3 LOW-VALUE Texting Mistakes You're Probably Making

Summary

In this video, the speaker discusses the three most common texting mistakes that convey low value in relationships. These include texting too much or too frequently, being overly formal, and displaying insecurity or reactivity in messages. Instead of rigid rules, the speaker advocates for understanding the principles behind high-value texting, which focus on balance, informality, and confidence. By embracing a relaxed, high-value mindset, individuals can improve their texting style and avoid common pitfalls, allowing for better interactions and more natural communication in romantic relationships.

Takeaways

• 😀 Texting too much or too frequently can come across as needy and low value, signaling that you're overly invested in the interaction.
• 😀 High-value individuals tend to be busy and may not respond immediately, and this absence of eagerness can actually make you more attractive.
• 😀 Writing long texts often suggests you're over-explaining or trying too hard, which may appear needy. Keep messages brief and to the point.
• 😀 It's better to avoid rigid rules like waiting a set amount of time between texts. Instead, focus on the overall vibe of your texting behavior.
• 😀 Formality in texting kills the casual, flirtatious nature of the interaction. Keep your communication informal and natural.
• 😀 Don't overthink your responses. Casual, instinctual replies that convey the message without overthinking appear more confident and attractive.
• 😀 Repeatedly checking if a girl received your text or confirming plans can seem insecure and overly invested, which hurts your value.
• 😀 Texting should not be about technique or perfection but a reflection of internal confidence. Overanalyzing or stressing about it reduces its effectiveness.
• 😀 Assume texting doesn't carry much weight. Treat it as a necessary formality rather than an emotional priority, and you'll come across as more relaxed and high-value.
• 😀 Insecure or reactive texting, such as double-checking the response or asking if you were rude, signals low value. Maintain confidence in your communication style.
• 😀 The core principle of high-value texting is to prioritize your life, not your phone. If texting becomes too important, you're signaling neediness and a lack of abundance.

Q & A

Why is texting too much or too frequently considered low value?

Texting too much or too frequently signals that you're overly eager for interaction and responses, which implies that you don't have much else going on in your life. High-value individuals typically have busy lives and don't focus heavily on texting.

What is the problem with sending long text messages?

Sending long texts can make you seem overly invested, which can come off as needy. It often implies you're justifying or over-explaining things that could have been communicated more simply.

Is there ever a time when sending a long text is acceptable?

Yes, there are occasions when longer texts are necessary, like explaining something important. However, it's often better to send a voice message or call instead of writing long texts.

Why does responding too quickly to a text give off a low-value impression?

Responding too quickly can make it seem like you're waiting by your phone and that the conversation is your top priority. High-value individuals often take time to respond because they have other interests and commitments.

What does it mean to be 'too formal' in texting?

Being too formal in texting means using language that is overly proper or stiff, like you would in a business email. This reduces the natural, spontaneous feel of texting and makes you appear overly invested, which can lower your value.

How can you make your texts feel more casual and informal?

Keep your texts short and relaxed. Avoid over-explaining or over-polishing your sentences. Use casual phrases and don't worry about perfect grammar or punctuation—texting is meant to be spontaneous and informal.

What does reacting to a delayed text response say about you?

Constantly checking in to see if the person received your message or asking if you're still on for plans indicates insecurity. It makes you appear needy and concerned about the outcome of the interaction, which is low-value behavior.

What is the 'high-value' mentality in texting?

A high-value mentality involves approaching texting as a light formality, not over-investing in the interaction. You assume that the girl likes you and that the text is just a way to confirm plans, not the focal point of the relationship.

Why is it important to not dwell on the text itself?

Dwell on the text or analyze it too much, and you risk conveying insecurity and low self-esteem. Texting should be a natural, effortless process that reflects your overall confidence and value.

What should be the primary focus when texting someone you're interested in?

Your primary focus should be maintaining the overall vibe of the conversation without coming off as too invested. Texting should reflect that you have other things going on in your life and that the interaction isn't the most important thing.