suggests that authenticity is key in attracting a crush and building a genuine relationship.
Q & A
What is the main theme of Robert Greene's book 'The Art of Seduction'?
-The main theme of 'The Art of Seduction' is the exploration of various strategies and tactics to influence and attract others, particularly focusing on the power of turning away to make others pursue you.
How does the video suggest one should smile when flirting with a crush?
-The video suggests that while smiling can be perceived as attractive or unattractive depending on gender, a universally attractive expression is one of shame, where the person tilts their head and eyes downwards and narrows their posture.
What is the recommended approach when trying to attract a male crush according to the video?
-To attract a male crush, it is recommended to sit beside them rather than across from them, as male participants in a study had a more negative reaction when approached from the front.
How should one approach a female crush to increase attractiveness, as per the video?
-The video suggests that to attract a female crush, one should sit in front of them, as females did not dislike being approached from the side by a male researcher.
What does the video say about the role of humor in attraction?
-The video indicates that humor plays a significant role in attraction, but it's defined differently by men and women. Women prefer men who can make them laugh, while men prefer women who laugh at their jokes.
What is the 'Magic Touch' mentioned in the video and how does it help in attraction?
-The 'Magic Touch' refers to the subtle use of physical touch, such as a light touch on the arm, which can make one more attractive to their crush according to a study in the Journal of Social Influence.
How does the video advise using humor to attract a male crush?
-To attract a male crush, the video advises laughing at their jokes more often, as men prefer women who appreciate their humor.
What should one do to attract a female crush according to the video?
-To attract a female crush, one should focus on making her laugh, as women define a good sense of humor as someone who can make them laugh.
What is the importance of being genuine in attraction according to the video?
-The video emphasizes that while the tips can help, the best way to attract someone for a genuine relationship is to be oneself and not use these tips to manipulate.
How does the video address the limitations of the research presented?
-The video acknowledges that the research has primarily focused on straight men and women, and may not reflect everyone's experience, inviting viewers with different perspectives to share their thoughts.
What is the video's stance on using these attraction tips?
-The video suggests that these tips should not be used to manipulate a crush but rather to enhance one's natural attractiveness and to foster genuine connections.
Outlines
π¬ The Art of Seduction: Attracting Your Crush
The paragraph discusses strategies for attracting a crush, as outlined in Robert Greene's book 'The Art of Seduction'. It explores whether playing hard to get or being direct is more effective. The video promises to provide scientifically-backed tips to enhance one's attractiveness. It questions the effectiveness of smiling during flirting, noting that its impact varies by gender. A 2011 study in the journal 'Emotion' suggests that while smiling is attractive for women, it's the least attractive for men. Instead, expressing shame is universally attractive regardless of gender. The paragraph also discusses the best approach to sit with your crush, which differs by gender, and the importance of humor in attraction, with men preferring women who laugh at their jokes and vice versa. Lastly, it mentions the 'Magic Touch', suggesting that subtle physical contact can increase attraction.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Seduction
π‘Smiling
π‘Shame
π‘Approach
π‘Humor
π‘Physical Touch
π‘Gender Differences
π‘Facial Expressions
π‘Research
π‘Cultural Norms
π‘Authenticity
Highlights
The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene suggests that the ability to delay satisfaction can be a powerful tool in seduction.
Smiling can be perceived differently based on gender, with implications for how it affects attractiveness.
For women, smiling and appearing happy is considered the most attractive expression.
Conversely, for men, not smiling and maintaining a cool and mysterious persona is more attractive.
Expressing shame through body language can be universally attractive, regardless of gender.
When approaching a crush, the strategy should differ based on their gender, with men preferring a side approach and women a direct one.
A sense of humor is important, but it's defined differently by men and women.
Women prefer men who can make them laugh, while men prefer women who appreciate their humor.
Physical touch, when subtle and appropriate, can increase attractiveness and the likelihood of a positive response.
Tips should not be used to manipulate but rather to enhance genuine attraction and build a real relationship.
The video encourages viewers to share their own attraction tips and experiences in the comments.
The video acknowledges that scientific research has primarily focused on straight men and women, and may not reflect everyone's experience.
An open and inclusive conversation is invited for those with perspectives not covered in the video.
The video concludes by reminding viewers of the importance of being genuine in attracting a crush.
Transcripts
in his International best-selling book
The Art of Seduction Robert Greene wrote
your greatest power and seduction is
your ability to turn away to make others
come after you delaying their
satisfaction do you think playing hard
to get works best or do you prefer to be
direct
it can be difficult to figure out the
best way to attract your crush by the
end of this video you'll learn tips
backed by scientific research that will
teach you how to step up your game and
keep them interested here's how to
attract your crush and leave them
wanting more
to smile or not to smile
when you're flirting with your crush you
should smile to come across as
approachable and show them that you're
interested or should you research shows
that it might not be that simple smiling
can be perceived as either attractive or
unattractive and this depends on your
gender but there's one expression that
seems to be universally attractive
regardless of gender and it's probably
not what you think
in a 2011 study published in the journal
emotion women were perceived as most
attractive when they were smiling and
looked happy for men the results were
the complete opposite smiling was their
least attractive facial expression so if
you're a man the cool and mysterious
Persona may be more seductive to your
crush but there was one facial
expression that was perceived as
relatively attractive regardless of
gender
shame when someone had their head and
eyes tilted downwards and narrowed their
posture expressing shame they were rated
as attractive whether they were male or
female when you're with your crush see
how they react when you innocently look
down or avert your gaze every once in a
while it just might help attract them to
you
the right approach imagine your crush is
sitting in an empty table at school now
is your chance to make a move
when you go up to your crush to talk to
them should you approach them from the
front and sit across from them or sit
beside them turns out like a lot of
other attraction strategies the answer
depends on your crush's gender in a
study published in the Journal of
Personality and Social Psychology
participants were approached by a
researcher who sat either beside them or
directly in front of them results showed
that male participants had a more
negative reaction when a female
researcher approached them from the
front on the other hand females didn't
like being approached from the side by a
male researcher according to these
findings if you're trying to attract a
man the best way to approach them is to
sit beside them rather than across from
them but if your crush is a woman go
with the head-on strategy and sit in
front of them it's such a subtle move
they won't even know you're doing it got
jokes does your crush have a good sense
of humor more importantly do you
philosopher William James once said
common sense and a sense of humor are
the same thing
moving at different speeds a sense of
humor is just common sense dancing
however researcher Eric Bressler at
McMaster University found that men and
women Define humor differently knowing
this can help you step up your seduction
game wrestler found that woman defined
someone with a good sense of humor as
someone who could make them laugh and
they preferred men who have a good sense
of humor 62 of the time conversely men
thought someone had a good sense of
humor when they appreciated their own
humor AKA loved other jokes they
preferred women who laughed at their
jokes 65 percent of the time the
takeaway if your crush is a man you can
pique their interest by laughing at
their jokes just a little more and if
your crush is a woman you can attract
them by making them laugh rather than
laughing at their jokes the Magic Touch
combining physical touch with the other
tips we've mentioned will make you even
more attractive to your crush key is to
keep it subtle a 2007 study published in
the Journal of Social influence had male
researchers either ask women for their
members or ask them to dance in both
cases they found that if they touched a
woman's forearm for just one or two
seconds before asking her she was more
likely to say yes light touches on the
arm are an innocent and simple way to
attract your crush of course this
technique depends on your relationship
with them their boundaries and your
cultural norms but if you and your crush
are comfortable with it giving them a
soft touch on the arm every once in a
while might be the perfect way to arouse
their interest
thanks for watching psych2goers we hope
you found this video helpful remember
these tips shouldn't be used to
manipulate your crush at the end of the
day the best way to attract someone if
you want a genuine relationship with
them is to be yourself will you be
trying any of these tips do you have any
of your own attraction tips to offer
that have worked for you in the past
share your ideas in the comments below
keep in mind that because scientific
research has focused primarily on
straight men and women some of the
studies in this video Don't reflect
everyone's experience if you have a
perspective to share that hasn't been
mentioned we'd love to hear from you and
start an open and inclusive conversation
please share your thoughts in the
comments thanks for watching and see you
in the next one
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