CEP: The List (Created by Fox High School Educators)
Summary
TLDRThe transcript captures a teacher's introspective journey of recognizing and confronting their own bullying behavior in the classroom. Through self-reflection and realization, they acknowledge the unintentional harm caused by their actions and words, and the need to model appropriate behavior for students. The narrative emphasizes the importance of setting a positive example, being aware of one's actions, and striving to create a supportive and respectful educational environment.
Takeaways
- π€ The speaker acknowledges their own unintentional bullying behavior and the need for self-reflection on actions that may negatively impact students.
- π The realization of one's own actions as a 'bully' without intent was a significant moment for the speaker, highlighting the importance of being aware of unconscious behaviors.
- π The speaker was exposed to a list of behaviors that they recognized in themselves, indicating a powerful moment of self-awareness during a workshop presentation.
- π©βπ« The role of a teacher is to educate, not to bully, and the speaker recognizes the need to correct their own behavior to align with this principle.
- π ββοΈ The speaker admits to using sarcasm inappropriately with students, which can be hurtful and needs to be modified for a more positive classroom environment.
- π³ The speaker experiences embarrassment when recognizing their own negative behaviors, showing a human response to self-reflection.
- π£οΈ The speaker mentions the harmful effects of certain phrases like 'shut up,' which should be avoided to foster a non-bullying classroom atmosphere.
- π₯ The speaker discusses the impact of comparing students to their siblings, which can demoralize and is a behavior to be reconsidered.
- π The classroom may be a safe haven for some students, and the speaker recognizes the responsibility to maintain that safety and respect.
- π€ The speaker emphasizes the importance of modeling appropriate behavior for students, as they are likely to emulate what they see from authority figures.
- π« The speaker recognizes the need to avoid using public humiliation or negative comparisons as classroom management techniques, instead advocating for positive reinforcement and understanding.
Q & A
What was the purpose of the presentation at the workshop attended by Jane, Sandy, and the speaker?
-The purpose of the presentation was to highlight behaviors that people may not realize are bullying and to make them aware of the impact of their actions on others.
Why did the speaker feel embarrassed after reading the list presented at the workshop?
-The speaker felt embarrassed because they recognized their own behaviors in the list and realized they had been unintentionally bullying students.
What realization did the speaker have about their teaching methods after the workshop?
-The speaker realized that they were sometimes bullying students without meaning to, and that they needed to work on their behavior to create a more positive classroom environment.
What is the speaker's view on the role of a teacher in relation to their students?
-The speaker believes that a teacher is there to teach and guide students, not to bully or belittle them.
How does the speaker describe their struggle with sarcasm in the classroom?
-The speaker admits to using sarcasm in an attempt to be humorous and ease situations, but acknowledges that it can sometimes be inappropriate and hurtful to students.
Why does the speaker believe it's important for teachers to model appropriate behavior for students?
-The speaker believes that students learn from observing their teachers, and modeling appropriate behavior can lead to a more respectful and positive classroom atmosphere.
What incident did the speaker recall involving a student and their sister's behavior?
-The speaker recalled making a comment about a student's behavior by comparing her unfavorably to her sister, which left the student feeling demoralized.
How did the speaker reflect on their actions towards a student who was not performing well in class?
-The speaker reflected on putting the student down and realized that it was not the right approach; instead, they should have focused on finding solutions to improve the student's performance.
What did the speaker learn about their own behavior after an incident with a student who had a gap between his teeth?
-The speaker learned that they were bullying the student by making fun of his gap between his teeth, which was not an appropriate way to maintain control in the classroom.
What is the speaker's understanding of the impact of a teacher's words on a student's life?
-The speaker understands that their words, even if spoken in frustration, can have a significant impact on a student's life and self-perception.
What steps does the speaker believe are necessary for teachers to improve their behavior in the classroom?
-The speaker believes that teachers need to become more self-aware, catch themselves when they are behaving inappropriately, and strive to model the correct behavior for their students.
Outlines
π Unintentional Bullying in the Classroom
The speaker reflects on their teaching behavior, realizing they have been unintentionally bullying students. They recount an experience at a workshop where they were exposed to a list of behaviors that they recognized in themselves. The speaker admits to using sarcasm and losing patience, which can come across as bullying. They acknowledge the need to change their ways and model better behavior for students, as they are role models and their actions can influence students' behavior.
π The Impact of Teachers' Behavior on Students
The speaker discusses the negative impact of their behavior on students, including instances where they compared a student unfavorably to her sibling, demoralizing her. They also admit to using classroom control techniques that border on bullying, such as public humiliation and sarcasm. The speaker recognizes the need to be more conscientious about their actions and to set a positive example for students, as the classroom should be a safe place for them.
π Commitment to Positive Change in Teaching
In the final paragraph, the speaker commits to making a positive change in their teaching approach. They acknowledge the responsibility to model appropriate behavior for students and the importance of self-awareness in catching and correcting their own actions. The speaker emphasizes the need for teachers to be their best for the sake of the students, promising to look inward and strive for improvement in their interactions with students.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Integrity
π‘Behaviors
π‘Bullying
π‘Unintentional Actions
π‘Modeling Behavior
π‘Self-Reflection
π‘Awareness
π‘Consciousness
π‘Frustration
π‘Responsibility
π‘Change
Highlights
The speaker acknowledges their own unintentional bullying behavior after being exposed to a list of common behaviors during a workshop.
Many people engage in bullying behaviors naturally without realizing the impact on others.
Teachers are there to educate, not to bully, and the realization of one's own bullying behavior can be powerful.
The speaker admits to catching themselves bullying students unintentionally and recognizes the need for change.
The natural reaction to frustration can lead to inappropriate behavior, such as lashing out in front of the class.
The speaker has a problem with sarcasm, which can sometimes come across as inappropriate or hurtful to students.
Modeling appropriate behavior is crucial for creating a non-bullying classroom environment.
The speaker reflects on a time when they demoralized a student by comparing them unfavorably to their sibling.
Classrooms can be a safe place for some students, and the teacher's words and actions can significantly impact them.
The speaker regrets putting down a student for their poor performance, realizing it was not the right approach.
Admitting and recognizing one's own bullying behavior is the first step towards improvement.
The speaker admits to using humor inappropriately to assert control in the classroom, which can be seen as bullying.
Teachers need to be aware of their behavior and its impact on students to create a positive learning environment.
The speaker discusses the importance of setting a proper example for students at all times.
The speaker commits to making a difference and promises to look at themselves and improve their behavior.
The transcript emphasizes the need for teachers to be conscientious about their actions and the example they set for students.
Transcripts
once you call me she said I
dressed like a
once he questioned my integrity it was
like she wanted to make an example of me
he always called me but I knew I didn't
know the answer
because the first time I was exposed to
the list was when we we saw it as a
presentation at a workshop that Jane and
Sandy and I went to and was being
presented by the presenter there
something that she had found was that
probably most of us do these behaviors
just because a lot of them probably come
naturally and we don't think about them
we don't think all the time that what
our actions our words are really doing
to others if if a person's a teacher
they're not there to bully kids are
there to teach kids and when I looked at
the list it was pretty powerful because
I thought oh my gosh there I am about
four four places automatically these
things that we do every day sometimes
they're so quiet and you don't even
realize that you're doing them and then
when they're put on paper and you read
them it's like oh my gosh there's me and
there's me and I did that yesterday and
I just did that today I was reading
through and I just kind of took a step
back and said to myself you know I I do
these things not on purpose you know
every now and again I'll catch myself
where I actually am bullying the
students and I don't mean to but I know
it's something I probably need to work
on a little bit you know I guess just
kind of my eyes the fact that you know I
I'm a bully
here and there without even realizing it
because it's just kind of the way I've
grown up and I just think it's a society
we've growing up I was quite surprised
that I have been guilty of saying or
being the bully on the on the end of the
student and they could see me I could
see myself kind of getting embarrassed I
mean and nobody else was reading that
list with me but I was quite embarrassed
of my behavior at times and that I
thought more than one of those was was
me
you get to a frustration level with that
person and instead of pulling them to a
SOT to the side I think the natural
thing that we do is you know what I'm
just going to lie I'm so tired of it I'm
fed up to here so I'm just going to lash
out in front the class and and sometimes
for me it's a natural reaction the one
thing they hate to hear is shut up shut
your mouth or shut up and so often
that's what once that's what wants to
come out of our mouths shut up and you
get nowhere with that and if we're
trying to model behavior that is
conducive to not bullying in the
classroom we're gonna stop
I have a problem with sarcasm I mean I
try to be humorous about things and when
I respond to students I try to kind of
joke around to kind of ease the
situation but I know sometimes my
actions are inappropriate and my
responses to them and comes across more
sarcastic and some kids can handle it
and some kids can't so I need to try to
curb you know for my behavior on how I
respond to kids and maybe try to defuse
the situation in a better way we chose
education for a reason to be a model for
our students and sometimes if we could
model the correct behavior at times you
could get a good response out of your
students
Carrie
infox we get a lot of siblings and I
remember one time making a comment to a
girl about you know I'm really surprised
that you would behave this way
your sister is and was such and such and
she was really conscience conscientious
about her grades and always behaved and
I just really thought you would be more
like that and now that I look back and
think about it the look on her face but
she just totally demoralized that I
would do that to her that I couldn't see
her just as the person that she is for
some of our kids our classroom is the
only safe place they have
I have a student that has been pretty
lazy in my class and makes a lot of
excuses doesn't bring his materials to
class and we kind of had a little
running he asked me why I was doing so
poorly and I told him why but as far as
showing his grades and then he wanted to
argue with me and then we kind of got
into it and I was basically putting him
in this place as far as well you're an
unsuccessful student and this is how you
are in all your classes and I probably
shouldn't have done that I probably
should say well this is what we need to
do in order to make this work but once
we can you know admit that you know we
need to work on this that's that's the
biggest step in my opinion is realizing
that we're doing so
I had a student in class that would
cause a lot of problems didn't do work I
felt like I was kind of close to though
because I haven't football and he had a
gap between his teeth so sometimes we he
would cost him in class I would make fun
of his gap through his teeth and kind of
Milly ate him a little bit let him know
that I was in charge and after taking a
step back later realizing that I was
bullying through the class
yeah boy they're gonna bully if they see
us that we're not doing it in class
and sometimes in order to maintain
control of the class in order to make
sure you have the students perspective
that they take what you're doing
seriously and so they take the what
you're doing in class seriously so they
take you seriously you have to remind
them sometimes you know Dartmouth I'm
the teacher you're the student this is
the system we have in place to make it
work
and you can make you can make that
relationship clear without having to
resort to to yelling at that particular
student in front of the entire class
unfortunately sometimes teachers use
those things as for the classroom
techniques because they think
you
the kid didn't want to run the track we
had to run a couple laps and I don't
know we just kind of arguing back and
forth and as we were walking in no he
said something that probably got under
my skin and I just get tired listen to
him I told him I was like well you know
you're kind of big so that's probably
why you need to run and then you got you
got pretty amazed it was in probably
different terms you know I can't
remember the exact words but he got
pretty angry about that and you know
almost you know I started yelling me and
stuff and this other teacher had to you
know hold him back basically afterwards
you know I thought well those probably
weren't a correct words to say to a
student because you know I'm impacting
this kid's life no matter how ignorant
he is gonna be here defined he's gonna
be you know I I still should be more of
an adult and not say silly things like
that that was good
sometimes in the classes I have I get
several people that have lots of
behavior problems and I have a tendency
to blame that on the class or
mismanagement of the class on the
students instead of what could I do
better to take charge of this situation
will be appropriate behavior they're
more likely to do that behavior awesome
the students watch what we do and if we
behave a certain way then it tells the
students that it's okay for them to
behave that way and I think we have to
set the climate we have to be kind to
one another as staff and let the
students see it and we're gonna stop and
we have to almost reinvent our
personalities which is and that's tough
to do you know I'm gonna slip up on
occasion I'm not gonna say that I won't
but I'm gonna try to maybe be more
conscientious about not doing it so if
we can make the awareness out there the
teachers maybe they'll catch themselves
and once we can you know maybe know we
need to work on this that's that's the
biggest step in my opinion is realizing
that we're doing something if we model
the appropriate behavior they're more
likely to do that behavior also we need
to try to set a proper example for
students at all times
our kids deserve my best if it is to be
it's gotta be it is our job I want to
make a difference
tell me if you see me do our kids
deserve our best I promise to look at
myself I will I will
we will it starts
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