How WOMEN Emotionally Manipulate GUYS WHO TRY TO BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS (COLD Female Nature)
Summary
TLDRThis video script delves into the dynamics of manipulation in relationships, positing that individuals are either manipulators or being manipulated, with 'healthy' dynamics being non-existent. The speaker explains that manipulation isn't inherently negative, using the example of adjusting macronutrients for fitness goals. The core message is the importance of maintaining one's truth and not being easily swayed by a partner's words or actions. The speaker advises viewers to be aware of potential manipulation and to develop emotional strength to ensure respect and longevity in relationships. The script concludes with five steps to navigate dating interactions with integrity and self-awareness.
Takeaways
- π The video script discusses the concept of manipulation in relationships, suggesting that it's a fundamental part of dating dynamics rather than an anomaly.
- π€ The speaker argues that manipulation isn't inherently negative, using the analogy of manipulating macronutrient ratios for fitness goals.
- π€ If one is being manipulated in a relationship, it indicates a lack of control and potential boredom on the part of the manipulator.
- π« The speaker warns against the idea of being easily manipulated, as it can lead to a loss of respect and interest from the other party due to perceived weakness.
- π Trusting someone's words without question can lead to manipulation and emotional distress, according to the video.
- π§ The speaker suggests that women assess men from the inside out, constantly testing their internal strength and character.
- πͺ Maintaining one's own frame and not being swayed by external influences is presented as a key to avoiding manipulation.
- π€ The video emphasizes that respect and long-term relationship stability come from not being emotionally manipulable.
- π The speaker introduces a 90-day challenge called 'Headman Habits' aimed at helping men develop daily success habits and personal growth.
- β The final takeaway is that the video's advice is not meant to make viewers toxic or cynical, but rather to help them navigate dating dynamics with self-awareness and strength.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video titled 'In Relationships You Are Either the Manipulator or You Are Getting Manipulated'?
-The main theme of the video is that in relationships, there is often a dynamic of manipulation where one person is either manipulating or being manipulated, and the speaker argues that a healthy balance does not exist in the traditional sense.
How does the speaker define manipulation in the context of the video?
-The speaker defines manipulation not necessarily as a negative act but as a strategy that can be used in various aspects of life, including relationships, where one person influences the other's behavior or decisions.
What is the speaker's view on the role of manipulation in dating strategies?
-The speaker believes that manipulation is a natural part of women's dating strategies, often unconsciously used to test a man's internal fortitude and ability to resist being emotionally led astray.
Why does the speaker argue that being easily manipulated is undesirable in a relationship?
-The speaker argues that being easily manipulated is undesirable because it leads to a lack of respect and emotional control from the manipulator, which can result in emotional pain and a lack of a healthy, balanced relationship.
What does the speaker suggest is the subconscious reaction of a woman if she finds a man easily manipulated?
-The speaker suggests that if a woman finds a man easily manipulated, her subconscious might view him as not strong enough to have his own worldview, making him easily influenced and controlled, thus not desirable.
What analogy does the speaker use to explain the concept of manipulation in relationships?
-The speaker uses the biblical story of Adam and Eve, where Eve is led astray by the serpent's words, as an analogy to explain how men can be manipulated in relationships if they trust a woman's words without discernment.
What is the significance of the speaker's statement 'women see men from the inside out'?
-The statement 'women see men from the inside out' signifies that the speaker believes women assess a man's character and internal strength rather than just his external attributes, and they test this through various interactions.
What are the five steps the speaker suggests to navigate the manipulation dynamic in relationships?
-The five steps suggested are: 1) Never let her emotional state detract you from rational truth. 2) Understand her idea of love is based on emotional strength and resistance to manipulation. 3) Do not fall for the illusion of femininity and beauty that can cloud judgment. 4) Recognize that women test men's character for signs of weakness. 5) Focus on controlling your own actions and developing your inner self.
What is the 'Headman Habits 90-day Challenge' mentioned by the speaker?
-The 'Headman Habits 90-day Challenge' is a challenge initiated by the speaker to help men develop daily success habits and personal growth to become the man they aspire to be, focusing on inner strength and self-improvement.
How does the speaker suggest maintaining frame in interactions with women?
-The speaker suggests maintaining frame by constantly questioning whether the woman is potentially manipulating you and screening her intentions, while staying calm, stoic, and rational.
Outlines
π The Manipulation Paradigm in Relationships
The speaker begins by addressing the harsh reality that in relationships, one is either the manipulator or the one being manipulated, with no middle ground for a 'healthy' dynamic. The word 'manipulation' is redefined, suggesting it can be a neutral term, exemplified by its use in adjusting macronutrient ratios for fitness goals. The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining one's truth and not being swayed by a partner's potential manipulations. The concept of hypergamy is introduced, suggesting that being easily manipulated can lead to a loss of respect and interest from a partner. The speaker also touches on the idea that women may naturally employ manipulation as part of their dating strategy, drawing an analogy with the biblical story of Adam and Eve.
π§ Trust and Manipulation: The Subconscious Dynamics
In this segment, the speaker delves into the subconscious aspects of dating, suggesting that women are constantly testing men's internal fortitude. He shares a personal anecdote about a date where the woman playfully warned him not to trust her words, which resonated with his views on manipulation. The speaker argues that trusting a woman's words can lead to manipulation and emotional turmoil. He challenges the traditional views of love and relationships, suggesting that many men have been conditioned to expect positive intentions from their partners, which often leads to disappointment. The speaker asserts that a woman's subconscious may view a man who is easily influenced as weak and unattractive, leading to a lack of respect and desire.
π« Navigating Manipulation: Maintaining Emotional Integrity
The speaker outlines his perspective on how manipulation is not inherently negative but is a part of the dating dynamic. He stresses that one should not let a partner's emotional state alter their rationality or truth. The speaker also discusses the role of physical attraction and beauty as a form of manipulation, cautioning against being swayed by these factors. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining one's emotional state and not being controlled or manipulated by a partner's attempts to influence it. The speaker concludes by suggesting that women are often drawn to men who cannot be emotionally manipulated, and he encourages men to develop their emotional strength as a key to successful relationships.
π‘ Cultivating Emotional Strength and Personal Growth
In the final paragraph, the speaker focuses on personal growth and the importance of self-development in navigating the dating world. He introduces the 'Headman Habits 90-day Challenge,' an initiative aimed at helping men improve their lives and adopt successful daily habits. The speaker reiterates that the key to a respectful and lasting relationship is not found in superficial attributes but in one's ability to maintain emotional strength and not be manipulated. He concludes by encouraging viewers to apply the insights shared in the video to improve their dating lives and to join the community for further support and growth.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Manipulation
π‘Hypergamy
π‘Internal Fortitude
π‘Rational Truth
π‘Emotional State
π‘Femininity
π‘Seduction
π‘Control
π‘Adam and Eve
π‘Headman Habits
Highlights
The video discusses the dichotomy in relationships where one is either a manipulator or being manipulated, challenging the notion of a 'healthy' dynamic.
Manipulation in relationships is compared to manipulating macronutrients for fitness goals, suggesting it's not inherently negative.
The speaker asserts that if one is being manipulated in a relationship, it indicates a lack of interest or boredom from the manipulator.
Hypergamy is mentioned as a factor that makes a woman unsatisfied if her partner is easily manipulated and controllable.
Women naturally incorporate manipulation into their dating strategies, according to the speaker's perspective.
An analogy is drawn between the biblical story of Adam and Eve and modern dating dynamics, suggesting men should not be easily led astray by women's words.
The importance of maintaining one's own worldview and not being swayed by a partner's words is emphasized.
The speaker shares personal dating experiences to illustrate how women test men's internal fortitude.
The video suggests that a woman's respect and potential for a long-term relationship are tied to a man's inability to be emotionally manipulated.
The speaker advises men to maintain frame by questioning potential manipulation in every interaction with a woman.
Five steps are outlined to navigate the complexities of dating and manipulation, aiming for a more peaceful internal state.
The first step is to never let a woman's emotional state detract from one's rational truth.
The second step highlights that a woman's idea of love is based on a man's emotional strength and resistance to manipulation.
The third step warns against falling for the illusion of beauty and femininity as a form of manipulation.
The fourth step is about understanding that women test men's character from the inside out, not just based on appearances.
The final step is about controlling only one's own actions and living towards a peaceful state, which is the key to personal growth.
The speaker invites viewers to join a 90-day challenge aimed at developing success habits and personal growth.
Transcripts
okay so this is going to be some painful
truths that some of you are going to
have to internalize but I titled this
video in relationships you are either
the manipulator or you are getting
manipulated healthy doesn't exist and
I'm going to explain why now keep in
mind this is what I mean by this entire
video this entire presentation when I
say this this does not mean go out there
in the world and go be toxic to anyone
that you're dating
instead what I want you to remember at
all times is what I'm showing you is why
it is so important to hold firm on what
you know to be true because here's the
fact the word manipulation does not
necessarily have to have a negative
meaning Associated to it and here's why
if I wanted to lose weight let's say or
let's say I wanted to burn more fat or
whatever I do with my workout routine I
will give you an
example I can manipulate my
macronutrient ratios to put me into a
caloric deficit so that way I lose
weight or I could manipulate my
macronutrients to put me into a caloric
Surplus so I gain weight the act of the
manipulation that I'm describing in this
video is not for anything good or bad I
am just explaining this video as is okay
so that's what I mean by this in a
relationship you are either the
manipulator or you are getting
manipulated and healthy does not exist
and I will explain why this idea of
Health
where both people come together and
nobody is entered into a dynamic of
Seduction nobody is testing the other
person's interest level that is not how
it works so keep that in mind here's
what I can tell you and here's why this
is so important if you are the one
getting manipulated she is getting bored
I'm going to say that again if you are
the one getting manipulated that means
she is getting bored now here's another
uncomfortable truth about this if you
show that you are able to be manipulated
hypergamy is no longer satisfied due to
the fact that you're a man who is now
easily controllable and on top of that
you're willing to be let astray by her
words because you believe what she's
telling you so I'm going to take this at
an even deeper level here's what you
have to know if she's the one doing the
manipulation and you are easily
manipulated she will not love you and
hypergamy is not
satisfied so what you have to really
realize at an internal level like at a
very deep level the entire root of this
process or the entire root problem here
that I'm trying to describe is this
women hide or keep secret from you that
manipulation is part of their entire
dating strategy
naturally well why do I say
naturally I say naturally because they
don't have to try to do this this just
happens and I'm going to explain why as
you guys know through this channel I
have a reason for everything I come well
prepared prepared now these are just my
own beliefs I advise you not to believe
them if you don't want to if my beliefs
align with your beliefs I advise you to
believe them I'm not here to influence
you I'm just here to show you on this
channel how I think so women will hide
or keep secret from you that
manipulation is part of their entire
dating strategy naturally and I will
explain why right now number one how I
look at this
okay is from the fact or from the point
or basically from the angle that they
are all e
okay they're all Eve what that means is
number two she's seeing if you are
stupid enough to be
Adam okay now Adam was easily LED astray
by her words this is not good that means
number three what I'm explaining to you
is this being stupid
enough which means you being Adam okay
being stupid enough equals you trusting
her words and what she says keep that in
mind
you being stupid
enough and actually trusting the words
that are coming out of her
mouth is exactly what Adam did which is
exactly why the way the story
goes all hell broke loose and things
were not good okay now keep in mind this
story may be true this story might not
be true I don't know okay I'm 28 years
old I can only give you the advice that
I think about that I can come to turn
terms with my own head with my own brain
I have no idea right maybe it was true
maybe it wasn't but it's a hell of an
analogy I'm going to just say that it's
a hell of an analogy and it does line up
pretty perfectly to damn near everything
you will probably experience in your
dating life because I will tell you this
one thing from ages 18 to 28 in a 10year
span that exact situation has played out
every single time I have seen these
exact situations play out it's really
funny I think often times God will
almost like talk to you through your
Intuition or through how you view things
and I think that when certain things
like click for you in your brain and you
hear certain things or you notice
certain things I think that that's your
subconscious actually saying hey pay
attention to this so I'll give you an
example I was on a date a couple days
ago and I can't remember what she said
to me but I looked at her and I go
really that's what you're going to say
and she laughs and it was playful but
she goes oh don't trust what I say
that's what she said and I just thought
it was funny right because it it clicked
and it's like yep that's pretty much
everything that I talk about so this is
how I view this being stupid enough
equals you trusting her words and what
she says so what does that mean right
that means if you trust her words you
will be
manipulated now I know that that is a
hard truth to swallow because the idea
that you have of her see this is the
preconceived notions or this is the
conditioning that a lot of guys were
raised to believe or that a lot of guys
had right is you look at this woman
that's your girlfriend or your wife or
whatever the case may
be and
because the concept of Love is two
people coming together and being healthy
towards each other and working towards
each other and being there for one
another you automatically assume that
that other person has positive
intentions towards you because you think
to yourself okay chemistry love Dynamic
two people romance positive energy and
Good Vibes that's what you think is it's
all that good stuff coming together but
then what happens in your actual dating
life when you watch this play out is you
see that that's completely false often
times okay so here's what I can tell you
what all this means is that means if you
trust her words you will be manipulated
LED astray and put through emotional
hell and as soon as you start to trust
her words what I believe happens in her
subconscious mind is she
goes doesn't listen to rational
truth not strong enough to have his own
worldview I can now easily influence him
and I can control him therefore he's not
strong and I don't want him and I don't
respect him I believe that those are the
things that occur to her in her mind if
she notices those patterns about you now
keep in mind mind all of those different
strength characteristics that you don't
have none of that has to do with your
biceps okay so the reason why I'm
telling you that is because there's so
many men in the gym more muscle More
Money More status but they don't
understand the root and the root of the
entire dating dynamic between men and
women is that she's constantly testing
your internal fortitude because I have a
saying I believe that women don't
necessarily see men from the outside in
I believe that they see men from the
inside out constantly with every
sentence she's pulling things out of you
verbally to really get an idea of hey
what is this guy made of what makes this
man himself why is he like this what is
his competency
level your strength is shown internally
and I know that that's a hard thing to
comprehend but that's how I view
this this is how my brain processes
dating interactions okay
so what I believe is if you trust her
words you will be manipulated L astray
and put through emotional hell so for so
many guys out there you know maybe you
comment on my Channel or you are
constantly asking yourself hey how do I
hold frame how do I make sure I'm doing
the right thing how do I know what to
say at what point how do I know what I
should do or what I shouldn't do okay
listen to me very closely when I am
interacting with a woman every text
message every call on the phone every
phone call right every interaction that
I have with her in real
life I maintain
frame by constantly asking myself and
saying this one thing I say how is she
potentially manipulating me how is she
potentially manipulating me is she
manipulating me or my internal emotional
state in any way shape or form right now
as I'm with her I am constantly asking
myself that and I'm screening right and
as I'm screening I'm using some
discernment to see what her intentions
are because you have to understand I
believe the reason why this is
rooted in majority of the dating
interactions or the overall dating
strategy that women have towards men the
reason why I believe this is because of
the simple analogy right in the story it
was the serpent that deceived Eve so I
believe that it's not even
necessarily her own choice of doing it
of like hey I'm going to purposefully be
deceiving towards this guy I believe
that some of this just happens now I
have no proof of that right I can't go
back however many years a billion years
or whatever and identify and tell you
hey you know this is exactly what
happened and the story is completely
true I don't know but I do know this
it's a hell of an analogy isn't it it's
pretty crazy how it seems seems to
almost always work out in my own dating
life this way if I choose to ignore some
of these signs that eventually come up
funny how that
works I'm a guy just like you right I
don't know
everything but I can do my best on this
channel to try to help you to the best
of my ability so I maintain frame by
saying hey how is she potentially
manipulating me now once again I don't
think manipulation is good or bad it
just is
every single word has a dictionary
definition okay I can manipulate my
macronutrient ratios so I gain weight or
I can manipulate my macronutrient ratios
so I lose weight but regardless I am
manipulating my macronutrient ratios and
that doesn't make it good or bad it just
is keep that in
mind so I have even more things to say
about this whole concept here if you
don't trust her
words just know that you will be called
every mean name in the book every mean
name that you can think of in the book
you will probably be called if you don't
trust her words you will be called mean
you might be called an [Β __Β ] there
might be personal attacks or verbal
attacks at your ego and your character
and who you are people might say that
you're a bad person who gives a [Β __Β ]
right let people talk there's an old
saying people say right I don't know who
made this up right I don't know who made
this up but I know it is a saying and
the saying is six and stones may break
my bones but words will never hurt me
okay so words can't hurt me you could
say anything that you want I don't
really care because it goes in one year
and out the other and I sleep like a
baby at night
because I'm tired usually from working
out right so if you don't trust her
words just know that you will be called
every mean name in the book you're going
to be called an [Β __Β ] you might be
called mean you might have uh verbal
attacks thrown at your ego but just know
that this is manipulation in and of
itself too to attempt to change your
emotional state and your internal
worldview your job is still to operate
through truth your job is still to stay
calm stoic and rational now you need to
understand this you need to understand
that she will only be faithful to a man
that she cannot control or manipulate
emotionally okay
emotionally a man who she cannot control
emot and a man that she cannot
manipulate emotionally to change his
internal state of emotion this is the
only type of man that she can be
faithful to and that she can respect
because if you fall to the Temptation or
to the beauty similar to how I believe
Adam probably did in the story you are
typically met with some kind of
emotional pain okay so keep that in mind
so what I did was I crafted five
specific steps that you can do and that
you can use and that you can apply in
order to make your dating life better
okay because here's what I can tell you
if you listen to these five steps you're
going to watch yourself have a more
peaceful internal State you're going to
be less focused on lust and on top of
that you're going to be able to create
the right Dynamic with the woman that
you're dating so she respects you and
that way it lasts so if you do find her
really attractive if you do find her
beautiful if she is a great woman that
you would want to be with then I just
want to help you have the skills to make
sure that that happens okay so there's
five steps to navigate this number
One never under any circumstances let
her emotional state detract you from
rational
truth pretty important concept isn't it
right you feel me never let her
emotional state detract you from
rational
truth okay you're going to watch this
happen a lot of times where the man will
instantly go along to get along and
change his
belief or change his statement on
something in order to appease her and
this is not good okay so never under any
circumstances let her emotional state
detract you from rational truth if you
know that something is correct and you
believe something to be true it is your
job to make sure that you demonstrate it
that's very important now number two her
idea of love and who she loves is purely
based on which man is strong enough
emotionally to not be
manipulated okay her idea of love and
who she loves loves is purely based on
which man is strong enough emotionally
to not be manipulated now number three
what does this mean this means that sex
appeal and beauty is often times her
highest leverage form of manipulation so
what does that mean right that means you
cannot fall for the illusion of
femininity you see beauty and femininity
has this interesting effect on men it
makes
you lose your judgment and it makes you
lose your character in certain ways is
if you're able to have your internal
world of emotion
changed it's very deceiving because the
way it's
presented when you're a man and you are
attracted to her is you look at her and
she looks so sweet so beautiful you
associate the Beauty and the femininity
with all good traits okay and then the
issue with that is you don't see that
often times that has a negative
repercussion until it's too
late so there's a lot of guys who they
don't know how to cope with these things
there's some men out there where they
cope with this through drinking there
are some men out there who distract
themselves from this
with playing video games whatever the
case may be but the truth is they just
need a little bit more wisdom they just
need a little bit more wisdom so their
mind opens up a little bit and they can
see this for what it
is so that means you cannot be enticed
through her beauty you have to stay
strong stoic calm and rational you have
to understand that there is things that
will make you lower your guard and
change your judgment that's not good
okay or that will make you I don't even
know if judgment is the right word it
will make you change your mind on
certain things or get you to change how
you see the world and this can affect
your emotional state this is not good
number four this is the fourth step to
navigate this
okay women do not often times see you
from the out outside in they see you
from the inside out she is constantly
asking herself what is he made of and
she's constantly going to test your
character to see if you have became weak
for her beauty yet which brings me to
point number five all you can control is
your own actions that's it which is why
you need to live towards a peaceful
State this is why you need to actually
grow and develop who you are okay inside
of our community we've actually now
crossed over 900 guys that's a lot of
people together and next day we're
actually starting a
challenge I named it something that is
obviously tied to you know everything
that we're doing in the name of the
community I called it the headman habits
90-day challenge so we're doing this
amazing thing where I'm going to help
all these guys you know start to get
their life in order and I'm going to
show them the daily dedication and
success habits that made me into who I
am so that way you can be the man that I
know that you want to be so I invite you
to join us inside of that it's below in
the description inside of our community
but regardless you have to understand
this this video right here is designed
to help you this video is not meant to
make you become toxic this video is not
meant to make you have a bad worldview
where you think all dating interactions
are pointless and you know everything is
negative that's not what this is about
that's why I'm telling you you are able
to actually exercise frame and leverage
over the interaction because you're not
willing to be let as stray and the
reason why I'm telling you this is
because now often times she will look at
you and she'll say well you're mean I
can't believe you're acting this way or
what do you mean that's what you think
or all these different things but you
have to understand the word in and of
itself does not necessarily have a
negative association to it what I'm
explaining to you is how you can
actually just see this for what it is so
in my opinion this is a very important
video in my opinion this is something
that every man needs to internalize
because you cannot change this with a
bigger bank account you cannot change
this with more social media followers
you cannot change this by being 7et tall
you cannot change this by being Charming
you cannot change this by being
good-look you cannot change this by
having a perfect hairline you cannot
change this through having amazing style
this is something rooted that I believe
into the dating Dynamic of how people
behave if you like this video I want you
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