How to get your POWER BACK from a man

Summary

This video script empowers women to regain control in their relationships by withdrawing emotionally and setting firm boundaries. It emphasizes treating oneself as the prize, detaching from a man who disrespects you, and avoiding the temptation to reach out or check his social media. Key steps include stopping all communication, removing emotional triggers, and resisting 'emergency' contact attempts. Ultimately, the goal is to allow the man to come to his own realization and show genuine remorse, with specific actions to make amends. The process helps women build self-respect, heal, and create healthier relationship dynamics.

Takeaways

• 😀 **Withdraw to regain control**: To regain your power in a relationship, begin by withdrawing your energy and attention from the man who mistreated you.
• 😀 **You are the prize**: Recognize your worth and treat yourself like a reward. People should earn access to you through respect and consistent effort.
• 😀 **Don’t chase, let them come to you**: By withdrawing, you encourage the man to come to his own realization, seek forgiveness, and correct his behavior without you chasing after him.
• 😀 **Mute him to avoid temptation**: If you're tempted to check his social media or engage with him, mute him to avoid triggers that may pull you back into the relationship.
• 😀 **Throw away mementos**: Dispose of pictures, gifts, or anything that reminds you of him to fully detach from the past and break the emotional attachment.
• 😀 **Accept the possibility of no resolution**: Understand that the man may never apologize or come back, and that your life can still be fulfilling without him.
• 😀 **Avoid places where you might encounter him**: Do not put yourself in situations where you are likely to run into him, as this will undermine your withdrawal and shift the power dynamic.
• 😀 **Recognize manipulation tactics**: Be aware of emotional emergencies or crises he might use to get your attention and break your withdrawal. Stick to your boundaries.
• 😀 **Detach from the outcome**: Don’t hold onto the idea that this situation must end with reconciliation. Accept that not every relationship should be salvaged.
• 😀 **Demand respect through boundaries**: Men will only respect you when they understand that mistreating you comes with consequences. Set firm boundaries and expect them to take responsibility for their actions.

Q & A

Why is it important to treat yourself like the prize in a relationship?

Treating yourself like the prize is essential because it sets the standard for how others should treat you. If you position yourself as valuable, people, especially men, will need to earn access to you through respect, effort, and consistency. This helps you maintain control over the relationship dynamic.

What does withdrawing from someone emotionally accomplish?

Withdrawing emotionally helps you regain your power by creating space for the other person to reflect on their behavior. It signals that their actions have consequences, and it forces them to acknowledge their mistakes and take responsibility without you chasing them down.

How does muting someone's social media help in regaining control?

Muting their social media prevents you from constantly checking their updates, which can trigger emotional reactions and make it harder to stay detached. It gives you space to focus on yourself without being tempted to re-engage with them prematurely.

Why should you throw away mementos or reminders of the person?

Throwing away mementos helps you detach emotionally from the relationship and stop idealizing it. It also prevents you from being reminded of the person in ways that could weaken your resolve to withdraw and regain your power.

What is the danger of showing up at places where the person might be?

Showing up at places where they might be can undermine your efforts to withdraw, as it allows them to avoid accountability and reassert control over the dynamic. Instead, they may try to provoke a response from you, keeping you emotionally invested in them.

What should you do if the person reaches out with an 'emergency' after you've started to withdraw?

If they reach out with an emergency, it's important not to respond immediately. Recognize that it may be a tactic to regain your attention and emotional investment. If they truly value you, they should be addressing their past mistakes rather than manipulating the situation.

How do you detach from the outcome of the situation?

Detaching from the outcome means accepting that you may not get back together, and that’s okay. Your life will still be fulfilling and abundant without this person if they’re not prepared to treat you with respect. It helps prevent you from making decisions based on desperation or loneliness.

Why is it important to demand a plan of action for change when someone apologizes?

It's crucial to demand a plan of action because an apology alone is not enough. For someone to earn your trust back, they must demonstrate a concrete, realistic commitment to changing their behavior. This ensures that the situation won’t repeat itself.

How does withdrawing your energy teach someone to respect your boundaries?

Withdrawing your energy teaches someone that you won’t tolerate disrespect or mistreatment. When they see that you are serious about your boundaries and won’t fold under pressure, they learn to take your feelings and needs seriously.

What happens if you fold halfway through the process of regaining your power?

If you fold halfway through, you risk losing the progress you've made in establishing your boundaries. Not only will it make it harder to set boundaries in the future, but it will also signal to the other person that you don’t take your own boundaries seriously, which can lead to more mistreatment.