6 Behaviors That Make People Dislike You

Summary

In this video, Psych2Go explores six behaviors that can make people dislike you. These include sharing too many photos on social media, humblebragging, not smiling, constantly criticizing others' choices, suppressing emotions, and using smiling emojis in formal emails. The video highlights how these actions can negatively impact relationships and social interactions. By understanding and avoiding these behaviors, viewers can foster more genuine and positive connections. The content is backed by research studies, providing practical tips on how to be more likable and approachable in various social and professional settings.

Takeaways

• 😀 Overposting on social media can negatively affect your real-life relationships by making you seem self-absorbed and less relatable.
• 😀 Humblebragging, or pretending to complain while actually boasting, can be off-putting and make others see you as insincere.
• 😀 Not smiling, especially in social situations, can make you appear unfriendly or unapproachable, reducing your likability.
• 😀 Constantly criticizing others' decisions or lifestyles can create a judgmental atmosphere and lead people to avoid you.
• 😀 Suppressing or faking your emotions can make you seem inauthentic and distant, which may cause others to feel disconnected from you.
• 😀 Using emojis in formal emails, especially in professional settings, can make you appear less competent and unprofessional.
• 😀 People naturally crave approval, appreciation, and acceptance from others, so it's important to be mindful of behaviors that could push people away.
• 😀 Smiling has a powerful impact on how likable you are, even more so than having an open body position in social situations.
• 😀 Being open and honest in your communication is preferred over humblebragging, which can make others see you as self-centered or disingenuous.
• 😀 Understanding and respecting people's decisions, rather than criticizing them, helps foster a positive, open relationship.
• 😀 Emotional authenticity is key in relationships—people can tell when you're hiding your true feelings, and it can lead to them perceiving you as unreliable.

Q & A

Why do people care about others' opinions if they are told not to?

Although we're often told not to care about others' opinions, human beings are inherently social creatures. We naturally seek approval, appreciation, and acceptance from others because these connections help form our social bonds and contribute to our emotional well-being.

How does sharing too many photos on social media impact relationships?

Sharing too many photos can make others feel disconnected from you. Research by David Hutton suggests that overposting can harm real-life relationships by making you seem less relatable. Friends may also feel uncomfortable if too many personal photos are shared too frequently.

What is humblebragging and why is it off-putting?

Humblebragging is when someone tries to disguise a boast by framing it as a complaint or modest statement. For example, complaining about how stressful a prestigious role is, while secretly showing off about it. Studies show that humblebragging makes people seem less likable, and others prefer honesty over disguised self-promotion.

Why is smiling so important in social situations?

Smiling helps to make you more approachable and likable. Research from the University of Wyoming suggests that a smile is more influential in forming positive impressions than body posture alone. Smiling naturally makes others feel good, increasing the likelihood of positive social interactions.

What effect does constantly criticizing others' choices have on relationships?

Constantly criticizing others can lead to negative perceptions and a breakdown in relationships. Studies show that people dislike being judged, especially when it feels like a moral or ethical critique. This criticism can create a fundamental disagreement that makes it harder to form meaningful connections.

How does suppressing or faking emotions affect how others perceive you?

When you hide or fake emotions, people may interpret this as inauthenticity, making you seem less agreeable or insecure in relationships. A study from the University of Oregon showed that emotional suppression can lead to a perception of disinterest, which can push others away.

Why is it not recommended to use smiling emoticons in formal emails?

Using smiling emoticons in formal emails can make you appear less professional or competent. Research from Israel and the Netherlands found that smiling emojis in work-related emails can reduce perceptions of competence, making you seem less reliable and ultimately less likable.

What is the best way to avoid making people dislike you through social media?

To avoid alienating others on social media, be mindful of the frequency and type of content you post. Limit the number of photos, and avoid over-sharing personal or family-related images. Consider how your posts may be perceived by your audience and balance your social media presence accordingly.

How does humblebragging affect job interviews and hiring decisions?

In job interviews, humblebragging can work against you. A study from Harvard Business School found that interviewers were more likely to hire candidates who were honest and straightforward rather than those who tried to boast indirectly. Humblebragging can make you seem less genuine, reducing your chances of making a positive impression.

What are some ways to improve likability in social situations?

To improve likability, focus on being authentic, smiling genuinely, and engaging in active listening. Avoid criticizing others, suppressing your emotions, or using self-congratulatory language. Being empathetic and open to others' perspectives can also help foster positive social interactions.