How to Make Her Choose YOU Over Every Other Guy (Year 1 Formula)

Summary

In this video, Arie provides valuable insights into what women need during the crucial first year of a relationship. He explains that the early months are a time of evaluation, testing, and decision-making for women. To keep attraction alive and grow together, men must demonstrate consistent leadership, emotional stability, and ongoing personal growth. Arie highlights common mistakes men make, such as getting too comfortable or losing their independence, and emphasizes the importance of maintaining flirting and sexual tension throughout the relationship. His advice is aimed at helping men create long-lasting, passionate connections.

Takeaways

• 😀 The first year of a relationship is critical; it determines whether a couple builds something lasting or falls apart.
• 😀 Women evaluate their partner during three phases: evaluation (months 1–3), testing (months 4–6), and decision (months 7–12).
• 😀 Consistent leadership from a man is essential; he should take initiative, make decisions confidently, and handle logistics without burdening her.
• 😀 Emotional consistency is crucial; men should remain stable, mature, and calm, even when life gets challenging.
• 😀 Maintaining mystery and personal growth keeps a man attractive; he should continue hobbies, friendships, and evolving interests.
• 😀 Common mistakes men make include getting too comfortable, losing independence, and expecting automatic gratitude from their partner.
• 😀 Women need to feel continuously chosen, pursued, and valued, especially in the first year, to maintain attraction.
• 😀 Flirting is essential throughout the relationship; stopping it reduces sexual tension and makes a woman feel less desired.
• 😀 When men maintain masculine energy, it allows women to relax into their feminine energy, fostering affection, playfulness, and sexual availability.
• 😀 Relationships thrive when both partners do what brings out the best in each other, rather than reversing traditional energy roles.

Q & A

What are the three main phases of a woman's mindset during the first year of a relationship?

The three phases are: 1) Evaluation phase (months 1–3) where she studies your true character, 2) Testing phase (months 4–6) where she tests your consistency and effort, and 3) Decision phase (months 7–12) where she determines if you are a dependable, long-term partner.

Why do most men misunderstand what women need during the first year?

Most men assume that getting the girlfriend is the finish line and that attraction will remain automatic, but women need to feel continuously chosen, pursued, and valued to maintain attraction and connection.

What does consistent leadership mean in a relationship context?

Consistent leadership means taking initiative, making decisions confidently, planning dates, handling logistics, and demonstrating that you can manage your own life without needing her to mother you or make all the decisions.

How does emotional consistency affect a woman's attraction?

Emotional consistency ensures that you remain stable, calm, and responsive during challenges, communicate feelings maturely, and handle stress without taking it out on her. This maintains trust, security, and attraction.

Why is maintaining mystery and personal growth important?

Maintaining mystery and personal growth keeps a man intriguing and attractive. It involves having hobbies, friendships, personal goals, and occasionally revealing new sides of yourself, preventing the relationship from becoming predictable.

What are the three biggest mistakes men make in the first year of a relationship?

The three mistakes are: 1) Getting too comfortable too fast, neglecting effort and presentation, 2) Losing independence by abandoning hobbies and friendships, and 3) Assuming she should automatically be grateful, ceasing to put in effort to earn her appreciation.

How does masculine and feminine energy affect relationship dynamics?

When a man leads and stays emotionally stable (masculine energy), a woman can relax into her feminine energy, becoming affectionate, playful, and sexually available. If the roles reverse, women may become critical, resentful, or disengaged.

Why is flirting important even after she becomes your girlfriend?

Flirting is essential to maintain sexual tension, make her feel desired, create anticipation, and keep the relationship exciting. Stopping flirting can reduce attraction and make the relationship predictable and less passionate.

What is the key difference between proving boyfriend material and life partner material?

Proving boyfriend material happens during dating, while proving life partner material occurs in the first year of the relationship, demonstrating leadership, emotional stability, consistency, and personal growth to sustain long-term attraction.

How can a man practically demonstrate leadership in day-to-day life?

He can plan dates, handle logistics such as reservations or directions, solve problems confidently, make decisions about his career and goals, and generally take initiative without relying on his partner to manage him.

What role does personal independence play in maintaining attraction?

Maintaining independence by pursuing hobbies, friendships, and personal goals prevents a man from being overly dependent on his partner, keeps him intriguing, and allows her to enjoy the relationship without feeling pressured to be his entire world.

What happens when a woman is forced to take on masculine energy in a relationship?

When a woman steps into masculine energy, she may become critical, resentful, disengaged, stop prioritizing her appearance and sexuality, and may unconsciously emasculate her partner, diminishing the relationship’s intimacy and passion.