ISLAMIC SOLUTIONS TO HARAM RELATIONSHIPS, LUSTS & DESIRES!

Summary

The video addresses individuals struggling with Haram relationships, addiction to lust, or pornography. It offers a seven-component solution: 1) Lowering the gaze to prevent calamities, 2) Pursuing marriage to channel desires, 3) Remembering the deficiencies of the beloved, 4) Reflecting on the perfection awaiting in Jannah, 5) Trusting Allah to provide better alternatives, 6) Engaging in fulfilling activities, and 7) Praying for Allah's help. Ultimately, it emphasizes the importance of loving Allah to find true happiness and relief from lustful desires.

Takeaways

• 🔍 Lowering the gaze: Every calamity begins with a glance. One must change habits related to gaze to prevent further consequences.
• 💍 Marriage: The Prophet Muhammad emphasized marriage as a means to control desires. Channeled relationships through marriage bring happiness and growth.
• 🚪 Walk away if marriage isn't feasible: If marriage is not an option, end the relationship decisively by changing numbers and scenarios.
• 🧠 Remember deficiencies: Reflect on the imperfections of the beloved to reduce obsession and recognize their human flaws.
• 🌟 Focus on the afterlife: Keep in mind the perfections and rewards awaiting in Jannah to overcome worldly desires.
• 🔄 Trust in Allah's replacement: Believe that Allah will provide something better when you leave something for His sake.
• 🧩 Fill life with meaningful activities: Engage in life and afterlife-defining activities to keep the heart occupied and away from satanic whispers.
• 🙏 Call upon Allah: Seek help and strength from Allah through dua to resist desires and remain steadfast.
• 🛡️ Practical guidance: The Prophet provided young people with goals and responsibilities to keep them focused and away from Haram.
• 💖 Love Allah: The ultimate remedy for lust and Haram impulses is to develop a deep love for Allah, leading to inner peace and tranquility.

Q & A

What is the first component of the medicine suggested to overcome a Haram relationship?

The first component is the lowering of the gaze.

Why is lowering the gaze considered important in overcoming Haram desires?

Lowering the gaze is important because every calamity begins with the glance, and most wildfires begin with a spark. It prevents the initial trigger that leads to further desires.

What analogy is used to describe the difference between an uncontrolled and controlled fire in the context of relationships?

The analogy compares an uncontrolled fire that destroys to a controlled fire that heats buildings and cooks food. Similarly, unrestricted relationships cause harm, while relationships within the bounds of marriage bring happiness and growth.

What should one do if marriage is not feasible for maintaining a Halal relationship?

If marriage is not feasible, one should completely sever ties with the person, including changing their number and avoiding farewells or sermons, to recover and rediscover themselves and Allah.

What does recalling the deficiencies of the beloved help achieve?

Recalling the deficiencies of the beloved helps one realize that they are not perfect and reduces the obsessive feelings toward them.

How does the speaker describe the men and women in Jannah (Paradise)?

Men in Jannah are described as having the strength of 100 men, being free of bodily hair, and filled with vitality. Women in Jannah are described as incredibly beautiful, with their beauty illuminating the world and their garments being more valuable than the entire world.

What promise is mentioned regarding leaving something for the sake of Allah?

The promise mentioned is that whenever someone leaves something for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better.

What should one do to avoid falling into Haram impulses and desires?

One should fill their life with life and afterlife-defining activities, keeping their heart occupied to prevent it from becoming prone to satanic whispering and devilish thoughts.

What role does making Dua (supplication) play in overcoming Haram desires?

Making Dua and asking Allah for help is crucial, as it acknowledges one's weakness and seeks divine assistance to overcome desires.

What is the ultimate remedy for lust and Haram impulses according to the speaker?

The ultimate remedy for lust and Haram impulses is to love Allah, as attachment to people brings pain, whereas attachment to Allah brings relief, tranquility, and inner expanse.