desexualizing your brain is the cheat code to success
Summary
TLDRThe video script emphasizes the detrimental effects of excessive pornography and masturbation on one's focus, attention span, and success. It outlines six steps to desexualize the brain, including quitting porn, stopping self-pleasure, finding a purpose, avoiding soft porn, learning delayed gratification, and focusing on self-improvement over chasing relationships. The message is to prioritize discipline and personal development to achieve long-term success and happiness.
Takeaways
- 🧠 The current era is more challenging than ever to achieve success due to distractions and the erosion of focus and attention span.
- 🚫 One of the critical steps to success is mastering self-control and discipline, as lack of it directly affects one's ability to be successful.
- 🎯 To desexualize the brain, the first step is to stop watching porn, which has been scientifically linked to a decrease in focus and various negative side effects.
- 🌟 Quitting porn and masturbation is difficult due to the significant dopamine spike they cause, similar to substance abuse.
- 🎯 Finding a purpose in life is crucial for avoiding addictions, as meaninglessness is often the root cause of such dependencies.
- 🛑 Social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok contribute to the sexualization of the brain and should be limited or avoided to regain focus.
- 🧘 Learning delayed gratification and finding fulfillment through hard work, rather than external stimuli, is essential to rewire the brain for success.
- 💪 Prioritizing self-improvement and personal growth over chasing romantic relationships allows for better focus and achievement of long-term goals.
- 💔 The quality of romantic partners one can attract is often proportional to one's own level of success and personal development.
- 📈 The initial phase of any endeavor requires undivided attention and focus; distractions, such as dating, can significantly hinder progress.
Q & A
What is the main argument presented in the script?
-The main argument is that the excessive consumption of pornography and the over-sexualization of the brain are hindering people's success by reducing attention span, focus, and willpower. It suggests that by taking specific steps, individuals can desexualize their brains and regain control over their lives to achieve success.
How does the script compare the average person's attention span to that of a goldfish?
-The script claims that the average person's attention span is worse than that of a goldfish, implying that it's extremely poor and that improving it can give one a competitive edge.
What are the negative effects of watching porn mentioned in the script?
-The script mentions several negative effects of watching porn, including the erosion of the prefrontal cortex, decreased focus, increased anxiety and depression, trouble in long-term relationships, and issues like erectile dysfunction.
How does the script link porn usage to substance abuse?
-The script explains that porn usage has similar effects on the brain as substance abuse, both leading to a surge in dopamine levels followed by a drop below baseline, which results in lethargic feelings and a reduced ability to focus on important tasks.
What is the third step in desexualizing the brain according to the script?
-The third step is to find a purpose or a 'North Star' that drives an individual forward. Having a clear goal or something to strive for makes one less likely to fall into addictions like porn and masturbation.
Why does the script suggest eliminating triggers as a part of desexualizing the brain?
-Eliminating triggers is important because they often lead to the consumption of porn and other addictive behaviors. By removing these triggers, such as following Instagram models or watching soft porn, one can reduce the likelihood of relapse and maintain focus on personal growth.
What is the concept of 'delayed gratification' as discussed in the script?
-Delayed gratification refers to the practice of resisting the urge to seek immediate pleasure from external stimuli and instead focusing inward to find fulfillment and satisfaction. It involves learning to derive happiness from hard work and personal growth rather than instant dopamine hits from activities like watching porn or indulging in unhealthy foods.
How does the script advise individuals to deal with the issue of chasing women?
-The script advises individuals to stop chasing women and focus on self-improvement first. It argues that the effort spent on chasing women, especially early in one's journey, is often wasted and could be better utilized to build oneself into a person of substance, which naturally attracts higher quality relationships.
What is the significance of the 'North Star' metaphor used in the script?
-The 'North Star' metaphor signifies a guiding purpose or goal in life. It is something that drives an individual forward and provides direction, making it easier to resist temptations and stay focused on long-term objectives.
What is the recommended approach to handle dopamine detox according to the script?
-The script recommends a dopamine detox as a period of complete stillness and abstinence from external stimuli like food, phone, books, music, and especially porn. This could last anywhere from 24 to 72 hours and aims to help individuals become comfortable finding peace without external sources of dopamine.
What is the ultimate goal of desexualizing the brain as outlined in the script?
-The ultimate goal of desexualizing the brain is to realign one's actions with their goals, regaining control over the dopamine system, and achieving success by focusing on personal growth and hard work rather than seeking cheap dopamine from external sources.
Outlines
🚫 Overcoming Addictions and Mastering Self-Control
The paragraph discusses the challenges of self-discipline in the modern world, emphasizing the negative impact of excessive pornography and masturbation on focus, attention span, and success. It highlights the importance of controlling urges for achieving success and presents the first step towards self-improvement: quitting pornography. The speaker argues that porn use rewires the brain, leading to a decrease in focus and an increase in anxiety and depression. The paragraph also touches on the issue of erectile dysfunction among young men due to neural pathway changes caused by excessive porn consumption. It asserts that self-control is paramount and introduces a six-step process to 'desexualize' the brain, starting with eliminating porn and understanding the correlation between self-discipline and success.
🧠 The Science Behind Dopamine and Addiction
This paragraph delves into the science behind dopamine and how it fuels addictions, particularly to pornography and masturbation. It compares the dopamine spike from these activities to that from other stimuli such as food or nicotine, highlighting the significantly higher levels associated with sexual activities. The discussion then pivots to the root cause of these addictions, which is identified as a lack of purpose or goal in life. The speaker proposes that finding a purpose or 'North Star' can help mitigate the temptation of these addictions. The paragraph also challenges conventional beliefs about success and fulfillment through education and corporate jobs, suggesting an alternative path to freedom and purpose that will be explored in an upcoming online event.
🛑 Eradicating Triggers and Cultivating Inner Focus
The paragraph addresses the third and fourth steps in the process of desexualizing the brain, which involve finding a purpose and managing triggers that lead to addictive behaviors. It emphasizes the omnipresence of 'soft porn' in social media and its detrimental effects on focus and future prospects. The speaker advises unfollowing social media models and retraining the algorithm to avoid such content. The fifth step is to practice delayed gratification and find fulfillment in work rather than external stimuli. The speaker shares personal experiences of 'dopamine detox' to illustrate this point. The final step discussed is to stop chasing romantic relationships and instead focus on self-improvement. The argument is that higher quality relationships will come naturally once one has built substantial personal value and achieved a certain level of success.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Desexualize
💡Pornography
💡Dopamine
💡Addiction
💡Purpose
💡Triggers
💡Delayed Gratification
💡Self-improvement
💡Focus
💡Distraction
Highlights
The current difficulty in achieving success is due to the daily degradation of mental faculties such as attention span and focus.
The average person's attention span is worse than that of a goldfish, setting a low bar for competition.
Discipline and work ethic can set one apart from the majority, as controlling urges is directly linked to success.
Desexualizing the brain is the key to regaining control over one's life and achieving success.
Pornography has been scientifically linked to the erosion of the prefrontal cortex, affecting impulse control and willpower.
Porn use is akin to substance abuse, leading to issues like decreased focus, anxiety, depression, and trouble in relationships.
The addiction to porn and masturbation is rooted in the high dopamine spike they cause, similar to drug addiction.
The third step to desexualize the brain is finding a purpose, as meaninglessness is a breeding ground for addictions.
A purpose or 'North Star' provides direction and motivation, which is crucial for overcoming addictions and achieving goals.
Triggers in the environment must be eliminated to prevent relapse, such as unfollowing social media models and influencers.
Learning delayed gratification and focusing inward is essential to rewiring the brain for hard work and success.
Dopamine detox involves periods of complete stillness to retrain the brain to find peace without external stimuli.
Chasing women and seeking external validation can distract from personal growth and desexualization of the brain.
Building oneself into a man of substance naturally attracts women, negating the need for constant pursuit.
The quality of women one can attract improves with personal development and social status.
Dating can be a massive distraction and an imprudent investment of time and resources during the early stages of personal and professional growth.
Focusing on oneself and personal development is crucial for the initial stages of success, which requires undivided attention.
Transcripts
it has never been harder to win than
right now why because every single day
you are frying your brain you are
killing your attention span and you are
killing your focus you're killing your
testosterone and because of all of that
you are killing your success the average
person has a worse attention span than a
goldfish and that's who you're competing
against so on the good news that means
that just with the tiniest bit of
discipline and work ethic you are
already ahead of 90% of people and
before we even begin you need to
understand that your ability to control
your urges is directly correlated to
your success or lack thereof if you
cannot control yourself if you cannot be
disciplined you will never be successful
it is simply impossible and that is why
it's so important for you to master your
urges and all of that starts with
desexualizing your brain so that you are
no longer ruled by your primate brain so
today I'm going to give you the only six
steps you need to desexualize your brain
and regain control of your life because
it's having that very control over your
mind your body and your life that will
ultimately lead you to success now
here's the interesting part truly
desexualizing your brain actually has
very little to do with sex and has
everything to do with something else but
I will get to that a little later in the
video so for now let's get into it the
first step is to stop watching porn
first and foremost you need to stop
watching porn now listen this may sound
obvious yet 99% of young people simply
cannot stop I would say that watching
porn is by far the worst way which you
sexualize your brain and let me explain
to you why you see the problem isn't
just the amount of time that you spend
watching porn I mean sure if you stopped
you'd have an extra hour per week or or
something like that but that's just a
very minuscule side effect compared to
the rest you see porn literally fries
your brain and robs you a focus don't
believe me just look at the science
there have been multiple studies that
link porn usage to the erosion of your
prefrontal cortex you know that part of
your brain that regulates your emotions
your actions and more importantly your
impulse control and willpower but that
is just the tip of the iceberg there is
a laundry list of negative side effects
that have been linked to porn use why
because porn use has similar effects on
the brain as substance abuse porn has
been linked to issues like decreased
focused and increased anxiety and
depression now as if these problems
weren't big enough porn has also been
linked to trouble in long-term
relationships and of course impotency in
fact there is an epidemic of young men
who are experiencing sexual issues like
erectile dysfunction because their brain
has been rewired it's unfortunate
because these young men have consumed so
much porn that their neural Pathways
have literally changed I mean they've
effectively trained themselves to be
aroused by watching others do the deed
instead of doing it themselves and porn
users even reported that they are less
satisfied with their lives than their
counterparts who don't watch porn now
the second step in desexualizing your
brain goes hand inand with quitting porn
and that is you need to stop pleasuring
yourself look I understand it's
addictive and I understand that it's
been normalized in today's day and age
but there is nothing healthy or normal
about it and not even because the very
Act is so terrible as it is with porn
it's actually just because the
consequences of it you see every time
you do it your dopamine surges I mean
you're pretty much signaling to your
brain that you have accomplished what is
supposed to be man's highest goal to
procreate you are essentially telling
your brain that you've done the most
most important thing you'll do all day
now of course you and I both know that
that's not true but the neurons firing
in your brain do not and that is why you
are rewarded for it that is why it's
cheap dopamine because you are tricking
your own brain into giving you dopamine
you have not earned and that's why your
ability to focus and your ability to do
hard things plummets because how do you
think that the real world will stack up
to the dopamine and other chemical
releases that you're getting from doing
the the very thing we have been
evolutionarily designed to do well the
answer is it won't stack up at all I
mean no wonder you can't focus when your
dopamine receptors are so fried this is
why you can't focus I mean listen of
course everything else will feel boring
when you've just done the dirty business
and this is why you need to stop so you
ask yourself why do so many young men
keep doing it because they are addicted
they are addicted to cheap dopamine in
the exact same way that people get
addicted to drugs I mean in fact port
and masturbation are the most difficult
addictions to break why because of the
insane dopamine Spike that is caused by
it so real quick let's just look at the
data if you eat a delicious burger or
some other carb filled meal your
dopamine levels will Spike by 100% now
if you smoke or get some other form of
nicotine your dopamine will Spike by
200% whereas porn and masturbation
boosts your dopamine by over
250% the exact same is sex now here's
the key difference porn and masturbation
will then make your dopamine levels fall
way below Baseline and that's where
those lethargic feelings come from after
that's the exact same dopamine curve you
get from drugs so then that really
starts to beg the question how the hell
do you stop and here is where it gets
interesting you see an addiction to por
and masturbation isn't actually rooted
in anything sexual at all and that leads
us onto the Third step of how you can
desexualize your brain number three
purpose now they actually did a study
where they tried to figure out what
causes these addictions and the answer
may surprise you you see it wasn't
actually any form of perversion it
wasn't childhood trauma it wasn't
extraordinary libido instead it was
something far simpler far more
rudimentary it was meaninglessness
simply put if you don't have a purpose
if you don't have a goal if you don't
have something that you are striving
towards then you are more likely to
devolve in these addictions now the good
news is it's fixable every man should
have that purpose that North Star that
drives him forward you simply need
something better to do with your time
than giv to your urges what that
something is will depend on the person
now from an early age we are taught that
we need a good college education and a
corporate job as though that's somehow
going to fulfill us but we both know
that that's definitely not not true is
it in fact that's not true at all and
from October 30th to November 6th I'm
going to expose how and why you have
been indoctrinated to believe this and
most importantly I'm going to show you
how to escape their indoctrination and
earn back your freedom so if you want to
be a part of that free online event then
sign up with the link below anyways we
all need something to guide us for some
it'll be starting a business for others
it might be something entirely different
I can tell you that for me personally my
North Star was to be able to take care
of my mom and my loved ones and that is
why I went into business because I had
that North Star to guide me and honestly
without that North Star I can
confidently say that I would have given
up because the money isn't enough to
keep you going you need that North Star
you need that why that purpose but even
then once you have your purpose you may
still slip up why because there are
triggers out there that cause you to do
so and this leads into our fourth step
in desexualizing your brain step number
four stop watching soft porn you see
soft porn can be just as bad as porn
because it's everywhere everywhere you
look there are half naked girls I mean
you scroll endlessly through Tik Tok and
Instagram and the algorithm is
reinforced by your desire to look at
these girls and that is why I need you
to unfollow all of the Instagram models
unfollow all the Tik Tok girls to do
their little dances because they are
eating away at your focus they are
destroying your future and it may seem
minuscule to you but it's not you see
most of the time you don't just randomly
decide to watch porn there is a trigger
and that's why the best way to quit porn
is by eliminating the triggers that make
you watch it and that means you need to
also stop watching soft porn and every
time the algorithm shows you half naked
girls simply click not interest Ed train
the algorithm to not show you those
things and listen of course the best
case scenario is you just quit Tik Tok
and Instagram alog together because
really at the end of the day you have no
business looking at memes or whatever
else if you are not where you want to be
in life and if these social media
platforms don't directly help your
business but in any case The Next Step
you need to take in order to desexualize
your brain is to focus Inward and not
outward you see the biggest problem with
the sexualization of your brain
stems from the changes that are
happening in your dopamine system the
sexualization of your brain impairs your
ability to do hard work because your
brain becomes so used to cheap dopamine
and that's why the next step requires
you to learn delayed gratification
instead of constantly looking outwards
for stimulus and dopamine you need to
learn to look inward now you might be
asking what does that actually mean it
means that 99% of people get their
so-called Happiness by doing fun things
whether those things be a Sinister as
porn or as innocent as chocolate but if
you truly want to be successful that
cannot be you now I'm not saying that
you need to cut every single source of
dopamine from your life but you
definitely need to think about what's
helping you and what's hurting you and
over the years I routinely do a dopamine
detox this is where for a certain amount
of time usually between 24 to 72 hours
you do nothing no food no phone not even
books or music and certainly no porn
just complete Stillness you need to
become used to finding peace without
these external stimuli because the goal
is for you to be so fulfilled by your
work that you eventually get those same
dopamine releases by doing hard things
you see dopamine is nothing but a reward
system it's the way that your brain has
evolved to reinforce behaviors that will
increase your chances of survival and
that is why sex spikes your dopam so
much because without procreation I mean
we wouldn't exist but in today's world
social media and food has hijacked those
same systems and that is why it is your
job to regain your control over them so
stop seeking cheap dopamine externally
and instead look Inward and that is how
you desexualize your brain and realign
your actions with your goals now the
final thing is you need to stop chasing
women and build yourself first listen
you will never be able to truly Focus
inward if you are constantly chasing
women if you're texting this girl
meeting up with that girl all while
thinking about some other girls you will
never be focused that is not how you
desexualize your brain which is exactly
why I always say that you need to stop
chasing women and build yourself up
first the best part is when you do
eventually build yourself into man of
substance the women just inevitably come
to you but until you get to that level
chasing women is just a massive waste of
time unless it's your day one girl
unless you know hey this girl this will
be my future wife but if that isn't you
it's a waste of time for two reasons
number one the quality of women you can
get at the beginning of your journey is
nothing compared to what you'll be able
to get later down the line you see women
date up in the social hierarchy which
means the best quality women will
inevitably end up with the best quality
men so that's why you need to spend time
molding yourself to be the best version
of yourself that you could possibly be
and I'm not only talking about just
money here by the way now the second
reason it's a waste is because if you
somehow manage to get a highquality girl
the amount of effort and time that it
will take you is massive so you really
need to analyze the opportunity cost
here because going on a date with a girl
spending $100 or a few hundred bucks to
try to impress her has far greater
complications look I'm not saying you
should be an antisocial weirdo but you
need to set your priorities straight
listen in the same way that they tell
you to put on your own oxygen mask first
in the plane you need to be able to hold
your own before you let someone else
into your life because listen at the end
of the day dating is a massive
distraction and when you're first
getting started in your business or your
career you'll need all the time and
focus that you can muster because no
step of the journey is harder than the
first one and that is why you need
undivided attention I mean listen after
all you just need 1 to 3 years of pure
focus and then you can live a normal
life again but you need to be willing to
make that sacrifice because let me tell
you something if you are constantly
thinking about this girl and that girl
and which girl to see tonight there's no
way that you will be able to desexualize
your brain and channel your focus into
what really matters and once you Channel
your focus into what really matters
everything else will fall into place so
just focus on yourself first so
gentlemen pick yourself up focus on the
right things and as always I'll be
watching from afar and I'm rooting for
you
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