Avoid Assumptions and Ask!

Judy Kay Mausolf
10 Jun 201410:29

Summary

TLDRThe speaker emphasizes the importance of communication in resolving workplace issues by addressing 'invisible elephants'—problems that are evident but unspoken. They discuss the 'eggshell fear factor,' which includes the fear of hurting feelings, criticism, and retaliation, and how these fears hinder open dialogue. The speaker suggests regular team meetings to openly discuss these issues, reduce their power, and foster a culture of respect and growth. They also share personal experiences to illustrate the benefits of overcoming these fears and the positive impact on professional development.

Takeaways

  • 🗣️ The three-letter word 'ask' can solve many communication problems, but people often avoid asking questions to maintain politeness.
  • 🤔 Being 'nice' can lead to miscommunication and unresolved issues, as people may not voice their concerns to avoid conflict.
  • 🐘 'Invisible elephants' represent unspoken issues that everyone knows exist but no one addresses, leading to tiptoeing around them.
  • 🥚 'Eggshells' are metaphors for the fear of emotional fallout that prevents people from discussing issues openly.
  • 😣 The fear of hurt feelings is a common reason people avoid discussing issues that could improve the practice or workplace.
  • 👎 The fear of criticism or judgment stops individuals from proposing new ideas or changes for fear of negative reactions.
  • 🔄 The fear of retaliation makes people hesitant to address problems, as they worry about potential negative consequences.
  • 💬 Team meetings can help eliminate 'eggshells' by openly discussing the fears and issues that team members face.
  • 🙅‍♀️ Leaders are not immune to these fears; they also worry about making tough decisions and being judged by their team.
  • 🚀 Overcoming fear is crucial for personal and professional growth, as it allows for the introduction of new ideas and improvements.

Q & A

  • What is the three-letter word suggested to improve communication?

    -The three-letter word suggested to improve communication is 'ask'.

  • Why do people sometimes hesitate to ask questions or address issues?

    -People hesitate to ask questions or address issues because they want to be nice and avoid rocking the boat, fearing potential negative reactions or conflicts.

  • What is an example of an 'invisible elephant' in an office?

    -An 'invisible elephant' in an office refers to problems or issues that everyone is aware of but no one discusses openly, leading to a tense and cautious atmosphere.

  • What is the 'eggshell fear factor' mentioned in the script?

    -The 'eggshell fear factor' refers to the fear of emotional fallout or negative reactions that prevents people from addressing issues or communicating openly in the workplace.

  • What are the three predominant 'eggshells' that people fear in the workplace?

    -The three predominant 'eggshells' are the fear of hurt feelings, the fear of criticism or judgment, and the fear of retaliation.

  • Why is it important to address issues that affect the practice's performance?

    -Addressing issues that affect the practice's performance is important because ignoring them can hold the practice back from growing and improving.

  • How can team meetings help in reducing the fear of addressing issues?

    -Team meetings can help reduce the fear of addressing issues by bringing concerns out in the open, allowing for a collective discussion and reducing the power of unspoken fears.

  • What is the role of fear in the context of the 'eggshells'?

    -Fear is the driving force behind the 'eggshells', as it represents a negative prediction of the future and can prevent action unless individuals feel confident in their ability to handle the situation.

  • Why is it beneficial for leaders to share their concerns with the team?

    -Sharing concerns by leaders can create clarity and show that everyone has fears, which can encourage open communication and a collective approach to problem-solving.

  • How can teaching respectful communication help a practice grow?

    -Teaching respectful communication can help a practice grow by fostering an environment where difficult topics can be discussed openly, leading to better problem-solving and overall improvement.

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