Once You Learn These Life Lessons You'll Never Be The Same
Summary
TLDRThis video script offers eight life lessons aimed at enhancing personal well-being and happiness. It emphasizes the importance of proper sleep, authenticity, emotional expression, and gratitude for a fulfilling life. The speaker introduces practical tips like the military's 2-minute sleep method, reducing social media usage, seeking professional help for emotional struggles, and distinguishing between love and lust. The script encourages self-reflection and emotional awareness as tools for personal growth and control.
Takeaways
- 🌙 Sleeping between 10 p.m. and 4 a.m. regularly can be as detrimental as shift work, potentially reducing life expectancy by 15 years.
- 💤 The military's 'two-minute' sleep method can help fall asleep quickly by tensing and relaxing muscles progressively from head to toe.
- 📱 The comparison to others on social media can lead to dissatisfaction with one's own life, suggesting the need to reduce usage of certain platforms like Instagram.
- 🚫 Men are often conditioned to suppress emotions, which can lead to shorter life expectancy; it's important to express and address emotional issues.
- ☎️ Services like BetterHelp offer a platform to speak with professionals about emotional struggles in a private and comfortable setting.
- 🌞 Starting the day with gratitude can significantly improve one's mood and perspective on life, making every day feel more valuable.
- 🤲 The 'thumb trick' from Jin Shin Jyutsu can help alleviate anxiety by focusing on the pulse in the thumb and promoting relaxation.
- 👀 Assessing a partner's loyalty involves considering if they expose themselves inappropriately on social media platforms, which can affect the exclusivity of the relationship.
- ❤️ Distinguishing between love and lust is crucial for healthy relationships; true love involves caring for the other person's well-being and wanting to improve oneself for them.
- 🧐 When feeling strong emotions, it's beneficial to pause and reflect on the cause and the lessons that can be learned, leading to emotional growth and self-control.
- 📝 Journaling emotions and reactions can provide insight and help in managing emotional responses over time, enhancing personal development and life control.
Q & A
What are the potential health risks of being awake between 10:00 p.m. and 4:00 a.m.?
-According to the script, being awake during these hours for two hours, two days per week for 25 days a year can be as detrimental as being a shift worker. It can disrupt circadian rhythm and lead to a shorter lifespan, with shift workers dying 15 years younger on average compared to those who don't have such schedules.
What is the military method for falling asleep within 2 minutes?
-The method involves lying down, closing your eyes, and then sequentially tensing and relaxing all the muscles in your body, starting from the face and moving down to the shoulders, arms, abs, legs, and feet. This process is said to help you fall asleep quickly.
How does social media impact mental health according to the script?
-Social media platforms can have varying impacts on mental health. The script mentions a study ranking platforms from least to most impactful, with Instagram being the most detrimental and YouTube being the most positive.
What is the average life expectancy for men compared to women, and why?
-The script states that the average life expectancy for men is 73.2 years, while for women it is 79.1 years. This difference is not due to genetics but rather factors like heart disease from poor diet and lack of exercise, workplace incidents, and the tendency for men to internalize problems and not discuss them.
How can expressing gratitude in the morning improve one's day?
-The script suggests that waking up and immediately feeling grateful for being alive can set a positive tone for the day. Writing down three to five things you're grateful for can make every day feel amazing.
What is the 'thumb trick' for reducing anxiety?
-The 'thumb trick' involves gripping your thumb with your entire hand firmly and focusing on the pulse you feel. As you concentrate on the pulse, it will start to disappear, along with your anxiety. This technique is said to allow the body to rest and is based on ancient Japanese Jin shinjitsu.
Why should men avoid dating women who expose themselves excessively online?
-The script argues that loyalty is not just about exclusivity in a relationship but also about not making oneself available to others by exposing one's body online. Men should consider whether a woman has an OnlyFans account, posts revealing photos on Instagram, or dances half-naked in TikTok videos to gauge her loyalty.
How can one differentiate between love and lust?
-The script suggests that if you find yourself constantly thinking about a girl, her texts, and her body, it's likely lust. However, if you're thinking about taking care of her and wanting to become a better man for her, it's probably love.
What is the importance of stopping and reflecting when experiencing strong emotions?
-The script emphasizes the importance of stopping when you feel any high activation state of emotion to understand why you're feeling that way. Reflecting on these emotions can provide important lessons and help you gain control over your life.
How can using a service like BetterHelp benefit someone struggling with emotions or seeking advice?
-BetterHelp connects you with licensed professionals who can provide unbiased advice tailored to your needs. It's beneficial for those who may not have a trusted friend to talk to or who need professional guidance in the comfort of their home.
What is the main takeaway from the script regarding living a successful life?
-The main takeaway is that learning and applying the eight life lessons shared in the script can lead to a more successful and fulfilling life. These lessons include proper sleep hygiene, being authentic, expressing gratitude, managing emotions, and understanding love and loyalty.
Outlines
🌙 The Impact of Sleep on Health and a Solution
The speaker emphasizes the importance of sleep, particularly the detrimental effects of being awake between 10 p.m. and 4 a.m., comparing it to the lifestyle of shift workers. They cite scientific findings that suggest such a habit can lead to a reduction in life expectancy by 15 years. To combat this, the speaker introduces a military technique for falling asleep within two minutes, which involves tensing and relaxing muscles progressively from the face down to the feet. This method is proposed as a way to potentially add years to one's life and improve overall well-being.
🚫 Overcoming Social Media's Influence and Expressing Emotions
The script discusses the struggle of being true to oneself in a world dominated by social media, which often leads to unhealthy comparisons and regret. The speaker encourages viewers to let go of the past and to embrace their authentic selves, suggesting a reduction in the use of social media platforms that negatively impact mental health, such as Instagram, in favor of those with a more positive influence like YouTube. Additionally, the speaker addresses the societal expectation for men to suppress emotions, which can lead to shorter life expectancies, and promotes the use of resources like BetterHelp for those who may not have someone to confide in.
🌞 Gratitude and Anxiety Management Techniques
The speaker shares a personal morning routine that involves waking up and feeling grateful for life, suggesting that this simple act can significantly improve one's day. They recommend writing down three to five things for which one is grateful each morning. Furthermore, they introduce an anxiety-reducing technique known as the 'thumb trick' from ancient Japanese Jin shinjitsu, which involves gripping the thumb to feel a pulse and focusing on it to alleviate anxiety. The speaker also advises on recognizing genuine loyalty in relationships, questioning the value of a partner who exposes themselves to the public eye, and emphasizes the importance of distinguishing love from lust.
💭 Emotional Awareness and Self-Reflection
The final paragraph focuses on the importance of emotional awareness and self-reflection. The speaker advises that when one experiences strong emotions, they should pause to understand and learn from these feelings. They suggest journaling as a tool for this self-analysis, which can lead to emotional mastery and a life less controlled by emotions. The speaker concludes by urging the application of the eight life lessons shared throughout the script to achieve a more successful and fulfilling life.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Circadian Rhythm
💡Shift Work
💡Anxiety
💡Gratitude
💡Loyalty
💡Lust
💡BetterHelp
💡Social Media Impact
💡Emotional Control
💡Mental Health
💡Self-Improvement
Highlights
The importance of sleep between 10 p.m. and 4 a.m. for maintaining circadian rhythm and its impact on life expectancy, compared to shift workers.
A military method for falling asleep in 2 minutes by tensing and relaxing facial and body muscles.
The negative impact of social media on mental health and a ranking of platforms from least to most impactful.
The benefits of being authentic and ceasing to compare oneself to others, especially on social media.
The detrimental effects of men not expressing emotions and the resulting shorter life expectancy compared to women.
A morning routine hack of waking up and expressing gratitude for the day ahead.
The 'thumb trick' for reducing anxiety by focusing on the pulse in the thumb.
The concept of loyalty in relationships and how it extends beyond exclusive sexual relationships.
Three questions to determine if a woman is loyal, including the presence of revealing content on social media.
The distinction between love and lust, and how to identify genuine love for a partner.
The importance of seeking unbiased advice, such as through professional counseling services like BetterHelp.
The value of stopping and reflecting on emotions to gain control and learn from them.
The practice of journaling emotions to surpass others by understanding and controlling one's emotional responses.
The necessity of applying life lessons immediately for a transformative impact on one's life.
The role of gratitude in starting the day positively and its effect on overall life satisfaction.
The impact of social media platforms like Instagram on mental health and the advice to use them less.
The potential of professional help in addressing deep-seated problems when personal support is lacking.
The idea that men should speak up about their problems to improve mental health and life expectancy.
Transcripts
the hardest lessons in life they take
years to learn so today we're going to
speedrun that I'm going to show you
eight life lessons that once you learn
them you will never get S starting with
number one being awake between 10: p.m.
and 400 a.m. is killing you if you're
awake for 2 hours between 10: p.m. and
4:00 a.m. for 2 days per week for 25
days of the
year you qualify as a kind of hard
carrying shift worker I was a shift
worker my entire life that cuz that that
that was my sleeping schedule until I
realized how impactful this was to my
circadium rhythm and she ends up going
on and comparing people that stay up
this late to shift workers the reason
she's doing this comparison is that
scientists from wo discovered that shift
workers or those that have graveyard
shifts end up dying 15 years younger
than those that don't just think about
that 15 years of your life and what you
could have accomplished gone but have
you ever got to bed and it's like 9:30
10 at night and you just find yourself
staring at the ceiling or staring at
your phone I get it which is why I'm
going to show you a method that soldiers
in the military use to fall asleep
within 2 minutes first while lying down
in bed I want you to close your eyes and
squeeze all the muscles in your face for
3 seconds then relax for 3 seconds then
do that for every muscle moving down
from the top of your body like your
shoulders then your arms then your abs
then your legs and even your feet before
you know it you'll to fall asleep I want
you to try this tonight and just by
listening to this your life will never
be the same cuz you just added 15 years
to your life but a long life it's
pointless if you can't live it well this
is why I still need to show you how to
remove anxiety forever how to wake up
with the perfect morning routine every
day and how to know that the girl you're
talking to is the right one let's move
on to number two stop trying to be
someone you're not well there you now
I'm going to be 96 I'll say this if the
boys and I make it to 96 I'll be a happy
man bro no I don't like going back
because there's nothing you can do about
the past I would say accept where you
were at and move on and try and be in
the 100% it's so simple right don't hold
on to the past and be yourself but then
why is it so hard to live this way it's
because a social media you see this is
what has you comparing yourself to
others this comparison is what makes men
regret their past try to act and be
someone that they're not so I did my own
research and I found what are the social
media platforms that have the worst
impact on you guys and according to a
study on Mental Health here is a list of
all social media from the least to most
impactful on your mental health now in
fifth place and labeled as the most
positive for your mental health is
YouTube so congratulations boys you guys
are in the right spot in fourth place is
Twitter and third place is Facebook in
second place is Snapchat is the most
impactful on your mental health and the
number one social media app that
destroys your mental health is Instagram
so to start letting go of the past and
be yourself I want you to work your way
up start using less the ones that are
most negative on your mental health and
more the ones that impact you positively
like YouTube number three men don't cry
you suck it up you hold it in see we
train our boys to be silent and then we
get mad when they don't speak up this is
why we die quicker than women us men we
don't talk about our problems what do we
do we just disappear into our rooms and
we never talk about it and according to
research the average life expectancy for
us it's only 73.2 years for women it's
79.1 years and this isn't due to
genetics it's due to factors like heart
disease from poor diet and lack of
exercise workplace incidents and most
notably and happens because we're
internalizing everything trying to carry
everything ourselves and we don't talk
about it and look I get it talking to
somebody in a world where they tell you
to shut up and be a man can be difficult
maybe you can't trust a family member or
a friend to open up about your deepest
problems then if that's the case there
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month number four I'm going to give you
the best morning hack I've ever used see
people always ask me how do I wake up
feeling so good in the morning so if you
want to know the best morning hack I've
ever learned in the 29 years of me
living on this world it is to wake up
and instantly be grateful let me put
this into perspective if I were to offer
you $10 million right now would you take
it of course all of you are going to say
yes but I forgot to mention there's one
condition if you take the $10 million
you might not wake up
tomorrow all of a sudden you are now
questioning your decision almost all of
you will instantly say no this means
that you just waking up today is worth
more than $10 million to you so what I
like to do when I wake up immediately
I'm grateful for being alive I'll then
pull out my phone and I'll write down
three to five things that I'm grateful
for in my life this could be my wife my
kids my family my business anything that
that is important to me I want you to do
the same every morning and just watch
how every day will feel amazing to you
now by this point you're training your
body to go to sleep early so you can
live long you've learned to let go of
the pths and live in the present and now
I've given you a morning hack that will
transform every single day of your life
but there are still four more life
lessons and once you learn them I
promise you your life will never be the
same let's move on to number five I want
you to remove all your anxiety with the
thumb trick I want you to grip your
thumb with your entire hand about as
firmly as if you're grabbing somebody
else's hand and you're trying to hold it
in place if you hold it really tight
eventually you're going to start feeling
a pulse now if you don't feel a pulse
you're you're you're likely Dead all
right I'm just kidding if you don't feel
a pulse this is actually a good sign it
means that you're relaxed you're at
peace but if you do feel a pulse however
I want you to continue to squeeze your
thumb and you'll notice that the more
you focus on the pulse the more it's
going to start to disappear and so will
your anxiety according to ancient
Japanese Jin shinjitsu this technique
allows your body to rest and I use it
all the time and people don't even
realize it and the reason I like it is
that anybody can use it you can use it
yourself anytime you're just
overthinking or whatever it may be or
you're in a crowded situation or you're
full of anxiety you're about to talk to
a girl grab your thumb you can do it
nobody's going to notice you're doing it
and watch how you'll instantly relax and
all your anxiety will disappear number
six other men can see your girl naked
they're going to be less jealous of you
you see a top 1% woman is a woman that
is loyal to you but loyalty isn't just
her exclusively sleeping with you if she
is showing her whole naked body to the
world she becomes available to anyone
and no longer loyal to you so I want you
to understand that that loyalty is not
just about sleeping to somebody it's
also giving access to her and her body
so I'm going to ask you three questions
that you can always use to figure out if
a woman is actually loyal to you first
do she have an only fans account if the
answer is yes delete that number
immediately if it's no move on to
question number two does she have Tik
Tok videos with her dancing online half
naked if it's yes you can go on a date
or two but don't take it too serious if
it's no I want you to move on to
question number three does she have
revealing photos on Instagram if it's
yes you can date her but don't consider
her for a long-term relationship if it's
no then you just found a high quality
woman worth dating and you can
definitely put a ring on number seven
you love how she makes you feel not her
so recently one night after he drank a
little bit he might have slipped up and
told me that he loved me what were y'all
doing when he told you he loved you that
question killed everything every guy
knows where this is going well we might
have been in the process of getting into
something every dude has been there and
the crowd is laughing it's so steep
Harvey but this is so true and you as a
man need to be able to distinguish the
difference between love and lust and
here's how you're going to do it from
now on if you find yourself constantly
thinking about a girl you can't sleep
you're thinking about when she texts you
when she does text you she makes her day
when she doesn't text you you feel sad
you think about her body you think about
taking her on dates you're lusting over
her but if you find yourself thinking
about taking care of her you wanting to
become a better man for her and most
likely love this girl now when you
understand the difference you're going
to save yourself a ton of hassle in life
however sometimes when you're alone it's
difficult to see that difference
especially when it's love or lust you're
blinded this is why having that friend
that unbiased opinion that you can talk
to is so important and like I said
earlier if you don't have that friend
using a service like better health can
be your solution because they don't know
you they're not emotionally invested so
they can give you unbiased advice that's
tailored for you again if you want to
start talking to a licensed professional
in the comfort of your home I'm going to
have better help link down below number
eight stop whenever you begin to feel an
emotion anytime you feel a high
activation state of any kind you should
stop I like how he said High activation
State and not emotion but that's so
critical next time you're feeling
something stop what's happening it's
revealing to you something very
important and if you don't stop to think
about why I'm so upset or why I'm so
happy you're going to miss an important
lesson you want to reflect what is the
lesson the next time you're feeling an
emotion it can be anger anxiety sadness
I want you to stop overthinking for a
second and think about what you're
feeling and why you're feeling it and
what you can learn from it and if you
can start writing all this down in your
journal every time you feel some sort of
strong emotion over time you're going to
start surpassing everyone around you
because you will no longer be controlled
by your emotions and you will be in full
control of your own life look now now
that you've learned these eight life
lessons I promise you you're going to be
more successful in life but for your
life to never be the same it's not just
about learning them I want you to start
applying them today
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