Why I don’t like people
Summary
TLDRIn this reflective video, the speaker, MF, discusses his preference for solitude over socializing in a society that often misunderstands introversion. He criticizes the superficiality of small talk and the tendency for people to seek approval rather than genuine connections. MF emphasizes the importance of self-reliance and the peace found in avoiding the drama and negativity that can come from unnecessary social interactions.
Takeaways
- 🎭 The speaker uses the metaphor of 'prison called life' to discuss societal expectations and pressures.
- 🤔 The speaker expresses a preference for being alone and not being the center of attention, reflecting an introverted personality.
- 🚫 Society often misunderstands or stigmatizes those who prefer solitude, associating it with negative traits or behaviors.
- 🤷♂️ The speaker finds it challenging to engage in superficial conversations about topics like women, cars, or parties, which they find unfulfilling.
- 🧐 The speaker criticizes people who seek to bring others down out of jealousy or for no apparent reason.
- 👥 The speaker feels drained by social interactions and prefers the company of their own thoughts.
- 🏃♂️ The speaker advises to distance oneself from people who only bring negativity or seek to use others for personal gain.
- 🤝 The rarity of genuine friendships is highlighted, suggesting that most relationships are transactional.
- 🕊️ The speaker finds solace in nature and non-human companionship, indicating a deeper connection with the environment.
- 💡 A realization of life's impermanence has helped the speaker overcome depression and find peace in solitude.
- 🚫 The speaker concludes by advocating for self-preservation through selective social engagement to maintain personal well-being.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video?
-The main theme of the video is the speaker's preference for solitude and their perspective on societal expectations and interactions with others.
Why does the speaker feel misunderstood by society?
-The speaker feels misunderstood by society because they prefer to be alone and do not enjoy being the center of attention or participating in typical social activities, which society often views as odd or suspicious.
What does the speaker find unfulfilling about common social conversations?
-The speaker finds conversations about superficial topics like women, cars, and parties unfulfilling because they lack depth and value.
How does the speaker describe their social energy?
-The speaker describes their social energy as low, as they find social interactions draining and prefer to keep interactions brief.
What is the speaker's view on seeking approval from others?
-The speaker advises against seeking approval from others, stating that once you realize most people don't care, you'll stop seeking their approval.
Why does the speaker prefer their own company?
-The speaker prefers their own company because they find it more interesting and fulfilling to think and spend time as they wish, without the influence or expectations of others.
What does the speaker suggest is a common reason for people disliking others?
-The speaker suggests that people often dislike others for superficial reasons, such as jealousy over looks or success, rather than any meaningful interaction.
How does the speaker feel about the concept of 'borrowing' from friends?
-The speaker is against the concept of 'borrowing' from friends, as they believe it often leads to people taking advantage of their relationships for personal gain.
What does the speaker believe is the hardest aspect of finding genuine friendships?
-The speaker believes that it is hard to find people who are genuinely interested in developing true friendships, as many people are more interested in what they can gain from the relationship.
How does the speaker feel about their past state of depression?
-The speaker has overcome their past depression by accepting the inevitability of death and focusing on their own company and thoughts.
What advice does the speaker give for dealing with people and social situations?
-The speaker advises to keep to oneself and avoid unnecessary social interactions to maintain peace and avoid being dragged into other people's problems or drama.
Outlines
😶 The Introverted Perspective on Society
The speaker, presumably known as MF, returns to the channel to discuss the challenges faced by introverted individuals in a society that seems to favor extroverts. He expresses his discomfort with being the center of attention and his preference for working behind the scenes. The speaker criticizes societal expectations that label introverts as odd or even potentially dangerous, and he emphasizes the importance of understanding that some people simply prefer their own company and engaging with others on their own terms. He also touches on the superficiality of certain social interactions, such as discussions about women, cars, and parties, which he finds unfulfilling and boring, and he highlights the tendency of some people to waste time on unimportant matters.
🤔 The Unfulfilling Nature of Social Interactions
In this paragraph, the speaker delves deeper into his aversion to social interactions, stating that he finds people in general uninteresting and prefers his own company. He explains that being alone allows him to think and write without the pressure of seeking approval or avoiding judgment from others. The speaker also points out the hypocrisy of some social behaviors, where people pretend to be interested in others only to gain favor or fit in. He criticizes the tendency of some friends to disappear during tough times and the superficiality of relationships based on material benefits or convenience. The speaker concludes by stating that he finds most people draining and prefers to keep interactions brief, highlighting the energy and time investment required for socializing.
🚶♂️ Choosing Solitude Over Superficial Relationships
The final paragraph of the script focuses on the speaker's decision to distance himself from people who he believes only want to use him or bring him down with their drama and problems. He talks about the realization that most people offer nothing of value and are only interested in taking from others. The speaker shares his belief that genuine friendships are hard to come by and that it's better to avoid people who bring negativity into one's life. He ends with a note on his personal transformation from depression to a state of acceptance, choosing to spend time with nature and his thoughts rather than engaging with people who do not contribute positively to his life.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Introversion
💡Society's Expectations
💡Taboo
💡NPCs
💡Hate
💡Approval Seeking
💡Genuine Friendship
💡Drain
💡Boredom
💡Self-Preservation
💡Isolation
Highlights
The speaker expresses a preference for being in the background rather than the center of attention, reflecting on society's misunderstanding of introverted individuals.
A critique of societal expectations that favor extroverted behavior, suggesting that those who prefer solitude are often misjudged or misunderstood.
The speaker shares personal discomfort with being the center of attention and a dislike for crowds, advocating for the acceptance of different social preferences.
A discussion on the societal taboo against those who do not wish to be the 'life of the party', and the misconceptions that arise from such preferences.
The speaker's experience of being mislabeled as a 'serial killer' or 'witch' due to their introverted nature, highlighting societal prejudice.
An assertion that the speaker is 'normal' and prefers to interact on their own terms, not society's, emphasizing the importance of personal boundaries.
The recognition that some people are interested in trivial or unfulfilling topics, which the speaker finds boring, such as constant discussions about women and cars.
A commentary on the tendency of people to waste time on unimportant subjects, suggesting a lack of value in such conversations.
The speaker's observation that some individuals seek to bring others down out of jealousy or for no apparent reason, reflecting on the negativity in social interactions.
A personal account of being disliked for superficial reasons, such as appearance, and the speaker's indifference towards such judgments.
The speaker's confession of disliking people in general, due to the energy drain and lack of interest in engaging with those who do not value their time.
A reflection on the speaker's preference for their own company, allowing for personal thought and time management without external pressures.
The realization that seeking approval from others often leads to doing things out of a desire to fit in, rather than genuine interest.
The speaker's belief that most people are not genuinely interested in forming meaningful relationships, but rather are users or takers.
A warning about the potential for friends to disappear during difficult times, questioning the reliability of social connections.
The notion that being alone can be more fulfilling than being with others, especially when considering the energy and value exchange in social interactions.
The speaker's conclusion that genuine people are rare and that it's important to cherish those who truly care, amidst a world of users and takers.
A final note on the speaker's contentment with solitude and the decision to avoid unnecessary social interactions for personal peace.
Transcripts
welcome back to the channel this is that
MF we are back again in the prison
called life
is back again
we are back again
that's me doing an imaginary Applause
you know
sometimes I just imagine that there's
thousands of people saying ooh that a
man for your back again
obviously you've seen the title of the
video
so you understand what the video is
about you know
that's the thing man you know sometimes
you know I don't get it how Society just
doesn't want to understand that there's
some people who want to be left alone
you know
I'm not a big fan of crowds you know I
don't like when all the attention is on
me you know I just prefer to do most
things in the background you know
and I know that there's some people who
feel the same you know
where you feel like instead of being in
the front you can just be in the
background you know
so Society doesn't get that man you know
so this life you know I've seen that
this life is made for extroverted people
you know people who are the life of the
party you know and when you don't want
to be the life of the party it's like
it's kind of taboo you know
people find it weird you know some
people think you're a serial killer or
some kind of uh you know some kind of
I don't know just somebody who's weird
you know
in Africa do you think you're a witch
you know they just think
just stay away from that guy something
is going on with him but in actuality
you know you're actually normal and you
prefer to talk to other people
on your own terms not on their terms you
know only when you feel it's necessary
that okay now I can talk to other people
you know
only when you know
so
and some people man you know you have to
realize that some people just just want
to waste your time you know
you know some people talk about subjects
that you literally have no interest in
you know
when I talk about the women talk about
cars you know I mean if you have
interest in those things then that's you
you know but I find it unfulfilling to
be honest
I find it boring you know
I find it boring
talking about women all the time talking
about cars talking about the next
parties that are gonna happen the
following weekend you know
basically just things that really have
no value if we're just being honest but
you know the NPCs they like that you
know so if you don't like that it's like
something is weird with you man
and you have to realize that most of the
time
you know people just want to hate on you
man
people bring you around just so they can
find out about you
and hate on you you know some people
just hate you for no reason
you know all the reasons maybe mediocre
you know you didn't do anything to them
but they just hate you man you know it's
like
bro why do you hate me you know
sometimes you find out that they hate
you because you look better than them
you know and it's like well I had no
choice you know about my looks what can
I do you know it's like man you hate me
because I look handsome what can I do
about that nothing and I was born like
this
you know but people judge you for that
you know they think oh he thinks he's
better than us
but to be honest I don't think I'm
better than you I don't even think
anything about you bro I'm just focused
on my stuff you know
but some people man they wanna drag you
into some of their nonsense you know and
then when you don't want to engage into
that stuff it's like oh you think you're
better than us
but I'm not you know I just don't want
to be associated with something I'm not
interested in man
you know
so
I I really don't like people man if I'm
just being honest I don't like people
and uh
you know this has always been a problem
of my you know people
will ask me you know what's going on
with you don't you want to hang with us
don't you wanna
but you know it's like
I don't know man you know
I find it interest I find it
uninteresting talking to other people I
don't know if that makes sense you know
like people in general they bore me you
know not to think that I'm better than
anybody else but I just prefer my own
company you know there's some people
like that you know
where you find being with people is more
uninteresting than being with yourself
you know because when I'm alone I can
just think my own things you know write
my own thoughts down
you know spend my time the way I want to
spend it you know
not because
I have to do something because
you know I have to do it so that people
like me
you know because that's the case you
know most people they do things because
they just want approval
they don't want to be judged
so they end up just doing things you
know
because I want that guy to like me and
to see that you know I can hang with the
boys so I'm just gonna go ahead and do
it [ __ ] that man
so most people don't care bro you know
once you realize that most people don't
care you'll stop seeking approval
and some people they're friends with a
lot of people but when tough times come
calling
where are those guys in the first place
you know the guys that you used to hang
around with where are they now in your
deepest darkest times you can't find
them they're gone
so
it's honestly a lot of reasons why I
just prefer to be with myself you know
and some people may say well without you
only with yourself because you're boring
you know some people say you can only
get bored if you're boring you know
that's not the case you know
in fact I can tell you that there's a
lot of people who always want to talk to
me
but when I talk to them I keep it brief
you know
because man like
uh you know people drain me you know
people drain me to be honest I can do
long
telephone calls
you know if you visit me
I mean bro like just keep it brief man
we can be hanging around the whole day
you know I can't do it you know
but some people prefer that some people
can do that you know they have high
amounts of social energy I can do that
you know
some people can go the whole day just
chilling with someone you know
that's actually a skill but you know
it's like it's not for me man you know
so
I find people boring I find them
uninteresting
I just generally don't like people man
because
of course there are a lot of positives
you know that come with knowing a lot of
people but there's also a lot lots of
negatives attached with that you know
some people will literally drag you into
their own drama you know
when some people want money they'll call
you can I borrow you know hundred bucks
200 bucks
it's like come on man
this money
I worked it for me you know
I reserved it for myself but now I have
to give it to you
it was like come on man
it's like come on man
let me tell you man and this is like the
most reason why I actually stay away
from people you know most people man
they like borrowing your stuff bro
that's why I stay away from people
that's another reason you know because
some people they just want to use you
man
some people they don't like you the way
you think they do you know in the mean
in the meanwhile you looking for their
approval but they looking to use you
you want their approval
but they looking to use you
some people just see you as an object
you know that we're gonna use this guy
for one two three oh he has this so
let's be friends with him
you know
I mean you used to see that when you're
a child man some some kids will only
hang out with you because you've got a
PlayStation 4 or a PlayStation 3 you
know oh let's hang out with him he's got
a PS4
now when you're when you're an adult
it's like oh let's hang out with him
because he has a car or let's hang out
with him because you know he works so he
can buy us a couple of beers
it has a it's it's things like that man
that really makes you realize that
people are only there so they can use
you
you know
there's nothing else other than that
so
you know
the more you grow up man the more you
realize that most people have nothing to
offer you and I always say that all the
time that man come on man like the world
literally has nothing to offer you bro
there's nothing to offer you
you'll find that in most cases people
just wanna take and take and take and
take away from you and you're just gonna
be there laying around like a full
chicken ready to be cut in pieces
come on man
if you find genuine people then
obviously
then you gotta hang around with them you
know people who care about you because
you need those kinds of people you know
who actually really do care about you
but I promise you man in this world it's
hard to find people like that you know
it's hard to find people who are really
genuine about developing a true
friendship with you you know
so their chances of finding people like
that they're really low you know
so
you know most of the time I just hang by
myself hang with my own thoughts because
people can handle what I talk about
[Music]
oh my God this guy he hates the world
he's [ __ ] depressed no
you know I used to be depressed but now
it's like I'm no longer depressed you
know
because I just kind of snapped out of it
you know when I realized that I'm gonna
die anyway sometime in the future
and I hope it's sooner
these [ __ ] Birds man
[Music]
those are my friends
those are the people I hang around with
man
yeah but
I promise you man you know you just
gotta teach yourself to stay away from a
lot of people they don't come with a lot
of good things people come with their
own baggages their own sad stories that
they want to share with you you know
they're gonna trauma dump all their
stuff on you
and if you want to be a hero and save
people that's fine do that you know but
your life will be a whole lot peaceful
if you actually just avoid a lot of
people
you know so
not a lot of people bother me man
because
I prefer not to be bothered you know
because I don't bother other people
[Music]
because I don't bother other people
so I prefer to keep to myself you know
so yeah man
keep to yourself if you want to if you
don't want to right what can we do you
know
this is dead MF and I'm signing out
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