How to influence people.
Summary
TLDRIn this impassioned speech, the speaker underscores the paramount importance of communication as the key to leadership and influence. They delve into the art of persuasion, asserting that it extends beyond sales to include shaping actions and perspectives. The speaker shares insights on how to effectively persuade, emphasizing the need to understand an individual's motivations, intent, desired outcomes, and the justness of the cause. They illustrate this with a recruitment narrative, highlighting the power of aligning personal aspirations with a greater purpose.
Takeaways
- π£οΈ The most important gift and tool for leaders is communication, as it is essential for influencing others.
- π― Communication aims to either persuade someone to take action or change their perspective.
- πΌ Selling is a part of persuasion, but the art of persuasion is broader and includes various methods to influence others.
- π± Rapid business growth requires creating leaders who can not only perform tasks but also inspire and persuade.
- π‘ Understanding the motivations of an audience is crucial for effective communication and persuasion.
- π Intent refers to the impact a person wants to have, which is different from their motivation for taking action.
- π The end state or desired outcome is a key component in persuading others, as it provides a vision of the future.
- π A just cause underpins effective persuasion, making the audience believe in the righteousness of the goal.
- π± The speaker uses a real-life example of recruiting a candidate to illustrate how to apply motivation, intent, and desired outcome in a persuasive conversation.
- π₯ Passion and conviction in communication are infectious and can significantly influence others to join a cause or take action.
Q & A
What is considered the single most important gift in the world according to the speaker?
-The speaker considers the gift of communication as the single most important gift in the world.
Why is communication essential for leaders?
-Communication is essential for leaders because they cannot influence where they cannot communicate, making it a critical skill for leadership.
What are the two primary reasons humans communicate according to the speaker?
-Humans communicate primarily to either get someone to do something they want them to do or to get someone to see something from their perspective.
How does the speaker relate sales to persuasion?
-The speaker sees sales as a part of persuasion, where it involves getting someone to see value and take action on that perceived value.
What is the broader concept that includes the art of sales, according to the speaker?
-The broader concept that includes the art of sales is persuasion, which the speaker describes as a broader science.
Why is it important for the speaker to help their team learn how to communicate?
-It is important for the speaker to help their team learn how to communicate because they are growing rapidly and the speaker needs to create leaders who can inspire and persuade.
What is the speaker's self-assessed strength in the context of communication?
-The speaker believes their strength lies in their ability to persuade, which they consider a gift they are unequaled in.
What is the first part of the process to learn how to influence and persuade, as mentioned by the speaker?
-The first part of the process to learn how to influence and persuade is to understand motivations, which are the reasons behind people's actions.
What is the difference between motivation and intent according to the speaker?
-Motivation is why people do what they do, while intent is the impact they want to have or the outcome they desire.
What does the speaker suggest is necessary for a cause to inspire people?
-The speaker suggests that for a cause to inspire people, it must be a just cause, one that is rooted and grounded in people's perspective of the world.
How does the speaker illustrate the application of understanding motivation, intent, and desired outcome in a real-life scenario?
-The speaker illustrates this by discussing a recruitment conversation with a candidate named Claire, where he connects her potential role with the company's mission to a broader impact on Africa's future.
Outlines
π£οΈ The Power of Communication
The speaker emphasizes the paramount importance of communication as the most crucial tool for leaders to influence others. They argue that without effective communication, it's impossible to lead or persuade. The speaker discusses the purpose of communication, which is often to either motivate action or alter perspectives. They touch on the broader concept of persuasion, which encompasses more than just sales. The speaker shares their personal experience in teaching communication skills to their team, especially as their business grows rapidly, and the need to create leaders who can inspire and persuade. The speaker also mentions their own strength in persuasion and hints at a scientific approach to learning communication.
π§ Understanding Motivation and Intent
This paragraph delves into the first part of effective communication: understanding the motivations of the audience. The speaker suggests that every action is driven by a motivation, whether explicit or implicit. They stress the importance of being interested in the audience's motivations and using that knowledge to persuade and influence. The speaker also introduces the concept of 'intent', which is the desired impact one wants to have. They use the example of Martin Luther King Jr.'s 'I Have a Dream' speech to illustrate the power of communicating a clear and compelling end state or desired outcome. The speaker also emphasizes the need for the cause to be just and worth pursuing, which is essential for effective persuasion.
π Persuasion Through Personal Impact
The speaker shares a personal anecdote about recruiting a candidate for a capital-raising role. They describe the candidate's background and the challenge of persuading someone with many opportunities to join their team. The speaker uses the candidate's personal connection to Nigeria as a point of persuasion, discussing the potential impact she could have by joining their mission to develop leadership in Africa. The speaker outlines the company's plans to invest in education and development, emphasizing the just cause of improving the continent. The conversation is framed around the candidate's potential legacy and the difference she could make, rather than the company's immediate needs or benefits.
π₯ The Art of Persuasive Communication
In the final paragraph, the speaker reflects on the conversation with the candidate, highlighting the importance of aligning personal motivations, intent, and desired outcomes with a just cause. They encourage the audience to apply these principles in their own lives and businesses, emphasizing the effectiveness of this approach in persuasion and leadership. The speaker concludes with an invitation for feedback and a farewell, expressing enthusiasm and passion for the topic.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Communication
π‘Persuasion
π‘Motivation
π‘Intent
π‘End State
π‘Just Cause
π‘Capital Raising
π‘Influence
π‘Leadership
π‘Desired Outcome
Highlights
The gift of communication is the single most important gift in the world.
Leadership is impossible without the ability to communicate effectively.
The primary purpose of communication is to influence others to take action or change perspective.
Persuasion is a broader science than just sales, which is a transactional aspect of persuasion.
As the business grows, the importance of teaching leaders to communicate and persuade increases.
Capital raising is an exercise in persuasion, aiming to align investors' views with your vision.
The speaker believes their greatest gift is the ability to persuade.
Learning to communicate effectively involves understanding the scientific process behind it.
Understanding motivations is the first step in learning to influence and persuade.
Intent refers to the impact individuals want to have, which is different from their motivations.
Desired outcome, or end state, is a critical component in persuasive communication.
A just cause is essential for inspiring people and persuading them to join a mission.
The speaker provides a live example of persuading a candidate to join their venture.
The candidate's personal connection to Nigeria is used to align her motivations with the company's mission.
The leadership foundation is introduced as a just cause to attract top talent.
The speaker emphasizes the long-term impact and legacy of the candidate's potential decision.
The conversation concludes with an invitation for the candidate to reflect on her life's impact.
Transcripts
hello
family
hey guys
i wanted to uh come into your space
today
uh to share the following with you
so
the single most important gift in the
world in my mind is the gift of
communication
the greatest tool of influence all
leaders have
is communication
you cannot influence where you cannot
communicate it's impossible
so learning to communicate is a critical
skill for any of you who think of
yourselves as leaders
right of course
learn to communicate
but if you would learn to communicate
the question becomes communicate for
what purpose what's the outcome
99 of the time
the reason we human beings communicate
is to either
get somebody to do something we want
them to do
or to get somebody to see something we
want them to see
so either i want you to take action
or i want to change your perspective
but either way to do both of these
things i need to communicate i need to
influence i need to as the language says
persuade
[Music]
so i hear terms like selling and um
selling is a portion of how you persuade
but the art of persuasion is much bigger
than just the art of sales sales at the
end of the day is how you transact it's
how i get you to not only see value but
take action on the value that you see
persuasion though
or persuasion is uh
it's a broader science
i spend a lot of time in our business
internally with my own team
helping in particular
my management and executive team
learn how to communicate
the reason this is important is because
we've been growing fairly rapidly of
late
and i've been stepping up
the level at which i serve in the
organization
and as i step up i've had to create
leaders
to take over some of the things i used
to do
and the only way to do this is not only
if you capacitate the leaders to do the
job
but it's also if you capacitate the
leaders
to inspire
to enthuse
to persuade
which means i've had to learn
how do you take a manager who's good at
reading a spreadsheet
and teach them
how to communicate
and inspire people
how to persuade
as we speak
i'm busy capital raising we're busy
capital raising
which is such a funny experience really
but you know the art of capital raising
is just the art of persuasion
it's getting investors whether they're
institutional lps family offices or high
net worth to see the world the way you
see the world and back your thesis
it's persuasion
it's communication
and if there's one thing i'm good at
it is this
if there is a single gift
that god has given me
a gift
where i genuinely and honestly believe i
am unequaled
it's my ability
to persuade
but if you were to do it
how would you do it
what's the formula for learning how to
communicate
it's actually scientific
there is a process you can follow
and if you follow the process
you'll get the outcome
the first part of that process is to
understand motivations
everybody does something because
everybody
wants something
we're human beings we're creatures of
incentive
you don't go to the gym and
sweat and bust your ass just because
you're bored you go there because
somebody served you ads
of somebody who looked really good
physically
and you bought the picture that if i
look like this i'm gonna feel happier
the car you drive is because somebody
served you an ad saying if you drive
this car you might be happier
even the school that you send your kids
to you send them to that school
because you either believe it's going to
give them the best education or it
prepares them for the future or but
everything you believe about the school
you were persuaded
you were told
so there is an implicit motivation for
the things you're doing
there are some things we do as human
beings where the motivation is clearly
explicit
then there are some things where the
motivation
is implicit
but make no mistake
there is motivation there
so the first part of learning how to
influence and persuade
is to be interested
in your audience
and not just this be interested in
what's motivating your audience
to want to talk to you
so i'm fascinated by you watching this
video right now
why are you watching it
what do you hope to learn
it's a trade-off you're giving me your
time and attention
and i'm serving contents on top of mind
in your head right now
but there is a motivation there
the motivation for me is i want to
remain top of mind for you
what's the motivation for you
why are you
here
so the first part then of learning how
to arc story and how to persuade
is to understand
the internal implicit motivation
of the audience the person with whom
you're dealing
having a
conversation the second thing to
understand when you really want to learn
how to persuade an influence
is intent
so motivation is why people do what they
do
intent is what impact do they want to
have their true intent their motive
their um the outcome they desire
here is a great way to think of it
my motivation
uh for being
a
my motivation for being a venture
capitalist is that i
am excited about the future and i love
partnering with founders
um
and i genuinely believe that i can make
a difference in working with founders
building the future
my intent
would be
building a better africa
so once you understand the motivation
why people do what they do
the intent
is then around what is the impact that
they want to have
[Music]
now you've got to arc these into the
conversation with the person and i'm
going to give you an example of how you
do that
in a minute
the third
is what is
the end state
the desired outcome
the end state
in the most iconic speech of the 20th
century martin luther king said i have a
dream
in fact he says
i have a dream
that one day
the sons of former slaves and the sons
of former slave owners
will they be able to break bread in the
table of brotherhood i have a dream
today
what did he say he had
a dream
what was he selling
an end state
a desired
outcome
motivation
why do you do what you do
intent
what's the impact that you want to have
desired outcome
where are we going
and why do we want to go there
so how do you
then
into
something that really inspires people
well to arc them you have to base them
all on one thing which is that the cause
as simon sinek says has to be a just
cause
people have to believe that the cause is
worth pursuing you can't just
i have a dream
but the cause is not worth pursuing it's
got to be real rooted and grounded
in in people's perspective of the world
and if it's not then you've got to
communicate it in a manner that it
becomes that
it's got to seem like a just cause
i want to build an electric car company
why because we're destroying the planet
i want to build a payment gateway
company why because it's hard for
entrepreneurs to facilitate payments
across africa
i want to build an edtech business why
because education is prohibitively
expensive for the poor
and i want to make it affordable
it's got to be a just
cause
so how do you arch these
into a story
how do you arch these into a
conversation of persuasion
with your client
with your staff your employees
with your partner and your spouse
i'm going to give you a live example of
something i did the other day
so
i've been recruiting
been looking for
somebody who's going to help us with
capital raising
it's not an easy thing to do
and typically people who do this
are very very good
very well technically trained
very connected
and have tons amount of opportunity
they can work in many places
but not just this
they're also very expensive
and you know we're kind of at that
hockey stick
of our growth curve right so we're we're
here we're like building up to the
future but you know
we're managing costs compared we are
managing costs
so
so i was talking to a particular
candidate
and this candidate you know they like
you know they've just finished a stint
working at one of the leading investment
banks in the world
they want to take three months
sabbatical and really think about their
future where they want to go
they've got an mba from
waterloo and like smart smart kid
there's an mba i think an undergrad from
waterloo and mba from
i want to say mit or something like this
really really smart young lady
so we get to the part of the
conversation
where it's my my turn so she's told me a
bit about her
it's my turn to convince her now
that she should come and do this with us
and recognize i'm asking her
to surrender a decade of her life
because that's how long it's going to
take
at least five years
and that's if we're in a good innings
so i said the following to her
i said to her
tell me a bit about the place you grew
up in
in abuja she's nigerian
and she starts telling me about this
place she grew up in abuja
and
the friends she had and where her
friends are now
and i said when was the last time you
went home she says no i go home fairly
often i go visit and i see friends and
mom and dad and family and granddad etc
etc
and i said to her
i said do you think
that abuja today
is the best version
of itself
do you think given the skills
competencies and talents
of the people that emanate
from abuja
it's the best it can be right now she
said no of course not come on
i was like and why not
she said well frankly
because the top talent
doesn't always enjoy
the seats of power to influence things
the way it needs to influence them
like
situation what would i say what would
you say if i said to you
that if you came on board and you helped
us do this
one of the things we've got attached to
this fund is we're building a leadership
foundation
and 20 of the carried interest of this
leadership of the fund
20 of the carried interest
is going to be transferred into the
leadership foundation
and we're going to use the capital in
the foundation
to identify
educate
and accelerate
young leaders across africa
young boys and young girls
we're going to send them into
engineering school we're going to send
them into political school finance
school medicine school
with a single idea
that once they complete their education
they must come back into the continent
and build it
and then i said to her
and we're not the only ones to do this
there's several other foundations doing
this as we speak
the difference is we're not going to
wait
until we're worth a billion dollars in
valuation
we're going to start doing it the minute
we start making our carried interest
so the reason i need you to come on
board name is claire the reason i need
you to come on board claire
because i believe you can help us raise
capital with the right investors to take
us to that point
and once we've reached that i believe
that you can become a critical part of
our investment team to ensure that we
identify the right companies that give
us the right exit multiples so that we
can best better the chances of
capitalizing that leadership foundation
and building the future we want to build
claire
you can work
anywhere you can go and work at wall
street
and they will pay you 10 times what i
can afford to pay you hell they'll
probably pay you 10 10 times more than
i'm earning
but
when you're 50 years old
and you look back at your life
and you think about this inflection
point
you will ask yourself the question
how have i lived
what impact did i leave behind
did i use my skills
to leave my people my country my world
a better place
only you will know the answer to that
question
but i think that if you came on board
with us
the answer would be yes
and that was it
we ended the call
i still haven't heard back from claire
hopefully by the time she watches this
she would have come back and said yes
but realize the whole conversation about
why she should join what we're doing
wasn't about us i didn't say this is the
business plan these are the outcomes i
was like what's her motivation
what's the intent what's the desired
outcome
and how do i base it on a just cause
so go back
go back into your own business into your
own life look at some of the things
you're doing
and ask and answer for yourself
the question
motivation
intent
desired outcome
just cause
that's how you persuade
that's how you communicate
that
is how you lead
i'm on fire right i know i know i can
literally hear this boy is on fire
[Laughter]
all right family i hope you've enjoyed
that
have a kick-ass time
leave a comment below and tell me some
of the things you'd like to hear from us
in future
cheers
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