Why Trans Women Sexualize Themselves?
Summary
TLDRDr. Z, eine klinische Psychologin, die sich auf transgener Care spezialisiert hat, beantwortet in ihrem Kanal die Frage, warum trans Frauen, insbesondere ältere, oft sexuell sich selbst darstellen. Sie erklärt, dass das Sexuell-Sich-Darstellen ein Ausdruck von Selbstgefälligkeit und Selbstvertrauen ist, das nach einer langen Zeit der Selbstkritik und Ablehnung des eigenen Körpers entsteht. Trans Frauen, die sich nun ihrer Identität näher fühlen, mögen diese Phase der Selbstliebe und Selbstakzeptanz genießen. Dr. Z diskutiert auch, warum es in der Gesellschaft doppelt gesinnt wird, wenn trans Frauen sexy erscheinen, im Gegensatz zu cis Frauen, und fordert eine Reflexion über die doppelten Standards und die Notwendigkeit, Selbstliebe und Selbstausdruck zu akzeptieren.
Takeaways
- 😀 Die Sexualisierung durch trans Frauen ist ein Ausdruck ihrer Selbstliebe und Selbstakzeptanz.
- 👗 Sexualisierung kann als eine Form der Selbstausdrucks und Selbstdarstellung verstanden werden.
- 🌟 Trans Frauen, die sich sexualisieren, tun dies oft, weil sie sich erstmals gut in ihrem Körper fühlen und ihn schätzen.
- 💃 Einige trans Frauen durchlaufen eine sogenannte 'Honeymoon-Phase', in der sie sich in ihrer neuen Identität verlieben.
- 🚫 Die Gesellschaft hat oft doppelte Standards: Was für cis Frauen akzeptabel ist, wird für trans Frauen oft kritisiert.
- 👀 Pornografie kann eine unerwünschte, aber für manche trans Frauen notwendige Referenzquelle für das Verständnis von Weiblichkeit sein.
- 👗 Der Stil und die Kleidung, die trans Frauen wählen, sind Teil ihres Prozesses der Selbstfindung und Ausdruck ihrer Individualität.
- 🌈 Es gibt keine einheitliche Weise, wie trans Frauen sich ausdrücken oder sich fühlen sollten - es ist eine sehr subjektive Angelegenheit.
- 🤔 Die Frage, warum trans Frauen sich sexualisieren, sollte auch auf cis Frauen angewendet werden, um faire Vergleiche zu ermöglichen.
- 🔒 Innere Scham und Schuld können ein Hindernis für trans Frauen sein, ihre Sexualität und Weiblichkeit frei auszudrücken.
- 💬 Die Community sollte mehr Akzeptanz und weniger Vorurteile gegenüber der Selbstausdrucksweise von trans Frauen zeigen.
Q & A
Was bedeutet es, wenn eine Person sich selbst sexualisiert?
-Sexualisieren bedeutet, dass eine Person, in diesem Fall eine trans Frau, sich selbst als sexuell, sexy und sinnlich empfindet und dies äußerlich ausdrückt, sei es durch ihre Körpersprache, ihre Art zu sprechen oder ihre Erscheinungsweise.
Warum tendieren trans Frauen dazu, sich selbst zu sexualisieren?
-Trans Frauen, die lange Zeit mit einem Körper gelebt haben, der nicht mit ihrer inneren Geschlechtsidentität übereinstimmt, können eine Phase der Selbstbegeisterung erleben, wenn sie schließlich einen kongruenten Körper haben und sich in ihm wohl fühlen.
Was ist die 'Flitterwochenphase', auf die Dr. Z in Bezug auf trans Frauen anspielt?
-Die 'Flitterwochenphase' beschreibt eine Periode, in der trans Frauen sich in sich selbst verlieben und ihre neu entdeckte sexuelle und sinnliche Identität ausdrücken, oft durch eine provokative oder sexy Erscheinungsweise.
Warum ist es wichtig, dass trans Frauen in dieser 'Flitterwochenphase' ihre Selbstliebe und -akzeptanz entwickeln?
-Diese Phase ist wichtig, weil es ihnen ermöglicht, ihre Selbstliebe und -akzeptanz zu stärken, Scham und Schuld zu überwinden und zu lernen, wie sie sich als Frau fühlen und sich darstellen möchten.
Wie unterscheidet sich die Sexualisierung von trans Frauen von derjenigen von cis Frauen?
-Die Sexualisierung sollte nicht als spezifisch für trans Frauen angesehen werden, da alle Menschen, unabhängig von ihrer Geschlechtsidentität, die Neigung haben, sich selbst zu sexualisieren, wenn sie sich gut und selbstbewusst fühlen.
Was sagt Dr. Z zu denjenigen, die die Sexualisierung von trans Frauen kritisieren?
-Dr. Z fordert dazu auf, die gleichen Standards auf alle Menschen anzuwenden und zu reflektieren, warum es in der Gesellschaft akzeptabel ist, dass cis Frauen sich sexualisieren, aber nicht trans Frauen.
Wie kann die sexuelle Selbstdarstellung von trans Frauen durch ihre Kleidung und Erscheinungsweise beeinflusst werden?
-Trans Frauen können durch ihre Kleidung und Erscheinungsweise sexuell, sexy und sinnlich erscheinen, indem sie Kleidungsstücke wie tiefe Ausschnitte, kurze Röcke oder glitternde Kleider tragen, die kulturell mit Sexanz verknüpft sind.
Was sagt Dr. Z über die Rolle von Pornographie in der Entwicklung der weiblichen Identität vieler trans Frauen aus?
-Dr. Z erwähnt, dass Pornographie für viele trans Frauen eine Referenzquelle für weibliche Erscheinungsbilder war, insbesondere in Zeiten, in denen sie sich selbst als Frauen identifizieren und akzeptieren.
Warum kann es für trans Frauen schwierig sein, die 'richtige' Balance in ihrer Selbstdarstellung zu finden?
-Es kann schwierig sein, weil sie lernen müssen, wie sie sich als Frauen fühlen und erscheinen möchten, und sie möglicherweise mit Vorstellungen von Femininität konfrontiert werden, die von der Gesellschaft oder der Pornographie geprägt sind.
Was sagt Dr. Z zu dem Phänomen der internen und externen Kritik, die trans Frauen in Bezug auf ihre Selbstdarstellung erleben können?
-Dr. Z spricht über Projektionen und die Tendenz, andere zu beurteilen, was auf eigene unerlaubte Wünsche oder interne Konflikte hindeuten kann. Es ist wichtig, diese Projektionen zu erkennen und sich selbst die Erlaubnis zu geben, wie man sich fühlt, auszudrücken.
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🌟 Selbstsexualisierung bei trans Frauen
Dr. Z, eine klinische Psychologin, die sich auf trans Geschlechter spezialisiert hat, beantwortet die Frage, warum trans Frauen, insbesondere ältere, oft sexuell auftreten. Sie erklärt, dass Sexualisierung das Ausdrücken von Sexualität und Erotik durch das Verhalten oder die Erscheinung ist. Dr. Z diskutiert, wie das Aussehen und Verhalten von trans Frauen oft als provokant oder sexy wahrgenommen wird und betont, dass es normal ist, wenn Menschen, die sich gut in ihrer Haut fühlen, dies auch ausdrücken möchten.
🌈 Die 'Honeymoon-Phase' der Selbstakzeptanz
In diesem Absatz wird die 'Honeymoon-Phase' beschrieben, in der trans Frauen eine besondere Liebe zu sich selbst und ihrem Körper entwickeln, nachdem sie eine Zeit lang ihn verabscheut haben. Dr. Z erläutert, dass es wichtig ist, diese Phase zu erleben, um Scham und Schuld loszuwerden und sich selbst und dem eigenen Körperbewusstsein zu verschaffen. Sie vergleicht das Verhalten von trans Frauen mit dem von Cis-Frauen, die sich sexuell ausdrücken, und stellt fest, dass es doppelt standards gibt.
🎭 Pornografie als Referenz für das äußere Erscheinungsbild
Dr. Z diskutiert die Rolle von Pornografie als Referenzpunkt für das, was als weiblich wahrgenommen wird, insbesondere für ältere trans Frauen, die in der Vergangenheit möglicherweise pornografisches Material genutzt haben, um sich mit ihrer eigenen Frauen-Sein zu verbinden. Sie betont, dass die Suche nach einem persönlichen Stil und der Prozess der Selbstfindung sehr subjektiv sind und dass es wichtig ist, diese Vielfalt an Ausdrücken der Weiblichkeit anzuerkennen.
💬 Offene Diskussion und persönliche Reflexion
Schließlich fordert Dr. Z zu einer offenen Diskussion über diese Themen auf und lädt die Zuhörer*innen ein, ihre eigenen Erfahrungen während der 'Honeymoon-Phase' zu teilen. Sie ermutigt dazu, über die persönlichen Erkenntnisse nachzudenken, die man in dieser Phase gewonnen hat und wie man sich selbst und seine Sexualität im Alltag ausdrücken kann.
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Keywords
💡Transgender
💡Sexualisieren
💡Scham und Schuld
💡Honeymoon-Phase
💡Subjektivität
💡Geschlechtsidentität
💡Kongorruent
💡Selbstakzeptanz
💡Gesellschaftliche Erwartungen
💡Identitätsentwicklung
Highlights
Dr. Z discusses the common question about why trans women, especially older ones, tend to sexualize themselves.
Sexualizing oneself is defined as an individual expressing their sexual, sexy, and sensual feelings about themselves outwardly.
The definition of 'sexy' is subjective and varies from person to person.
Trans women may sexualize themselves as a way of expressing newfound confidence and self-love after a period of self-criticism.
The 'honeymoon period' is a term used to describe the time when trans women become enamored with their new physicality and identity.
Dr. Z challenges the double standard where cisgender women are allowed to express their sexuality more freely than trans women.
Trans women's clothing choices can be influenced by societal and cultural norms that equate certain styles with sexiness.
The 'honeymoon period' is a crucial time for trans women to explore and understand their own sexuality and identity.
Trans women may choose to express their sexuality in different ways depending on the context or occasion.
Dr. Z emphasizes the importance of not shaming or guilting trans women for their choices in self-expression.
Trans women's experiences with sexualization can be a form of self-discovery and self-affirmation.
The societal expectation for trans women to adhere to certain appearance standards is critiqued.
Dr. Z encourages trans women to embrace their own unique expressions of femininity and sexuality.
The video addresses the issue of gatekeeping within the trans community, where some trans women judge the appearances of others.
Dr. Z suggests that internalized shame or guilt may lead some trans women to project their own insecurities onto others.
The video concludes with an invitation for viewers to share their own experiences and thoughts on the topic.
Transcripts
[Music]
hi everyone I'm Dr Z I'm a Clinical
Psychology specializing in transgender
care welcome to my Channel today I'm
going to answer the question that not
only trans folks themselves ask me but
also CIS people ask me quite a bit and
that is question of why do trans women
especially older trans women tend to
sexualize themselves for some reason
this is a big question for a lot of
people so I'm going to go ahead and give
some of you an idea because I have seen
a lot of trans women who struggle with
this because they feel a lot of Shame
and guilt uh for expressing themselves
in more sexual and sensal way so for
starters what does it mean when a person
sexualizes themselves well there's going
to be multitude of definitions on what
it means to sexualize yourself I'm going
to give you my idea of what I think when
it comes to sexualizing yourself to me
sexualizing yourself essentially is an
individual in this case a trans woman
woman and person who is feeling sexual
and sexy and sensual about themselves
and as a result they externalize and
express that part of themselves they
show up in a world looking sexual and
sensual either through the way they
carries themselves or the way they talk
or maybe it is through the ways that
they present themselves in a learning
way and the definition in terms of what
constitut sexy is really up for an
individual to Define some people may
look at what I'm wearing right now a
kind of a low cut black dress red
lipstick long earrings and say well
you're sexualizing yourself or you're
looking sexy and alluring some people
may think that I look classy uh graceful
uh beautiful beautiful so it's really
kind of subjective and up up for each
individual to interpret generally
speaking in my experience when people
ask me why do trans women sexualize
themselves and when I ask them well give
me an example of what you mean often
times there is a pattern to an example
an example usually is a trans woman that
is openly putting forward a photograph
selfies of herself on social media or
usually shows up in a World um out there
in a community wearing something that is
provocative something that is sexy um
maybe a very low cut cleavage perhaps a
short mini skirt other closing items
that with socially culturally tied to
sexiness glitter glittery
dresses um body contouring body feed
type of dresses fishnet stockings high
heels that's usually what comes to
people's mind so again what is sex sexy
and what is sexualizing yourself is
going to be different obviously very
very subjective matter but I think we
all at least can fall into some form of
an idea here that we're talking about so
why do trans women tend to sexualize
themselves first I want to say that why
not sexualize yourself
and I say that because first and
foremost what kind of an individual on
this planet that once they start to feel
really good about their physicality they
start really feeling good and confident
about their body special
specifically whether it is particular
body parts their particular weight maybe
it is the way their face has changed
maybe they had rhinoplasty nose job and
partly their face looks delicate and
beautiful the way you imagine it to be
what type of individual in other words
on this planet that starts to feel
really good about themselves isn't also
going to be enamored by an image they're
going to see in a mirror at least
temporarily enamored by how good they
look especially if there is a point of
um feeling like you don't look good or
being self-critical about yourself and
then reaching a point when you really
like where you at and you really like
yourself of sure of course there are
some individuals who are not going to
feel in to themselves but I think by far
and large pretty much we can agree
anybody will why because this is normal
this is natural it's natural for us as
human beings when we like ourselves to
become enamored by ourselves and if you
apply the same concept to trans women
you start thinking about in individuals
who have lived a duration of their lives
where a lot of you really hated your
bodies really disliked the form and
shape of your body really disliked
everything about it even to a larger
degree the a sis person may dislike some
aspects about themselves
because all of those
attributes were
specifically very in congruent with your
core gender identity
and So for anybody to look in the mirror
and see for example for any s person to
look in the mirror and see for example a
nose that they think is too
large is going to make them feel
uncomfortable and not like themselves
but for any person struggling with this
40 for any of you to look in a mirror
and to see a face that is gendered as a
man in today's society when deep down
inside there's a woman scream screaming
yelling trying to get
out that's very challenging so when a
person goes through gender transition
and when they start reaching that
physical congruency and they start
actually blossoming into the women that
you all are what happens is there is an
enamored period now for some trans women
I call this honeymoon period this
honeymoon period of sexualizing and
really being enamored with yourself less
a short period of time it's a period of
time where trans women fall essentially
is they fall in love with themselves
which I think is a beautiful and very
important and warranted period of
time what's interesting is that in our
society we have women such as tin
vtis just to name a few and if you know
who of want is look her
up Marilyn Monroe comes to mind so when
s women what some would easily call
sexualizing show up in a very alluring
sexy and Central way that's permissible
but the imunity transform shows up in
sexy alluring sensal way that is not
permissible and that creates more shame
and guilt in an individual that already
struggles for shame and
guilt one of the reasons one of the
reasons why trans women sexualize
themselves is because they're starting
to feel good about themselves they're
starting to feel confident and for the
first time a lot of you are starting to
really like your bodies for the first
time a lot of you are really starting to
like your face for the first time a lot
of you really starting to like your your
chest and that's a that's a great great
thing it's for the first time that you
actually embody the person you have
always envisioned yourself to
be when I say honeymoon stage this
enamored stage with yourself last for
some short period of time
that's because everybody essentially
goes through this enamored period and
when you go through this enamored period
with yourself you learn things about
yourself some of you learn that this is
who you are you are a sexy alerting
woman and you like to show up a sexing
woman 247 again Marilyn V ra
T some of you realize that you like the
side of
you but the side of you is reserved
maybe it's reserved for a special person
in your life maybe it's reserved for
special occasions for example when you
go out you go out maybe dancing or you
go out somewhere else or you go out for
a
dinner so it's the process of The
Honeyman face a lot of
you learn what this beautiful sexual
sensal part inside of you is telling you
about yourself telling you about your
femininity and then you adjust
accordingly based on the person that you
are
this honeymon period I think is a very
important period for any transform to go
through it's a period when you can
either learn tremendous amount about
yourself by also thinking and grounding
yourself in your bodies that you like
for the first time there is also a
period during which you can allow
yourself to let go of Shame and guilt
and when you can allow yourself to feel
more confident another question that I
get asked along this parallel lines
about transum sexualizing themselves is
why DRC the appearance the physical
appearance of clothing is so really
really borderline provocative where
people tell me it looks like uh they're
working in a strip club I think part of
it is twofold one I think for a lot of
transf a lot of you who watching this
who maybe experienced this who are older
for a lot of you your reference point of
what feminin looks like is going to be
pornography and this is just reality for
a lot of people pornography is a
reference point because a lot of you had
to see yourself a lot of times in
pornography especially during the times
of connecting to yourself and by
watching pornography than imagining
yourselves as
women for a lot it's not at the
reference point this pornography at all
but for a lot of you it's that as you
step into embracing who you are and
feeling enamored you're still
learning your style you're still
learning to Define and to tune style in
accordance to who you are as an
individuals and like I said the tuning
button of tuning in your style your
physical appearance is going to be very
subjective some continue to be alluring
sexy goddesses throughout their lifetime
constantly showing up that way again I'm
thinking about Marilyn Monro one right
and some make it an element of your
lifestyle because there's also another
feminine aspect in you there is a casual
girl inside of you and then there is
maybe a more playful girl inside of you
there's more professional woman inside
of you right so the way I show up on
this platform is more professional the
way I will show up on a date with my
husband is definitely going to be more
sexual more sexy more sensual the way I
show up when it's my day off and when I
do grocery shopping is very streamed
down no
makeup leggings and a t-shirt so there's
different aspects to myself and they all
show up
differently and this is why the spirit
is also so instrumental to a lot of you
because it allows you to figure those
things
out but this question of why trans women
sexualize themselves the first thing I
always might always come back to people
when they ask that is why
not why is it that ask this question of
trans women but we don't ask this
question of this beautiful women of Idol
Eyes who do exactly the same thing why
is it permissible in one realm and not
permissible in another and what is wrong
with people feeling good and confident
about themselves and starting to show up
in that way show me a person on social
media that especially this is so classic
the again cliche um the weight loss
story so many people on social media who
do before and after weight loss right if
you ever look at their social accounts
first of all you probably would not see
their social account before the weight
loss because they did not feel good
about themselves they did not feel good
showing up and taking selfies of
themselves but then the minute they drop
the weight and they feel amazing what do
you see you see bikini bathing
suits um body
shots body feed pair ofin body feed
addresses why because that person
started to feel confident and amazing
about their body so why should they not
show up
owning their body owning how they look
owning how they feel so I think it's
really important to remember
that that period in trans every trans
woman's life is an essential period for
her and she may Embrace that this is who
I am I'm a sexy diva and every day I'm
going to show up as a sexy diva or I'm a
sexy diva occasionally but this is my
answer to the question because a lot of
people ask me this interestingly a lot
of trans women ask me this I think
there's a lot of projections happening a
lot of times in trans Community where
trans women judge other trans women
trans women look at other trans women
and say and by the way I'm not even
talking about how s women judge trans
women to living up to some standards but
just within the community there's a lot
of trans women who judge trans women um
you are embarrassing the community you
are showing up to sexy um this is not
appropriate this is this and that and
they're putting together putting up
gatekeeping they become police they
become Fashion Police they become sexual
police they become Central Palace and to
me all it is is projections and if you
are one who projected a lot on other
people ask yourself is it possible that
there's part inside of you that wants to
show up in a little bit more sexual
sensal way but you're not giving
yourself that permission because you
have internalized some kind of shame or
guilt about it or maybe something else
is going on so come below let me know if
you went through this honeymoon period
what did you learn about yourself how
did it turn out to you did you found out
your sexy uh Diva goddess did you find
out that's something you show up
sometimes comment below let me know and
I will see you all next time bye
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