7 reasons Why you keep attracting Married men / Unavailable guys

Summary

This video script delves into seven reasons why some individuals may consistently attract married or unavailable partners. It explores patterns of attraction to unavailable individuals, the allure of what one can't have, and the impact of past relationship experiences, including 'daddy issues.' The script also addresses the desire for fun over commitment, self-worth, and the subconscious guarding of one's heart to avoid heartbreak. It concludes with encouragement to set boundaries and recognize one's value to attract healthier relationships.

Takeaways

• 🔍 Avoiding establishing a man's relationship status can lead to attracting unavailable men.
• 🤔 Paying attention to a man's behavior, such as hiding his phone or being unavailable after certain hours, can signal that he's not fully available.
• 💔 The desire for what seems unattainable can fuel attraction to unavailable partners, which may stem from anxious attachment.
• 📝 Identifying patterns in past relationships can reveal why you might be drawn to unavailable individuals.
• 🚫 Being clear about what you want in a partner can help avoid distractions from 'shiny objects' or temporary flings.
• 👨‍👧 Daddy issues, such as lack of a father figure, can influence the choice of romantic partners who are reminiscent of that absence.
• 🎉 Preferring fun and light-hearted interactions over deeper, more challenging aspects of a relationship can lead to attraction to those who are not fully invested.
• 💌 Believing you don't deserve someone fully committed to you can result in attracting partners who give minimal attention.
• 🚫 Setting boundaries and voicing your needs are crucial for attracting partners who respect and value you.
• 💔 Guarding your heart by choosing unavailable partners as a defense mechanism to avoid future heartbreak.

Q & A

Why might someone keep attracting married or unavailable men?

The script suggests that this could be due to avoiding establishing a man's relationship status, having a pattern of wanting what you can't have, or being unclear about what you're looking for in a partner.

What are some behaviors that might indicate a man is trying to hide his relationship status?

The man might hide his phone, take phone calls outside, be unavailable after certain hours, or take you to remote places to avoid being seen.

How does the concept of 'wanting what you can't have' relate to attracting unavailable men?

This concept suggests that when a man is more unavailable, it feeds into an individual's anxious attachment, creating excitement and a challenge, which can be more appealing than a fully available partner.

What role might past relationship patterns play in attracting unavailable men?

By analyzing past relationships, one might identify a pattern of being attracted to unavailable partners, which could be a sign of deeper issues that need to be addressed.

Why might someone be drawn to 'shiny objects' or fun, temporary relationships over long-term commitments?

The script implies that this could be due to a fear of commitment or a lack of clarity about what one truly wants in a life partner.

How can 'daddy issues' influence a person's choice in romantic partners?

If someone grew up without a present father figure, they might unconsciously seek out unavailable partners as a way of recreating and working through that early relationship dynamic.

What does the script suggest about the mindset of someone who only wants the fun aspects of a relationship?

The script indicates that focusing solely on the fun aspects can prevent someone from building a true, deep relationship that includes the more challenging and serious parts of life.

Why might someone feel they don't deserve a partner who fully chooses them?

This belief could stem from low self-esteem or past experiences where they were not chosen or valued, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy of attracting partners who don't fully commit.

How can setting boundaries and vocalizing one's needs change the type of people one attracts?

By clearly stating what is acceptable and what is not, and by expressing when one feels disrespected, an individual can attract partners who respect and value them more.

What is the psychological reasoning behind choosing unavailable partners to protect oneself from heartbreak?

The script suggests that by choosing unavailable partners, one might subconsciously protect themselves from the pain of heartbreak, as they already know the relationship has limits and isn't fully invested.

What advice does the script offer for someone looking to break the cycle of attracting unavailable men?

The script advises self-reflection, recognizing patterns, setting boundaries, and understanding one's own value to attract healthier, more available partners.