Wisdom In Marriage & Divorce | Ep 8 - Hikmah in the Quran | Dhul Hijjah Series | Nouman Ali Khan

Nouman Ali Khan - Official - Bayyinah
26 Jun 202311:18

Summary

TLDRيتناول هذا المقطع شرحًا تفصيليًا لأحكام الطلاق في القرآن الكريم، موضحًا كيف أن القرآن يركز على تنظيم عملية الطلاق بأكثر من تركيزه على الزواج. يشير المحاضر إلى أهمية اتباع الأحكام الإلهية بدقة وعدم الاستهزاء بآيات الله، مشددًا على أن الطلاق هو الأمر الأكثر تفصيلاً في القرآن لأنه يتعلق بأمور قد لا يعرف الناس كيفية التعامل معها بمفردهم. ويختتم بذكر كيفية التعامل مع حالات الطلاق، مؤكدًا على ضرورة مراعاة العدل والاحترام في إنهاء العلاقات.

Takeaways

  • 📜 أكثر قانون مفصل في القرآن هو قانون الطلاق، وهو موضح بشكل أكبر من أي قانون آخر.
  • ❗ الناس اليوم يتلاعبون بقضية الطلاق، مما يجعل من آيات الله سخرية.
  • 📚 الفكرة الخاطئة بأن الطلاق لا يحدث إلا إذا تم قوله ثلاث مرات ليست من الإسلام الصحيح.
  • 🔄 يمكن للرجل أن يعيد زوجته مرتين بعد الطلاق، على أن يتم ذلك بكرامة واحترام.
  • 🌸 يجب أن يتم الطلاق بطريقة جميلة، دون الإضرار أو الانتقام.
  • 🚫 لا يحق للرجل أن يسترجع أي شيء أعطاه لزوجته بعد الطلاق، إلا إذا كانت هناك ظروف خاصة.
  • ⚠️ إذا طلق الرجل زوجته للمرة الثالثة، فإنها تصبح غير حلال له حتى تتزوج من شخص آخر.
  • 💔 الطلاق الثالث يمنع الرجل من التلاعب بالمرأة، ويجبره على إدراك قيمة الفراق.
  • 🤝 الحكمة من الطلاق الثالث هي أنه يمنع الرجل من اللعب بمشاعر المرأة ويجبره على التقدير.
  • 📖 الله يعلمنا كيفية التعامل مع الطلاق بشكل سلمي، حيث أن العلاقات الجيدة يمكن أن تدار بدون تدخل.

Q & A

  • ما هو القانون الأكثر تفصيلاً في القرآن الكريم بحسب النص؟

    -القانون الأكثر تفصيلاً في القرآن الكريم هو قانون الطلاق.

  • لماذا يُعتقد أن القرآن يتناول الطلاق بتفصيل أكبر من الزواج السعيد؟

    -يُعتقد أن القرآن يتناول الطلاق بتفصيل أكبر لأن الناس يعرفون كيفية الحفاظ على علاقة جيدة بأنفسهم، لكنهم قد لا يعرفون كيفية التعامل مع الطلاق بشكل سلمي، ولذلك يقدم القرآن توجيهات واضحة ومفصلة حول ذلك.

  • ماذا يُقال عن الطلاق الرجعي في القرآن؟

    -الطلاق الرجعي يمكن أن يحدث مرتين، حيث يستطيع الزوج إرجاع زوجته بعد الطلاق مرتين قبل أن يصبح الطلاق نهائيًا.

  • كيف يجب على الزوج أن يتصرف إذا أراد إرجاع زوجته بعد الطلاق؟

    -يجب على الزوج أن يُرجع زوجته بطريقة لائقة وبنية حسنة، مع مراعاة الكرامة والأخلاق الحسنة.

  • ماذا يعني "إمساك بمعروف أو تسريح بإحسان" في سياق الطلاق؟

    -يعني أنه يجب على الزوج أن يختار إما أن يُمسك زوجته بطريقة لائقة أو أن يُطلقها بطريقة جميلة وباحترام.

  • هل يُسمح للرجل باسترجاع ما أعطاه للزوجة بعد الطلاق؟

    -لا يُسمح للرجل بأخذ أي شيء مما أعطاه لزوجته، إلا إذا كانت هناك ظروف تجعل ذلك مناسبًا وتوافق عليه الزوجة.

  • متى يُصبح الطلاق نهائيًا ولا يمكن الرجوع بعده؟

    -يُصبح الطلاق نهائيًا بعد الطلقة الثالثة، ولا يمكن للزوجين العودة إلا إذا تزوجت الزوجة من شخص آخر وطلقت منه.

  • ما الحكمة من عدم السماح للزوج بإعادة زوجته بعد الطلقة الثالثة إلا بعد زواجها من آخر؟

    -الحكمة هي أن الزوج يجب أن يشعر بألم الفقدان وأنه لا يمكنه التلاعب بالمرأة أو معاملتها كشيء يمكن إعادته وإطلاقه كما يشاء.

  • ما هي الحدود التي يجب على الزوجين احترامها بعد الطلاق الثالث؟

    -يجب عليهما احترام الحدود التي وضعها الله وعدم تجاوزها، وإذا تجاوزوها فإنهم يعتبرون من الظالمين.

  • كيف يُمكن للزوجين استئناف العلاقة بعد الطلاق الثالث؟

    -يمكنهم استئناف العلاقة فقط إذا تزوجت الزوجة من شخص آخر وطلقت منه، مما يسمح لهما بالعودة بعد ذلك.

Outlines

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💼 The Importance of Divorce Laws in the Quran

The speaker highlights that the most detailed law in the Quran pertains to divorce, contrasting it with the minimal guidance on maintaining a happy marriage. This emphasis on divorce laws suggests that Allah knows humans can manage good relationships but struggle with peaceful separations. The Quran offers extensive guidance on how to handle divorce, including the stipulation that a man can pronounce divorce twice and still reconcile, but this must be done with seriousness and not treated as a joke.

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🤝 Wisdom in Handling Divorce with Decency

This section emphasizes the need for decency and dignity in handling divorce. Allah transitions from legal directives to wisdom, advising that reconciliation should be done with good intentions. The Quran also stresses that if a divorce must happen, it should be conducted beautifully, without ugliness. A man is prohibited from reclaiming anything he has given his wife during marriage, but if both parties fear they cannot abide by Allah's laws, compromises can be made to facilitate a peaceful separation.

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🔄 The Finality of Divorce in the Quran

The speaker explains the finality of divorce after the third pronouncement. Once a man has divorced his wife three times, she is no longer permissible for him unless she marries and divorces someone else. This rule prevents men from treating women like a yo-yo, emphasizing the seriousness of divorce. The speaker elaborates on the wisdom behind this rule, noting that it forces a man to experience the consequences of his actions, particularly the pain of knowing his former wife was with another man before they could reconcile.

📚 Invitation to Learn the Quran with Bayyinah TV

In the concluding section, the speaker invites viewers to join Bayyinah TV to deepen their understanding of the Quran. They stress that the platform offers an organized, step-by-step approach to learning the Quran, making it accessible for individuals, families, and peers. The content on Bayyinah TV is designed to take students from basic to profound levels of Quranic knowledge, providing a structured alternative to the scattered resources available on YouTube.

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Keywords

💡الطلاق

الطلاق هو العملية التي تنهي الزواج بين الرجل والمرأة. في الفيديو، يُعتبر الطلاق القانون الأكثر تفصيلاً في القرآن الكريم، حيث يوضح الله الأحكام التي يجب اتباعها عند الانفصال، مما يبرز أهمية التعامل مع هذه المسألة بحكمة وعدم جعلها موضوعاً للعب أو التهكم.

💡الزواج

الزواج هو العلاقة التي تنشأ بين الرجل والمرأة بموجب عقد شرعي. الفيديو يشير إلى أن القرآن لا يتناول كثيراً النصائح حول الزواج السعيد، لكنه يركز بشكل أكبر على كيفية التعامل مع الطلاق. يُظهر ذلك أهمية حسن النية والنية الطيبة عند التعامل مع الزواج والطلاق.

💡العودة بعد الطلاق

في الفيديو، يُشار إلى أنه يمكن للرجل إعادة زوجته مرتين بعد الطلاق الأول والثاني، ولكن يجب أن يكون ذلك بنية حسنة وبطريقة كريمة. يُعد ذلك جزءاً من الحكمة التي يوضحها الله حول كيفية التعامل مع الأمور بشكل لائق ودون تهكم.

💡الحكمة

الحكمة هي القدرة على التصرف بحكمة وتفهم في المواقف المختلفة. يُذكر في الفيديو أن الله يقدم الحكمة إلى جانب القانون في القرآن، حيث يساعد الناس في التعامل مع المواقف الصعبة مثل الطلاق بطريقة لائقة وإنسانية.

💡الحدود

الحدود هي القواعد التي وضعها الله في القرآن والتي يجب على المسلمين عدم تجاوزها. في سياق الطلاق، يشير الفيديو إلى أن تجاوز هذه الحدود يمكن أن يؤدي إلى الظلم، ويؤكد على أهمية الالتزام بما حدده الله للحفاظ على العدالة.

💡النوايا الحسنة

النوايا الحسنة تشير إلى القيام بأفعال بنية صادقة ونبيلة. في الفيديو، يُشدد على أهمية النية الطيبة عند إعادة الزوجة بعد الطلاق، حيث يجب أن يكون ذلك بدافع الصلح والخير، وليس بنية التحكم أو الاستغلال.

💡التصرف الكريم

التصرف الكريم هو التعامل مع الآخرين بلطف واحترام. يُذكر في الفيديو أن الله يأمر بأن يتم التعامل مع الزوجة الكريمة بعد الطلاق، سواء كان ذلك بالاحتفاظ بها أو تركها بطريقة لائقة وجميلة، مما يعكس القيم الإنسانية التي يجب اتباعها.

💡الانفصال الجميل

الانفصال الجميل هو إنهاء الزواج بطريقة تحترم الطرفين وتجنب النزاعات. يُوضح الفيديو أن القرآن يحث على الطلاق بطريقة جميلة، تجنباً للأذى والعداوة، وتعزيزاً لروح التسامح والاحترام بين الزوجين.

💡الرجعة

الرجعة هي عودة الزوجة إلى زوجها بعد الطلاق إذا لم يكن قد وقع الطلاق ثلاث مرات. يُبين الفيديو أن الرجعة ممكنة مرتين فقط، وبعد ذلك تصبح الزوجة غير حلال للرجل إلا بعد زواجها من شخص آخر.

💡العدالة

العدالة هي الالتزام بالإنصاف في التعاملات. في سياق الطلاق، يشدد الفيديو على أهمية التمسك بالعدالة عند تقسيم الممتلكات أو حقوق الزوجين، وعدم استغلال الطرف الآخر أو إلحاق الضرر به.

Highlights

The most detailed law in the Quran is about divorce, indicating its significance and the need for proper guidance in such situations.

People often make light of divorce by treating it casually and seeking out Muftis to undo their words, which is seen as making a joke out of the ayat of Allah.

There is a misconception that divorce doesn't count unless it's said three times, which is not supported by Islamic teachings.

Allah provides extensive guidance on divorce in the Quran, as it is a situation where humans are less likely to handle it properly without divine guidance.

The Quran provides minimal advice on maintaining a happy marriage because it is assumed that people inherently know how to maintain good relationships.

Divorce is a law in the Quran, but the way one handles the aftermath involves wisdom and decency, which goes beyond just following the law.

The Quran advises holding onto the marriage with decency or letting go beautifully, emphasizing the importance of wisdom in handling delicate situations like divorce.

It is forbidden for a man to take back anything he gave to his wife upon divorce, highlighting fairness and integrity in the process.

If both parties fear they cannot abide by Allah's laws, it is permissible for the woman to give up something of hers to facilitate the divorce.

After the third pronouncement of divorce, the woman is no longer permissible for her husband unless she marries someone else first.

The rule about marrying someone else before returning to the previous husband is designed to prevent men from toying with the sanctity of marriage.

The Quran's guidance ensures that divorce is handled with the utmost respect and consideration for both parties involved.

The wisdom behind requiring the woman to marry someone else before returning to her previous husband is to make the man value her and the relationship more.

This guidance from the Quran is meant to protect women from being mistreated or taken for granted in marriage and divorce.

The detailed explanation of divorce in the Quran is a reflection of Allah's knowledge of human nature and the complexities of relationships.

Transcripts

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the most detailed law in the Quran is

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divorce nowadays people have made a joke

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out of this

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what you're going to do now and then two

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hours later I didn't mean it

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it didn't count

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let's go find a Mufti

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right because we made a joke out of

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though by the way isn't that making the

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ayat of Allah a joke

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it is right and you know what's even

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crazier this is I don't know if this is

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just pakistanis or what but a lot of

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people have told me oh it doesn't count

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unless you say it three times who told

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you that what book are you reading

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did you are you learning Islam from a

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comic book

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this new short series is based on the

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findings of Dr sakib Hussain and his PhD

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thesis wisdom in the Quran which was

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summarized and presented by ustad Norman

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in front of a live audience the link to

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the full paper is in the description

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this is now our final section and this

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is where we're going to spend quite a

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bit of time I I explained already to you

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the difference between law and wisdom in

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the last session right law is black and

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white

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and wisdom is kind of situation by

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situation but now we have to combine the

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two of them we have to actually look at

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the two of them together

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you might not know this but the laws in

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the Quran

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the one law in the Quran that is talked

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about in more detail than any other law

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and I'm not talking about worship I'm

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talking about a law that has people

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people's dealings

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the most detailed law in the Quran is

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divorce

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there's no law that Allah talks about in

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more detail in the entire Quran than he

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does about

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divorce if somebody asked the question

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what does the Quran say about

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a happy marriage there's like two ayahs

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and then if you ask what's the Quran say

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about divorce there are several pages

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and then a Surah on top of that and then

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other references why

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and the Quran is silent on relationship

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advice

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except very little this is the Ayah room

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is the Ayah every um some little bit of

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hints in the ayat of Ramadan bits and

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pieces here and there but the majority

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when you talk about divorce oh my God

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you know why it's as if it's as if I by

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here's the principle

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Allah teaches you what you couldn't

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possibly learn yourself or know yourself

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which means Allah knows that you know

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how to have a good relationship

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you don't need some outside help to

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figure out how to have a good marriage

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but what you don't know how to do is to

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have a peaceful divorce

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that you don't know

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you know how to keep things good

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but you don't know how to handle the

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situation when things go

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bad that you couldn't figure out

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yourself there I will give you

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exhaustive explanation

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and so Allah gives exhaustive

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explanation about what should happen

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when somebody's getting divorced

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how that's and the thing is these are

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you can call them the laws of divorce so

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this part of the Quran is kitab isn't it

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it's we're going to look at a little bit

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of that I mean we can't go through all

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of that because it's huge it's a very

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big subject but I'm going to show you

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just a one small sampling of it

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very brief commentary okay when a man

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and a woman are married then a man can

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pronounce his divorce and still be able

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to take her back twice that can happen

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at two occasions two separate occasions

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nowadays people have made a joke out of

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this

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what you gonna do now and then two hours

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later I didn't mean it

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it didn't count

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let's go find a Mufti

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right because we made a joke out of

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though by the way isn't that making the

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ayat of Allah a joke

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it is right and you know what's even

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crazier this is I don't know if this is

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just pakistanis or what but a lot of

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people have told me oh it doesn't count

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unless you say it three times who told

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you that what book are you reading

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did you are you learning Islam from a

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comic book

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this is psychosis Allah says revocable

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reversible divorce can happen on two

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occasions you can end the marriage that

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it's still reversible on two occasions

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then he says listen carefully

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then after that happens any one of those

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he says I divorce you and then he thinks

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about it they think about it they talk

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about it and he says you know well let's

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try again

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he says then take back hold on to the

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marriage but hold on to it

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with decency

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hold on to it with dignity with decent

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with goodness

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now holding on to it with goodness let

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me ask you does that sound like law or

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wisdom

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immediately after the law

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Allah switched over to what

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wisdom because I cannot check if I'm

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taking back for good intention in a good

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way or not that's not something to lock

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and judge labs are not directly

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or let go beautifully

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he says Let Go what

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beautifully Quran is saying that Quran

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is saying that

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you know when divorce happens it gets

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really ugly right

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and now Allah is telling you listen you

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don't know how to handle the situation

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I'm telling you do everything you can to

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let go in a way that is beautiful

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and what happens a lot of times is one

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person fears Allah and says I want to

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let go in a way that's beautiful the

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other one says

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let me see how I'll show you beautiful

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right

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then he says

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it is not knowledge talking to the men

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he says it's not Halal for you you're

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not allowed to take anything back that

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you gave to them

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if you gave her a car if you give her a

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ring she'd give her a necklace if you

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bought her a PS5

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right because you bought yourself a PS5

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free but you said this is your eat

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present so officially you made it hurry

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present

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I'm just playing it so it doesn't go

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shut up you know I'm just keeping it

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if you gave it to her Allah says it's

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not Halal for you to take back anything

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that you had given to them

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okay then

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unless they're both scared that they're

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not going to be able to abide by the

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laws of Allah this is going to be a

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longer discussion so I won't go into

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details here

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with Allah and if you're afraid that

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they both cannot abide by the law of

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Allah

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then there's no harm on either of them

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if she gives up some part of what she

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owed basically the bottom line here I'm

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being very brief here for now is she

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wants to end the marriage for example

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but he doesn't want to let go and she

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says you know what keep the PS5

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can you just let me go I just I don't

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want to stay just keep the PS5 Allah

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says there's no harm if she gives up

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something that's actually hers but she

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says maybe that'll make the departure

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easy for me

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okay so she's kind of almost like paying

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a ransom in this situation a little bit

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so he says that okay he's not making her

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do it but he's saying if that's what

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gets you away from this situation it's

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no harm if you try to do that that's

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Halal for you because he already said

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it's not Halal to take anything right

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but now he says by the way but if you

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think giving something up will let him

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go easy

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then just do that okay after that be

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those are the limits set by Allah don't

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cross them

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whoever crosses the limit set by Allah

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then those are the people that have done

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wrong now

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but if a third time he divorced her

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again so two have already been mentioned

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this is which time third time

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she is no longer permissible for him

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they can't be together immediately that

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that's not possible thereafter

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until she gets married to someone other

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than him

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so she she can't be with him anymore

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zubair is done sorry zubair is just an

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example zubair is done

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she moved on with her life five months

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later she got married to Kareem sorry

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Kareem

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okay and then she married Kareem and

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Kareem turned out that he uh

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likes Xbox he doesn't like the PS5

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something happened it didn't work out

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and now she got divorced again

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okay now she got divorced and she sent

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us a text message to uh zubair and said

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hey uh what you doing

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and somebody says why are you aren't you

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married no not anymore

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says

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I'm okay

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let's try this again

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then it's okay

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it's okay for you to go back to him if

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you got married to someone else and then

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it didn't work out for a lady that's

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being told otherwise otherwise the man

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is not allowed by the way what could be

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the wisdom what's the hikmah behind that

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well if a man says to a woman I don't

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want you I divorce you okay okay I

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didn't mean I didn't mean it so she

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comes back two months later

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you think I want you I don't want you

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get out of here

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kicks her out again then takes her back

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the third time you don't get to yo-yo

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with this woman the third time it's

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done now you must experience the pain of

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knowing that she was with someone else

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because you didn't value her

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so if you really want her back Allah is

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going to have her live her life and if

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that doesn't work out and she still

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wants you decides that she wants you

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back then maybe you can get back

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together otherwise you guys are done

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