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Summary
TLDRThis video offers 10 essential tips to enhance communication skills, starting with the crucial first impression using the 'Triple Threat' method. It covers avoiding small talk through the 'Interview Technique', using the 'Parroting Technique' to keep conversations flowing, and memorization strategies for speeches. The script also advises on being convincing by providing reasons, the negative impact of gossip, the importance of good online etiquette, winning arguments by considering others' viewpoints, graciously accepting compliments, and the importance of being genuine and unique to make lasting connections. The video emphasizes that improving social skills can significantly boost one's quality of life by transforming interactions from barriers to opportunities.
Takeaways
- π First impressions are crucial and can be significantly influenced by the 'Triple Threat' method: visible hands, eye contact, and confident posture.
- π£οΈ To engage in meaningful conversations, use the 'Interview Technique' to ask questions that genuinely learn about the other person's interests.
- ποΈ The 'Parroting Technique' can help sustain a conversation by repeating the last interesting point as a question when you can't think of another question.
- π For memorizing speeches, use the 'First Letter Method' to create a guide from the first letter of each word in your speech, making it easier to recall.
- πͺ To be more convincing, include the word 'because' when asking for something, as it provides a reason and increases the likelihood of compliance.
- π ββοΈ Avoid negative talk about others as it reflects poorly on you through the 'Law of Negative Association'.
- π In online communication, use good grammar and friendly emojis to convey a positive and approachable tone.
- π€ When trying to persuade someone, speak from their point of view to show how the action benefits them, making your argument more compelling.
- πββοΈ Never deflect praise; instead, acknowledge it with gratitude and by affirming the specific compliment received.
- π Embrace your uniqueness and be open about your interests or hobbies to make more friends and be memorable.
- π Social skills are essential for improving the quality of life, as they can transform interactions from barriers to opportunities.
Q & A
Why does the first impression matter according to the TED Talk study mentioned in the script?
-The first impression matters because it has a significant impact on how you and others perceive people. The study found that participants who watched TED Talks for only 15 seconds rated them almost the same as those who watched for 5 minutes, indicating the strong influence of the speaker's initial impression on the audience.
What is the Triple Threat method for making a great first impression?
-The Triple Threat method includes three steps: keeping your hands visible to convey trust, making eye contact to show engagement and attention, and maintaining a confident posture by standing tall, keeping shoulders wide and back straight.
How can the 'interview technique' help in conversing with new people?
-The 'interview technique' helps by turning the conversation into a series of questions and answers, allowing you to genuinely learn more about the other person's interests and experiences, thus facilitating deeper and more meaningful connections.
What is the 'parroting technique' and how can it be used in conversations?
-The 'parroting technique' involves repeating something the other person said as a question to continue the conversation when you can't think of a follow-up question. It helps to reignite the conversation and avoid awkward pauses or endings.
How can the first letter memorization technique help with public speaking?
-The first letter memorization technique involves writing down the first letter of each word in your speech and using it as a guide to help memorize the entire speech. This method simplifies the memorization process and allows you to recall your speech more easily during the presentation.
What is the key to being more convincing according to the experiment discussed in the script?
-The key to being more convincing is to use the word 'because' when making a request. People are more likely to comply when they hear a justification for the request, even if the reason is implied or seems obvious.
Why should one avoid talking negatively about others?
-Avoiding negative talk about others is important because it can lead to negative associations with your own character. People tend to associate the negative traits you describe in others back onto you, which can damage your relationships and reputation.
What are the three levels of conversation and why should one aim for the highest level?
-The three levels of conversation are talking about other people, talking about things, and talking about ideas. Aiming for the highest level, discussing ideas, is beneficial as it fosters more constructive and impactful conversations that can make a difference in one's life.
How can good grammar and the use of emojis improve online communication?
-Good grammar and the use of emojis can make online communication clearer, friendlier, and more expressive. They help convey the intended tone and emotion, preventing misunderstandings and making interactions more pleasant.
What is the strategy for winning arguments or discussions as suggested by Dale Carnegie's book?
-The strategy for winning arguments or discussions is to speak from the other person's point of view. By considering their interests and showing how your proposal benefits them, you are more likely to gain their agreement and cooperation.
Why is it important to accept and acknowledge praise instead of deflecting it?
-Accepting and acknowledging praise is important because it validates the person who gave the compliment and shows appreciation for their kind words. Deflecting praise can be off-putting and may discourage others from offering compliments in the future.
What is the advice for making more friends and why is it effective?
-The advice for making more friends is to be authentic, embrace your uniqueness, and not be afraid to be 'weird'. This approach is effective because it makes you memorable and relatable, and it fosters genuine connections based on who you truly are.
Outlines
π Mastering First Impressions with the Triple Threat Method
The first paragraph introduces the video's aim to share 10 tips for improving communication skills, starting with the significance of a first impression. It references a study by Vanessa Van Edwards, highlighting that initial perceptions can be formed within seconds. The 'Triple Threat' method is introduced as a simple three-step process to make a strong first impression: keeping hands visible to convey trust, making eye contact to show engagement, and adopting a confident posture. The speaker emphasizes the effectiveness of this method, as demonstrated in the TED Talk study.
π£οΈ The Interview Technique for Genuine Conversations
The second paragraph delves into overcoming the discomfort of small talk by adopting an 'interview technique.' This method involves asking open-ended questions to learn more about the other person's interests, using their responses to guide the conversation. The speaker provides a practical example of how to use this technique in a school setting, illustrating how it can lead to more meaningful connections and avoid awkward silences.
ποΈ The Parroting Technique to Revitalize Conversations
Building on the previous paragraph, the third paragraph introduces the 'parroting technique' as a way to continue a conversation when one runs out of questions. This involves echoing a statement made by the other person as a new question, thereby reigniting the discussion. The speaker warns against overusing this technique but acknowledges its effectiveness in preventing awkward pauses and goodbyes.
π Memorization Hack for Public Speaking Success
The fourth paragraph offers a memorization technique for public speaking, inspired by stagecraft methods used in theater. The process involves writing down the first letter of each word in a speech and using these as prompts to recall the entire speech. The speaker shares a personal anecdote of using this method to quickly memorize lines for a school performance, emphasizing its efficiency and ease of use.
π‘ The Power of 'Because' in Being More Convincing
The fifth paragraph discusses an experiment that demonstrates the persuasive power of providing reasons when making requests. The speaker explains that using the word 'because' significantly increases the likelihood of compliance, even if the reason is trivial. The paragraph encourages viewers to consciously include justifications in their requests to enhanceθ―΄ζε.
π« Avoid Negative Association by Refraining from Gossip
In the sixth paragraph, the speaker warns against the habit of gossiping, explaining that it can negatively impact one's reputation through a phenomenon known as 'negative association.' The speaker advises viewers to avoid talking negatively about others and instead focus on constructive topics to foster positive relationships.
π Enhancing Online Communication with Good Grammar and Emojis
The seventh paragraph addresses the importance of clear and friendly communication in online interactions. The speaker suggests using proper grammar, sentence structure, and emojis to convey a positive tone and make online conversations more pleasant. The paragraph also promotes the speaker's Discord server as a platform for practicing these skills.
π€ Winning Arguments by Speaking from the Other Person's Perspective
The eighth paragraph presents a strategy for winning arguments or discussions by considering the other person's point of view. The speaker references Dale Carnegie's book, 'How to Win Friends and Influence People,' to illustrate the effectiveness of this approach. The paragraph provides an example of how to reframe a request to align with the other person's interests, making it more persuasive.
π Accepting Praise Gracefully to Foster Positive Relationships
The ninth paragraph emphasizes the importance of graciously accepting compliments and avoiding the deflection of praise. The speaker explains that deflecting praise can be off-putting and suggests that a simple 'thank you' is insufficient. Instead, viewers are encouraged to express gratitude and acknowledge the specific reason for the compliment.
π Embracing Individuality to Make More Friends
The final paragraph encourages viewers to be open about their unique interests and hobbies as a way to make more friends. The speaker shares personal experiences of being open about being a Minecraft YouTuber and how it helped in forming memorable connections. The paragraph concludes with a call to action for viewers to share their unique traits and interests to stand out and attract like-minded individuals.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘First Impression
π‘Introvert
π‘Eye Contact
π‘Posture
π‘Interview Technique
π‘Parroting Technique
π‘Memorization
π‘Convincing
π‘Negative Association
π‘Online Communication
π‘Point of View
π‘Deflecting Praise
π‘Being Weird
Highlights
The importance of first impressions and the impact they have on how people perceive each other.
The Triple Threat method for making a killer first impression involving hands, eye contact, and posture.
Hands being visible is associated with trust, as explained by Vanessa W Edwards' study.
Eye contact as a way to show engagement and build trust during first meetings.
The significance of good posture in appearing confident and successful.
A simple trick to improve posture by pretending to reach for an apple above your head.
The Interview Technique for genuinely learning about others' interests in conversations.
Using questions to steer conversations towards common ground and spark genuine discussions.
The Parenting Technique or Parroting, for reigniting conversations when you can't think of a question.
Memorizing speeches effectively by using the first letter of each word as a guide.
The increase in convincingness when using the word 'because' in requests.
Avoiding negative association by not talking negatively about others.
The three levels of conversation, with the highest being discussing ideas.
Improving online communication through good grammar, sentence structure, and friendly emojis.
Winning arguments by speaking from the other person's point of view.
The importance of accepting and acknowledging praise rather than deflecting it.
Being open about unique hobbies or interests to make more friends and be memorable.
The overall value of social skills in improving one's quality of life and opening opportunities.
Transcripts
if you're like me your social skills
resemble that of a rock in this video I
will share with you 10 tips that
completely transformed how I communicate
now this is not just a generic guide
telling you to just not be introverted
or how to make small talk because like
it or not when you can't share ideas
interact with others and just be
friendly and well-liked it's like
playing the game on Hardcore versus
normal mode so without any further Ado
let's head right into number one number
one
how to easily make a killer first
impression why does a first impression
even matter I understand as an introvert
myself I simply cannot be comfortable
with someone unless I've spent a
significant amount of time with them
well surprisingly enough the first
impression has a massive impact on how
you and others perceive people consider
the following study by behavioral
psychologist Vanessa W Edwards so in
this study they showed participants
ranging from from 15 seconds to 5
minutes of a TED Talk for context a TED
Talk is an event where a speaker comes
in and presents about a topic that
they're an expert in now you'd think
that a TED Talk would depend on what the
speakers say right I mean the lecture
content is literally the whole point of
a TED talk but interestingly enough the
study found that participants that
watched the TED talks for 15 seconds
versus 5 minutes rated them almost the
same now how is this possible well it's
all because of the speaker's first
impression on the audience so enough
back story how can you make a first
impression well from what I found it's
actually really simple it takes just
three steps it's called The Triple
Threat method now I learned this method
in an amazing book by the same author
who did the study the book is called
Captivate by Vanessa van Edwards the
first part of a great impression is your
hands now I want you to do this keep
your hands out keep them visible I know
this sounds silly because you know what
effect could our hands possibly have on
how people view us well it turns out
that we associate our hands with trust
if someone is hiding their hands you
know you don't know if they're just cold
or if they're hiding a Glock in
prehistoric times the only way like a
caveman could be assured that their
fellow caveman wasn't an OP was by
seeing if their hands had weapons or not
okay now for number two in the triple
threat method is your eye when you meet
someone for the first time seek out and
make eye contact with them now I know
what you're probably feeling for me too
making eye contact is really
uncomfortable I was either focusing on
the conversation or focusing on making
eye contact the good thing is for a
first impression you don't need to think
it's all nonverbal now why do we make
eye contact well it shows the other
person that you are engaged and paying
attention to only them it's another
aspect that builds trust think about it
only untrustworthy people would Dart
their eyes around you like as if they're
hiding something so if you aren't hiding
anything then it shouldn't be an issue
the final aspect of the Triple Threat
first impression method your posture now
if you're a gamer like me you probably
have a posture resembling a Fresh Ocean
prawn okay like we're in our gaming
chairs dude we look crustation as hell
all right however this is not the
posture of a winner now what do I mean
well when you see an athlete winning a
race take notice of their posture how do
they stand well they stand tall they
widen their body they take up more
physical space and why wouldn't they
they just won something amazing I want
you to assume a similar posture meaning
Stand Tall keep your shoulders wide and
back and keep your back straight here is
a super easy trick I learned for
resuming a great posture here's what I
want you to do and do this with me
pretend there is an apple just above
your head now you have to bite into this
apple without reaching for it with your
hands you can only bite down on it with
like your with your teeth now do this
with me try to reach the Apple okay the
apple is just above your head try to
reach it now what you'll find is that as
you try and reach this apple your
shoulders will go back you'll puff out
your chest and you'll make your back
straight there you go if you've done
this with me you now have perfect
posture The Stance of a winner and and
that's it we're done those are the three
steps and you will make a great first
first impression now how do we know this
how do we know that these three steps
are the keys to making a great first
impression well this takes me back to
the Ted Talk experiment I mentioned
earlier in that very experiment it was
only the speakers that used all three of
these techniques that were rated the
best regardless of whether they talked
for 15 seconds or 5 minutes so now we're
on to tip number two so now that you
have learned to make a great first
impression what's next I don't know
about you but I really dislike small
talk as they call it right like just
talking about generic things the weather
how someone's weekend was to me it feels
really artificial in genuine and it
honestly feels like I'm having the same
conversation over and over again so this
is the technique that I learned that
helps me talk with people and genuinely
learn more about their interests okay
because as an introvert myself I want to
genuinely know people I value quality
over quantity and this helps me get
these quality relationships with almost
anyone I call it the interview technique
if you really think about it most
conversations are really like an
interview right unless you're discussing
an idea with a person which is pretty
unlikely with someone that you newly
meet then most of our conversations at
heart are just exchanging questions so
why don't you use this to your advantage
after you make your first impression I
want you to just do a nice common intro
don't sweat this okay so for example
suppose you're at a club meeting and you
meet someone from your grade during an
ice break oh no you know the ice of
Breakers are always the worst now what I
would probably say in my case is hey my
name is Tran and I'm in 12th grade I
mean I graduated now but let's just
assume then let the other person say a
similarly generic intro right then
they'd probably say hey my name is Steve
for example and I'm in 11th grade now at
this point what most of us would do is
would try to think of something clever
or interesting to say about ourselves
and then this conversation would soon
fade into this awkward silence and then
it would have an equally awkward goodbye
okay if you have experienced this you
know what I'm talking about let's fix
this now in going back to this example
with Steve right Steve just told me that
he's in 11th grade what questions can we
ask Steve to genuinely learn more about
him here's what I'd say for example I'd
say 11th grade nice what classes that
you're taking right then they' probably
say oh I'm taking AP Bio AP US History
etc etc right now when when you've
learned about their classes now what
would you do you guessed it you would
ask another question continue the
interview really get some depth here
after as introverts and I don't know
about you but I hate surface level
relationships this is how you break past
that surface level and actually know
someone so suppose I mentioned their
classes then I might say oh Steve that's
cool AP Bio I took that last year what's
been your favorite chapter so far and on
and on look at that in just two
questions we went from complete
strangers to fellow AP Bio survivors
that have an common ground to talk about
and see if you're the one controlling
the questions you can almost always
steer the conversation to to a common
ground that you know a lot about and
from there you can really spark a
genuine conversation with the person all
right now here is number three now this
one is pretty close to number two so
let's dive right into it suppose you're
doing great with the interview technique
you're asking great questions and really
learning a lot about the other person
but what if you just can't think of a
non awkward question for the life of you
this is where I introduce the parenting
technique now I learned this technique
from another fantastic book I read
called 92 tips and tricks for great
success in relationships by Le louns to
learn the parading technique let's bring
back the AP Bio example so you guys are
talking about the chapter on cellular
respiration you find the person that
you're talking to really interesting but
you can't think of any follow-up
conversations and you don't want to have
this awkward goodbye that you're used to
so for example let's say Steve here says
the following so yeah after that chapter
9 quiz I never want to look at another
KB cycle again right suppose Steve just
said this now you can't think of a
question no problem you The Parting
technique just choose anything that the
person said and parrot it back to them
as a question so for example Steve here
mentioned the chapter 9 quiz what I
would say is just simply chapter 9 quiz
it's a question right boom the
conversation has just been reignited now
I will say don't use this technique more
than three to four times in a row as
then the person will likely catch on to
it however it's a great way to give your
conversation some life again and stop
these awkward endings and pauses with
equally awkward goodby bues speaking of
awkward goodbyes if this is your first
time watching my channel I would hate
for us to also have an awkward goodbye
when this video ends so how about you
subscribe subscribe because that way
I'll know that these tips are helpful
and I should keep making more content
like this thank you so much now for
number four here is an invaluable tip
for giving any public speech now you
guys have probably had your fair share
of class speeches and performances now
I'm not going to lie I have always loved
presenting I mean I literally present to
all 31.8k of your Legends each time I
upload however even if you do have
presentation anxiety here's a excellent
tip I've learned for you now one of the
main issues with presenting is that you
have not memorized your speech properly
it's obvious right you can't give a good
speech if you don't know your speech
however memorizing is annoying and takes
forever well that was until you watched
this video with this method I have
memorized speeches so fast it's insane
here's how you do it now you take your
speech and I want you to write the first
letter of each word on your paper now I
want you to go sentence by sentence read
each sentence of your speech three to
four times then cover that sentence and
use your sheet of first letters to guide
you now most of the time you only need
the first letters of a speech as a set
of like rails for the speech right now I
learned this method when I was
performing a skit of McBeth in my
British literature class now apparently
this method is used a lot in stagecraft
if you did theater you guys can confirm
in the comments and this method Works
insanely well after you work through
your entire speech try reading it with
just the first letters as a guide and
you'll find that it's actually really
easy then after you can read it with the
first letters very naturally take away
the letters now instead of having to
memorize the entire speech you just have
to memorize the first letter of each
word easy and you know with this method
I learned my entire lines for MC Beth in
one afternoon with my friend it's
actually overpowered and when it comes
time for your speech use the first
impression technique again stand like a
winner keep your hands out make eye
contact and say you're perfectly
memorize speech I understand it's a lot
easier said than done but I really
haven't heard anyone talk about this and
I really think that if you know your
speech by heart even if you have Parable
presentation anxiety you can just go on
autopilot and say your speech and you'll
get through it so try this out now here
for number five is an amazing and easy
technique to be more convincing I
present here another EXP experiment now
in this experiment they had a test
subject stand in line at a copy machine
now in trial number one the subject
simply asked the person in front can I
cut in front of you now in this scenario
the test subject was allowed to cut
roughly 60% of the time in trial number
two the subject asked the following
question can I cut in front of you
because I'm in a hurry now in this case
the success rate increased to
95% a 35% increase but here's where it
gets even more interesting finally in
trial number three the subject asked
this question can I cut in front of you
because I need to make copies now if you
didn't catch it this is a ridiculous
question everyone in the line for the
copy machine needs to make copies
however interestingly enough for this
trial the success rate was
94% just 1% lower than the person with
an actual reason for cutting the line
now what does this show us well it shows
us that the key to being more convincing
is to Simply use the word because as
humans we love hearing justifications
for anything we love hearing why we
should do something however on the
contrary when we ask for things for
people we very rarely actually give the
reason why now personally I believe the
reason is because often our
justification is implied right you think
that yeah of course you know this person
understands why I'm asking this however
as we saw by this experiment mentioning
the reason does have an impact let's use
an example that you might have faced in
the past you asking your teacher to
round your grade now the strategy you
guys might be using is to go up to your
teacher and say hi Mrs whatever right
would you mind runting my grade now the
reasons are implied right you probably
are close to the next grade it implies
your GPA and you know of course your
teacher understands this but what I want
you to do next time is say it say can
you round my grade because I'm only 1%
off from an A and I really believe my
effort in this class is deserving of an
a I know this sounds really obvious in
hindsight right like you're probably
going to type in the comments wow this
guy's so stupid this is the most obvious
thing ever but believe it or not if you
don't consciously do this you don't say
it trust me okay the next time you just
walk into conversation you realize that
you don't naturally say justifications
to things so it's very important to be
aware of this fact now for number six
avoid talking about other people
I'm taking it a step further with this
one I'm not just saying oh don't be mean
of course don't be mean right but
there's an underlying reason to this you
might not be aware of and it seriously
impacts how people perceive you here's
another example for you guys so suppose
we got Walter I'm using Breaking Bad
here as an example Walter is talking
some smack about his friend Jesse to his
other friend Gus now Walt is going off
on Jesse you know calling him all kinds
of names and profanities now
interestingly enough Gus cannot help but
associate exactly what Walt is saying
about Jesse back onto Walter this is
what I call the law of negative
association this is a real studied
phenomenon so the way this relates to
you is that by talking about
someone behind their back to everyone
around you you are actually saying the
same things about yourself and
especially if you do this constantly it
has a drastic effect on the way people
view you obviously sometimes there will
be a scenario where you need to
criticize someone for example you're
telling your boss about your Troublesome
coworker now in these situations yeah
it's unavoidable right you got to say
like oh my coworker is crap he doesn't
do anything what I'm more focused on in
this example is this constant ranting
about other people to your friends and
and those around you okay it's so common
it's so easy especially in high school
to fall into this trap like a lot of
people do it right just whenever you
meet up with someone you just spend your
whole time talking about other people
it's very damaging to everyone's
relationship in this scenario so
seriously avoid this like the plague cuz
it's destroying your relationships talk
about something more constructive than
other people okay I'm not sure where I
heard it but it's very true there's
three levels of conversation level one
which is the lowest intelligence and
easiest is talking about other people
right but it doesn't produce anything in
society in fact it brings you down now
level two is talking about things right
just things that are happening in the
world like sure you know that's fair
enough and then finally number three
which is high intelligence High effort
But ultimately impactful conversation is
talking about ideas try and talk as much
as possible at level three talk about
ideas talk about actual tangible things
that make a difference in your life and
certainly don't spend all your time
talking about other people it's easy to
do but it doesn't get you anywhere so
really I mean that's a bit of a rant
sorry about that but but seriously it
does make a big difference all right
number seven now if you're watching this
video a lot of your communication is
likely through the internet so here's
how to be better conversations online
now literally one of the simplest things
is just using good grammar sentence
structure and friendly Emoji now again
right this one comes across as obvious
but if you don't believe me just look at
your current online chats okay that
stuff would give an aneurysm to a 17th
century Pilgrim if you know the person
it's your best friend then you know what
whatever right I don't care but
especially if you're getting to meet
someone new or someone you like
something like that really it makes the
difference it's not like edgy or cool to
use a bunch of abbreviations you're
better off actually typing in complete
sentences in addition to that we also
have emojis see even a simple smiley
face emoticon goes a long way there a
difference between this message coming
across as dull and hostile or coming
across as a perfectly innocent happy
message by the way if you do want to
practice these online interactions a
great place to do so is my Discord
server consider joining because I'm
really active there and of course it's
also the easiest way to reach me the
link is also in the pin comments all
right now for number eight here's a
helpful tip to help you win any argument
or discussion this is a tip I learned
from a fantastic book and it's called
How to Win Friends and Influence People
by Dale carnegi when you're trying to
convince someone of anything always
speak from their point of view view
let's consider another example suppose
you're trying to convince Steve to come
study with you because you need his help
understanding the material however Steve
is more interested in playing Minecraft
now what most of us would do is tell
Steve all the reasons why studying is
beneficial we would say you can get a
better score on the test or oh you'll
feel good about yourself etc etc while
these reasons are true they're simply
voicing our own reasons for studying we
need to genuinely consider Steve's side
in this scenario Steve doesn't want to
study he wants to play Minecraft we need
to show Steve that studying with us will
help him play more Minecraft here's what
I would say instead hey Steve I know
you're so close to beating the Ender
Dragon I was thinking wouldn't it be
cool if we could crush this math test so
we have more free time to play
afterwards by studying now we can raise
our grades so we don't have to study as
much later and we can get more time to
play Minecraft look at the difference
now Steve has significantly more
incentive to listen to me as it benefits
him too you won't always be able to
phrase requests as mutually beneficial
however when you can it's insanely
effective plus being able to consider
the other person's side is a really
important skill to navigate people and
this technique is a great way to
practice it all right number nine never
ever deflect praise okay I want this to
be the last time you ever receive a
compliment or praise and then go I'm
actually not that good I'm actually not
that smart etc etc I want you to
consider it like this suppose you
mustered up the courage to genuinely
compliment someone right you you
considered this person's honorable or
impressive action and told them how you
felt now how would you feel if you did
this and gave a compliment and the other
person basically said no you're wrong
right that that's basically what you are
saying by deflecting praise now trust me
okay I have been through it too for the
the longest time I hated receiving
praise it made me feel really awkward
and I suppose that it's because I gained
self- validation through my own work but
even still it's very off-putting for
other people when you deflect praise
simply saying thank you to a compliment
isn't really good enough okay think
about it we say thank you as a trivial
term we say thanks when someone opens
the door for us I mean we say thanks
when a cashier hands us an item that we
paid for right so why would you provide
the same trivial for praise to someone
who just gave you sincere praise always
always say thank you for if someone
praised you on your PVP skills just say
thanks for the compliment I'm glad you
noticed or suppose your friend dropped
you off at home even though it was a
long drive say thank you for dropping me
off you really saved me a ton of time
right as compared to think about your
friend just drove you to your house you
didn't have to do that and all you just
said was thanks bro and then you just
walked back to your house that's so
empty right that at least for me I'm not
sure how it feels for you but that feels
so trivial and this takes just 5 to 10
seconds but trust me it really makes the
other person feel appreciate it I think
most of the time all that we're looking
for in return for Our Kind acts is
acknowledgement right we simply want the
other person to tell us genuinely that
they appreciated the kind act we did for
them so by using this method you are
doing that and it's very simple just
thank you for X that's it finally for
number 10 here's how to make more
friends now now for me making friends
was honestly never an issue but I feel
this is mainly because I use this method
I was never afraid to be weird being
basic is not a virtue it's a signal that
you're hiding who you truly are I was
out here in senior year of high school
sharing with anyone that asked that I
was a Minecraft Youtuber I had a post
celebrating 30k subscribers on my
personal Instagram that only my IRL
friends see let's be real here my
Minecraft Youtuber is not a cool
combination I expected most people would
make fun of me for it but they didn't
99% of people who heard this found it
really cool and it was something
memorable I did sure it's a little weird
but I was known by this it helped me so
much with making friends and connections
listen I could have hidden everything
for fear of being weird but that's not
what makes you memorable or interesting
fitting an aesthetic doesn't make you
memorable or interesting you have a
strange hobby interest Talent OR skill
even if you're just a Minecraft player
like me share it I can almost guarantee
no one will view this in a negative way
and you will be known for something
another thing this does is that it goes
a long way in making you more confident
listen you you got to own who you are
and what you like because if you don't
have confidence in yourself you
seriously can't expect anyone to have
confidence in you so after watching this
video I have just one request for you go
out and share something interesting you
do post it on your Instagram add a note
in your Discord bio and if you don't
think you do anything interesting I want
you to pick something up literally try
any hobby or anything to make yourself
stand out more be known for something
and that wraps up number 10 a final
tidbit here I want to emphasize why do
social skills as a whole even matter
well it's because they improve your
quality of life when you invest time
into social skills people go from being
like prison bars like obstacles in your
way to like doors doors that open up
more opportunities love it or hate it we
do sometimes have to interact with
others introverted or not so hopefully
when that opportunity comes by this
video will have given you something to
talk about or make your conversations
arguments negotiations or presentations
go a lot smoother that's all for this
video join my Discord server if you want
to talk with me and thanks for watching
see you
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