The Secret Psychology of "Ignoring" a Girl

Summary

This video script outlines a three-phase strategy for texting a girl to increase her interest. Phase one, the Icebreaker, focuses on standing out and building rapport with unique openers and playful responses to one-word replies. Phase two, the Obsession phase, involves moving the conversation to more intimate platforms and using deep conversation starters to discover shared interests, enhancing attractiveness by 28%. Phase three, the Flirting stage, teaches how to flirt without appearing creepy, using the Martin Luther King technique to create intrigue and secure a date, ensuring a smooth transition from texting to meeting in person.

Takeaways

• 😀 The Icebreaker phase is crucial for standing out and building rapport with a girl through text messages.
• 🔍 Dealing with dry texters involves sending engaging openers and playfully calling them out if they continue with short responses.
• 📱 Moving the conversation to more intimate platforms like WhatsApp or exchanging phone numbers can increase the chances of a meaningful connection.
• 🗣️ In the Obsession phase, using deep conversation starters to find shared interests is key to developing deeper connections.
• 👗 Dressing well and sharing personal style can be a conversation starter and a way to connect over mutual interests in fashion.
• 🔑 Paying attention to a girl's social media can provide insight into her interests and help tailor the conversation to those topics.
• 💬 Recognizing certain text messages from a girl as signs of interest is important before making a move towards dating.
• 😉 The Flirting stage involves subtle and non-creepy ways to escalate the conversation towards a date.
• 🐦 Using the 'Martin Luther King technique' can create intrigue and give a girl butterflies, indicating potential interest in a date.
• 📈 The video emphasizes the importance of understanding and navigating through different stages of texting to increase the likelihood of a successful date.

Q & A

What are the three stages of texting a girl to get her to like you back?

The three stages are: 1) The Icebreaker phase, where you stand out and build rapport. 2) Moving to more intimate platforms, where you're taken more seriously. 3) The Obsession phase, where you use deep conversation starters to find shared interests.

How do you handle a girl who gives one-word responses?

Start by sending an opening message that stands out, such as a compliment on something specific she wore. If she continues with short responses, follow up with a playful tease to gauge her reaction.

What is the significance of moving the conversation to a different platform?

Moving to a different platform increases the chances of getting her truly interested because you're not just one of many, and the communication becomes more intimate and less competitive.

Why is it important to find shared interests when texting a girl?

Shared interests are crucial for developing deeper connections. A study revealed that 64% of women consider them a key factor in deciding whether to move forward with a relationship.

How can you identify if a girl is interested in you based on her texts?

Look for signs like her texting first, sending good morning or good night messages unprompted, replying even when busy, sending fun videos, and frequently asking about your plans.

What is the 'Martin Luther King technique' for texting?

It's a trick where you wait for her to initiate a conversation, then respond with a dream scenario that includes both of you, creating intrigue and a playful connection.

Why should you avoid commenting on a girl's appearance when texting?

Commenting on appearance can make you seem like every other guy and may give the impression that you're only interested in her looks.

What are some examples of deep conversation starters to find shared interests?

You can discuss her recent hobbies, interests, or countries she's traveled to, or bring up a recent event or brand that aligns with her interests, like fashion shows or new product lines.

How can you tell if a girl is ready to be asked out based on her texts?

If she sends three or more of the five good messages indicating interest, such as initiating contact or asking about your weekend plans, it's a sign she's ready to be asked out.

What are some tips for the flirting stage of texting?

Avoid being creepy by not directly commenting on her looks. Instead, find common ground through shared interests or experiences and use playful techniques like the 'Martin Luther King technique' to engage her interest.

Outlines

00:00

📱 Texting Stages to Attract a Girl

This paragraph introduces three stages for texting a girl to make her interested. The Icebreaker phase is the first stage, where the goal is to stand out and build rapport. It suggests handling 'dry texters' by sending engaging openers and playful follow-ups to gauge her response. The paragraph also advises moving the conversation from casual platforms like Tinder or Instagram to more intimate ones to increase the chances of a meaningful connection.

05:01

💬 Deep Conversation Starters and Dressing Well

The second paragraph focuses on the 'Obsession phase' of texting, where deep conversation starters are used to find shared interests and build a deeper connection. It emphasizes the importance of shared interests in physical attraction and relationship development. The paragraph also touches on the benefits of dressing well as a man to easily connect with women, using the brand Kuani as an affordable and stylish option.

10:02

💌 Flirting and Securing a Date

The final paragraph discusses the 'flirting stage', which is about transitioning from texting to an actual date. It warns against being creepy and suggests analyzing the girl's social media for topics like travel, education, or pets to craft meaningful messages. The 'Martin Luther King technique' is introduced as a method to engage her interest and suggest a date without being too forward.

Keywords

💡Icebreaker phase

The 'Icebreaker phase' refers to the initial stage of texting where the goal is to stand out and build rapport with the girl. It involves sending messages that help to distinguish oneself from other potential suitors and ensure that she responds. In the video, this phase is crucial for making a good first impression and setting the tone for further communication.

💡Dry texters

A 'dry texter' is someone who responds to messages with short, unenthusiastic replies, often just one word. The video discusses strategies for engaging with such individuals, suggesting that their brevity might be a test rather than disinterest. The script provides examples of how to handle dry texters by playfully teasing or calling out their behavior to gauge their response.

💡Deep conversation starters

These are questions or topics introduced to initiate meaningful conversations and find shared interests. The video emphasizes the importance of deep conversation starters in developing deeper connections, as they move the interaction beyond surface-level small talk. Examples from the script include discussing recent events or interests that the girl has shown on social media.

💡Shared interests

Shared interests are common hobbies or preferences that two people have, which can strengthen the bond between them. The video highlights that discovering and discussing shared interests can make one more attractive to the other person, as it forms a basis for a potential relationship. The script uses fashion as an example of a shared interest that could be used to connect with a girl.

💡Obsession phase

The 'Obsession phase' is a stage in texting where the aim is to make the girl eager to continue the conversation. This phase follows the Icebreaker phase and involves using deep conversation starters to keep her engaged. The video suggests that by this stage, the girl should be showing signs of interest, such as initiating conversations or responding positively to shared interests.

💡Martin Luther King technique

This is a playful texting technique mentioned in the video, where one responds to a question about sleep with a dream involving the other person. The technique is designed to create a light-hearted, engaging conversation that can lead to flirting and potentially a date. It's named after Martin Luther King as a creative way to remember the method.

💡Flirting stage

The 'Flirting stage' is the final phase of texting discussed in the video, where the goal is to transition from texting to an actual date. This stage involves more playful and suggestive messages, but it's also the riskiest, as it can backfire if not done correctly. The video provides guidance on how to flirt without coming across as creepy.

💡Kuani

Kuani is a brand mentioned in the video as an example of affordable fashion for men. The script uses Kuani to illustrate how dressing well can help in connecting with women and how shared interests in fashion can be a conversation starter. The video also mentions a special discount for the brand, indicating a promotional aspect within the content.

💡Messaging platforms

Different messaging platforms are discussed in the video in terms of their effectiveness for building a connection with a girl. The video suggests moving conversations from less personal platforms like Tinder or Instagram to more direct and intimate ones like WhatsApp or a personal phone number. The script ranks platforms from least to most effective for serious conversations.

💡Texting techniques

Throughout the video, various 'texting techniques' are introduced to guide the viewer on how to communicate effectively with a girl. These techniques include handling dry texters, using deep conversation starters, and the Martin Luther King technique for flirting. The video emphasizes the importance of these techniques in progressing through the different stages of texting.

Highlights

Understanding three stages of texting to make a girl like you back

Icebreaker phase: standing out and building rapport

Handling dry texters with opening messages

Playful teasing to gauge a girl's response

Cutting losses if a girl continues to be unresponsive

Moving off platforms like Tinder to more intimate ones

Using unique messages to grab attention on current platforms

Transitioning to more serious platforms for deeper conversations

Deep conversation starters to find shared interests

Importance of shared interests in building attraction

Avoiding basic texts like 'hey' or 'how was your day'

Using personal style to connect with a girl

Recognizing signs that a girl is interested in you

Flirting stage: moving from obsession to a date

Not commenting on a girl's appearance to avoid seeming creepy

Using the Martin Luther King technique to engage interest

Final tips on texting without looking creepy

Transcripts

when you start texting a girl there were

three stages you need to understand to

get that girl to like you back through

text so in today's video I'm going to

walk in through all three stages and

show you every type of text message you

should send a girl let's start with

phase number one I call this the

Icebreaker phase the Icebreaker Sak

involves every message you're going to

send her to help you stand out so you

can build rapport with her to make sure

she always responds back over the 20

other guys that are also going to be

messaging her starting with number one

learn how to handle dry ters just

imagine how many times have you matched

with a super attractive girl but then

she starts messaging you with onew

responses and never asks you any

question if you're like most men you're

going to assume she's not interested in

me this is wrong so here's how you deal

with a dry texture first you're going to

start by sending her an opening message

like this hey that clothing item you

were wearing today was really cool now

that's just one but here are a few more

opening examples that you can use which

I recommend you screenshot and save now

if she continues to reply with the foury

one-word responses it could mean she's

interested but she's still testing you

which means you need to follow up with

this message to call her out on her

behavior you can say any of these next

following lines again these are risky

lines so only use it in this situation

now the idea with these is to playfully

tease her and annoy her which will lead

us to the third step which is gauging

her response if she doesn't respond

there you go you have your answer if she

responds but she continues to be dry cut

your losses focus on another girl

however if she switches up her

communication with it that is your clear

side that she's interested in you now

this is only the first type of messages

you're going to send a girl which is

dealing with girls that are dry texter

every guy's been here that by the time

you get to the end of it you're going to

know how to make any girl so interested

in you she's going to be begging for you

to text her let's St this to number two

stop messaging these girls on these

platforms it is nearly impossible to get

a girl truly interested in you if you're

only talking to her on Tinder Instagram

or SnapChat chat the reason is simple

all these platforms you are just one of

many bro when she opens up any of these

apps to talk to you she's also talking

to a whole other team of guys you're

just one of the bunch bro so here are

the platforms where girls are going to

respond the most and it's more intimate

to start you need to send her a message

that's going to grab her attention on

the platform you're already talking to

her you could try something like any of

these two usually they get girls to

respond because they're more unique then

you're going to wait at least 12 hours

before replying once you've done that I

want you to send her the this exact

message sorry for not responding earlier

I don't really check this at much want

to talk somewhere else instead next

you're going to want to move this

conversation to the app where you're

going to be taken more seriously because

there's not a lot of competitors there's

not a lot of guys messaging her on these

apps so here's a ranking of the best

apps from least to most effective and

number five we have Twitter in fourth

place we have Instagram in third place

we have Snapchat in second place we have

WhatsApp and in first place it's your

phone number once you've cleared this

you now entered phase two of messaging

her by this point you've already broken

the ice with her you've managed all the

dry moments and are now talking to her

in a more serious platform this means

it's time to get her obsessed with

talking to you in this Obsession phase

you're going to use this third texting

technique which is using deep

conversation starters to find shared

interests shared interests are crucial

for developing deeper connections with

this girl that you like so I'm going to

show you the questions you should be

asking through text to start building

this deeper connection and no this is

not just going to be my opinion this is

all based on science you see a recent

study revealed that 64% of women

considered shared interests as a key

factor on deciding whether they wanted

to move forward with a relationship when

they analyzed this further they found

that 28% of all physical attraction was

based on shared interests what this

means for you is that if you can show

her these shared interest between you

and her you become 28% more attractive

than you already are without doing

anything else to your appearance so to

develop these deeper connections you

first need to avoid the basic hey or how

was your day these are boring texts that

destroy meaningful connections you're

going to check out her Instagram and her

Tik Tok accounts I want you to look at

her most recent post and make a mental

list in your head of all the Hobbies

interests or countries she's traveled to

when the time is right you're going to

suddenly bring up these topics I'm going

to give you a personal example was

recently it was New York Fashion Week

here in New York and I went into a

beautifully designed Fashion Event that

was run by kuani I've showed you this

brand before it's a great brand for men

and women I was there cuz I was looking

at their upcoming 2025 product line for

spring summer I'm going be honest with

you when I was there I was impressed

with the entire lightup I've been

wearing kufi for a very long time

because it's affordable you can get it

on Amazon easily available but the

designs that they're coming out with

impressive so if I'm talking to a girl

and I know her interest is fashion for

example a lot of girls in New York love

fashion I would bring this up to her I

would say something along the lines of

oh you seem to really like fashion I

actually went to this Fashion Event the

other night then I would just send her

pictures and of the event we would start

talking about the brand what she thinks

about upcoming fashion trends what does

she think about those designs and now

you have a comfortable normal

conversation but she's building a deeper

and deeper connection with you because

she's realizing yo this guy has the same

interest I have this is how you use this

to your advantage this is also why it's

so good to start dressing well as a man

when you dress well it's so easy to

connect with women because every girl

wants a guy that looks good and you

don't have to break the bank you don't

have to spend a lot of money like I was

just showing you with the brand kuani

you as a guy can build an entire outfit

for around $150 if you order from Amazon

you can get it in two days and the great

part is that kuani is consistently

dropping new designs to make sure you're

always looking as sish as possible

without having to Freight the bank look

when I went to the the runway show I was

impressed I was already a fan before I'm

a bigger fan now if you're a guy that

wants to start looking more attractive

start dressing better but you don't want

to have to spend a lot of money you have

to check out kui which I have linked

down below I'm also going to put a

special discount that's going to make

the coils even more affordable but the

point here is once you've established

shared interest whether it is with your

personal style or because of a of a

specific event you went to she's going

to start realizing your boyfriend

material you're the guy she wants to

have a relationship with I want you to

look for the five texts that guarantee

that she likes you look if a girl texts

you with any of these five texts I'm

about to show you it is a clear sign she

wants you to ask her out however don't

take any risks with just one of these

texts you want to make sure that you

receive at least three out of the five

before you move forward and you ask her

out so in order of interest if she

texting first with you having to

initiate a contact that's a good sign

that's one good text if she sends you a

good morning or a good night text

without you having to prompt it that's

another good text if she replies to your

messages even when she you know she's in

class or at work that is another good

text if she sends you a funing Tik Tok

or Instagram video without you even

having to ask that is an amazing text

and the best one of them all if she

frequently asks what you're doing or

what you're doing this weekend bro this

girl is begging you to ask her out now I

want you to understand these texts very

well if you only receive one out of five

of these you're probably just in the

friend zone you should not make the

first move if you receive between two or

three of these good messages she's

interested but she's probably also

entertaining some other guy but if you

get three or more of these good messages

you're the guy of her dreams bro you

should make that first move now that you

learned how to deal with Dr textur how

to talk on the right platforms how to

bring up interest naturally with her and

understand what messages to look for you

were finally prepared for the last phase

of text message which I call the

flirting stage the flirting stage is

when you move from having her obsessed

with you to an actual date it is the

riskiest stage of all because if you

jump to conclusions to this stage and

you fail there is no going back which is

why I needed you to understand stages

one and two well now let's move on to

stage three the F type of text message

is to learn how to text without looking

creepy if you text like this she's going

to think you're a creep she's never

going to want to go out with you first

you never want to comment on a girl's

appearance when you're texting her every

other guy does that and she's going to

think you're only into her because of

her looks which you may be but you don't

want for to know that instead I want you

to analyze her Instagram and look for

these three pictures on her profile and

I promise you every girl has at least

one of these three and depending on the

picture I'm going to show you what

message to send her if you notice she

has pictures of traveling I want you to

use a message like this if you notice

she has a graduation photo I want you to

use a message like this if you notice

she has photos of animals or pets I want

you to use a message like this now she's

going to see that you're not just

another sley guide and want something

more serious with you but this takes me

to the last message you to Sender which

is number six use the Martin Luther King

technique this is how you're going to

give her butterflies engage her interest

over text now I made this trick myself

so I call it the Martin Luther King

technique and here's how you're going to

do it to start you need to wait for her

to send you the first message it could

be a good morning message or whatever

then you're going to respond with how'd

you sleep she'll tell you how she

flapped and then she'll ask you how you

slept and then this is when you follow

up with this you're going to respond

with the technique I'm going to show you

and say these exact words I slept well

but I had a dream last night that you

and I we had a crazy game with mini golf

together now when you send that message

it's not risky but she's going to

respond one in three ways first she

might not even acknowledge it at all and

give you some dry response like oh wow

nice or oh that was funny in that case

she's not interested in the date and you

should move on and now you have your

answer however if she flirts back and

responds with something like oh who won

her oh I'm sure I could beat you it

means that she is open to the idea of a

date which gives you an easy segue to

respond with something like I guess

we'll have to do it in person to see who

the real winner is are you free this

weekend come on bro who else gives you

game like this that's why call it the

Martin Luther King technique I'm telling

you you use this I have now showed you

every type of text message you need to

send this girl and when you use this

final trick you'll get her on a date

with you you're welcome no one else is

teaching me this stuff bro see you next

time