Why You Struggle to Follow Through (Thinkers vs Doers)
Summary
TLDRThe video script delves into the distinction between thinkers and doers, exploring the intrinsic and extrinsic motivations that drive individuals. It suggests a four-step process, from triggered situational interest to a well-developed individual interest, to transform curiosity into sustained action. The speaker shares insights from working with Olympic athletes and highlights the importance of continuous exposure, theory crafting, and internal reflection in cultivating discipline and focus. The script also discusses the role of feedback and the potential pitfalls of seeking it too early in the learning process.
Takeaways
- 🤔 The distinction between thinkers and doers lies in the ability to intrinsically motivate oneself, rather than relying solely on external circumstances.
- 🧠 There is a scientific methodology to transition from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation, which involves four discrete steps based on neuroscience research.
- 🌱 The first step is 'triggered situational interest,' where curiosity is sparked by environmental factors, often accompanied by negative emotions.
- 🔄 'Maintained situational interest' is the second step, emphasizing the importance of continued exposure to the subject of interest without necessarily overcoming initial negative feelings.
- 🎮 'Merging individual interest' is the third step, where individuals start to internalize their interest, often through theory crafting or mental simulations about the activity.
- 🏆 The fourth step is the development of a 'well-developed individual interest,' characterized by a stable and intrinsic motivation that is resilient and sustainable over time.
- 🕵️♂️ Theory crafting is a critical internal process where individuals reflect on and strategize about their interests, which is essential for moving from thinking to doing.
- 🤝 Appreciating the contributions of others becomes important in phase four, as it shows a deeper understanding and internalization of the subject matter.
- 🔁 Feedback should be sought later in the process, as it can be detrimental to beginners who lack the confidence and stability to incorporate it constructively.
- 🚀 The transition from thinker to doer is not about luck or inherent differences but can be achieved by following a skill progression that turns curiosity into sustained action.
- 🌟 Success in one area of life, such as career or relationships, can create a positive feedback loop, enhancing the likelihood of success in other areas.
Q & A
What is the main difference between people who think about doing things and people who actually do them according to the script?
-The main difference is that people who actually do things are more disciplined and focused, and they are able to intrinsically motivate themselves, whereas others are prompted to action only by external circumstances.
What are the two types of motivation mentioned in the script?
-The two types of motivation mentioned are extrinsic motivation, which is prompted by external circumstances, and intrinsic motivation, which comes from within and drives individuals to act without external rewards.
What is the first step in transitioning from a thinker to a doer as described in the script?
-The first step is 'triggered situational interest,' which is an interest that is triggered by the environment and is not controlled by the individual.
Why is it important not to overcome negative emotions immediately when experiencing 'triggered situational interest'?
-Overcoming negative emotions is not the immediate goal because the value of doing so is not yet recognized by the brain. Instead, continued exposure to the subject of interest is what leads to 'maintained situational interest.'
What is 'maintained situational interest' and how is it different from 'triggered situational interest'?
-Maintained situational interest is an interest that is consistently triggered by the environment, leading to continued exposure and engagement with the subject. It is different from triggered situational interest in that it is sustained and not just a one-time reaction to a situation.
What is the significance of 'theory crafting' in the process of moving from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation?
-Theory crafting is significant because it represents a shift from external to internal focus. It involves reflecting on and thinking about the subject matter internally, which is a critical step in developing intrinsic motivation.
What is the role of 'appreciating the contributions of others' in the final phase of developing intrinsic motivation?
-Appreciating the contributions of others helps to deepen one's understanding and engagement with the subject. It shows that the individual has developed a stable and confident interest in the subject, which is a sign of well-developed intrinsic motivation.
Why can feedback be detrimental if received too early in the process of developing a skill or passion?
-Feedback can be detrimental early on because it may discourage individuals who have not yet developed confidence in the subject. Negative feedback can squash curiosity and motivation if received when the interest is not yet stable.
How does the script relate the process of developing intrinsic motivation to the experiences of Olympic athletes?
-The script uses Olympic athletes as examples of individuals who have successfully followed the steps to develop intrinsic motivation. It suggests that these athletes have gone through the stages of curiosity, continued exposure, theory crafting, and appreciation of others' contributions to reach their high level of performance.
What is the potential outcome for someone who follows the steps outlined in the script to develop intrinsic motivation?
-The potential outcome is a transition from being a thinker to a doer, with the ability to take a simple curiosity and turn it into a sustained, intrinsic motivation that can lead to success in various areas of life, similar to the experiences of the Olympic athletes mentioned in the script.
Outlines
🤔 The Dichotomy of Thinkers and Doers
The video script begins by exploring the difference between people who are prompted to action by circumstances (thinkers) and those who intrinsically motivate themselves (doers). It questions whether there is a fundamental difference between these two types and introduces the concept of extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. The speaker shares their curiosity about the distinction and hints at a methodology to transition from being a thinker to a doer, setting the stage for the discussion to follow.
🏅 The Path to Intrinsic Motivation
This paragraph delves into the steps that lead from being curious to developing sustained motivation. It discusses the concept of 'triggered situational interest' and the pitfalls of curiosity often being accompanied by negative emotions. The speaker explains that overcoming these emotions isn't necessary to progress; instead, continued exposure to the subject of interest is key. The importance of maintaining situational interest through consistent external engagement is highlighted, as is the role of parents or external forces in fostering early discipline in high achievers.
🎮 From External Curiosity to Internal Interest
The speaker uses the analogy of gaming to illustrate the transition from external curiosity to an internal interest in a subject. They explain the process of 'theory crafting' as a critical step in moving from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation. This involves internal reflection and strategizing about the subject, rather than relying solely on external inputs. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of this internal work in transforming a fleeting interest into a deeper, more enduring passion.
🧠 The Internalization of Interest and Theory Crafting
Continuing the discussion on theory crafting, this paragraph emphasizes the importance of internal reflection and the development of personal strategies or ideas about the subject of interest. It contrasts thinkers, who consume external content without internalizing it, with doers who reflect and theorize internally. The speaker suggests that this internal process is what differentiates those who act on their interests from those who only think about them.
🏆 Achieving a Well-Developed Individual Interest
This paragraph outlines the final phase of developing intrinsic motivation: moving from an emerging individual interest to a well-developed one. It discusses the importance of appreciating the contributions of others and the value of feedback in this phase. The speaker warns against seeking feedback too early, as it can be detrimental without a solid foundation of confidence and interest. The paragraph concludes by reinforcing the idea that following the outlined steps can help transform a thinker into a doer.
🚀 The Neuroscience of Transitioning from Thinker to Doer
The final paragraph of the script wraps up the discussion by emphasizing the neuroscience behind the transition from thinker to doer. It reiterates the importance of the four-step process in nurturing curiosity and turning it into sustained intrinsic motivation. The speaker shares personal anecdotes to illustrate the effectiveness of these steps and encourages viewers to apply them, suggesting that success in various aspects of life often goes hand in hand and is not a matter of luck but of learning and applying these motivational skills.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Intrinsic Motivation
💡Extrinsic Motivation
💡Thinkers vs. Doers
💡Cognitive Steps
💡Triggered Situational Interest
💡Maintained Situational Interest
💡Merging Individual Interest
💡Theory Crafting
💡Well-Developed Individual Interest
💡Feedback
💡Olympic Athletes
Highlights
Intrinsic motivation can be developed rather than being an inherent trait.
There are two types of people: thinkers and doers, with a methodology to transition from one to the other.
Curiosity can be a stepping stone to intrinsic motivation despite sometimes being accompanied by negative emotions.
Continued exposure to a subject can foster curiosity and lead to sustained interest.
Maintained situational interest is a phase where external triggers keep the interest alive without internalizing it yet.
Theory crafting is a critical step in moving from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation, involving internal reflection on the subject.
Thinkers can become doers by engaging in internal processes like theory crafting rather than just external exposure.
The difference between thinkers and doers may not be a fundamental personality difference but a skill that can be learned.
Olympic athletes and high achievers follow specific steps to cultivate passion and discipline.
The four discrete steps from curiosity to sustained action involve environmental triggers, continued exposure, theory crafting, and individual interest development.
Negative emotions associated with curiosity can be a pitfall, but they can also be leveraged to deepen engagement with the subject.
The importance of not overcoming negative emotions immediately but allowing them to coexist with curiosity.
How parental influence can contribute to the development of intrinsic motivation in early stages.
The role of consistent environmental triggers in maintaining situational interest and moving towards intrinsic motivation.
The transition from external motivation to internal motivation involves appreciating the contributions of others and seeking feedback.
Feedback should be sought when there is a stable interest and confidence in the subject, not in the early stages of curiosity.
The neuroscience behind the progression from curiosity to intrinsic motivation and the practical steps to facilitate this process.
The speaker's personal journey from a thinker to a doer and the impact of applying the discussed methodology on his life.
The paradoxical nature of thinkers who consume content without internalizing it, contrasting with doers who reflect and act.
Transcripts
some of us are prompted to action by our
circumstances but then there are other
people who seem to be able to
intrinsically motivate themselves and so
this is a question that I always kind of
wondered about are these people
fundamentally different or am I missing
something and it turns out that there is
a methodology to this this is something
that you can level up there are two
types of people in this world people who
think about doing stuff and people who
actually do stuff and we're kind of
aware of this right we sort of have this
idea of extrinsic motivation and
intrinsic motivation some of us are
prompted to action by our circumstances
if we have a deadline if we have a test
to study for if we have a particular
project that needs to be completed then
we can act but then there are other
people who seem to be able to
intrinsically motivate themselves who
are more disciplined and focused and
what's the difference so I've always
wondered you know are there two types of
people is this like a fundamental
difference is this down to your genes
down to your personality what separates
people who think about doing things from
people who do things and you may have
wondered this too are thinkers
fundamentally different from doers so
you may get excited about something just
like everyone else but you and your
friend both get excited about something
and a year later you've sort of
forgotten about it you didn't really
follow through and your friend is
actually stuck with it what's the
difference that's what we're going to
dive into today hey y'all I want to take
a moment to talk about something that's
really important online privacy whether
you're browsing the web gaming or even
streaming privacy is the foundation of
safety online and that's why I'm pleased
to talk about protonvpn today protonvpn
was created by scientists at CERN to
build a better internet with privacy at
its core now with over 150 million users
they offer some fantastic features that
can benefit you protonvpn has over 5,000
high-speed servers in 91 countries their
VPN accelerator technology can boost
your connection speed by up to 400% %
plus there's no bandwidth limit so you
can game and stream without
interruptions there are a few things
that I really like about proton VPN the
first is that they have a no log policy
which has been audited by Third parties
so this is a situation where they don't
actually keep internal logs of your
browsing traffic many people who will
protect your privacy will actually keep
logs of everything that you do but if
there are no logs no one can access them
the second thing that I really like is
that protonvpn is actually open source
so you can go look at the protonvpn code
which people have done to ensure that
there's nothing Shady going on the last
thing that I really like about protonvpn
is that they have a integrated ad
blocker built into their VPN services so
normally there are all kinds of trackers
and stuff that are following you around
recognizing what you're looking for what
your psychological vulnerabilities are
and then we'll actually send you ads to
exploit those protonvpn protects you
from that so thank you so much to
protonvpn for sponsoring today's video
and keeping mental health content on the
internet free we're really grateful to
them for their support and I strongly
recommend you check out protonvpn if
you're interested in taking your privacy
seriously super cool thing is that
they're offering a 64% discount for
members of the HG community so check out
the links in the description and this is
something that I've thought about a lot
because I myself was a thinker right I
got super curious about things I would
get very excited about stuff sometimes
I'd order a bunch of books I'd be like
okay yeah like this is going to be my
thing I'm going to learn to break dance
I'm going to learn to play a new
instrument and then a couple weeks would
go by in my sort of curious passion
would end up dissipating completely and
I looked around at other people and I
sort of noticed that some people when
they get curious about stuff are able to
follow through with it turn it into
discipline and stay consistent and so
this is a question that I always kind of
wondered about are these people
fundamentally different or am I missing
something which is why I was absolutely
thrilled when I had the opportunity to
work with not one but two Olympic
athletes so these are people who were
literally the best in the world at the
particular thing that they do and as I
was working with them on unrelated
things in the back of my mind I was
always wondering okay like I'm going to
try to figure out how did this person
accomplish this how did this person
develop such a passion have such strong
intrinsic motivation and I came to a
couple of conclusions which we'll share
with you but still I wasn't quite sure
right right because in this situation I
have a sample size of two I have two
human beings who are incredibly High
performing so I can't quite extrapolate
that out or form a conclusion about the
population at large which is why I was
thrilled to discover that we basically
figured this out there's a bunch of
Novel re research in Neuroscience around
extrinsic motivation and intrinsic
motivation and how to turn from a
thinker into a doer and this actually
has four discrete steps that if you do
something like work with an Olympic
Athlete you'll discover that they went
through these steps and the tricky thing
is that some of these steps aren't
really visible so we'll sort of see what
someone else is doing we'll look at
someone who's like very disciplined and
they get a lot of stuff done and we'll
think to ourselves like okay I'm going
to start doing what they do but when we
try to do it it doesn't seem to work out
and that's because the research has sort
of shown us that there are internal
cognitive steps that you need to take as
well and as you go through these
cognitive steps you will literally take
something that you are curious about and
turn it into sustained action so the
first step is something called a
triggered situational interest so as
we've learned more about the brain we've
sort of discovered that everyone starts
with curiosity but then there are
certain things that you can do once you
are curious to Foster that Curiosity and
then eventually turn that Curiosity into
a sustained motivation so the first
thing to understand about phase one is
that it's something that you don't
control it is triggered by the situation
so it is environmental in nature and you
kind of get curious about something so
if you see someone playing a particular
video game you'll be like oh that's a
pretty cool game like maybe I should
learn how to play that game too but
there are a lot of things that we don't
quite understand about curiosity and
there's one major Pitfall that we tend
to fall into and that is often times
curiosity actually comes with negative
emotions and we tend to think about
curiosity as a positive thing right we
think that Curiosity sometimes attracts
us to stuff which is why we get confused
when even when we get curious about
things we seem to not do anything about
it why is that it's because in the
triggered situational interest often
times we have some negative emotion that
actually keeps us from pursuing it so
I'll give you all a simple example when
I was in college I decided that I wanted
to be cool man I'm going to be cool so I
went to a break dancing class and I was
like oh man like I'm going to learn how
to break dance I'm going to be a be boy
I'mma get the ladies it's going to be
cool and I went to this break dancing
class where a lot of people were break
dancing and I was like damn that's super
cool and I felt pathetic I'm not that
graceful I don't have that rhythm in my
body I don't know if I can ever do this
it completely destroyed my confidence
which is something that is very common
when we get curious about something it
actually comes with some degree of
negative emotion and so what a lot of
people will then do is they'll say like
oh you have to overcome that negative
emotion right like that's what someone
like Dr K on the internet would tell you
to do oh you have some negative emotion
process that emotion regulate that
emotion go to therapy do journaling so
that the negative emotion goes away and
then you can pursue your curiosity turns
out that's wrong so what we want to do
for and there's research that shows this
if we want to move past a triggered
situational interest I see something in
the environment and I'm interested in it
we don't actually need to engage with it
further we don't have to overcome any
anything within ourselves what we
actually need to do is just focus on
continued exposure continued exposure is
what leads us to something called
maintained situational interest so this
once again is an interest that is
triggered by our environment so we're
still externally motivated but the
trigger is consistent right so it's
maintained situational interest and this
is where it's like super cool because if
you're like me you love learning about
doing things
instead of actually doing things which
is literally exactly what we want to do
to eventually reach intrinsic motivation
it may seem like it's a step in the
opposite direction but when we study
people who start off with curiosity and
end up with a lifelong passion this is a
critical step what we really want to
focus on if you're curious about
something is not overcoming the
negativity but just continue to expose
yourself to that thing you don't have to
conquer any internal thing and the
reason for that is very simple because
at this point it is not worth it the
part of your brain that calculates the
value of overcoming a negative thing
doesn't think that this is worth it so
if I overcome that embarrassment and I
go to class the next day and I'm really
fighting and struggling with that
embarrassment it's not like I learn how
to break dance immediately after
overcoming that emotional hump
overcoming the emotional hump doesn't
really get me anything at that point
which is why we actually don't want to
invest in doing it all we want to focus
on is continued exposure so you should
by all means go to the class again you
should learn about it so this is what's
really interesting learning about the
content that you're interested in
qualifies as maintaining that
situational interest so you can actually
watch YouTube videos about it you can
read a book about it and notice what
happens when I start watching YouTube
videos or reading books or talking to
people or hanging out with people who
are break dancers I'm not actually
learning how to break dance yet I'm not
forcing myself to overcome that
negativity I'm just continuously feeding
my mind and when I work with these
Olympic athletes I find that they had
this too so in the early stages of their
training they frequently had a parent
who maintained their situation on their
behalf when we look at people who are
exceptional we tend to find that they
start early and before they even develop
a passion of often times their parents
force them to do it and if you've had
parents that have forced you to do
something and you may have wondered why
did this not become a passion for me
that's because you probably didn't do
steps three or four so we really want to
focus on is continued external exposure
learning about the thing sort of
engaging with the thing we can deal with
some of the negative emotions but you
basically want to continue feeding your
mind with more stuff about your
curiosity so what we basically want to
do in step two is continue that exposure
because if we get super passionate about
something and let's say I go to like a
guitar class or something and then I
order a bunch of like a guitar and a
bunch of music but then I know never go
back to the class what's going to happen
the guitar is going to sit in my closet
so instead what I need to do is just
focus on continued exposure into to a
certain degree engaging with that
community and this is when we transition
from an externally oriented interest to
an internally oriented interest so phase
three is called the merging individual
interest and if yall are Gamers you are
going to understand this incredibly well
so at some point we're kind of focused
on you know the external environment
we're watching people do it we're sort
of thinking about it hopefully you
engage in some way right so I'm not
saying that you can be a complete
bystander at some point you should you
know pick up a guitar and try playing
something engage with the community give
it a shot but you don't need a lifelong
passion yet and there is a critical step
that triggers moving from extrinsic
motivation to internal motivation and
that is Theory crafting so let's think
about this from the analogy of video
games so I see someone else playing a
video game oh like that's pretty cool
like there are people playing Street
Fighter 6 like Street Fighter 6 seems
like a fun game so you don't have to
actually play it right away right then
the key thing to do is let's continue
hanging out with people who play sf6 and
then eventually I'll pick up the
controller I'll experiment around a
little bit I'll start to have a little
bit fun but I'm getting crushed because
these people are way better than I am
and normally I would sort of give up on
it at that point that's when the theory
crafting steps in so if you've Theory
crafted think about this for a second
who are you engaging with when you
Theory craft you're not engaging with
the external environment you're not
watching YouTube videos about it you're
sitting there when you go to bed at
night instead of falling asleep you're
running through ideas in your head
you're like okay maybe I could do this
and maybe I could do this or I should
play this character if I did this I
could do it this way if I build this
character I'm going to level up I'm
going to have a maximum strength I'm
going to use int as a dump stat I'm
going to use Charisma as a dump stat cuz
charisma's for noobs or whatever you're
playing if you're playing Elden ring or
like shadow of the earth tree because
that's coming out nowadays you know
you're thinking about all this stuff so
this is really important to understand
because in the first two phases we are
sort of getting external input our input
is is from the outside and we sort of
have this internal reaction we're also
reacting to the outside but when we
start to develop an emerging individual
interest we are now dealing with
ourselves we are playing around with the
information we are
reflecting on the information we are now
focused within us and if you've Theory
crafted you know exactly what I'm
talking about so now what we want to do
for whatever your interest is we want to
start Theory crafting it so now the
reward and the focus is not external
anymore it's like oh I'm thinking about
this I get excited about it my mind
really enjoys it and this is a critical
step from becoming a thinker to a doer
doers are people who think about things
and reflect on things internally whereas
I know it sounds kind of weird thinkers
continue to expose themselves to the
external environment now you may think
to yourself but isn't a thinker internal
no no no no no this is what is so
paradoxical and so revolutionary about
it someone who continuously watches
videos about self-improvement on the
internet but doesn't do the internal
work don't pay attention to themselves
don't Theory craft their own Solutions
they're continuously watching One video
after another video after another video
after another video they're engaged with
the external environment there is not
that transition so you can watch every
single video on this channel and never
change unless you start to do the
internal work makes sense right so for
anything that you want to develop an
intrinsic motivation for what you really
need to focus on is reflecting on what
you've learned and of course you have to
try stuff out that's usually in phase
two but we really want to reflect on
what we've learned to sort of Foster and
really support that internal interest
and if you do that you'll eventually
move to the last phase which is a
welldeveloped individual interest so
this is kind of phase four where at this
point you're you're going to look at
someone else and you're going to see
like when this person is passionate or
disciplined or Call It Whatever you want
to they have a sustained interest which
is intrinsically motivated at this point
they appear to be doers because they're
engaging with this stuff over time so
for anything that you want to develop
intrinsic motivation for you need to
reflect on what you've learned and ask
yourself questions about it so at this
point once again it's individual it's
intrinsically motivated but at this
point it is well developed it has a
certain degree of resilience and
stability to it this is where all the
the Olympic athletes that both of the
Olympic athletes that I've worked with
are this is where Esports professionals
I've worked with are this is where a lot
of doctors that I work with are
entrepreneurs CEOs they're all sort of
in this phase where they have a highly
developed sense of this thing and it's
sustainable over time now the really
interesting thing is that this phase is
characterized by two steps which often
times we try to do way too early which
can have paradoxically negative effects
so the first thing about this phase is
this is when we start to appreciate the
contributions of others so I'll give you
all a simple example okay so let's say
you Theory craft a particular build and
you have all your ideas about this build
and why it'll work and why it won't work
and then the interesting thing is once
you've done some Theory crafting you are
far more likely to understand the theory
crafting of someone else you're far more
likely to appreciate the theory crafting
of someone else know what it's like to
construct your own build so when someone
else comes up with a build you're like
oh that's really interesting how did
they come to that conclusion why are
they why do they have the stat
distribution that they have why do they
have the item timings that they have why
are they choosing to play this
combination of characters whatever the
game is it doesn't really matter but I
don't know if this kind of makes sense
but this is when you start to really
appreciate the contributions of others
since you've developed your own thought
process your own internal meta or
strategy you can appreciate the meta or
strategy of other people so for me for
example you know I read a ton and what
drives my reading is not necessarily
that I just want to learn it's not that
I'm an empty vessel I actually have a
lot of my own ideas about clinical work
Psychiatry Neuroscience spirituality so
now when I read someone else when I read
a textbook whether it's Aaron Beck's
like book on cognitive behavioral
therapy or it's you know the bhagwad
Gita by Krishna so whoever I read
Krishna morti it doesn't really matter
like now I have my own perspective and
now I absorb that information so much
more and it'll keep that momentum going
and as I'm sure youall can imagine the
more of this stuff that I read the more
of an expert I become the problem is
that if we engage in this stuff too
early it's important to get some degree
of exposure and I recognized that
earlier I said it's okay to watch a
YouTube video we need some kind of
external input but there's a big
difference between an external input
that Fosters my curiosity
and really having the bandwidth and
background to digest another way of
thinking right we're not experts at the
beginning we don't understand someone
else's meta we don't understand like
this person is break dancing this way
this person is break dancing this way
when I don't know how to break dance we
just want to watch 5 minute YouTube
videos that are like wow that's pretty
cool like I want to learn how to do that
later on we want to go more in depth and
what I find is that when people who are
in Phase One or phase two and they try
to read a lot of books about something
what they actually do is like this is
kind of boring it's not really that
engaging and the second thing that we
want to do to maintain phase four and to
really be sort of committed to something
is ask for feedback now this often times
confuses a lot of people because we have
this idea in life that we should all be
asking for feedback can I get feedback
can you give me feedback feedback
feedback feedback feedback about the
relationship why didn't you like the
date why did you like the date why
aren't you texting me I go why why did I
ghost you what am I doing right at work
what am I doing wrong at work what like
you know we're all so feedback obsessed
but it turns out that feedback can be
bad for you so remember that in Phase
One when we're first getting curious
about something when I go to the break
dancing class and I feel intimidated
because all these people there are so
strong and so graceful if I ask for
feedback what impact do you think that
will have if I feel some degree of
negativity towards the subject I'm
excited about it and I feel intimidated
and if I ask someone hey what do you
think about my break dancing and they
give me honest feedback yeah it seems
like you're pretty early and you have a
lot to work on if I have that negative
emotion feedback early on will actually
destroy my motivation and kill my
curiosity it will not develop into a
passion in order to receive feedback and
utilize feedback pretty well what we
really need is confidence in the subject
at hand the more stable and confident
the more sustained our interest is
negative feedback won't be able to
squash it in fact since I have a stable
interest in something when I receive
feedback then I can incorporate that
feedback because I have that foundation
and then I can grow now there are
absolutely cases where early on you want
feedback but what we sort of know from
scientific studies is that feedback
becomes more and more and more important
the further in your journey you are and
that early on if I take a six-year-old
kid and I say hey you got a bunch of
these math questions wrong or I'm
telling them you did this wrong in chess
and you did this wrong in chess and you
did this wrong in chess they're much
less likely to ever want to play chess
again and if you've given feedback to
some students you know even if you're
playing a video game what you'll find
you'll observe the same thing is that
not all human beings are capable of
receiving feedback we have this idea
that it's such a wonderful thing and we
should be giving it and receiving it all
the time but it requires a lot of
confidence instability to actually
receive and incorporate feedback so if
you follow these four steps it will
transition you from a thinker to a doer
we have Neuroscience studies that
literally show us okay when a human
becomes
curious this is what activates in their
brain and curiosity is not the same as
intrinsic motivation curiosity is a
desire for more external exposure let me
go see more of it let me touch it let me
play with it I'm looking for information
from the outside the problem is that for
so many of us we get so excited because
we get excited about this thing and we
want to play around with it but we don't
quite know how to make the transition
from temporary excitement to sustained
intrinsic motivation and what we really
need to do is follow these four steps
just exposing ourselves more we want
more and more input to feed our
curiosity but if we're not careful our
brain will eventually get bored of that
and it'll be like that's enough H let's
move on to the next thing because it'll
naturally get curious about something
else and then it'll be drawn to that
thing so how do you avoid switching over
to the next thing that's when you need
to switch to an intrinsic motivation you
need to start reflecting asking your
questions Theory crafting and as you all
know I don't know if this makes sense
but if you've ever Theory crafted
something the more you Theory craft the
more you want to play but think about
how powerful this is because you're not
getting external environmental exposures
at that point all of the Dy is
transitioning to Intrinsic and once that
drive to Intrinsic is there then we can
help it grow and Excel like you will
start to excel as you start to think
about other thinkers in the space
appreciating the other ways that people
make builds as well as soliciting and
incorporating feedback so if you're
someone who's struggled with intrinsic
motivation if you're someone who's just
a thinker instead of a doer I strongly
encourage yall to follow these steps and
I can't guarantee that you'll become an
Olympic aete but I certainly know that I
was a you know 19-year-old kid who was
failing out of college who got curious
about a thousand things I ran for
Student Government I was I joined a
fraternity I was playing I was trying to
clim climb the Warcraft 3 ladder I was
trying to date and all of it was a mess
and now it's like everything is going
well for me gratefully right so I have a
job that I'm relatively happy about I
have a relationship that I'm relatively
happy with I have a family that I'm
relatively proud of I still play video
games I'm climbing rank in mm are and
that's the really crazy thing right
because when we look at other people in
the world it seems like there are two
camps of people and this was something
that was so confusing to me because at
the beginning I thought like okay during
character creation in life everyone gets
the same amount of points right so like
I can level up strength but then that
comes at the cost of int or Charisma the
problem is that in the real world it
seems that the opposite is true having a
successful career that you love makes it
more likely for you to develop a healthy
relationship and if you have a healthy
and successful relationship and you have
a healthy and successful career then you
are more likely to be happy in life so
the real crazy thing is that if we look
in the real world it seems lopsided it
is completely imba some people have it
all and some people don't have any of it
and we look at this and we think to
ourselves how is this are some people
just fundamentally luckier do some
people get the the Short Straw and some
people get the long straw but it turns
out that no that's not actually the case
that there is specifically a
neuroscience-based skill progression
that allows you to take a simple
curiosity and turn it into a sustained
motivation and people who learn this
process because these Olympic athletes
that I worked with by the way one of
them was a student at Harvard Medical
School and it's like holy that's so
op how is it the these people are so
good at all of the stuff and I am so bad
at all of the stuff I literally mentored
someone whose resume was like three
times as good as mine it's wild and it
turns out that there is a methodology to
this there is skill behind it it just
like cooking or playing a video game or
learning how to talk to other human
beings this is something that you can
level up and follow these steps and we
hope that it'll work for you
one
[Music]
Посмотреть больше похожих видео
How To Be Effortlessly Disciplined (using Psychology 🧠)
Self-Determination Theory: 3 Basic Needs That Drive Our Behavior
9 Flow Triggers - Do More In 1 Day Than You Normally Do In A Week.
Overcome External Rewards to Achieve Your Goals | Andrew Huberman
Theories of Public Relations
COMO APRENDER A VENDER? (Primo Rico e Caio Carneiro discordam!) | O Conselho | Corte do EP. 01
5.0 / 5 (0 votes)