How to make him chase you

Summary

In this video, the speaker discusses the importance of embracing feminine energy to attract a masculine partner who is willing to chase, provide for, and take care of you. The speaker highlights the challenges many women face in letting go of their masculine energy, which they developed due to past trauma, and the need to heal and embrace vulnerability. They stress the importance of maintaining standards, not settling for less, and avoiding desperation in relationships. The key is to attract someone who values you and is willing to invest effort into the relationship, while also maintaining self-respect and independence.

Takeaways

• 😀 Embrace your feminine energy: It’s important to feel comfortable in your feminine energy, which involves receiving, trusting, and listening to your intuition. Many people struggle with this due to past traumas and childhood survival instincts that forced them into a more masculine energy.
• 😀 Recognize your discomfort with receiving: If you feel guilt or shame when receiving gifts, compliments, or care, it indicates that you need to heal and get more comfortable in your feminine energy.
• 😀 Don’t compete with masculine energy: If you’re too entrenched in your masculine energy, you might subconsciously push away masculine men, as you won’t allow them to take care of you or lead.
• 😀 Set clear boundaries: Men, especially in their masculine energy, need to chase you and prove their commitment. Don’t make yourself too easy to get, and don’t let them take you for granted.
• 😀 Avoid settling for the bare minimum: If someone isn’t giving you the effort or attention you need, don’t make excuses for them. A man who truly values you will make the effort.
• 😀 Don’t try to change or fix a man: Accept people for who they are, not who you want them to be. If a man tells you he isn’t relationship material, respect that and don’t try to mold him into someone he’s not.
• 😀 Respect yourself enough to move on: If someone isn’t treating you as you deserve, don’t stay in a relationship out of desperation or low self-esteem. Move on to find someone who values you.
• 😀 Understand that rejection is part of life: Don’t let rejection hurt your ego or make you chase someone who’s not interested. Recognize that you’re not for everyone, and that’s okay.
• 😀 A man’s masculine energy is about more than money: A man in his masculine energy will show his willingness to provide, not based on his financial status but through actions and effort, regardless of his income.
• 😀 Appreciate actions over words: Men appreciate when their efforts are acknowledged. Show genuine gratitude for what they do for you, as it encourages them to do more.

Q & A

Why is it difficult for some people to be comfortable in their feminine energy?

It is difficult for some people to be comfortable in their feminine energy because many have had to adopt masculine energy to survive, especially due to childhood trauma or difficult life circumstances. This survival mechanism often leads to a challenge in shifting back to a more receptive, trusting, and emotionally open state, which is the core of feminine energy.

What does it mean to be in your feminine energy?

Being in your feminine energy means being receptive, trusting your intuition and emotions, and allowing yourself to receive love, attention, and care. It’s about embracing vulnerability and ease in receiving, rather than always giving or striving.

How can you identify if you have trouble being in your feminine energy?

One way to identify if you have trouble with feminine energy is by observing how you react to receiving compliments or gifts. If you feel uncomfortable or guilty when someone offers you something or compliments you, it suggests you may need to heal and become more comfortable in your feminine energy.

Why is it important to embrace your feminine energy to attract masculine men?

Embracing your feminine energy is crucial to attracting masculine men because masculine energy is drawn to the feminine. If you are constantly in your masculine energy, you may subconsciously repel masculine men, as they will perceive you as competing with them rather than allowing them to provide and care for you.

Why is it counterproductive to appear too easy or available to a man?

Appearing too easy or available sends a signal that you don't have high standards or boundaries, which reduces the attraction a masculine man feels. A man values the challenge and the pursuit, and if everything is given too easily, he may lose interest, as the thrill of the chase is gone.

What should you do if a man isn't meeting your standards?

If a man is not meeting your standards, the best course of action is to move on. Don't waste time trying to mold someone into what you want them to be. If a man isn't willing to put in the effort to meet your needs, it's a sign he isn't the right fit for you.

Why is rejection not something to fear in relationships?

Rejection is a natural and healthy part of life. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you, and that's okay. It's important to recognize that rejection is not a reflection of your worth, but simply a matter of compatibility. Embracing this allows you to move on and attract someone who truly values you.

How do you differentiate between a man who is genuinely masculine and one who isn’t?

A man who is genuinely masculine will take action to provide, protect, and make efforts to care for you. It’s not about how much money he has, but whether he is willing to give what he has to make you feel loved and secure. On the other hand, a man who isn't masculine may lack initiative or struggle to take care of the relationship.

Why should you avoid trying to change or fix a man in a relationship?

You should avoid trying to change or fix a man because it’s not your responsibility to mold someone into the partner you want. If a man expresses certain flaws or limitations, such as not trusting women or not wanting a relationship, those traits should be taken at face value. Attempting to change them sets you up for disappointment.

What does the phrase 'never reward bad behavior' mean in the context of relationships?

The phrase 'never reward bad behavior' means that you should not tolerate mistreatment or poor effort from someone you're dating. If a man isn't putting in the effort to make you a priority, don’t chase after him or continue to invest in the relationship. Instead, match his energy and walk away if necessary, so he understands that poor behavior has consequences.