Berlatih Hadir Utuh
Summary
TLDRThis script focuses on the importance of coaching skills in educational leadership, emphasizing the development of three key competencies: full presence, active listening, and weighted questioning. It discusses the concept of being fully present, which involves aligning one's body, mind, and heart to the current situation. The script guides viewers through a 'stop' technique to practice presence, which includes stopping activities, taking a deep breath, observing bodily sensations, and proceeding with full awareness. The goal is to help leaders become more open, patient, and better able to engage in coaching conversations without judgment or premature advice.
Takeaways
- π The importance of coaching in education is emphasized for empowering leadership.
- π Developing 'full presence' is the first coaching competency to be practiced, which is fundamental for other competencies.
- π€ Active listening is a key coaching skill that helps in understanding and not judging the speaker.
- π§ββοΈ Practicing mindfulness can enhance full presence, making one more open and patient in coaching conversations.
- π€ The script suggests techniques to practice being fully present, such as meditation and journaling.
- π The 'STOP' technique is introduced as a method to achieve full presence, involving stopping, taking a deep breath, observing, and proceeding.
- π Being fully present helps in calming the 'advice monster' within, which is the urge to quickly offer solutions.
- ποΈββοΈ Regular practice of presence techniques is recommended to become more open, patient, and to enjoy every moment or activity.
- π The script suggests that being fully present can improve coaching effectiveness and leadership in educational units.
- π‘ The 'STOP' technique is detailed with steps to help individuals practice and incorporate it into their daily routine.
Q & A
What are the three key competencies in coaching mentioned in the script?
-The three key competencies in coaching are being fully present, active listening, and asking meaningful questions.
Why is 'being fully present' considered the foundation of coaching?
-'Being fully present' is the foundation of coaching because it helps other competencies emerge naturally and allows the coach to fully engage with the coachee, ensuring effective communication and understanding.
How does the script describe 'being fully present' during conversations?
-Being fully present means aligning the body, mind, and heart with the current moment. It is a conscious decision to fully focus on the task at hand, ensuring that both thoughts and emotions are engaged in what the body is doing.
What example is given in the script about distractions during conversations?
-The script provides examples of distractions like someone answering messages or thinking about unrelated tasks during a meeting, which prevents them from being fully present.
What advice is given for returning to a state of full presence?
-To return to full presence, the script suggests consciously choosing to focus on the current conversation, calming distractions, and engaging both the mind and emotions with the ongoing task.
What does 'active listening' involve according to the script?
-Active listening involves being open to what the coachee is sharing, being patient, asking thoughtful questions, and resisting the urge to jump in with advice or judgments.
What technique is suggested to quiet the 'advice-giving monster' during coaching?
-The script suggests that by being fully present and consciously calming the urge to offer immediate solutions, coaches can quiet the 'advice-giving monster' and focus on understanding the coachee's situation first.
What is the 'STOP technique' mentioned in the script?
-The STOP technique involves four steps: Stop (pause your current activity), Take a deep breath, Observe your body and feelings, and Proceed with awareness.
Why is the STOP technique considered useful in coaching?
-The STOP technique is useful because it helps coaches reset their focus, calm their mind, and regain full presence, which is essential for effective coaching sessions.
What are some other methods suggested for practicing full presence?
-Other methods suggested include meditation, writing a daily journal, and other practices that help individuals center their thoughts and remain mindful.
Outlines
π§ββοΈ Developing Coaching Competencies
This paragraph introduces the concept of coaching in educational leadership and emphasizes the importance of developing three key coaching competencies: being fully present, actively listening, and asking open-ended questions. It highlights the need for leaders to internalize a coaching mindset and apply coaching principles in their leadership and empowerment roles. The first competency, being fully present, is described as the foundational skill that enables other competencies to emerge during coaching conversations. The paragraph discusses the challenges of being present in conversations, such as distractions like answering messages or calls during discussions. It suggests practices to help leaders be fully present, such as aligning body, mind, and heart to the current situation and being aware of one's own presence. The paragraph also recommends conditions for effective coaching, such as being in a healthy and fresh state, having adequate time, and being in a quiet and comfortable room. It introduces the 'stop' technique as a method to practice being fully present, which involves stopping current activities, taking a deep breath, observing what's happening in the body, and proceeding with the activity.
π¬οΈ Practicing Mindfulness Through Breathing Exercises
The second paragraph provides a guided practice for being fully present through a breathing exercise. It instructs the reader to sit comfortably, close their eyes, and take deep breaths while being aware of the air entering and leaving the body. The exercise encourages the reader to observe physical sensations, such as the rhythm of the breath, the relaxation of tense shoulders, and the expansion and contraction of the abdomen. The paragraph suggests that if the mind begins to wander, the reader should gently bring their focus back to their breath. The exercise concludes with opening the eyes and continuing activities with full awareness. It recommends practicing this mindfulness exercise regularly, either at the beginning of the day, during school breaks, or after activities, to become more open, patient, and to enjoy every moment or activity being engaged in.
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Keywords
π‘Coaching
π‘Empowering
π‘Presence
π‘Active Listening
π‘Weighted Questions
π‘Paradigm Shift
π‘Leadership
π‘Mindfulness
π‘Self-awareness
π‘Patience
π‘The 'STOP' Technique
Highlights
Coaching is essential for empowerment in educational units.
Three coaching competencies are being developed: full presence, active listening, and weighted questioning.
Full presence is the foundational coaching competency that helps in developing other competencies.
Being fully present in conversations is crucial for effective coaching.
Examples of being distracted during conversations are provided to illustrate the importance of full presence.
Full presence is a conscious choice that aligns body, mind, and heart with the current situation.
Being fully present allows for openness and patience in coaching conversations.
The coaching approach encourages not to judge, label, or assume while listening.
Coaching when in a fresh and healthy condition is recommended for better presence.
The book 'The Coaching Habit' by Michael Bungay Stanier is mentioned as a resource.
The 'inner monster' of giving advice is discussed as a barrier to full presence.
Various exercises can develop the skill of being fully present.
The 'STOP' technique is introduced as a method to practice full presence.
The four steps of the 'STOP' technique are explained: Stop, Take a deep breath, Observe, and Proceed.
A guided practice of the 'STOP' technique is provided for the audience.
The practice of full presence can be done at the beginning of the day or during breaks.
Consistent practice of full presence leads to being more open, patient, and enjoying every moment or activity.
Transcripts
setelah ibu dan bapak mengenal manfaat
coaching dalam mengelola pemberdayaan di
satuan pendidikan saat ini ibu dan bapak
akan berlatih mengembangkan tiga
kompetensi coaching yaitu hadir utuh
mendengarkan aktif mengajukan pertanyaan
berbobot
tiga kompetensi ini menjadi dasar yang
akan membantu ibu dan bapak untuk
meresapi paradigma berpikir coaching dan
menerapkan prinsip coaching dalam
menjalankan tugas kepemimpinan dan
pemberdayaan sebagai kepala satuan
pendidikan yang pertama akan kita latih
adalah kompetensi hadir utuh Kompetensi
ini akan menjadi pondasi awal yang
membantu munculnya kompetensi lain dalam
percakapan
coaching
ibu dan bapak setiap hari kita terlibat
dalam berbagai percakapan yang
melibatkan keluarga rekan pendidik
peserta didik dan orang-orang lainnya
Pernahkah ibu dan bapak terlibat dalam
sebuah percakapan bersama seseorang yang
seringkiali sibuk menjawab pesan atau
panggilan telepon di tengah-tengah
percakapan apa yang ibu dan bapak
rasakan dalam situasi
tersebut atau Ibu Bapak pernah mengalami
situasi ketika mengikuti sebuah
pertemuan rutin antar kepala satuan
pendidikan namun tiba-tiba ibu dan bapak
memikirkan administrasi anggaran satuan
pendidikan yang belum selesai dikerjakan
atau memikirkan rencana pertemuan lain
bersama komite orang
tua apa yang Ibu Bapak lakukan untuk
kembali hadir utuh pada pertemuan yang
sedang
berlangsung
hadir utuh adalah sebuah kemampuan untuk
menyelaraskan badan pikiran dan hati
kita pada situasi yang sedang
berlangsung saat ini hadir secara utuh
adalah pilihan sadar saat kita sadar
bahwa badan kita sedang melakukan
sesuatu maka secara sadar juga kita
menghadirkan hati dan pikiran untuk
sepenuhnya ikut melakukan apa yang badan
kita sedang lakukan saat kita meniatkan
secara sadar untuk hadir dengan utuh
dalam coaching kita menjadi lebih
terbuka dengan berbagai hal yang
disampaikan oleh coachi dan lebih sabar
untuk mencari tahu informasi lebih
banyak lagi saat lebih terbuka kita
menjadi tenang dalam menerima pemikiran
koi atau orang yang bercerita tanpa
perlu menghakimi melabeli atau
berasumsi saat lebih sabar kita menjadi
tenang
menggali informasi lebih mendalam
memberikan kesempatan yang cukup kepada
untuk bicara dan tidak mudah tergoda
untuk segera memberi saran atau masukan
untuk bisa lebih terbuka dan lebih sabar
ibu dan bapak disarankan untuk melakukan
coaching saat kondisi badan segar dan
sehat memiliki waktu yang cukup berada
di ruangan yang tenang dan
nyaman di dalam bukunya the coaching
Habit forever stier menyampaikan bahwa
rasa ingin tahu kita seringkiali dilahap
oleh monster dalam diri sendiri yaitu si
pemberi saran yang selalu ingin segera
memberikan saran dan masukan untuk
menyelesaikan permasalahan atau situasi
yang dihadapi oleh orang lain hadir utuh
membantu kita menenangkan monster si
pemberi saran
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ini seperti kompetensi lainnya hadir
utuh juga dapat dikembangkan dengan
melakukan berbagai latihan ibu dan bapak
dapat memilih teknik yang dirasa paling
efektif untuk berlatih hadir utuh
seperti meditasi menulis jurnal harian
dan lain-lain salah satu teknik yang
akan ibu bapak coba saat ini adalah
teknik
stop teknik stop terdiri dari empat
langkah yang sangat mudah dilakukan
kapan saja dan di mana saja huruf s
berarti stop atau berhenti huruf t
berarti take a deep breath atau Tarik
nafas dalam huruf O berarti observe atau
amati apa yang terjadi pada tubuh anda
dan huruf P berarti proceed atau
lanjutkan kegiatan Sekarang mari kita
berlatih bersama-sama stop atau
berhenti ibu dan bapak silakan
menghentikan aktivitas yang sedang
dilakukan saat ini Carilah posisi duduk
yang nyaman letakkanlah tangan di
pangkuan dan mulai Pejamkan mata ibu dan
bapak silakan menarik nafas yang dalam
sadari nafas yang masuk dan nafas yang
keluar rasakan udara segar yang masuk
melalui hidung rasakan udara hangat yang
keluar dari lubang
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hidung sembari menarik nafas mulailah
mengamati apa yang ibu bapak rasakan
muncul dalam tubuh
amati kening yang mengernyit menjadi
rata
amati bahu yang sebelumnya kaku menjadi
layu
amati tangan yang menggenggam erat
menjadi terbuka
amati perut yang mengembang dan
mengempis seiring tarik dan keluarnya
nafas lalu amati nafas yang semakin
lambat lambat dan tetap lambat
jika saat ini pikiran ibu bapak mulai
meloncat ke sana Kemi Mari kembalikan
fokus pada nafas kita yang tetap
lambat dalam tiga kali tarikan nafas
lagi Ibu Bapak silakan membuka mata
kaliamat Ibu dan bapakat sudah kembali
melanjutkan kegiatan dengan kesadaran
yang penuh dan
Utuh aktivitas berlatih hadir utuh ini
dapat Ibu dan Bapak lakukan baik di awal
hari di saat jam istirahat sekolah
ataupun seusai berkegiatan gunakanlah
teknik yang nyaman menurut anda bisa
menggunakan teknik stop ini atau teknik
lainnya terakhir lakukanlah secara rutin
hingga kita Terlatih untuk hadir utuh
menjadi lebih terbuka lebih sabar dan
bisa menikmati setiap momen atau
kegiatan yang sedang
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dilakukan
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