29 Trik Psikologi Seputar Komunikasi Persuasif dan Banyak Lagi

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25 May 202009:26

Summary

TLDRThis video script offers a variety of psychological tips to enhance charisma and self-confidence. It covers techniques for reading people's minds, making a lasting impression in job interviews, and managing social interactions effectively. From using body language cues to understanding non-verbal signals, viewers are guided on how to navigate through social situations with ease, build trust, and persuade others subtly. The script also touches on the power of nodding, the calming effect of food during tense moments, and the importance of eye contact in social interactions.

Takeaways

🧠 To read people's minds, use psychology to understand them better, not magic or tricks.
🗣️ Speak clearly and confidently to make others remember you; avoid raising your voice unnecessarily.
🕒 Schedule important meetings at the beginning or end of the workday to be more memorable to recruiters.
👀 When feeling watched, demonstrate openness by looking around and observing who else is yawning.
🍽️ Chewing food can signal to the brain that everything is under control, helping to reduce stress.
💤 If you're sleep-deprived, tell yourself that you've had enough rest, as your brain will function well even if you haven't.
🤗 Nodding while speaking can make you seem more knowledgeable and serious, gaining trust from others.
🍰 Offering food can calm people down during heated arguments, making them feel more comfortable.
🤔 Asking about someone's personal life can encourage shy and quiet individuals to open up and converse.
🚫 If a group is arguing, giving them food might help them swallow their pride and reduce tension.
👣 Pay attention to people's body language, especially their feet, to gauge their openness or aversion to your presence.

Q & A

What is the discipline mentioned in the script that can help you read others' minds?
-The discipline mentioned is not a form of magic or superstition, but psychology, the science of understanding others.
How does speaking openly and directly relate to making someone remember you more?
-By speaking openly and continuing the conversation until it ends without raising your voice, you can make the other person more likely to remember you.
What is the significance of the time of day when making important decisions?
-The script suggests that our memory is sharper at the beginning and the end of the day, implying that making decisions during these times may be more effective.
Why is it beneficial to schedule interviews at the start or end of the working day?
-Interviewers are likely to remember you more than other candidates because they are less distracted by the day's activities.
How can yawning be an indicator of being watched?
-If you notice others yawning when you yawn, it may indicate that they are paying attention to you or are in a similar state of relaxation.
What is the psychological effect of using the word 'Tolong' instead of 'Maukah' when making a request?
-Using 'Tolong' (please) sounds more polite and less assumptive than 'Maukah' (would you like), which can imply that the listener may not want to comply.
How can chewing food help in stressful situations?
-Chewing food can signal to the brain that everything is under control and calm, providing a sense of relaxation.
What is the effect of nodding while someone is speaking on their perception of you?
-Nodding while someone is speaking can make you seem more knowledgeable and serious, and it can also make them trust your opinions more.
Why is it suggested to offer food to a group of people arguing?
-Offering food can have a calming effect, as people generally enjoy snacks, and it may help to ease tensions in the group.
What is the importance of asking about someone's personal life when trying to continue a conversation?
-People usually enjoy talking about themselves, and asking about their personal life can make them feel important and encourage them to reciprocate in the conversation.
How can using the word 'nyeleneh' (a made-up word in the script) help in reducing anxiety?
-Using made-up words or phrases can serve as a reminder to stay calm and can act as a personal mantra to reduce anxiety during activities.
What does the direction of a person's feet indicate about their willingness to engage with you?
-If a person's torso is facing you but their feet are pointing away, it may indicate that they are not open to your presence or the conversation.
Why is it advised to ask for something when you want to get a better response to a more significant request later?
-People are more likely to agree to a smaller request after they have declined a larger one, setting them up to be more receptive to your actual request.
How can observing someone's eye color help in social interactions?
-Noting someone's eye color can provide a point of connection and can be used to make eye contact more memorable, enhancing social interactions.
What is the recommended duration for eye contact during social interactions?
-Eye contact should be neither too short, which can appear sneaky and untrustworthy, nor too long, which can be intimidating. A moderate duration is ideal.
Why is it suggested to ask someone to explain their behavior towards you if you want to be liked?
-Asking for an explanation can lead to better understanding and can also make the person more aware of their actions, potentially leading to them liking you more.
What can be inferred from a person's foot movement during a conversation?
-If a person is moving their feet back and forth, they may be anxious, but if their feet are bouncing up and down, they may be confident and happy.
Why is it important to repeat a person's name after learning it?
-Repeating a person's name helps you remember it and makes the person feel important and acknowledged, increasing their fondness towards you.
What should you do if you're holding an object that someone is concentrating on?
-If you take the object they are focusing on, they may not remember it afterward, or conversely, if you give them an object while inviting them to chat, they may not be aware of your influence.
Why is it advised to mention 'father' or 'mother' when speaking to gain respect?
-Most people respect and trust their elders, so mentioning 'father' or 'mother' can make others more attentive and trusting of what you say.
What can you do if you're nervous about speaking in public?
-Bring a bottle of water to keep your mouth from drying out and to take a moment to drink and recall your points, which can help you stay composed.
How can admitting your nervousness help when speaking in public?
-Admitting your nervousness can change the audience's perception, making them more relaxed and sympathetic towards you.
What is the suggested approach when meeting new people if you're feeling uncomfortable?
-Convince your brain that you are comfortable and adopt a non-awkward demeanor, as the brain will adjust to match the behavior.
Why is repeating what someone says recommended to show you are a good listener?
-Repeating what someone says demonstrates that you understand and care about their words, which can lead to increased trust in your social environment.
What should you do if you notice someone playing with a thread on their clothing?
-It may indicate that they disagree with what they are hearing but do not want to express it openly, using a subtle method of showing disagreement.
How can acknowledging your own small mistakes benefit you in social situations?
-Admitting to small mistakes can make you appear honest and unafraid to show your vulnerable side, which can lead others to listen more to your opinions during disagreements.

Outlines

00:00

🧠 Mastering Psychological Techniques

This paragraph discusses how understanding psychology can help one read others' minds subtly and make a lasting impression. It suggests speaking with a clear voice and maintaining a normal tone to engage in conversation effectively. The script also touches on body language cues, such as nodding to show agreement and sharing food to reduce tension during discussions. Additionally, it advises on using certain phrases to appear more confident and to remember to vary these phrases to keep them fresh in one's memory. The paragraph concludes with tips on how to handle social situations, such as joining a conversation or making oneself appear more approachable.

05:02

👀 The Art of Eye Contact and Social Interaction

The second paragraph emphasizes the importance of eye contact in social interactions, noting that the duration of eye contact can significantly affect how one is perceived. It advises on the appropriate length of eye contact to appear trustworthy and not intimidating. The paragraph also provides strategies for getting others to comply with requests, such as making a larger request first to make subsequent, smaller requests seem more agreeable. It discusses the impact of body language, like foot shuffling, as a sign of nervousness or confidence. Furthermore, it suggests repeating a person's name to remember it better and to make the person feel valued. The paragraph concludes with advice on how to handle public speaking, such as staying hydrated and acknowledging one's nervousness to appear more relatable.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Psychology

Psychology is the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, particularly those affecting behavior. In the context of the video, it refers to understanding people's thoughts and behaviors, which is key to the theme of social interaction and influence. For example, the script mentions using psychological insights to appear more charismatic and to make others remember you.

💡Charisma

Charisma is a quality that makes someone able to attract, influence, and inspire others. The video discusses how to appear more charismatic by using psychological techniques, such as speaking confidently and maintaining a calm demeanor, which is exemplified by the advice to 'Berbicaralah seperti biasa' (speak as usual) and not to raise your voice.

💡Decision Making

Decision making is the cognitive process of selecting a course of action from multiple alternatives. The script touches on how our perspectives can be influenced by the direction we look when making decisions, suggesting that looking up, down, or sideways may subconsciously direct our choices.

💡Memory

Memory refers to the ability to encode, store, and retrieve information. The video mentions that our memory is sharper at the beginning and end of the day, which is a concept used to advise on the best times for job interviews or making a lasting impression.

💡Nonverbal Communication

Nonverbal communication encompasses the exchange of information without the use of words, such as through body language or gestures. The script provides several tips on using nonverbal cues effectively, like nodding to appear knowledgeable and maintaining eye contact for social interaction.

💡Eye Contact

Eye contact is a form of nonverbal communication that involves looking at someone in the eyes. The video emphasizes the importance of the duration of eye contact, stating that it should be neither too short to appear evasive nor too long to intimidate, which is crucial for building trust and rapport.

💡Assertiveness

Assertiveness is the ability to express one's feelings, beliefs, and needs in an open and honest way, while respecting the rights of others. The script advises using phrases like 'Tolong lakukan' (please do) instead of 'Maukah Anda' (would you like) to convey assertiveness and confidence in requests.

💡Stress Relief

Stress relief refers to methods or techniques used to alleviate stress or anxiety. The video suggests that chewing food can signal to the brain that everything is under control and calm, which is a strategy for managing stress in high-pressure situations.

💡Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is the fear of social situations that involve interaction with other people. The script provides tips for managing social anxiety, such as acknowledging nervousness and using tricks like nodding to appear more confident and in control.

💡Public Speaking

Public speaking is the act of performing a speech or talk to an audience. The video offers advice for those who feel uncomfortable speaking in public, such as bringing a bottle of water to keep the mouth moist and pausing to drink and remember points, illustrating strategies to manage nervousness and maintain composure.

💡Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. The script suggests that by showing empathy, such as acknowledging small mistakes, one can be seen as honest and approachable, which can lead to others being more willing to listen to one's opinions during disagreements.

Highlights

Learning to read people's minds through body language and voice tone.

Appearing charismatic and confident through psychological understanding.

Speaking openly and maintaining a normal voice level to engage in conversation.

Using the 'grandmother's trick' to improve memory during job interviews.

Observing others' yawning as a sign of being monitored or noticed.

Initiating requests with 'Tolong lakukan' instead of 'Maukah' to appear polite and genuine.

Chewing food to signal the brain that everything is under control and calm.

Convincing others by nodding during discussions to appear knowledgeable and serious.

Offering food to reduce tension during arguments or disagreements.

Asking about personal life to encourage shy individuals to open up in conversations.

Using 'nyeleneh' words to remind oneself to stay calm in various situations.

Observing body language cues like feet direction to understand social dynamics.

Maintaining enthusiasm to make others more receptive to ideas.

The importance of eye contact duration in social interactions for trust and comfort.

Asking for small favors after being rejected to get what you really need.

Requesting explanations from colleagues to improve relationships and gain insights.

Remembering names and using them frequently to make people feel important and liked.

Taking items from someone's hands to initiate a conversation or distract them.

Using the mention of parents to gain respect and trust in conversations.

Remaining silent when waiting for a complete answer or agreement to show patience.

Carrying a bottle of water to stay hydrated and prevent dry mouth while speaking publicly.

Acknowledging nervousness to appear more relatable and relaxed in public speaking.

Acting as if you know the people you meet to feel more comfortable and confident.

Repeating what others say to show understanding and care in conversations.

Admitting small mistakes to be seen as honest and not afraid to show vulnerability.

Observing if someone is playing with their clothes as a sign of disagreement or discomfort.

Encouraging viewers to like and share the video for more engaging content.