The Science Of Being Attractive

Summary

This script delves into the science behind attraction, exploring how facial features signal health and fertility. It discusses the role of sexual dimorphism in mate selection, where women seek masculine traits in men for strength and capability, and men are drawn to feminine traits for nurturing qualities. The video challenges the notion that physical appearance is everything, emphasizing the importance of personality traits like empathy and confidence. It concludes by encouraging viewers to focus on their positive attributes rather than fixating on unchangeable aspects, suggesting that a healthy self-image and personality can enhance attractiveness.

Takeaways

• 🧠 Attractiveness is often perceived within a tenth of a second and is influenced by factors beyond just physical appearance, such as health, competence, and personality.
• 👁 Facial attractiveness is linked to health indicators; clear eyes suggest a strong immune system, full lips indicate good blood circulation, and facial symmetry is associated with fewer genetic mutations.
• 🤔 The concept of 'averageness' in faces is considered attractive because it signals a lower likelihood of genetic abnormalities, providing a sense of familiarity and reduced risk for potential mates.
• 🚹🚺 Sexual dimorphism refers to the physical differences between genders, with men exhibiting traits like pronounced jawlines and women having softer, rounder features, which are linked to perceptions of masculinity and femininity.
• 💪 Masculine features in men, such as a muscular build and taller stature, signal strength and capability, which are attractive to women as indicators of the ability to provide for a family.
• 👩‍🦰 Feminine characteristics like a curvaceous figure are associated with fertility, making them attractive to men for reproductive success.
• 🧘‍♀️ Personality traits play a significant role in attraction, with feminine qualities like empathy and nurturing being sought after for long-term relationship success.
• 🚫 Overemphasis on physical appearance can lead to neglecting other important aspects of human connection, such as emotional compatibility and shared values.
• 💡 The halo effect, where assumptions are made about a person's personality based on their appearance, is a cognitive bias that can be overcome through deeper interactions and understanding.
• 🌟 Focusing on unchangeable aspects of oneself can harm self-image and attractiveness; instead, developing one's personality and positive attributes can enhance overall appeal.

Q & A

What is the primary factor that determines facial attractiveness according to the script?

Facial attractiveness is primarily a signal for health. Features such as bright, clear eyes, full lips, and symmetrical faces are perceived as attractive because they can indicate a strong immune system, good blood circulation, and fewer genetic mutations, respectively.

How does the concept of 'facial averageness' relate to attractiveness?

Facial averageness is considered attractive because it is believed to signal a lower likelihood of genetic abnormalities. The average face combines features from a demographic throughout history, and the familiarity of these average features makes them less risky to pass on to offspring.

What is sexual dimorphism and how does it influence attraction?

Sexual dimorphism refers to the physical differences between the genders of a species, which result from sexual selection. It influences attraction by signaling traits like masculinity in men, such as pronounced jaw lines and cheekbones, which are associated with strength and capability, and femininity in women, like fuller cheeks and smaller chins, which are linked to empathy and warmth.

Why are certain personality traits more attractive in long-term relationships?

Certain personality traits are more attractive in long-term relationships because they signal qualities that aid in survival and reproduction. For example, sensitivity, empathy, and nurturing traits are advantageous for raising offspring, while confidence and emotional compatibility contribute to a sense of closeness and intimacy.

How does the script explain the balance between masculine and feminine traits in attraction?

The script explains that while both men and women are attracted to certain masculine traits, excessive masculinity can be a threat to social monogamy due to its association with dominance and independence. Women may seek partners with moderate levels of masculinity to ensure the presence of feminine traits that are beneficial for long-term success and attraction.

What role does ego play in attraction according to the script?

Ego, manifesting as self-confidence, assertiveness, and charisma, is attractive as it signals competence and capability, which are masculine qualities. However, an excessive ego can be detrimental, leading to arrogance and making a person a risky option for long-term relationships.

How does the script challenge the idea that physical appearance is everything in attraction?

The script challenges the idea by discussing the importance of personality traits and the familiarity principle, which suggests that repeated exposure to someone can overshadow initial assumptions based on appearance. It also emphasizes that attraction is influenced by a variety of factors, including personal preferences and needs, rather than just physical perfection.

What is the 'self-verification theory' mentioned in the script, and how does it relate to attraction?

The self-verification theory suggests that people seek mates that confirm their self-image. If someone has an inflated self-image, they may feel they deserve a partner who meets their grandiose expectations, which can lead to instability in relationships if their partner does not match their expectations.

How does the script address the concern that focusing on appearance can negatively impact self-image?

The script addresses this concern by arguing that fixating on unchangeable aspects of one's appearance can worsen self-image and prevent personal growth. It encourages focusing on developing a well-rounded personality and understanding that attraction is influenced by more than just physical traits.

What is the 'halo effect' as discussed in the script, and how does it influence our perception of attractiveness?

The halo effect is a cognitive bias where our overall impression of a person influences our feelings and thoughts about their character. In the context of attractiveness, it means that if someone is perceived as physically attractive, they are also often assumed to have better personalities or be more successful, which can influence our attraction to them.

Outlines

00:00

🧬 The Science of Attraction

The paragraph delves into the concept of attraction, suggesting that it's not just superficial but has evolutionary roots. It discusses how quickly the brain evaluates a person's health, competence, and personality upon first glance. Facial attractiveness is explored as a signal of health, with features like clear eyes, full lips, and facial symmetry indicating good health and genetic quality. The idea of 'facial averageness' is introduced as a sign of lower genetic abnormalities, and the paragraph concludes by noting that while attraction has a basis in health and youth, it's not the sole determinant of a person's worth or potential as a mate.

05:00

💪 Sexual Dimorphism and Attractiveness

This section examines sexual dimorphism, the physical differences between genders, and how these differences impact mate selection. It explains that historically, men had to demonstrate their ability to provide for a family, leading to the attraction towards masculine traits like a strong jawline and muscular build. Conversely, feminine traits like full cheeks and smaller chins signal empathy and warmth. The paragraph also touches on the balance between seeking masculine traits in a partner for genetic benefits while avoiding the risks associated with overly dominant characteristics. It suggests that a blend of masculine and feminine traits is often seen as most attractive, as it promises the best of both worlds in terms of long-term relationship success.

🤔 The Role of Personality in Attraction

The final paragraph shifts the focus from physical traits to personality, emphasizing that while physical appearance plays a role, personality traits like empathy, confidence, and emotional compatibility become more significant in long-term relationships. It discusses the concept of 'familiarity principle,' suggesting that as people get to know each other better, their personalities can override initial judgments based on appearance. The paragraph argues against the idea that one must be genetically perfect to be attractive or successful, highlighting the importance of self-esteem and personal development. It concludes by encouraging individuals to focus on their positive qualities and personal growth rather than fixating on unchangeable aspects of their appearance.

Keywords

💡Attraction

Attraction in the context of the video refers to the initial, often subconscious, assessment of another person's physical appearance and how it might signal health, fertility, and genetic quality. The video discusses how attraction is not just about aesthetics but is deeply rooted in evolutionary biology, where certain facial and body features are associated with good health and strong genes.

💡Facial Attractiveness

Facial Attractiveness is a nuanced concept within the video that suggests some people's faces are deemed more attractive due to evolutionary signals of health. For instance, clear eyes might indicate a strong immune system, while symmetrical faces could suggest fewer genetic mutations. The video uses this concept to explain why certain facial features are universally considered attractive.

💡Sexual Dimorphism

Sexual Dimorphism is the term used in the video to describe the physical differences between the genders of a species, which are a result of sexual selection. The video explains how men and women have evolved different physical traits that signal their ability to provide resources and their fertility, respectively, which are crucial for successful reproduction.

💡Masculinity

Masculinity, as discussed in the video, refers to the physical and personality traits typically associated with men, such as a strong jawline, muscular build, and assertiveness. These traits are attractive to women as they signal dominance, strength, and the ability to provide, which are advantageous for survival and reproduction.

💡Femininity

Femininity in the video is associated with traits like empathy, warmth, and a curvaceous figure, which are linked to reproductive success and nurturing abilities. The video suggests that while men are attracted to feminine traits, women may seek a balance of masculinity and femininity in their partners for long-term relationship success.

💡Genetic Mutations

Genetic Mutations are mentioned in the context of facial symmetry being an indicator of fewer such mutations, which is attractive from an evolutionary perspective. The video implies that a symmetrical face is a sign of good overall development and genetic health, making it more appealing for potential mates.

💡Ego

Ego, as discussed in the video, refers to an individual's self-image and self-esteem. It is associated with traits like self-confidence and charisma, which are attractive in both men and women. However, the video cautions that an excessive ego can be a turn-off, as it may lead to arrogance and infidelity, undermining long-term relationship stability.

💡Self-Verification Theory

The Self-Verification Theory mentioned in the video suggests that people are attracted to mates who confirm their self-image. This means that individuals with high self-esteem might seek partners who reflect their positive self-view, while those with low self-esteem might be drawn to partners who validate their insecurities.

💡Familiarity Principle

The Familiarity Principle in the video is used to explain how repeated exposure to someone can lead to increased attraction, overriding initial judgments based on appearance. This principle is important because it highlights that attraction is not solely based on physical traits but can be influenced by personal interactions and the development of positive associations.

💡Halo Effect

The Halo Effect is a cognitive bias where an individual's positive traits are assumed based on a single dominant characteristic, such as physical attractiveness. The video discusses how this effect can lead to assumptions about a person's personality based on their appearance, which may not always be accurate.

💡Personality

Personality is emphasized in the video as a significant factor in attraction, beyond physical appearance. Traits like empathy, confidence, and emotional compatibility are highlighted as important for long-term relationships. The video argues that while looks play a role, a person's personality can significantly influence their attractiveness to others.

Highlights

Attraction is a quick evaluation of a person's health, competence, and personality based on appearance.

Facial attractiveness signals health; clear eyes suggest a strong immune system, and full lips indicate good blood circulation.

Symmetrical faces are perceived as more attractive due to evolutionary indicators of fewer genetic mutations.

Facial averageness is linked to a lower likelihood of genetic abnormalities, making average features attractive.

Sexual dimorphism refers to physical differences between genders, influencing mate selection based on perceived ability to provide.

Masculine features in men, like pronounced jawlines, signal dominance and are attractive to some women seeking confidence.

Feminine characteristics in women, such as full cheeks, are linked to empathy and warmth, making them seem more trustworthy.

Physical dimorphism extends to body types, with taller, more muscular men and curvaceous women being seen as more attractive.

Human beings are socially monogamous, seeking long-term partners who can share the burden of raising offspring.

Feminine personality traits are attractive because they signal qualities beneficial for the survival of offspring.

Masculine personality traits can be a threat to social monogamy due to their association with dominance and independence.

A balance of masculine and feminine traits is often sought in partners for long-term relationship success.

Ego, or self-image, plays a role in attraction, with confidence being a desirable masculine quality.

An excessive ego can be unattractive, as it may lead to arrogance and a perception of being a risky partner.

The familiarity principle suggests that spending time with someone can overcome initial judgments based on appearance.

Personality traits can overshadow the importance of physical appearance in long-term relationships.

Focusing on unchangeable aspects of oneself can worsen self-image and decrease attractiveness.

The video concludes that while physical appearance plays a role, it is not the sole determinant of attraction or success in relationships.

Transcripts

so you want to find out why you're easy

to draw well you've come to the right

man because there's no greater source of

wisdom than a man with gigantism in his

nuts so attraction at a glance is

aesthetic when you look at someone you

find attractive what you consciously

think is damn she bad before walking

away and never speaking to her again me

too however on a deeper level that

phrase represents the tenth of a second

your brain took to evaluate this

person's health competence even

personality because that in a nutshell

is attraction using the power of science

psychology and divine intervention I'm

about to show you why you're nothing

more than a pathetic worth

monkey part one facial attractiveness

facial attractiveness is a bit of a

nuanced topic some people argue that

looks are subjective While others

suggest that there's a science to an

attractive face and here's the thing

looks are

subjective to a degree because while you

may be someone who likes big noses or

sleepy looking eyes it's know one's

preference to like crooked teeth or

pumes because facial attractiveness is a

signal for health for instance bright

Clear Eyes with a white Scara suggest a

strong immune system as infections or

fatigue can create discoloration of this

feature full lips are considered a sign

of Youth and vitality and are linked to

good blood

circulation and studies show that people

with symmetrical faces are often

perceived as more attractive because on

an evolutionary level symmetry can

indicate fewer genetic mutations and

better overall development of your no

facial averageness is another indicator

but not average in terms of 5 out of 10

average in terms of combining all the

faces of one demographic throughout

history because the resulting face is

believed to Signal a lower likelihood of

genetic abnormalities the reason the

average nose is the average nose is

because it's a size and shape that

survived countless sucks and [ __ ]

meaning the familiarity of average

features makes them less risky to pass

on to off spring but this doesn't mean

that non- aage faces can't be attractive

there's plenty of people that don't

exactly resemble the average face for

their ethnicity and are still attractive

because attraction is health health is

youth because the younger you are the

more fertile you are so beauty is youth

calm down

Drake and our attraction to these facial

traits guide us towards potential mates

who are not just aesthetically pleasing

but also likely to have stronger immune

systems and better overall health but KD

if that's the case then how the hell did

this uncanny [ __ ] pull

her part two dimorphism sexual

dimorphism put simply is the physical

differences in genders of a given

species and is a result of our in

seexual intersexual mating Dynamic where

men would compete for resources to

attract women and women would select

mates based on the pool available to

them and humans along with other mammal

species are sexually selective in this

way because although females can and

have participated in Hunts they also

become vegetables for 9 months after

smashing pisss with a man therefore in

order for a woman to consider a man as a

potential mate he has to be able to

provide in the event of pregnancy and

because of this women look for signs of

masculinity in men for instance more

pronounced jaw lines and prominent

cheekbones in men are often associated

with ass servess and dominance traits

that can be attractive to those seeking

confidence and Leadership qualities in a

partner on the other hand softer rounder

facial features commonly seen in women

such as Fuller cheeks and smaller chins

are linked to feminine characteristics

such as empathy and warmth which makes

the person seem more trustworthy rather

than dominant dimorphism extends to the

body as well as a taller more muscular

and broader physique is often associated

with strength and capability which gives

further signaling to a woman that a man

is capable of providing on the other

hand a more curvaceous figure is linked

to fertility as wider hips higher

natural body fat levels and tig old

bitties are valuable for Reproductive

success now here's a question if

masculine features are attractive in men

why aren't women obsessed with the

gigachad in the same way they are with

someone like this because masculinity is

ugly kind of part three personality the

human brain has learned over millions of

years of natural and sexual selection

that certain visual traits are signals

for more important traits ones that will

Aid in survival and reproduction you may

not realize it but all humans are

attracted to femininity and the reason

for this is because humans are what

biologists call socially monogamous

where we live in pairs but still retain

attraction to people outside the

relationship this development was around

the time of homo erectus by the way

before this polygamy was a part of our

mating Dynamic however human babies take

a [ __ ] ton of time to fully mature so

the investment for Parenthood is large

therefore it's more advantageous for

males and females to pair bond and share

the burden of raising Offspring because

of this infidelity is a risk for both

genders thus we seek feminine

personality traits such as sensitivity

empathy being caring and nurturing

because mating with someone who

possesses these qualities are

advantageous for survival of you and

your bloodline but masculine personality

traits are in some ways a threat to

social monogamy because masculine is

dominant it's independent rebellious and

at times dangerous however unlike men

women have evolved to be attracted to

masculine traits thus masculine features

as well because if they weren't her and

her child wouldn't even make it past the

first trimester so while men are

attracted to women who are as feminine

as can be women May seek Partners who

exhibit moderate levels of masculinity

without the risks of cheating associated

with more pronounced masculine traits

this is why you'll find that women won't

be attracted to the gigachad in the same

way they are to someone like young

DiCaprio going for slightly androgynous

looking men signals a possibility for

feminine traits while still having some

masculine qualities thus getting the

best of both worlds in terms of

long-term success and attraction but by

this logic does that mean that women who

cheat are

masculine [ __ ] maybe part four ego ego

in short form is your conscious

self-image and self-esteem ego may not

be exclusive to men or women however the

traits associated with healthy ego such

as self-confidence assertiveness and

Charisma are all more attractive in men

because they are masculine qualities

that signal competence and capability

however excessive ego can have the

opposite effect because when

self-confidence becomes arrogance you

become a risky option to have children

with the self-verification theory

suggests that people will go for mates

that confirm their self-image this means

that if you have an inflated self-image

you may feel you deserve better than a

partner who doesn't meet your grandiose

expectations this can cause unsettlement

for both parties as the breakdown of

intimacy caused by unhappiness can

further damage your attraction for one

another there's also a danger with

fragile ego as insecurity may lead to

cheating as a way to validate their

selfworth and boost their self-image

therefore a healthy amount of the quote

masculine traits that ego provides is

necessary for both genders as having

confidence in yourself as well as your

partner is essential for long-term

attraction and without it relationships

become more about self- validation about

Parenthood or intimacy so with this all

being said does this mean that if you're

not born a perfect 10 life has no

meaning and you should just stop

showering stop having goals and just end

it all no not really in fact Even after

spending a month furiously studying

evolutionary theory in every ugly

shallow aspect of human nature I still

think that fixating on your appearance

is somewhat [ __ ] for many reasons

for one hyper fixating on your

appearance neglects like 50% of being a

human which is the fact that we have

developed brains with morals

self-awareness and the ability to drown

out the halo effect cuz if you think

about it the assumptions that we make

about Attractive people versus

unattractive people are very easy to

understand in this context humans back

in the day witnessed that less

attractive therefore less successful

people would have worse personalities

while the more successful thus more

attractive people would be hunting

living [ __ ] they'd be much happier

and much more confident thus even more

attractive and because we evolve from a

time where looks were just about

everything you saw from a person we've

learned internalized and created the

halo effect based on pattern recognition

and the pattern we've learned from this

is even observable now men who can't get

laid become violent and hateful towards

women and women who can't hold down a

relationship with who they want start

saying [ __ ] like this I it's so hard for

women to find a man that they're

attracted to I swear like I used to

settle right like in my early 20s I was

like you know what I'm not going to get

the person who I look at and I want to

like rip their clothes off and while

physical appearance undeniably plays a

role in all those equal situations where

there's an absence of deeper knowledge

about a person's personality like speed

dating or a job interview or most on

topic the [ __ ] Wilderness in our

modern society where we have the

opportunity to interact more deeply and

gather more comprehensive information

about people traits such as empathy

confidence and emotional compatibility

become more noticeable which leads into

my second Point thinking in this

acoustic manner makes it seem like you

have to be genetic Perfection to even

have a chance at life when that really

isn't the case and there's psychology to

support it the familiarity principle

which essentially is your presence

giving people the information that they

can't obtain from looking at you can

drown out the assumptions we make based

on appearance somewhat because at the

end of the day humans develop attraction

for the end goal of Parenthood and

comfort positive Association and a sense

of closeness and intimacy are things

people search for and why we have

evolved to assume these traits through

appearance and additionally there's just

so many factors that play that influence

who you're attracted to such as your

needs in life to your own self-image to

even just personal preference that

trying to hold all 8 billion people to a

bunch of studies is is pretty pointless

especially when you don't have any

knowhow on biology or human psychology

and you just take all this information

at face value based on your experience

so the key thing to note is that as long

as you check some of the boxes as long

as you're not completely screwed in all

areas of life personality actually has

the ability to push out some of the

importance of looks maybe not all of it

but a noticeable amount but what I do

know for 100% sure is that focusing on

the unchangeable things about you will

only worsen your self-image stop you

from actually making something

worthwhile from your life and just

overall making you less attractive than

you already be and if you think

otherwise you're probably the type of

person who looks for videos like these

to validate your shitty self-esteem

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