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Summary
TLDRIn this video, the creator shares her personal journey with modesty, including her decision to wear a headscarf in March 2023. She discusses the different interpretations of modesty and the reasons behind her choice, such as seeking a closer relationship with God and herself. The creator also talks about her work with Gym Shark to create inclusive activewear and organizes a modesty dinner to gather insights from other women on their modesty journeys. She emphasizes the importance of staying true to one's beliefs and the personal growth that comes from embracing modesty.
Takeaways
- 🧕 Modesty looks different to everyone and it's important to respect individual interpretations and reasons for practicing it.
- 🔍 The speaker's personal journey with modesty began in March 2023, and it was a transformative process that included deleting social media content.
- 🤔 Modesty is not just about physical covering; it's also about developing a better relationship with oneself and seeking internal validation.
- 👚 The decision to wear a headscarf was driven by a desire to get closer to God and to find protection from being sexualized in society.
- 🏋️♀️ Modesty in activewear is important, and the speaker has been working with Gym Shark to create inclusive and modest options for women.
- 🤝 A modesty dinner was organized with Gym Shark to gather feedback from creators and audience members about their modesty journeys.
- 🗣️ The speaker participated in a panel talk to share stories and discuss modesty with women from different faiths and cultures.
- 💡 The speaker emphasizes that modesty is a personal journey and should not be rushed or forced upon anyone.
- 🚫 The speaker had to overcome the challenge of seeking validation from others and learned to find self-acceptance and confidence.
- 🌟 Despite the challenges, the speaker feels that the journey towards modesty has been rewarding and has led to personal growth and success.
Q & A
When did the speaker start her journey with modesty?
-The speaker started her journey with modesty in March of 2023.
What was the main reason the speaker decided to wear a headscarf?
-The main reason the speaker decided to wear a headscarf was to get closer to God and to develop a better relationship with herself.
How does the speaker feel about the societal sexualization of women?
-The speaker feels that societal sexualization of women is prevalent and that it can be mitigated by wearing modest clothing.
What was the turning point for the speaker in terms of seeking external validation?
-The speaker's turning point was when she realized she was seeking external validation from her audience and social media, which she decided to change by covering up and seeking validation from within.
What was the outcome of the speaker's decision to cover up and delete her social media content?
-The outcome was that the speaker experienced more success and blessings, and she developed her characteristics on another level, becoming a better person.
What is the significance of the modesty dinner mentioned in the script?
-The modesty dinner was significant because it was an event where the speaker, along with Gym Shark, invited creators and audience members to discuss modesty and preview her upcoming collection.
What is the speaker's view on modesty being inclusive of different cultures and faiths?
-The speaker believes that modesty should be inclusive of different cultures and faiths, as it looks different to everyone and has different interpretations.
What was the main message the speaker wanted to convey during the panel talk at the event?
-The main message the speaker wanted to convey was the importance of coverage, confidence, and comfort in the gym, and the need for more options for women who want modest active wear.
How does the speaker feel about her own modesty journey in relation to her faith?
-The speaker feels that her modesty journey is personal and that it took her about two years after finding faith to fully embrace wearing a headscarf.
What advice does the speaker have for those who are going through a similar modesty journey?
-The speaker advises going at your own pace, not letting anyone rush you into it, and developing a personal relationship with your beliefs without seeking validation from others.
Outlines
🧕 Journey to Modesty
The speaker discusses her personal journey towards modesty, beginning with her decision to wear a headscarf in March 2023. She reflects on her initial resistance to modesty, stemming from a belief that it represented oppression. However, she embarked on a quest to understand modesty better, motivated by a desire for a closer relationship with God and a better understanding of herself. She shares her past reliance on external validation for confidence, contrasting it with the internal confidence she has developed since embracing modesty. The speaker also addresses societal sexualization of women and how modesty has provided her with a sense of protection and self-respect.
👚 Modesty Beyond Clothing
In this paragraph, the speaker elaborates on the concept of modesty, explaining that it is not just about covering the body but also about seeking internal confidence and ceasing the pursuit of external validation. She shares her experiences with unwanted sexual attention and how modest clothing has helped her feel safer and more respected. The speaker also touches on the broader implications of modesty, including how it has influenced her interactions with others and her own self-perception. She discusses a recent event she hosted with Gym Shark, focusing on modesty in activewear, and her efforts to create more inclusive and diverse options for women.
🌟 Empowering Through Modesty
The speaker shares her experiences working with Gym Shark to create modest activewear, emphasizing the importance of representation and inclusivity across different cultures and faiths. She recounts a dinner event where she engaged with other women on their modesty journeys, highlighting the collective goal of providing more choices and comfort for women in gym settings. The speaker also discusses her own growth in confidence and the realization that modesty is a deeply personal journey that cannot be rushed or forced.
💭 Internal Struggle and Growth
In this section, the speaker delves into her internal struggles with seeking validation and the pressure she felt to conform to certain standards within the Muslim community. She talks about her identity crisis and the process of learning to seek validation from within rather than from external sources. The speaker also reflects on her transition to modesty and the challenges she faced, including the fear of losing her audience and the reality of still needing to work on herself despite her external changes.
📈 Growth and Gratitude
The speaker concludes by expressing gratitude for her journey and the support she has received. She acknowledges the challenges of transitioning to a more modest lifestyle but emphasizes the blessings and personal growth that have resulted. She encourages others on similar journeys to be true to themselves and to go at their own pace, recognizing that the path to modesty is a personal one that cannot be dictated by others.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Modesty
💡Validation
💡Headscarf
💡Self-Acceptance
💡Social Media
💡Sexualization
💡Confidence
💡External Validation
💡Internal Validation
💡Identity Crisis
💡Gym Shark
💡Risk
Highlights
Modesty looks different to all of us and it's important to be inclusive of everyone's journey.
The speaker put on the headscarf in March 2023 and deleted all social media content to start anew.
Modesty is about developing a better relationship with oneself and seeking internal validation.
The realization that being covered can offer protection from being sexualized by society.
The speaker's journey towards modesty was also a journey of self-discovery and personal growth.
The importance of staying true to oneself and one's beliefs for personal and professional success.
The speaker's collaboration with Gym Shark to create a modesty clothing line.
The challenges of seeking external validation and the transition to seeking validation from within.
The speaker's experience of being judged within the Muslim community despite her modesty journey.
The significance of the modesty dinner organized with Gym Shark to discuss modesty in clothing.
The panel talk at the event aimed at highlighting the importance of coverage, confidence, and comfort.
The speaker's advice to go at your own pace in the journey towards modesty.
The realization that even after covering up, internal work is needed to fully embrace modesty.
The importance of being true to oneself and not seeking validation from others.
The speaker's identity crisis and the process of finding her own style while embracing modesty.
The challenges faced during the transition to a more modest lifestyle and the eventual acceptance of self.
Transcripts
if you give something up for the sake of
staying true to your beliefs you will be
rewarded with so much and if you are a
person who wants to be liked by everyone
I am telling you right now it is
impossible and you just have to accept
it and you just have to be
yourself hello and welcome back to
another video I'm actually really
excited to film this because the last
time I did a modesty video was the first
time time I ever posted again after
deleting all of my videos on YouTube and
if you've been a subscriber from the
beginning then you know it's been a
minute yeah in this video I'm really
just going to be sharing a little bit
about my journey with modesty so far
because I put on the head scarf in March
of 2023 I deleted everything off of my
social media yeah I haven't really done
an update so we are getting into a
modesty update and I'm going to tell you
a little bit about things that I have
been working on regarding modesty as
well which is very exciting so let's
just start with my journey of modesty so
far and what it's been like so first
thing I want to mention is Modesty looks
different to all of us and I think
that's something that I really invocal
about well on my short form social media
platforms like Instagram and Tik Tok is
being inclusive of everyone's journey
and understanding that we all have
different interpretations of what
modesty looks like and even different
reasonings for modesty why why did I put
it on in hindsight I put it on to get
closer to God okay that that is
obviously the main thing why I put it on
but to be honest that wasn't the only
reason that I put it on I am a person
who has to know the reasoning behind why
okay and that was probably the hardest
thing for me to accept was the headscarf
and modesty because I thought to be
honest I thought women were oppressed
even though I was raised in a family
where my dad was Muslim and my mom was
of the Catholic faith she converted but
because I was raised in a Muslim
household you kind of reject religion in
a way sometimes when it's like you don't
understand it in fool I don't know we
just all grow up differently okay and so
I was just like low-key rejecting
religion and then later down in my life
I found it myself I had to rete myself
the whole religion and understand
why and I got curious and I doubted some
things as well I was like but then I
kept researching and researching and
watching videos like why should I put on
the hijab why aren't men wearing the
hijab that's what I thought instantly
but actually men do have to be modest
too so anyways the reason why I put it
on besides getting closer to God was to
develop a better relationship with
myself I was constantly seeking external
validation I didn't love myself and it
didn't make sense because I would go to
the gym and shorts and a sports bra and
at home I would literally be in hoodies
and sweatpants all the time the only
reason why I wore those clothes was
because I thought that's what I needed
to wear in order to look beautiful and
in order to feel accepted especially
with social media I built my platform
off of showing my body like let's just
be honest and not only that like take it
back from even whenever I started social
media y'all I would use my beauty my
hair my body whatever it is to gain
confidence like that is what gave me
confidence when I walked into a room I
would instantly feel confident because I
would seek that external validation from
people looking at me like being 100%
honest and the fact that I didn't have
confidence from within and that I
constantly had to seek out that
validation to make me feel confident is
something just not good and I realized
that whenever I started learning about
being covered and not only that it's
genuinely protection we live in a world
where men sexualize women you can be
wearing anything if it shows any form of
your body you will be sexualized like
that is just the society that we live in
when it comes to men and after realizing
the difference of not being covered
versus being covered and being
sexualized all the time and now not
getting sexualized all the time it's a
massive massive difference and I'm not
saying even if you're fully covered up
you won't get sexualized but the chances
is so much lower and I actually got into
a conversation with my esthetician and
she literally went to a grocery store
and she wore leggings right she was just
chilling like cozy going to the grocery
store in her leggings and a man
literally takes a picture of her crotch
ever since that day she does not wear
leggings to the grocery store anymore
because she does not like getting
sexualized and that's actually crazy
because as women we just want to wear
what we want to wear but it also comes
with the fact that you are going to have
the attraction that you might not want
to get by wearing those things and so
you really just have to put into
perspective off of your own beliefs
because I know so many women that cover
not even for religious reasons just
because they feel protected they feel
safer and so modest to me is more than
just covering my body it's fully relying
on my internal self for confidence not
seeking that external validation anymore
not feeling like I have to not be true
to myself I wasn't being true to myself
and it also has made me treat people
differently in a positive way because
when you are covered it just means that
you need to respect others more more and
because I'm also covered I have found
that I respect myself more and that
might trigger some people because hear
me out I want to give you a scenario all
right I didn't respect myself when I
wasn't covered not saying that if you
show your body you don't respect
yourself but I wasn't respecting myself
in my case I guess a year and a half
later I did not think I was going to be
here today though like y'all the
sacrifices that I had to make by leading
all of my content I could have lost
everything I could have lost brand
Partnerships I could have lost my whole
audience but because I stayed true to
myself the only thing that came with it
was more success more blessings in
different ways different ways I have
developed my characteristics on another
level I am a much much better person
than I was before I have lowered my ego
that's for sure and I have created
not only more opportunities for women
when it comes to modesty and being
represented but I am actively working
with brands in order to give
representation as a whole more Choice
when it comes to active wear and also
making sure that it's inclusive to every
single culture and Faith because modesty
comes in different ways and that leads
me into where I was at this past weekend
which was in New York and y'all this
literally all happened in one weekend it
was just insane and super quick but the
first thing I want to mention is the
modesty dinner that I did with Jim
Sharp I'm shy nice to meet you we'll be
taking care of your hospitality and food
[Music]
tday the dinner was around modesty and
we invited creators and some of my
audience members that are on their
coverage journey to come out they got to
look at my collection with gym Shar
coming out in January we have definitely
spent a long time working with Lanna to
build this collection and ensure that we
have the right product for our customer
and for the beautiful women in this room
and this isn't to say that these are the
only modest pieces within the assortment
gym shark is really dedicated to
ensuring that we have covered Styles
across all of our key ranges so that way
it's not just this is the one uh
assortment for you to wear there's same
mix of items within jym sh that you can
feel really comfortable in but also
beautiful everyone here in the
gym I really want to get to know you all
and hear about what you are struggling
with in the gym what we can do for you
and thank you guys so much for coming
out and I hope you guys enjoy the
dinner we all had dinner together it was
such an amazing event to get to know
every single person to understand their
Journey with modesty to understand what
struggles they go through through and
asking them genuine questions of how can
we help you in your journey when it
comes to active wear or what they
believe where brands are going wrong
when it does come to modesty as a whole
unfortunately there's a lot of like
judgment in some of our communities so I
think even people that want to
experiment with stuff is like a lot of
push back I personally like like a more
for fitting top like I think like again
being in gym like for of I'm trying to
really work on my form sometimes like if
I'm wearing something too baggy it's
hard to look in the mirror and be like
is my back B the right way my Straight
For Me often the issue is my mid so um
super breathable materials like I feel
like there are materials that I've tried
with other brands that I can literally
feel the wind coming through and I'm
like okay I can breathe like I don't
like to layer at
all in no Brands really put events
together like this especially a Big
Brand like jym shark which is crazy and
I'm looking back at the day where I was
worrying about if I was going to lose
everything and now I am giving creators
more opportunity which is honestly
surreal to me it's very very surreal to
me because as a Creator I never thought
that I would be put in a position where
I could help other creators which is the
biggest blessing of all I think that
genuinely gives me so much fulfillment
and even helping you all like that makes
me feel so whole in myself and that is
why this mission is so so big and it's
great greater than me and it's greater
than any single problem that I go
through in my life and I think that will
resonate with all of us because most of
the times we get in our own heads we
don't stay true to ourselves we don't
trust our instincts we don't take risks
because we fear that we will lose it all
but when you take risks and you trust in
yourself and whatever it is that you
want to accomplish you will get there
but you cannot let the doubt creep in on
behalf of Jim shark really want to thank
you all for coming tonight um it was
amazing to meet you all um and hear your
experiences as it relates to modest and
how you wear it um through your life
especially as we think about the gym
space and it's definitely given us a lot
of wonderful feedback that we can then
take and Implement into our future
product so thank you so much I hope this
was as amazing for you as it was for
[Music]
us adding on to that point like when I
was working with jym shark some of
youall have actually seen the clips of
me getting on calls with them going
through hard conversations literally
like genuinely trying to make sure that
they understand the sensitivity and what
we need because y'all I was wearing
men's clothing for so long and I'm not
going to lie this whole process of
waiting for product has given me so much
patience and has helped me understand
that in order to do anything great in
life it will be hard the journey the
process figuring things out it's going
to feel like constant fail after fail
until you finally get it right and then
once you get it right it will be so
worth it and here's a quote that I
honestly want to share with you that
resonates with this message everything
worth doing is hard the more worth doing
it is the harder it is the greater the
payoff the greater the hardship so much
of what we endure is how we train our
minds to perceive it train your mind for
hard basically the harder it is the more
epic the story will be and you always
have to have that mindset so every
struggle that you're going through I
want you to remember that you know this
is going to be a great story that one
day I will get to tell so that was the
modesty dinner let's get into the event
though so we're expecting big big
numbers this weekend you want to get as
many fans in the doors and in front of
you guys as possible I think that's I
wanted to do a panel talk and I told Jim
shark that I don't want it to just be
myself I want to do this panel talk at
the event with other women from
different Faith from different cultures
L is going to be like hosting it and
leading it directing it so she'll be
talking about her own modesty story a
little bit but then definitely asking a
lot of questions to everyone it's really
about telling everyone's story it's not
a lyana panel and you know it was
definitely important that it's about
everybody I do feel a little bit
insecure as a Muslim woman who isn't
hijabi speaking on modesty because I
know I'm not the perfect example but
even that what you just
shared somebody in the audience would
resonate with that they will love that
from you because they probably feel the
same exact way I have a very diverse
audience of different faiths and I want
to make sure that when I am doing this
journey with modesty it is speaking to
everyone it's not only speaking to
people of the Islam faith it is speaking
to everyone who is on their Journey with
coverage or modesty for whatever reason
they want so we did this panel it was so
good to hear other people's stories
about their Journey their
interpretations and what modesty means
to them give it up for
[Music]
led to do this panel today to highlight
the importance of coverage confidence
and comfort in the gym and Jim shark and
I have also been on a mission of giving
women more options when it comes to
wearing things in the gym that help you
feel confident it took me a long time to
actually realized what I was wearing to
jump for in the Mee and I what it
protected me from I just felt the
conviction when I was going to the gym
of oh I don't really feel comfortable in
this anymore so I had to make the
decision am I going to grow closer to
God and decide to cover up and explore
what that looks like for me or am I
going to stay stagnant in my eyes
modesty was as long as I'm not showing
skin I'm okay but the older that I've
grown and the closer that I've become to
God and my religion I realized that it's
not just about showing skin and that's
how I me my head mention it is about the
way that you care yourself the way that
you interact with others what do you do
when you're dealing with any kind of
negative comments and how do you really
tell yourself like this is me this is my
journey I'm going to take it one step at
a time how do you
how do you navigate through that it's
not easy by any means especially when
you know you're putting your best foot
forward that that's not enough for a lot
of people but at the end of the day I'm
not doing it for people I'm doing it for
myself and I'm doing it for the sake of
God and to be able to share that to an
audience was honestly just so beautiful
and amazing and Jim shark made this all
come together and it's actually so crazy
to me bro like if I think about it when
I was 16 years old I was wearing gym
shark leggings and now here I am trying
to bring more choice for women that want
modesty it's actually insane because if
you give something up for the sake of
God or for the sake of just you know
staying true to your beliefs you will be
rewarded with so much with so much just
because you stayed true to you and
stayed true to your beliefs and so on
this journey of modesty if I could give
you one piece of advice if you were
going through the same thing I would say
you will still be successful you will
still be accepted you will still be
beautiful and to go at your own pace and
to not let anyone rush you into it
because you have to develop that
relationship with the creator of the
world on your own and it cannot be
forced on to you otherwise you will end
up resenting the religion it has to be a
very very personal Journey it took me
about two years after finding Faith to
really put it on I would say two years
in full after learning and learning and
learning so I just want to say thank you
because I would have none of this
without you and God of course but
genuinely for those that have supported
me and stuck by my side like I love you
so much it's actually insane like I
legit did the whole 180 and and you're
still here which is crazy and I know
this like journey of me transitioning
has also meant that I've been low-key
miia on like creating content like for
my socials y' I was not creating content
a lot this year going to be completely
honest but I was also just having an
identity crisis like legit I was having
a genuine identity crisis I didn't know
who to be so I like made that transition
oh my God this is another point that I
need to mention I made that transition
and because I was a person who who SE
validation right I would seek validation
from my audience off of my body right
always wanting to feel beautiful and
like would constantly get that
validation from them and that confidence
okay fully cover up boom transition now
I'm I'm covered up but I'm still wanting
validation just because you cover up and
you start transitioning towards modesty
doesn't mean you're a perfect person
means that you've got a lot of internal
work to do so I then started seeking
validation from the Community let's just
be completely honest I started seeking
validation from another community that
probably wouldn't ever accept me and I
don't want to say wouldn't ever accept
me the online space of the Muslim
Community there's some good and then
there's some very judgmental it was then
I'm not perfect enough right like I'm
not covered up enough and then that led
me into like okay I'm seeking validation
from another Community like what is
going on like why am I seeking
validation from like so many different
things I need to just seek validation
for myself so I literally shut out that
side shut out that side went on my own
freaking sto like looking for things to
fulfill this emptiness inside me started
filling it with the right things and
then yeah fully locked into myself and I
was like you know what I'll be me and
whoever likes me for me likes me whoever
doesn't like me a goodbye legit because
you cannot please everyone and if you
are a person who wants to be liked by
everyone I am telling you right now it
is
impossible people are going to hate you
and you just have to accept it and you
just have to be yourself because at the
end of the day if you consistently
people please for the rest of your life
you will end up losing yourself so do
not do that so um yeah that's a modesty
update it's been a great journey I have
finally found a little bit of my style
I'm still searching for it somewhat um
but transitioning was the best best
decision of my life and even though it
came with many challenges the blessings
weigh out the challenges so I hope you
enjoyed this video and I love you all so
much sorry if it was a bit all over the
place but yeah very very grateful and
blessed so I will see you in the next
video
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