How to Tell if an INTJ Likes You

Summary

In this video, Lindsay explains how to recognize if an INTJ likes you, focusing on both friendships and romantic relationships. She highlights that INTJs don't show extreme emotions, often leaving others unsure of their feelings. Key signals include intense attention, allotting valuable time, going out of their way to solve problems, subtly introducing things you enjoy, and studying you deeply to understand you. The video aims to shed light on these unique traits, helping viewers better understand INTJs' behavior when they are fond of someone.

Takeaways

• 😀 INTJs don't particularly dislike people on a personal level, as they are capable of understanding multiple perspectives due to their function stack.
• 😀 INTJs often give off signals that they like someone, but these signals are not typical or obvious to most people.
• 😀 When an INTJ likes someone, they offer intense, sharp attention, which is more about fascination than emotional warmth.
• 😀 INTJs allocate their valuable time to someone they like, even if it's just a small amount of time over an extended period.
• 😀 INTJs may go out of their way to make things work for someone they care about, but their focus is more on practical solutions rather than making the person happy.
• 😀 INTJs will subtly incorporate things that the other person enjoys into their environment without seeking recognition or acknowledgment.
• 😀 When an INTJ likes you, they might study you intensely, almost like an experiment, to understand your behavior and patterns.
• 😀 The lack of Fe (external feeling) in the INTJ's function stack means they don't often display the emotional signals people expect in relationships.
• 😀 INTJs may downplay any recognition they receive for doing something thoughtful for you, as it makes them uncomfortable to express emotions directly.
• 😀 INTJs are naturally curious and will obsess over understanding the people they like, seeking a deep understanding of how they work and interact.

Q & A

What is the main focus of the video?

The video explains how to tell if an INTJ likes you, focusing on both friendships and romantic relationships.

Why is it difficult to tell if an INTJ likes you?

INTJs don't typically show strong emotional signals like others might, making their feelings difficult to read. They have a unique way of expressing interest, which can be hard to notice.

What is the significance of an INTJ's 'double decider' trait?

Being a 'double decider' means that an INTJ's decision-making functions (Te and Fi) are balanced between understanding the external world and their own internal world, allowing them to navigate perspectives without showing extreme likes or dislikes.

How do INTJs typically show interest in people?

INTJs often show interest by giving intense attention, allotting their valuable time to someone, making sure things work for them, subtly introducing things they enjoy, and studying them to better understand their patterns.

What does it mean when an INTJ gives intense attention?

When an INTJ likes someone, they give sharp, focused attention—not warm or fuzzy vibes. This attention stems from genuine fascination and a desire to understand the person's qualities.

Why is time considered important for INTJs when showing interest?

INTJs consider time their most valuable resource. If they choose to spend time with someone, whether it's through messages or calls, it signals a significant level of interest.

How do INTJs demonstrate care without emotional expression?

INTJs tend to focus on making things work for the other person, rather than seeking emotional acknowledgment. For example, they might fix a practical issue like back pain by adjusting a chair, without expecting gratitude or praise.

What is the INTJ's approach to making the environment enjoyable for someone they like?

INTJs will subtly introduce things a person enjoys into their environment, but they prefer to downplay any recognition of their actions, not wanting to make the situation emotionally charged.

How do INTJs study people they like?

INTJs have a deep drive to understand how things work, including people. If they like someone, they will study them, almost like a scientific experiment, to predict patterns and understand the person's behavior better.

What should someone do if they think an INTJ likes them but aren't sure?

If you're unsure if an INTJ likes you, consider if they've shown any of the behaviors mentioned in the video, such as giving you focused attention, allotting time for you, or subtly making things work for you without seeking recognition.