Get used to DISAPPOINTING WOMEN: consumptive love is never satisfied

Summary

Dr. Orion Taraban's 'Cycax' episode emphasizes the importance of men learning to disappoint women in relationships. He argues that a scarcity mentality can lead to over-accommodation, which paradoxically reduces attraction. Taraban suggests that maintaining one's lifestyle and personal growth is crucial for maintaining attraction and a healthy relationship. He also highlights that disappointment can be a positive 'spice' in relationships, increasing attraction rather than diminishing it, and encourages men to set boundaries early to avoid unhealthy dynamics.

Takeaways

• 😀 Disappointing women is a vital skill for men to learn for successful relationships.
• 🤔 Young men often struggle with disappointing women due to a scarcity mentality and a strong desire to please.
• 💡 Women's love is described as consumptive, wanting all of a man's time and attention, which can be overwhelming.
• 🚫 Wanting something costs nothing, but giving does, so men are not obligated to fulfill a woman's desires simply because she wants them.
• 💔 Giving a woman everything she wants can paradoxically decrease her attraction to a man, potentially leading to the end of a relationship.
• 💎 Maintaining one's lifestyle and personal interests is crucial to maintaining attraction in a relationship.
• 👍 Disappointing women can communicate a man's strength and ability to hold his ground, which can make a woman feel safe.
• 🔄 Women sometimes ask for unreasonable things to test a man's resolve and to see if he can maintain his frame.
• 📉 Disappointment can be a valuable 'spice' in a relationship, increasing attraction when used appropriately.
• 🤝 Disappointing women early in a relationship can help identify potential issues and avoid long-term dissatisfaction.
• 🔄 Rejection and disappointment can increase attraction, as demonstrated by men's reactions to being rejected by women.

Q & A

What is the main topic of Dr. Orion Taraban's talk?

The main topic of Dr. Orion Taraban's talk is the importance of learning to disappoint women as a skill for men to have successful relationships.

Why is it difficult for young men to disappoint women according to the script?

It is difficult for young men to disappoint women because they often have a strong pull to give women what they want and lack of options with women, which creates a scarcity mentality.

What does the script suggest about a woman's love being consumptive?

The script suggests that a woman's love is consumptive, meaning that when a woman is in love, she wants everything about the man, including his time, attention, and even his thoughts and feelings.

Why should men not feel obligated to give women what they want simply because they want it?

Men should not feel obligated to give women what they want because wanting something costs the wanter nothing, but giving something costs the giver, and there is no inherent obligation to fulfill another's desires.

What are the potential consequences of a man giving a woman everything she wants?

The potential consequences include the man losing the qualities that initially attracted the woman to him, which could lead to her losing attraction for him and possibly ending the relationship.

What does maintaining one's lifestyle signify in the context of the script?

Maintaining one's lifestyle signifies that the man is not giving up who he is and how he chooses to live for a woman, which is important to keep the attraction alive in the relationship.

Why does the script suggest that women might feel unsafe if they get what they want too often from a man?

The script suggests that if a woman gets what she wants too often, she might start to feel more powerful than the man, which could make her feel unsafe because it questions his ability to protect her or stand up to threats.

What does it mean to 'hold the line' against a woman's consumptive love according to the script?

To 'hold the line' against a woman's consumptive love means to maintain boundaries and not give in to all her demands, showing that the man is centered in his masculine purpose and is more powerful.

Why is it important to disappoint women sooner rather than later in a relationship?

It is important to disappoint women sooner rather than later to identify if they react inappropriately to disappointment, which can help determine the health of the relationship early on.

What does the script suggest about the effect of rejection or disappointment on attraction?

The script suggests that rejection or disappointment can increase attraction, as it makes the person being rejected or disappointed seem more scarce and valuable.

How does the script compare the use of 'disappointment' in relationships to the use of spices in food?

The script compares disappointment in relationships to spices in food, suggesting that a little can enhance the experience but too much can make it unbearable, and it's a necessary element to keep the relationship interesting.