DrayYoutube584 Rants Episode 22: Crushes
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Dr. 2584 discusses the complexities of having a crush, particularly from the perspective of someone on the autism spectrum. He shares his personal experiences with two crushes, highlighting the emotional rollercoaster, including feelings of nervousness, anxiety, and the pressure to confess. He also touches on the challenges of dealing with the crush's changing appearances and the fear of saying the wrong thing. Dr. 2584 concludes with advice to take it easy and give it time, viewing the experience as a part of personal growth.
Takeaways
- 👨🎓 The video is a personal reflection by Dr. 2584, who discusses the challenges of having a crush, particularly as a teenager and someone on the autism spectrum.
- 💔 Dr. 2584 differentiates between a minor crush experienced in his sophomore year and a major crush he had more recently, indicating the intensity of emotions can vary.
- 🤔 He expresses initial optimism about having a crush, suggesting it might be easy, but later acknowledges the emotional turmoil it can cause.
- 👨👩👧👦 Dr. 2584 sought support from family, a therapist, and friends, highlighting the importance of social support in navigating the complexities of a crush.
- 😓 Feelings of nervousness and anxiety are common when considering confessing feelings to a crush, which Dr. 2584 personally experienced.
- 😔 He mentions the fear of saying the wrong thing and potentially pushing the crush away, a common concern among those with crushes.
- 👸 Dr. 2584 notes the allure of physical appearance, but also the deeper attraction to the crush's kindness, reflecting on the multifaceted nature of attraction.
- 👗 The unpredictability of a crush's appearance can add to the emotional stress, as it can fluctuate the intensity of feelings.
- 🤯 Overthinking interactions and misinterpreting signals can lead to unnecessary distress, as Dr. 2584 experienced when he thought his crush might be interested in someone else.
- 🕊️ The realization that a crush might only see him as a friend helped Dr. 2584 to calm down and reduced his emotional attachment.
- 🔄 The process of trying to overcome feelings for a crush can be hindered by unexpected events or thoughts related to the crush, as Dr. 2584 found out.
Q & A
What is the main topic of Dr. 2584's rant video?
-The main topic of Dr. 2584's rant video is the experience of having a crush on someone, particularly the challenges and emotions that come with it.
Why does Dr. 2584 feel that having a crush is not easy?
-Dr. 2584 feels that having a crush is not easy because it can be psychologically challenging, especially for someone on the autism spectrum like himself, and it involves a mix of emotions and pressures.
How does Dr. 2584 describe his first crush compared to his second?
-Dr. 2584 describes his first crush as a minor one where he was just charmed by the girl's presence, while his second crush was a major one that caused him more difficulty and emotional turmoil.
What was the key difference Dr. 2584 found between his first and second crush?
-The key difference was the intensity of the feelings; his first crush was minor and less troubling, while his second crush was major and caused him significant emotional distress.
What did Dr. 2584's family tell him to help him cope with his feelings for his crush?
-Dr. 2584's family explained to him that the issues he was worrying about were not as problematic as he thought, which helped him to some extent.
Why did Dr. 2584 feel pressured to confess his feelings to his crush?
-Dr. 2584 felt pressured to confess his feelings because of overwhelming emotions and advice from his parents, which led him to plan a confession after winter break.
How did Dr. 2584's perception of his crush's appearance affect his feelings?
-Dr. 2584 found his crush more attractive on certain days due to factors like makeup, hairstyle, and clothing, which made his feelings fluctuate and added to his emotional stress.
What common stressor did Dr. 2584 experience related to his crush?
-Dr. 2584 experienced the stressor of feeling like he said the wrong thing to his crush, which led him to worry that he might have turned her away.
How did Dr. 2584's stepdad, John, help him deal with his feelings of having said the wrong thing to his crush?
-John helped Dr. 2584 by explaining that he shouldn't assume negative thoughts about what his crush might be thinking, which is a common tendency when one is emotionally invested.
What was one of the hardest realizations for Dr. 2584 during his crush experience?
-One of the hardest realizations for Dr. 2584 was that his crush might have just seen him as a friend, and he might have been too late to confess his feelings.
What advice does Dr. 2584 give to someone who is crushing on someone they don't know well?
-Dr. 2584 advises taking it easy and giving it some time, as going through hard times is a part of the growing process.
Outlines
💔 The Struggles of a Teenage Crush
Dr. 2584 begins by expressing his long absence from ranting and introduces the topic of crushes, a common teenage experience. He shares his personal journey of having a crush, particularly highlighting the challenges faced due to being on the autism spectrum. He differentiates between a minor crush he had in his sophomore year and a more intense one he experienced recently. Dr. 2584 discusses the initial charm and subsequent complications, including feelings of incompatibility and the emotional turmoil of confessing feelings. He also mentions seeking advice from family and friends, and the pressure to confess his feelings, which led to nervousness and anxiety.
🤔 Overcoming the Emotional Rollercoaster of a Crush
In the second paragraph, Dr. 2584 delves deeper into the emotional challenges of having a crush, such as the fear of saying the wrong thing and the perception of being pushy. He recounts an incident where he felt he pressured his crush too much and the subsequent regret. His stepdad, John, advises against overthinking and putting thoughts into others' heads. Dr. 2584 also describes the difficulty of seeing his crush with someone else, which led to distress and the realization that she might just see him as a friend. He shares his experience of fluctuating feelings and the moments that hindered his progress in moving on. He concludes by offering advice to others in similar situations, emphasizing the importance of taking it easy and giving time to process emotions, viewing the experience as a part of personal growth.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Crush
💡Autism Spectrum
💡Incompatible
💡Confessing feelings
💡Overwhelming
💡Attractive
💡Pressure
💡Overthinking
💡Regret
💡Learning experience
💡Growing process
Highlights
The video discusses the challenges of having a crush, particularly for teenagers and those on the autism spectrum.
The speaker shares personal experiences with crushes, highlighting the emotional complexities involved.
A comparison is made between a minor crush experienced in the past and a more intense one in the present.
The video addresses the fear of things not working out with a crush and feelings of incompatibility.
The importance of talking to family and friends for support during times of emotional distress is emphasized.
The pressure to confess feelings to a crush and the anxiety that comes with it is explored.
The speaker describes the physical attraction to their crush and how it affected their emotions.
The unpredictability of a crush's appearance and its impact on the speaker's feelings is discussed.
The fear of saying the wrong thing and potentially pushing the crush away is a common theme.
The video touches on the idea of perceiving the crush as a thing, rather than a person.
The experience of feeling like it's too late to confess feelings to a crush is shared.
The video describes the emotional setback of thinking the crush might have liked the speaker first.
The speaker talks about the difficulty of overcoming feelings for a crush when new triggers arise.
The conclusion emphasizes the psychological challenges of having a crush and the learning experience it provides.
Advice is given to take it easy and give time when dealing with a crush.
The video ends with a note on the importance of going through hard times as part of personal growth.
Transcripts
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hi guys this is Dr
2584 it's been a while since I've done a
rant and this time I'm going to be
talking about something
real something that a lot of teenagers
have struggled with at some point or
another is the feeling of really liking
someone of the opposite gender
I'm pretty sure everyone knows this but
that's what a crush
is although it's technically meant to be
a positive thing you realize that it's
not particularly easy when you
experience it yourself for the first
time I've experienced it myself this
year and it was difficult for me the
fact that I'm on the autism spectrum
probably made it even
harder this was technically the second
Crush that I've had in my life the first
one was towards the end of my sophomore
year
but here's the key difference the first
one that I had almost 2 years ago was a
minor crush the second one which I've
had this year was a major Crush so I
didn't have a lot of trouble with the
first one I was just Charmed by her
presence and I smiled when I talked to
her I thought maybe having those
feelings for a girl were just a
relatively easy thing for me but that
was until I experienced a true crush
this year my feelings with this one are
diminishing over time and I'm doing
better better now but some of the
feelings I have experienced from it are
similar to what many people who have had
a crush on someone have
experienced I'm going to go over some of
the feelings that I've had in this video
and compare it to what other people
commonly
feel I started having strong feelings 3
months ago for a girl that goes to my
school the first thing that I struggled
with that some people may be able to
relate is thinking that things won't
work out were you and your
crush we were friendly acquaintances
with each other so we gave greetings and
talked briefly to each other but
eventually I found out there was
something between us that was different
and it made me feel like we were
incompatible I'm going to keep what it
is to myself because I don't want to go
into too much detail but I was sad to
find out about it I understand that some
people who are crushing run into the
same
issue I talked to my family and they
explained to me that it wasn't as much
of a problem as I thought it was this
brings me to the point that I have
talked to my parents my therapist and
some of my friends throughout the course
of the time I was having these
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feelings the second point I'd like to
mention is the feeling of being
pressured into confessing your feelings
to your crush last Christmas Eve I was
talking to my parents about how my
feelings were overwhelming me and they
gave me confidence to confess my
feelings to her so I planned on doing
that one once we got back from winter
break the problem was that I felt
nervous and anxious throughout the break
it was nerve-wracking to think about how
it could range from going extremely well
to going extremely
badly I eventually talked to my mom and
we made an agreement that I should give
it more time and I felt calmer after
that but in general like many people who
have a crush I noticed that when I
wanted to say something to mine I got
nervous at times and put too much
pressure on myself and it was hard for
me when I failed to say something that I
wanted to say to
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her if you have a crush on someone you
probably think they're very beautiful or
handsome same goes for my case I started
having my feelings for this girl because
I thought she was beautiful and don't
get me wrong I also looked into her
heart and found her kindness to be
attractive as well thinking about her
appearance once I started feeling that
way was too much for me this brings me
to a point of what was hard for me in
school one way that girls who are
crushing on a boy have it a little bit
easier is that they're aren't as many
different looks that you're going to see
on a boy throughout the different days
that you see
them but with girls they're less
predictable on what they're going to
look like for the day in other words
some days they'll look prettier this
goes into three different
factors on certain days they might put
makeup on they might do their hair a
certain way or they might wear a certain
article of clothing that made things
tougher for me because I couldn't just
get used to the same look every day with
this girl I found her more attractive on
certain days than others due to all
three of the factors I just discussed
and I've gotten overwhelmed by this
throughout the time I was having these
feelings next up I'd like to mention
another common stressor which is feeling
you said the wrong thing to your crush
often times causing you to think that
you turned him or her away from you
I experienced that this year when I felt
like I was pressuring my crush into
doing something too many times I ended
up regretting it and I was worried that
she was looking at me as being pushy
with her and that she looked at me as
being someone who didn't know how to
properly
communicate my stepdad John tried to
help me with this by explaining to me
that I shouldn't put thoughts into
people's heads but it's easy for one to
do that with their Crush because you
want to give them a good impression of
yourself
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another hard thing that I know is common
between people who like someone is
feeling like they're Crush as a thing
with someone who is the opposite gender
that they are and yes I've experienced
that myself and it was rough this one
day I got that impression when I
witnessed it at school I get now that
they were likely just friends but I was
overthinking that they might have been
flirting with each other I was upset and
I need a lot of have helped to feel
better one of the hardest things about
it was the thought that she might have
liked me first but I was just too late
to making that
confession about my
feelings I spent the day feeling
distressed because of that thought I
eventually realized that she probably
just liked me as a friend this whole
time which helped me to feel
calmer the one good thing that came out
of that whole situation was that it
cooled down that Soul fire that I had
for
her
lastly have you ever felt like you were
finally overcoming the feelings you were
having for your crush but something came
up with him or her that hindered your
progress that's what happened to me
before there have been a few occasions
throughout this time period where I was
relieved because I thought my feelings
for my crush were dying out and then
something happened that I felt sent me
back in the wrong direction causing me
to feel
discouraged some of my personal examples
of this include thinking in new
Troublesome thought related to her
seeing her in an unexpected place and
something unrelated showing up that
stressed me out could any of you ever
have related to that so there were a few
other things that made the feelings I
was having hard throughout the time I
was having these feelings for my crush
but I'm going to leave it at that in
conclusion having a crush on someone
isn't all rainbows and flowers it can be
a psychologically challenging
experience but I can see what I went
through as also being a learning
experience the next time I feel this way
about a girl I should at least do better
with it than I did this
time and that can apply to anyone who
went through the same thing going
through hard times in general is a part
of the growing process here's some
advice for someone who's crushing on a
boy or a girl who they don't even know
much about just take it easy and give it
some
time this rant video wasn't necessarily
an actual rant in the same way my other
ones were but I still wanted to add
something to that series since I haven't
posted one in 6
months bye guys I hope you enjoyed this
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